Dungeon Of Darkness
Master Of Darkness
In Ownership
Thanks for coming to this profile, it is lengthy and yet this may be the last profile you ever need to visit.
It therefore is in your best interests to read it and complete the required parts as requested.
This is the only application process which will be accepted, and failure to comply may make your application invalid.
To be fair to all I will not change or negotiate any category or rule herein.
Be sure to include a pic of yourself with your application.
You will receive my picture in due course.
Remember at all times who makes the rules, and who is in charge.
If you feel you are the best applicant then I invite you to apply, in the correct format.
Following the instructions below, without shortcuts will ensure your application receives full attention.
I use full security on my system including e-mail, which ensures confidentiality of all information.
My security is the highest available at this time, in fact higher than most banks.
If you trust your bank, then you can trust me, as I am genuine, and willing to accept challenges to my authenticity at any time after the application is lodged via e-mail.
You will receive advice on your acceptance or rejection based on your application, and no negotiation will take place on the final outcome.
To be clear, a full application, virtually guarantees acceptance.
Start now and I look forward to receiving your fully completed application.
I will not answer any CM note.
THIS IS ABSOLUTELY VITAL TO READ
Everything below this note is necessary to be read to know what I expect and what I need from each and every one of you who come to my profile, and if you do not read everything then, you may just miss that one piece of vital information which could save you and myself a lot of time and wasted energy.
I will only IM at my request, and then move on into a more formal setting whereby we can communicate securely and uninterrupted.
I look forward to hearing from any interested and genuine person, who wants to know more, or to dedicate themselves to the Lifestyle completely.
slave Application Form
Please Copy & Paste Entire Text Above & Below Into E-mail
Ensure that all fields are completed In Full
Committing to a lifetime or even a single session of slavery is a serious undertaking for anyone to consider. Nothing is to be rushed. Nothing is to be taken for granted. All the rules and conditions to be built up over time do not fundamentally matter as they are a means to an end: a sustainable, ever-maturing and evolving, mutually satisfying, effective and loving Master-slave partnership. Be honest, open and truthful, with yourself and your Master. Commitment, fulfilment, happiness and above all trust and clear communication are crucial, so think carefully about what you are asked here.
Filling in this form will take time. A good Master needs a thorough understanding of any slave who is placed under his control, and honesty and trust are established through clear communication, as well as good actions and training. The mental component to slavery is even more important than the physical dimensions, and this application will help a slave to begin to explore the mental side of slavery, or at the least, enable a slave to consider her reaction or attitudes to various aspects of slavery.
Good Masters need good slaves, and good slaves who submit more willingly and completely to a Master are desirable, and worthy of training. If your application is successful, I will be in touch to arrange an inspection/ interview session and to discuss your future slave development.Good luck.
PART ONE PERSONAL DETAILS
Name:
slave Name:
Location (city):
Email address:
Online profile locations and names:
Mobile Phone No:
Availability:
Chat only
Chats meet before session
Short session (up to 6 hours)
24 hour session
48 hour session
Long session (up to 7 days)
Any (when available) leading to ownership
Which do you consider yourself to be?
Performance slave (slave only during sessions)
Performance slave wanting to move towards being lifestyle slave
Lifestyle slave
Not yet sure
Height:
Weight:
Date of Birth:
Age:
Hair Colour:
Eye Colour:
Ethnicity:
Nationality:
Professional status:
Marital Status:
Driving Licence:
Sexuality:
HIV Status:
Live Alone:
Able to travel:
Smoke:
Which brand and how many:
Drink alcohol:
What type of alcohol and frequency:
Take Drugs:
What type of drugs and frequency:
Body Shape:
Overall Looks:
Waist Size :
Leg Length :
Chest Size :
Collar Size :
Shoe size :
Head Hair? :
Body Hair? :
Loaned out? :
3-somes? :
Group sessions? :
Able to be faithful? :
PART TWO GENERAL QUESTIONS
Do you currently have any Master-slave relationships, or regular partners?
Do you currently have any vanilla relationships, or regular partners?
Which do you consider yourself to be?
Exclusively Top
Equally top and bottom
Usually top, occasionally bottom
Usually bottom, occasionally top
Exclusively bottom
If you switch roles, which role do you feel most comfortable in?
Do you consider your current interest in slavery to be light, moderate or heavy?
Do you consider your experience of slavery to be novice, intermediate or experienced?
Describe your first sexual experience.
Describe your first Master-slave experience.
When was your last Master-slave scene? (Describe it)
List any leather, uniform, rubber or other clothing items you own.
List any toys, tools or equipment you own.
Do you have access to a playroom or dungeon? (Describe)
Do you have any medical or physical conditions which may affect your ability to be slave? (Explain)
List any dietary dislikes, allergies and preferences.
PART THREE
PHILOSOPHY
Committing to a lifetime of slavery is a serious undertaking for anyone to consider.”
What is commitment?
What would you find difficult about commitment?
What would prevent you from committing totally to a Master?
What are the implications of committing to this sort of lifestyle permanently?
“All the rules and conditions to be built up over time do not fundamentally matter as they are a means to an end: a sustainable, ever-maturing and evolving, mutually satisfying, effective and loving Master-slave partnership.”
Are you prepared to live a life governed by rules and conditions?
What if you do not agree to some of the rules and conditions demanded by your Master?
Are you prepared to be used and trained to obey these rules and conditions, even if you do not agree with them?
How would you cope with the rules and conditions changing over time, as you mature into your slavery?
Do you see a natural progression?
How do you see your slavery at the start of training?
And how do you see your slavery as you mature into the role?
How will you, as a slave, change over time, do you think?
How can you, as the slave, ensure the relationship is effective and mutually satisfying?
“Be honest, open and truthful, with yourself and your Master.”
How important is honesty?
What would prevent you from being honest?
Would you find it difficult being honest about something negative, knowing that you would possibly be punished?
And if so, how could this be rectified?
Should a slave keep things from her Master? If so, what?
If not, why is it important not to keep things from a Master?
How would you approach an issue you knew was in conflict with your Master?
How difficult would you find honesty?
Is being honest on paper, email, and text easier than face to face?
Which is the best method of being honest?
“It would be up to Master and slave to negotiate and build up our own boundaries.”
How important is negotiation in a Master-slave relationship?
Should a slave have the right to negotiate?
Should a slave merely be told what to do all the time?
Should a slave be like a robot, following all orders blindly and without question from her Master?
Should a slave have the right to establish boundaries?
What if these boundaries conflict with something a Master wants to explore?
Is this sort of relationship, ultimately, an equal partnership of sorts, at least while the negotiations are taking place?
Does a slave have any rights to dictate how the relationship is going to progress?
Can a slave demand that boundaries are fixed and immutable?
Can a slave change her mind about boundaries and other things she has negotiated on?
“Many slaves come into the lifestyle expecting everything to be dream-like and perfect.”
What is your idea of a perfect relationship?
What qualities do you have to make a relationship perfect?
What would hinder you from establishing your perfect Master-slave relationship?
What difficulties would have to be faced, by Master and slave?
Is a perfect relationship attainable at all?
What are important factors in a Master-slave relationship?
What turns you off about slavery?
Do you have any special dreams or fantasy situation you’d like to try?
What are your best qualifications for slavery?
“Do you wish to be in this type relationship 24/7? Perhaps you only wish to be in it during the scenes. Maybe you want to role-play only during certain times. There are many ways this activity can be done, but you have to figure out what is right for you.”
What is right for you?
24/7, only during scenes, only at specific times?
How would you describe when you wanted the Master-slave aspect of the relationship to start and stop?
Is being a part-time slave feasible and realistic?
Is a part-time slave still a slave?
Should slavery be defined by the time spent in slavery?
What are the benefits or drawbacks to these different types of relationship?
Are you able, in time, to become a live-in 24/7, permanent slave, living the lifestyle completely?
“Be honest with yourself. Figure out what you will and will not do, and what is a maybe.”
Should a slave have the right to dictate conditions?
Should a slave be able to say to her Master to go gently, or should a slave go at her Master’s pace?
Should Masters be understanding of their slaves or demand brutally exactly what they want?
Should a slave have opportunities to give feedback to her Master about what is to be done and not to be done?
How much influence should a slave have over a scene?
Should a slave be allowed to contribute ideas to the relationship?
“Are you prepared to give up preferences and only listen to His music? This type of sacrifice can apply to many other things you currently enjoy.”
Is it reasonable for a Master to deny a slave choices of music, books, film etc?
Should a slave be directed to listen to specific types of music, read specific books without due regard to the slave’s opinions, likes and dislikes?
How easy would it be for a slave to deny her own likes in favour of her Master’s?
Should a slave be made to give up her own likes if the Master requests this?
Should a Master use force and discipline to implement his decisions on these matters?
“Being tired, ill or just in a bad mood does not excuse you from your required tasks.”
Is it reasonable to expect a slave to be a slave when she is ill, tired or not up to it?
How strict should a Master be in enforcing what he requires of a slave?
Should a slave have the right to say no to her Master?
How would you cope with being told to do something you were not in the mood to do?
How difficult would this part of slavery be to you?
Does a slave have the right to question her Master?
“slaves enter into this type of relationship of their own free will. This is not the day of forced slavery; it is a matter of choice, consensual slavery.”
How much free will should a slave have when in the relationship?
Should a slave be forced into slavery?
Do you think you would require force to carry out your slave duties?
Does a slave have choice in her slavery, or does she merely obey?
Is force necessary?
Is it desirable?
Some slaves crave to be forced to obey. What is your opinion on this matter?
Is free will important for a slave?
How much freedom would you, as a slave, require?
And in which areas?
“If He says you can't do something, simply, you can't.”
How difficult, or easy, would you find this?
How is your temper?
How easy is it for you to become angry?
Would you find a strict Master difficult to obey?
Would you seek ways of rebelling?
In which areas would you possibly rebel?
How do you think a Master should deal with a rebellious slave?
“Enter the Master-slave lifestyle with your eyes wide open, fully knowing what to expect. The road will not be an easy one.”
What are you expecting from a Master-slave relationship?
What will be easy?
What will be difficult?
Is this a journey you want to make?
How sincere are you about slavery?
Ultimately, how important is slavery to you?
Are you prepared to work hard at developing your slavery?
Is the idea of slavery a passing whim in your journey through life?
How permanent do you want your slavery to be?
“Being a slave means giving up so much more than you would if you were only being submissive. You give up all rights in your life. slavery isn't just a word; it's a defined action, a way of life, a lifestyle. “
Are you prepared to give up all rights?
Is this a reasonable request?
Are you prepared for slavery as a way of life?
What difficulties would there be to leading a life of slavery?
What would work well and be easy to accomplish?
What are your relationship goals?
Would being owned provide you with what you have been looking for in life?
Would ownership be something worth pursuing?
What fears do you have about ownership and full-time slavery?
PART FOUR PREFERENCES & EXPERIENCE
Humiliation
Body worship (kissing)
Body worship (licking)
Body worship (massage)
Boot kissing
Boot licking
Butler duties
Chauffeur duties
Chef duties
Crawling
Dirt
Dirty words
Eye contact restrictions
Food on body
Forced exercise
Forced nudity (around others)
Forced nudity (private)
Forced nudity (public)
Forced servitude (domestic)
Furniture use restriction
Human ashtray
Infantalism
Kneeling
Lead
Licking (non-sexual)
Licking (sexual)
Mud
Physical humiliation
Public display
Public embarrassment
Spit
Stand in corner
Valet duties
Verbal abuse
Verbal humiliation
Wear nappies
Wrestling
Writing on body (permanent ink)
Writing on body (washable ink)
Pain
Any safe area
Arse CP
Back CP
Beating
Belt
Biting
Blood
Canes
Cat o'nine tails
CP whilst restrained
Cuts
Face slapping
Flogging
Genital CP
Genital torture
Handcuffs
Hand spanking
Harsh beating
Harsh marks
Harsh torture
Heavy bruising
Kicking
Leather paddle
Leather tawse
Made to cry
Mild bruising
Mild marks
Mild torture
Moderate beating
Moderate bruising
Moderate marks
Needles
Over the knee spanking (glove)
Over the knee spanking (hand)
Permanent markings
Pegs (body)
Piercings
Pinching
Plastic rod
Punching
Pushed to limit
Rattan cane
Riding crop
Rubber whip
Soft beating
Studded tawse
Tattoo
Wax
Whilst restrained
Whole body CP
Wooden paddle
Bondage
Arms restrained
Being stretched (face down)
Being stretched (on floor)
Being stretched (on rack)
Being strung up (not touching floor)
Being strung up (touching floor)
Blindfold
Box
Cage
Car boot
Chains
Cling film
Cupboard
Duct tape
Full body bondage
Full head hood
Gag
Gas mask
Immobilisation
Isolation
Kidnap
Legs restrained
Long time periods
Loose
Manacles & Irons
Mental bondage
Medium time periods
Mind control
Mind fucking
Mummification (complete body)
Mummification (partial)
Partial head hood
Rope
Rotating X-shaped cross
Short time periods
Snug
Strung up (hanging free)
Strung up (touching floor)
Tight
Very tight
Wrist and ankle cuffs (leather)
Wrist and ankle cuffs (metal)
X-shaped cross
Electro
Mild
Steady
Strong
Pulsating
On tits
Up arse
On genitals
Anal/Vaginal Play
Anal inspection
Anus stretchers
Bareback fucking
Butt plug at home
Butt plug in public under clothes
Butt plug under clothes
Chilled objects
Extra large butt plug
Extra large dildo
Fantasy rape
Finger fucking - 1
Finger fucking - 2
Finger fucking - 3
Finger fucking - 4
Fisting
Food as dildo
Food on body
Frozen objects
Fucking
Large butt plug
Large dildo
Large vibrator
Medium butt plug
Medium dildo
Medium vibrator
Metal
Milking
Mouth fucking
Mud
No lube
Prostitution
Rimming clean arse
Rimming moderately clean arse
Rimming dirty arse
Room temperature objects
Rough fucking
Sling
Small butt plug
Small dildo
Small vibrator
Speculum
Stand in corner
Use force
Warm objects
Wear nappies
Piss
Drink cold piss
Drink from cock
Drink piss from bowl
Drink piss from container
Piss bed
Piss control
Piss fuck
Piss gags
Piss ice-cubes
Piss in clothing
Piss in drinks
Piss in food
Piss in mouth (not swallow)
Piss in mouth (swallow)
Piss on arse
Piss on body (including face)
Piss on body (not face)
Piss up arse
Public piss
Public piss in clothing
Wash in piss
Wear pissed-in underwear
Scat & Mess
Clean shitty arse (with hand)
Clean shitty arse (with paper)
Clean shitty arse (with tongue)
Ear-wax
Eat a turd
Eat shit cooked in food
Enema (hot)
Enema (warm)
Enema (cool)
Enema (chilled)
Enema (cleansing)
In bathroom while Master shits
Keep smeared shit on body
Lick shit
Lick cock while Master shits
Mud
Play with shit
Repacking
Shit control
Shit fuck
Shit in bucket
Shit in clothes
Shit in confined space
Shit on body
Shitty gags
Shit masturbation
Smear shit on body
Smell shit (nearby in container)
Snot
Vomit
Wearing dirty underwear
Control
Behaviour rules
Breath control
Cyber control
Electricity
Hair removal
Hypnosis
Master chooses clothes
Master chooses food
Minimal input by slave
No input by slave
Phone control
Reasonable
Rituals
Sensory deprivation
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sleep deprivation
Unreasonable
Use of safe word
Dog Training
Barking
Ball games
Caged up
Chained up
Collar
Commands
Dog tail
Drinking from bowl
Eat from bowl
Eat from floor
Fed from hand
Fetch in mouth
Growling
Howling
Lead
Outdoor piss
Outdoor shit
Paws
Positioning
Vagina & tits
Nipple Stretching
Nipple, flap weights
Nipple, flap piercing
Catheter
Chastity device
Cock worship
Forced masturbation
Giving hand job
Licking Master's balls
Licking Master's cock
Long-term chastity
Pegs (flaps)
Pegs (tits)
Receiving masturbation
Short-term chastity
Sounds
Sucking Master's balls
Sucking Master's cock
Tit clamps
Tit rings
Tit torture
Tit weights
Drugs
Alcohol (extensive)
Alcohol (mild)
Alcohol (moderate)
Drugs (extensive)
Drugs (mild)
Drugs (moderate)
Legal highs
Poppers
Clothing
Cross dressing
Gags
Gas mask
Hoods
Leather chaps
Leather collar
Leather jeans
Leather shorts
Leather dresses
Leather skirts
Masks
Nude
Rubber
Underwear deprivation
Uniform
Tickling
A lot
A little
Not at all
Until I scream
Whilst tied down
Force me
Cum
At end of session only
Can cum many times
Only with permission
Orgasm control
Don’t always have to cum
Edging (short period)
Edging (by self)
Edging (by Master)
Edging (long period)
Edging (very long period)
Swallow own cum
Swallow Master’s cum
Feet
Clean
Dirty
Smelly
Kiss
Lick
Suck toes
Massage
Fucked by feet
Pushed by feet
Kicked
Cuddling
A lot
A little
Not at all
In private
In public
During scene
During sleep
Socks
Clean
Dirty
Smelly
Sucking
Gagged by
Roleplay
Medical scenes
Kidnap scene
Prison scenes
Any further comments or any questions on any topic…
Type in the boxes or, where applicable, highlight your chosen box using ‘light green’ shading.
Type your responses to the following questions, using bold font, on the line below each question, aligning your responses with the first letter of each question, or highlight the box using ‘light green’ shading, where applicable. Ensure yes/ no answers are expanded, if appropriate.
Read and contemplate the following quotes. Then, write your responses to the questions which follow, ensuring your responses are on the line beneath each question, aligned with the bullet point above and are in bold font. Answers must be written honestly, indicating what you currently believe, and not what you assume to be my beliefs or desires.
For each of the activities below you need to consider two things: first colour code each one using one of four colours to indicate your participation level, and then to the right of each box assign a number to each activity to indicate your interest level.
OFF LIMITS
WANT TO EXPERIENCE IN THE FUTURE
NO (or NOT MUCH) EXPERIENCE BUT WILLING
HAVE EXPERIENCED A LITTLE AND WILL DO
HAVE EXPERIENCED A LOT AND WILL DO
0 - NOT INTERESTED
1 - BARELY INTERESTED
2 - SOMEWHAT INTERESTED
3 - INTERESTED
4 - VERY INTERESTED
5 - EXTEREMLY INTERESTED
Note: Just because something is listed here does not mean I am into this or will do it.
This is designed to gauge what you are into, not let you know what I am into.
e.g.
CP & Pain
Arse CP
5
Back CP
3
Belt
4
Biting
2
Blood
0
Before returning this application form, read it through. Check all areas have been completed and that the information you provide is accurate, honest and correctly formatted.
This checklist should be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different.
For each item, you need to provide two answers:
For experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity. Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender.
For willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.
"?" means you don't understand what the item is attempting to describe.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).
0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if it they really wanted it. (Sometimes called a "soft limit").
1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.
2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/ occasional basis.
4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners.
Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the margin to the right. For example under diapers you might wish to distinguish between "wetting" and "soiling".
There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient/target of the activity.
Willingness quick-key:
? Don't understand this item.
* I will do with current sex partner only.
NO I WILL NOT DO that item under ANY circumstances (a hard limit).
0 No desire, don't like, will permit if special to Dom (a soft limit).
1 Don't want to do, but will.
2 Willing to do, but has no special appeal.
3 Usually LIKE doing, on an irregular/ occasional basis.
4 LIKE doing, would like it on a regular basis.
5 WILD TURN-ON, would like it as often as possible.
Experience, Willingness
Notes & Nuances
Yes/No, NO or 0-5
Abrasion
Age play
Anal sex
Anal plugs (small)
Anal plugs (large)
Anal plug (public, under clothes)
Animal roles
Arm & leg sleeves (arm binders)
Aromas
Asphyxiation
Auctioned for charity
Bathroom use control
Bestiality
Beating (soft)
Beating (hard)
Blindfolds
Being serviced (sexual)
Being bitten
Boot worship
Bondage (light)
Bondage (heavy)
Bondage (multi-day)
Bondage (public, under clothing)
Branding
Breast/chest bondage
Breast whipping
Breath control
Brown showers (scat)
Bruises
Cages (locked inside of)
Caning
Catheterization
Cattle prod (electrical toy)
Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Chains
Chamber-pot use
Chastity belts (short term)
Chastity belts (multi-day)
Chauffeuring (driving)
Choking
Chores (domestic service)
Clothespins
Cock worship
Collars (worn in private)
Collars (worn in public)
Competitions (with other Subs)
Corsets (wearing casually)
Corsets (trained waist reduction)
Cross-dressing
Cuffs (leather)
Cuffs (metal)
Cutting
Diapers (wearing)
Diapers (wetting)
Diapers (soiling)
Dilation
Dildoes
Double penetration
Electricity
Enemas (for cleansing)
Enemas (retention/punishment)
Enforced chastity
Erotic dance (for audience)
Examinations (physical)
Exercise (forced/required)
Exhibitionism (friends)
Exhibitionism (strangers)
Eye contact restrictions
Face slapping
Fantasy abandonment
Fantasy rape
Fantasy gang-rape
Fear (being scared)
Fisting (anal)
Fisting (vaginal)
Flame play
Following orders
Foods play (cucumbers, sorbet...)
Foot worship
Forced bedwetting
Forced dressing
Forced eating
Forced homosexuality
Forced heterosexuality
Forced masturbation
Forced nudity (private)
Forced nudity (around others)
Forced servitude
Forced smoking
Full head hoods
Gags (cloth)
Gags (inflatable)
Gags (phallic)
Gags (rubber)
Gags (tape)
Gas masks
Gates of Hell (male)
Genital sex
Given away to another Dom (temp)
Given away to another Dom (perm)
Golden showers
Gun play
Hairbrush spankings
Hair pulling
Hand jobs (giving)
Hand jobs (receiving)
Harems (serving w/other subs)
Harnessing (leather)
Harnessing (rope)
Having food chosen for you
Having clothing chosen for you
Head (give fellatio/cunnilingus)
Head (receive fellatio/cunnilingus)
High heel wearing
High heel worship
Homage with tongue (non-sexual)
Hoods
Hot oils (on genitals)
Hot waxing
Housework (doing)
Human puppy dog
Humiliation (private)
Humiliation (public)
Hypnotism
Ice cubes
Immobilization
Infantilism
Initiation rites
Injections
Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Interrogations
Kidnapping
Kneeling
Knife play
Leather clothing
Leather restraints
Lectures for misbehaviour
Licking (non-sexual)
Lingerie (wearing)
Manacles & Irons
Manicures (giving)
Massage (giving)
Massage (receiving)
Medical scenes
Modelling for erotic photos
Mouth bits
Mummification
Name change (for scene)
Name change (legal, permanent)
Nipple clamps
Nipple rings (piercings)
Nipple play/"torture"
Nipple weights
Oral/anal play (rimming)
Over-the-knee spanking
Orgasm denial
Orgasm control
Outdoor scenes
Outdoor sex
Pain (mild)
Pain (medium)
Pain (severe)
Persona training (in scene)
Personality modification (RL)
Phone sex (serving Dom)
Phone sex (serving Dom's friends)
Phone sex (commercial provider)
Piercing (temporary, play-pierce)
Piercing (permanent)
Plastic surgery
Prison scenes
Prostitution (public pretence)
Prostitution (actual)
Pony slave
Public exposure
Punishment Scene
Pussy/cock whipping
Pussy worship
Riding crops
Riding the "horse" (crotch torture)
Rituals
Religious scenes
Restrictive rules on behaviour
Rubber/latex clothing
Rope body harness
Saran wrapping
Scarification
Scratching - getting
Scratching - giving
Sensory deprivation
Serving
Serving as art
Serving as ashtray
Serving as furniture
Serving as a maid
Serving as toilet (urine)
Serving as toilet (faeces)
Serving as waitress/waiter
Serving orally (sexual)
Serving other doms (supervised)
Serving other doms (unsupervised)
Sexual deprivation (short term)
Sexual deprivation (long term)
Shaving (body hair)
Shaving (genital hair)
Shaving (head hair)
Skinny-dipping
Sleep deprivation
Sleep sacks
Slutty clothing (private)
Slutty clothing (public)
Spandex clothing
Spanking
Speech restrictions (when, what)
Speculums (Anal)
Speculums (vaginal)
Spitting
Spreader bars
Standing in corner
Stocks
Straight jackets
Strap-on-dildos (sucking on)
Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by)
Strap-on-dildos (wearing)
Strapping (full body beating)
Suspension (upright)
Suspension (inverted)
Suspension (horizontal)
Supplying new partners for Dom
Swallowing feces
Swallowing semen
Swallowing urine
Swapping (with one other couple)
Swinging (multiple couples)
Tampon Training (in ass)
Tattooing
Teasing
TENS Unit (electrical toy)
Thumb cuffs (metal)
Tickling
Triple penetration
Urethral Sounds (metal rods)
Uniforms
Including others
Vaginal dildo
Verbal humiliation
Vibrator on genitals
Violet Wand (electrical toy)
Voyeurism (watching others)
Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Video (watching others)
Video (recordings of you)
Water torture
Waxing (hair removal)
Wearing symbolic jewellery
Weight gain (forced)
Weight loss (forced)
Whipping
Wooden paddles
Wrestling
Selection Criteria
Do not send notes to the CM account
You must answer yes to each question to qualify
Please Read Carefully As Failure To Abide By These Conditions May Cause Your Profile To Be Blocked From Second Contact
Rules-Terms-Conditions
You Must Be:-
Rule 1.01
willing to relocate at your own expense
Rule 1.02
female by birth
Rule 1.03
a slave
Rule 1.04
able to relocate
Rule 1.05
looking for 24/7 365
Rule 1.06
totally honest and real
Rule 1.07
looking for a Master
Rule 1.08
available immediately
All contact is governed by acceptance of the above rules.
Furthermore, contact is made after reading all of the below information.
If you answered yes to each question above, you are through stage one.
Stage two
You are to write your strengths and weaknesses, current ability, personal details, include a picture, and tell me why you are a great sub/slave and why I should choose you.
If you want a position you had better start selling your abilities and standards to me for selection.
Send your completed assignment here:-
E-mail to dkknee@yahoo.com.au
I am a Master who thrives on safety and the ability to get the best out of you.
I will train you to my way, and you will gain trust by me earning it from you, by always keeping you at the front of my thoughts.
I will protect you with my own life.
You will be the very best that I can make you.
Pain will be introduced at acceptable levels and slowly increased.
Punishment will be dealt swiftly, yet fairly and with cause.
Any questions, add them to your letter of wanting to be mine.
So I know you read this far add the title to the top of the page "i am yours for the taking Master".
What I have written in my profile should be easy to understand.
Read every word in my profile, and act upon it.
To bypass my simple test is to show you are not the one.
Please don’t message me here, send all replies via my profile directions.
BDSM is an overlapping acronym for Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism and is used to describe a variety of Safe, Sane, and Consensual practices involving Erotic Power Exchange. Superficially, many of these practices may not seem safe, sane, or consensual to an untrained observer who is unfamiliar with the subtle forms of communication and extensive safety practices used in the community.
BDSM is advanced sexual behaviour; it is probably best left to advanced people. Your average Joe Six-pack may never really grasp vanilla sex, let alone anything as complicated as BDSM. In his case, at least, the social taboos concerning BDSM may have some merit. Sorry, Joe, but baseball caps and leather don't go together. This does not mean, however, that qualified individuals should be deprived of this opportunity for fulfilment. 8% of the population has had "Sadomasochistic sex", according to The Day America Told the Truth
SSC is the motto of most of the BDSM community.
Safe means that the activity is safe enough for all of the participants; risk has been minimized at least to the point where the benefit outweighs the risk. It does not mean that it meets some third party's standard of safety.
Sane generally means that the person is capable of giving informed consent. It is also expected that the activity does not pose a substantial risk to a participant's sanity.
Consensual means that all participants have consented to the activity. The consent may be explicit or implicit and there may be blanket consent offered for a range of activities. There are many activities which may appear to be non-consensual (including "consensual non-consensual" scenes) but these are actually consensual.
If you do not have a solid understanding of BDSM, you should refrain from judgment of BDSM and its participants. BDSM is not abuse or misogyny. Things are often not what they seem; BDSM is a theatrical art. Simple minded rules have been replaced by much more complex rules which better approximate reality.
There are many different subcultures; the actions of one subculture or individual may not be indicative of the larger BDSM subculture. Fantasy materials typically omit the safeguards which are important for real life scenes. You will note that a substantial portion of this page is devoted to safety. There is also a section on feminism.
The relationship between pleasure and pain is much more complicated than most people realize and varies from individual to individual and can vary over time for a given individual. Any given BDSM players often do not engage in many of the practices described here. The psychological professions are largely ignorant of what it is we do; until recently, the DSM incorrectly classified BDSM as a mental illness. Many other forms of recreation involve substantial risk: skydiving, rock climbing, mountain climbing, caving, motorcycle racing, scuba diving, camping, and hang gliding. Many other forms involve pain and discomfort: hiking, martial arts, working out at the gym. No risk, no pain, no gain.
Many plain vanilla sexual (and non sexual) activities have BDSM undertones. By exploring near the boundaries many BDSM players expand their knowledge of human sexuality, psychology, and physiology. If you are not willing to invest the enormous amount of time and effort necessary to achieve similar levels of understanding and to understand what it is we do, that is fine; but don't presume you are qualified to judge those who do.
There is no incompatibility between the goals of Feminism and BDSM. There are some misguided and uninformed feminists who oppose BDSM. There are also many feminists (including the author of these pages) who practice BDSM. The National Organization for Women (NOW) has taken a public position against sadomasochism; there is, however, a loose knit organization of NOW members dedicated to correcting this error.
Remember that BDSM is practiced not only with men dominating women but also with women dominating men, men dominating men, women dominating women, switches, and people dominating themselves. BDSM is not gender oriented although individual players may have fetishes for people of a particular gender.
There are many paradoxes in BDSM. A women who submits in the bedroom may be an aggressive corporate executive in real life. Erotic submission may actually help someone become more assertive in everyday life (domination may also). Practicing masochism may result in someone being less timid and fearful in their dealings with the outside world; it is even a rite of passage for some. Humiliation can actually help some overcome repression. By consciously including power games in their interaction, many couples are able to better understand the unconscious power dynamics of relationships which often include predefined gender roles and internalized sexism. Temporarily restricting ones freedom in one dimension can give one freedom in other dimensions. Although it may come as a surprise to those unfamiliar with BDSM, the submissive, bottom, and/or masochistic role can be empowering for many.
Abuse does occur in BDSM relationships just as it occurs in vanilla relationships. The BDSM community does not condone abuse and introductory material often has advice to newbie’s on how to reduce the risk of abuse. Some women have used BDSM scenes to aid in the recovery from past abuse and assault, although this needs to be done with much care and after the victim has undergone some healing.
"An abusive relationship is one in which substantial physical, mental, or emotional harm is inflicted, that is not temporary in nature, and is not clearly compensated for by positive and loving experiences over a long period of time." -- by louise, 1997.
Many women who consider they are feminists engage in a subtle but very dangerous form of sexism. They want to be treated in a particular manner and they assert that all women should be treated in that manner. This form of sexism involves judging other women by their gender not their individual needs and, worse, imposing this erroneous judgment on other women and those they interact with. Feminism is about equality of opportunity and responsibility. Women who find satisfaction from practicing BDSM deserve the opportunity to engage in the pursuit of happiness.
A woman who calls herself gardenia wrote an article condemning sadomasochism in a San Diego lesbian paper but later wrote this:
"and what about all those things I wrote about in the SD paper? I didn't know what I was talking about. I, as a submissive/bottom, am NOT abused by any stretch of the imagination. I am wired differently... enjoy my sex and play and love and relationships with more spice than others... but I am *definitely* NOT abused. I am loved and cared for and tended to and cherished. "
Is this legal? No. The sex lives of the vast majority of American citizens are illegal.
Even the most mundane sex is not legal in the United States. A blowjob (74%) is still illegal in many states, including Virginia; anal sex (37%) is illegal in those same states. Having sex without closing the blinds or behind a privacy fence is illegal in many states on the warped reasoning that a kid with a ladder might be able to see; gee, kids who commit crimes (invasion of privacy) might be harmed as a result of those acts (31% have had sex in a public place). Having sex with someone you are not married to is illegal (even if you aren't married) in many states. Sex with someone of the same gender is illegal in some states. Sex with someone who is underage, even if they are mature enough, gave informed consent, initiated the encounter, and lied about their age, is illegal (21% have had sex with a teenager); so, sex with a 16 year old college sophomore is a legal no-no, which could be very inconvenient for the sophomore.
Laws intended to protect against domestic violence have been misapplied in some areas to prosecute people engaged in S&M.
People in the military have almost no rights. Ironically, BDSM leather culture arose among Veterans.
Laws in other countries vary.
The range of supervision, which may or may not be sharply erotic, varies widely. The dominant may manage using general guidelines or a detailed agenda. Micro-management may control even mundane activities, such as when the submissive sits, eats, speaks, moves, etc. Some people consider the defining line between a submissive and a slave as the extent to which the person is controlled, i.e. how many aspects of the person have been surrendered and are micro-managed. Although such micro-management is common, it is not the defining difference. Instead, we characterize a slave by several other elements.
First, a slave is one who turns over everything personal rights, freedom of choice, property, etc. to another person. The master may not choose to exert control over all of these areas but retains the right to do so.
Second, a slave's deep desire to serve, particularly to serve a master, is not transactional. That is, a slave serves without expecting specific recognition in return for any particular act. Thus, the slave views service as act of devotion. This is not to say that the slave should be treated as a doormat. Certainly the dominant should appreciate the slave's surrender of power. However, slaves expect their personal needs to be met within the power exchange through the master's knowledge of their desires, rather than through specific requests.
Third, beyond following instructions, a slave performs tasks not bidden by the master, by reading their master's actions and moves, thereby getting inside the master's mindset to further fulfil and serve the master better. While this does not work in every instance, slaves try as hard as possible to interpret the master's desires in order to serve to the fullest extent of their abilities. Intrinsic to this process is treading a fine line between service and intrusiveness knowing when "enough is enough."
There are significant differences between corporal punishment and the infliction of pain for the giving of pleasure: technique, reason, and effect come to mind right away.
A person can endure a significant amount of pain from a whip, strap, hand, or paddle if their application begins slowly and builds to a higher, faster, and stronger level. This technique is used when the spanking or whipping is meant to give pleasure to either partner. "Warming an ass" prepares it for heavier discipline as the body adjusts itself to increasingly higher levels of pain. When the discipline begins at a higher level of intensity, the pain is much more difficult to tolerate.
During the times that pleasure is the reason for the spanking, there is (usually) a warmth, camaraderie, and intimacy that is lacking when the punishment is for the sake of punishment. At such times, caressing, kissing, foundling, and stroking are often intermixed with the application of pain.
And lastly, discipline feels different and effects a slave or bottom differently. Whereas many bottoms enjoy a paddling, most will do their best to avoid the paddle when it is applied as a punishment.. Strange as it may seem, the purpose and technique create a wholly other experience when the top wields a whip as a means of correction or penance.
Many novices (and some not so new to the scene) think that both forms of discipline are the same --- but they aren't. Discipline is a significant tool in a master's repertoire, but it is one that is often misunderstood and misapplied.
Real discipline "works" best in relationships that have continuity to them. It is meant to alter behaviour. That doesn't mean that paddling and such can't be part of a short term scene. It certainly can be, though intense discipline demands a level of trust not easily reached in a fleeting encounter. Rule making, breaking, and the subsequent "punishment" are often part of the role-playing that occurs in SM encounters. I'm not going to presume to tell two (or more) people what should happen in their SM scene, but such discipline has a different "flavour" to it.
Some tops impose rules during a scene in order to create a reason for punishment. Likewise, some bottoms break the rules in order to "force" the top to punish them. In either case, if the scene works, then it is right for its participants. But all too often such artificiality is uncalled for. The simple recognition of rights and reasons can eliminate the need for such "play-acting" entirely.
What I mean is this: if a top wants to spank, paddle, whip, or otherwise warm up his bottom's bottom he doesn't need to use rules to gain "permission" to do so. As the dominant partner with a consenting bottom, he already has that permission. The sake of the top's pleasure is reason enough to proceed. In a real master/slave relationship, the top is in control and that is ground enough for him'/her to do as s/he feels, within the limits or sanity, safety, and consent.
But the vast majority of Leather scenes never approach the intensity of a true master/slave relationship. Most of the time, the Leather scene is simply an acting out of fantasy. The "scene" is kept in the realm of play, and is seldom, if ever, allowed to a and lifestyle. That's the way life is, and it's liable to stay that way for a long time to come.
The problem with imposing rules in order that they be broken, or breaking rules simply for eliciting discipline is that both cases set up a scenario for failure.
At a recent "novice night" I was asked about a top who piled rules upon rules in order to make his bottom break them. It seemed he wanted force the bottom to deserve a punishment. The bottom, for his part, found it frustrating, since his intention was to please his "master", an unlikely job since the rules were impossible to keep.
The bottom would have been very happy to please his master by receiving the discipline. There was no need to force it on him. He was willing to endure it for his master's pleasure. Instead he felt a strong sense of failure since he couldn't keep all the rules his master had imposed.
As Larry, an experienced master says, "You don't need to break a rule for me to punish you. I'll do it just because I want to do it. If you want a paddling, don't fuck up, just ask me for it and you'll get it." Larry can speak that way because of his own self-confidence. He recognizes the rights and responsibilities inherent in an SM relationship and is comfortable with the gratifications they offer.
The best SM scenes are learning experiences. Discipline is a useful and necessary tool. With it a master can teach his slave how to behave and can help him modify his behaviour to give greater pleasure to his master. Early on in their relationship, Jim, Larry's slave, often came prematurely, much to his master's displeasure. The application of a heavy black belt across Jim's ass cured that habit very quickly.
There is more to the Leather scene than play-acting. It can be more than pleasurable. Like all relationships, SM can provide an environment for personal growth and deep meaningful relationships. When two people come together with mutual respect and understanding, they open themselves to a world of miracles and delight. No matter what connotation you give to the word "rod", use it wisely and it will reward you immensely.
I decided to write this article because I have seen so many submissives come into the lifestyle expecting everything to be dream-like and perfect. I don't wish to ruin anyone's dreams, or turn them from the activity, but what I wish to do is to explain how things really are. Being a slave can be, and is for me, a wonderful life. It's everything I wanted it to be. It is also more than I ever expected, and had someone explained the realities to me prior to my decision, it would have made my transition so much easier. For the purpose of this article, I am addressing issues related to being a 24/7 slave. These
comments are from my viewpoint, which is that of a female slave with a male Master. By no means do I wish to exclude Domme's or male slaves. For them, I cannot comment from personal experience. This is just my view from a real-time experience.
First, there are a few things you need to discover for and about yourself. Do you wish to be in this type relationship 24/7? Perhaps you only wish to be in it during the scenes. Maybe you want to role-play at
only during certain times. There are many ways this activity can be done, but you have to figure out what is right for you.
Second, you need to learn to be honest with yourself. Figure out what you will and will not do, and what is a "maybe". Search inside yourself for what you really want, and when you find it, be honest to anyone you talk to. Don't agree to something long-term that you know you will not be able accomplish. Ask yourself some hard questions. The rest of this article will give you aspects to contemplate so you can base your decisions on reality, and not someone else's dreams of how it should be.
Are you prepared to surrender 100% control of your life to someone else? 24/7 slaves do this. Role-playing would mean entering into this relationship only for the time agreed upon that the Master would have the total control. Once the scene is over, everything returns to normal.
Do you enjoy country music? Maybe you love Rock and Roll. Consider this. The Master who's collar you will eventually wear, may only like classical or another type of music that you don't enjoy. Are you prepared to give up those selections and only listen to His music? This type sacrifice can apply to many other things you currently enjoy. For myself, I love old love songs of any type, and my Master is into Hard Rock. Because of His preferences, I rarely get to listen to my songs. But, when I am a good girl, at times, He does permit me to listen to my choice of music, as long as I get my assigned tasks and chores done. Note, I said, "permitted to". Something as simple as listening to the radio is a reward for me. It is not a given that you will be permitted to enjoy even this little pleasure whenever you wish. These limitations can apply to many areas of your life such as TV, choices of food or friends, just about anywhere anything! Is there a certain style of clothes you love? Certain colours and scents you wouldn't be caught without? If your Master doesn't approve of them, you may be wearing a totally different style with colours you never would have dreamed of. He may lay your clothes out for you every morning. Are you prepared to abide happily by His choices? If He asked you to wear something very skimpy to someplace simple like the grocery store, could you do this without hesitation? I am lucky in the fact that my Master lets me chose my own clothes most of the time. But at anytime, should He decide that He wants me to wear something else, I am to change immediately. Trust me, He does exercise this right. I have learned to always ask Him what He would like me to wear if we are going someplace special.
Are you prepared to change your hairstyle, length, or colour to please your Master? All of these will belong to Him once you accept your collar as will everything else that once belonged to you. You will no longer own anything. From the time you take His collar, everything will be His. It will no longer be "your" car or "your" clothes, but "His", on loan to you as He sees fit. If He should so choose, you will not be permitted to wear clothes at all. This will be HIS choice, not yours. Remember, you will have given up all rights to make these choices for yourself.
You have a favourite chair, or a certain way you like to sit or walk? Your Master will decide whether you sit on furniture or on the floor. He will have the say if you are to cross your legs, or sit with them spread wide-open. You will have to ask permission to even climb into bed, or sit on a chair. Most slaves are allowed a cushion on the floor that they do not need permission to sit upon, but very little else. You will even need permission to eat at the table with your Master.
It's been a long hard day at work. You get home and want nothing more than to relax in a tub and go to bed early. Well, you won't be able to. Being tired, ill, or just in a bad mood does not excuse you from your required tasks. You are still required to do them: prepare His meal, and go to bed when HE tells you to. Retiring for bed usually occurs at a set time, even if you are not ready to go. There will not be an "I am too tired" or "I don't feel well": nothing of the kind. Unless your Master has excused you from your tasks and chores, you will remain responsible for making sure His needs and wants are filled: no matter what. It is your job to inform your Master of your physical health status. One of your main jobs will be to take care of and protect His possessions. You being are the most prized one He owns. As long as you let your Master know how you are feeling, He will make sure that your tasks will be appropriate to your capabilities.
Many come into this lifestyle looking to be used sexually, to service their Master at His whim. They never consider other aspects. The main part of being a slave is to be of service to your Master, and not to be serviced for yourself. However, being readily available to Him at ALL times is also an unspoken expectation. The old excuse "not tonight dear, I have a headache" doesn't work in a D/s relationship. In order to provide Him pleasure, you must also express to Him the pleasure of the moment for you as well. NEVER make your Master feel this is a chore to you: something you would rather not do, but will only because you have to. If your Master tells you to do something, it will not be up to you to question Him. You will be required to respond with no questions asked. At a later time (if this is permitted in your relationship), you may ask Him for permission to speak on an equal level. If He gives permission, this will be your opportunity to ask your questions. However, it is important to ask in a way so as not to question His authority, but at the same time to satisfy your curiosity.
Do you feel being a slave is to be coerced: forced into servitude? Do you think you couldn't do this unless you were? Then think again. Slaves enter into this relationship of their own free will. This is not the day of forced slavery; it is a matter of choice. YOURS! You are the one who will decide to give over your power to your Master. You will be doing this, not because you are forced to obey, but because you need to. Yes, during the course of your relationship there will be times you will be forced to do something, but it will never be something that goes against who you are. Your Master may feel obeying this command will help you to grow into the best person you can be, or will help you break out of an inhibition you have.
How is your temper? Are you quick to fly off-of-the-handle when you are upset? Or are you laid back, accepting anything and everything, and then go off to sulk because your feelings were hurt? A Master does not wish to have a doormat for a slave nor does He desire to be told how things should be. Learning when and how to say things will become very important in your relationship. If you do not tell your Master when something is bothering you, then you have no right whatsoever to become upset. However wonderful and omnipotent He may seem, He is not a mind reader: unless you tell Him, He won't know. The key, as I said a moment ago, is in how you tell Him.
Your self-discipline is very important in this relationship. Do you tend to put things off until the last possible moment? You won't be able to do this when you are owned. There will be chores and tasks your Master will assign that He expects to be done in a timely fashion set by Him, not by you. Your Master's wants and needs will be put before your own. Self-discipline is similar to self-control. Your ability to follow complete assignments made by your Master will be very important. As a slave, you will need to be able to control your own actions well enough to be able to remain within the boundaries set for you by Him. If He says you can't do something, simply, you can't. Doing it anyway, and not telling Him doesn't make it right. In the case of a Master/slave relationship, what you don't know CAN hurt you, as well as the relationship you have worked so hard to build. Even a simple "white lie" can destroy the trust so necessary to really establish this type relationship.
As to wants and needs of your own: do you know the difference between the two? If not, I strongly recommend you figure them out before entering into servitude. Sometimes the two are hard to distinguish, but it will become important that you do so. Your Master will ensure all your "needs" are taken care of, but the "wants" will be His to allow or not, as He sees fit. Needs are the necessities of life that are required in order for us to remain mentally and physically healthy. They allow us to grow emotionally and spiritually. If you can survive without something, then it is a want. Wants are usually given as a reward for good behaviour.
In order to be a slave, there will be many things you have to learn to accept within yourself and adapt to. Your primary purpose in life will be to see to your Masters pleasure (both mentally and physically) in any manner He should desire. In order to do this, you will have to learn your Master well. Find out what pleases and displeases Him. By this, I do not mean just sexually. You will learn that sex is but a small part of your relationship. Learn to anticipate His every need and desire without being pushy. His needs and desires will encompass intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other things unique to Him. Remember - physical does not equal sexual. Physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touch, favourite foods, textures, clothing, and colours as examples. It will be your job to make sure His physical pleasures are met in every way. Think of the five senses, and make His environment pleasing to all of them. Never forget - the most pleasing thing in His environment should be you.
As His slave, it will be up to you to figure out what pleases your Master. He should not have to ask constantly for the basic things - you should have learned them. If His glass is empty, quietly and unobtrusively refill it. Remember, you are doing this for His pleasure not your own. Just because He does not notice and praise you doesn't mean you are doing it wrong. Look at His smile. Is He comfortable? If He looks happy and content, then you have done well, and should bask in His content.
Always remember that you do this for Him and not for your own satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Him and His being happy.
As I said in the beginning of this article, I am not trying to scare you away from the world of D/s. My goal is to make sure that, when you enter our lifestyle, you do so with your eyes wide open, fully knowing what to expect. The road will not be an easy one. You will have to re-learn much of what you once took for granted: things you just did without thinking, like simply sitting in a chair. These are habits we never even think about anymore. That is, until we find a Master.
Everything else you learned before reading this article is probably true. Being a slave is a wonderful life: one where you are taken care of. Most decisions are out of your hands and in those of your Masters.
But, many choices will still be left up to you. Most Masters want a slave who is smart, has a sense of humour, and a will of their own. There is no pleasure in owning a doormat that just sits or is only walked upon. He will become bored very fast. Being you is the best advice I was given, and I have found this to be absolutely true for me.
You will find being a slave everything you dreamed of and so much more if you enter this life knowing more of what to expect. If you are meant to be in the lifestyle, you will find that, where you were once only walked through life, you will be gliding on air. Parts of you that never were complete will then become whole. In relinquishing control, I have found freedom: freedom to find and be the person I am inside.
It is my hope that, after reading this article, you will be able to make a more informed choice about entering this lifestyle. Never forget that, one of the most important requirements for existing in this lifestyle is honesty. Honest with yourself first. However, you will find that this is not as easy as it sounds. Once you learn to do this, you will find yourself at peace and able to enter your servitude with clearer mind, knowing where you are and where you want to be. When you accept your Masters collar, you give up all your rights. Your friends, your life - nothing will remain yours. Being a slave means giving up so much more than you would if you were only being submissive. You give up all rights in your life. Slave isn't just a word; it's a way of life, a defined action. Be well, my friend, and I hope you enjoy this lifestyle as much as I have come to love being in it.
The word ritual means a process or action that is done and repeated according to specific procedure. A ritual is a sort of ceremony that is usually formal and follows the same pattern each and every time. Simply, it is something that a person does over and over for a Purpose. They set the mood or build an expectation. They are intended to be the same each time, within normal limits.
In a D/s relationship, these are the beginning training issues to the control that is exchanged between a Dom/me and their submissive. A contract between the couple negotiates the limits and boundaries and should include a list of rituals that the submissive will be required to perform for the Dom/me. These should be clear and straight forward so that the Dom is sure that the submissive understands the expectations and the submissive is aware of the requirements. The submissive is NOT to judge or question these rituals ( unless of course it violates the main rule of SAFE, SANE and CONSENSUAL) as the Dom/me is the person who's needs are being addressed and the power exchange is started. Many Dom/me 's use these rituals for their pleasure and as a test to see if the submissive is truly offering the gift of submission.
[ Bad^ note: a "submissive" may well offer input at the invocation of a new practice or ritual during the negotiation phase for said behaviour. A "slave" may not]
i began my training with simple rituals. i am a medical professional and on certain days of the week, this girl wore no underwear while at work and on the remaining days i was to wear none. i might caution you that this is not a good choice if the submissive needs to wear white scrubs, mine were royal blue. On certain days i was allowed to wear a butt plug to work or during chores (my favourite) with the thought that my ass belonged to Him. i was also instructed that each day i was to email Sir, explaining how my day was and what was on my mind. This allowed for further discussion later when we were able to speak more. He also gave an assignment for this girl to do for Him, such as looking up information about the lifestyle or writing essays in who this girl was and demons that troubled this girl. These began my everyday ritual. This enabled Sir to understand me better and to offer a guide in my training and meeting my needs.
If i do not perform the ritual, there are consequences. That is another part of rituals. But the expectations are real from the Dom/me to have these done. Personally it is this girls GREAT pleasure to have these rituals. They enable me to stay in focus with my Dom and remain in a submissive role when i am not able to be with my Dom.
Now as my training has advanced so have my rituals. This girl shall list the current ones that she does every day if possible or when requested of my Dom.
------shaving of the pubic hair (classic submissive ritual) many Doms prefer bare
------meditation for 15 minutes before retiring to bed (always kneeling)
------sleeping in a collar (one made of quick release and large enough for safety)
------always using the Dom and His reference in UPPER case
------always referring to the submissive in lower case and third person
------journaling everyday
------words of control and meditation: Breath, Focus, Float and Roll
------giving control over not having an orgasm without permission FIRST
------Kneeling at the Doms feet or bed and outside of the bathroom
------waiting at the door for permission to enter first
------not speaking until the Dom/me gives permission
------asking permission to or eat and drink
------foot worship and sexual worship
------waiting in position before play
------counting the number of strokes at the end of play in His name and reciting
"one Sir, thank You Sir may i please have another Sir?" and so forth
------stating when submissive is sexually stimulated e.g. 'i am Your wet slut Sir"
------asking permission for a sexual release
------always carry the Dom/me bag, smokes or business card
------walking behind the Dom/me and to the left
------driving the Dom or preparing the car for travel (air conditioner or heat)
------accepting curfews, bedtimes, diet and exercise
------writing all fantasy's and limits both hard and soft
------disrobe when entering the house and remain naked until told to dress
------accept dress requirements as the Dom seems fit
------not using furniture when in the house ( sitting lower than the Dom/me)
------do not sit until the Dom/me is seated first
------serve the Dom/me food first
------kneel to the Dom/me and confess behaviour and accept correction/discipline
------kneeling with the Dom/me drink in palm, kiss edge and present, eyes lowered
------proper positions for training and pleasure
------sleep at the Dom/me feet or foot of bed (with/out pillow and blanket)
------wearing a butt plug for as long as the Dom wishes and think that He is in your ass
------wearing of the collar in the house and during training
------never approach the Dom/me without permission (ask first and granted)
------never speaks first waits for the Dom to acknowledge
------falls to a kneeling position when their Dom/me enters a room
------NEVER leaves the presence of a Dom/me without permission first
These are just a few of the rituals that this girl has or does now perform.
Tips for the Dom: be creative and personalize the rituals to suit Your needs and the submissives growth. They will be most honoured to do these every time with encouragement and praise. A firm hand will allow the submissive to see the importance of the ritual.
Tips for the submissive: take these very seriously and express your joy in what your Dom/me allows you to have. Discuss possible problems and concerns immediately to the Dom for further discussion on modifications if necessary. Each rituals allows you to bond and grow with your Dom/me. This is about a relationship. Trust and submit all that you have.
Lastly, never stop communicating.
Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. It refers to the environment that two people have created. A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.
So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?
A Daddy Dom wants to be the centre of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mould you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who, in his mind, can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created.
How does he achieve his goals? Through love, respect, and discipline.
His love for his little girl goes without saying. He accepts every part of her and works to emphasize the good while improving the bad. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. It is this love that allows him to train her. He could not invest so much of himself in someone he did not love completely.
This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel great pride in his possession. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it's value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.
He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust she must know he means what he says. He must constantly deepen her respect for him. If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He needs to empower her as much as he wants to possess her and it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.
The discipline is also important when it comes to her protection, both from those outside the relationship and those within. He is the one who makes the decisions about how she will relate to the world in general and his discipline ensures that she follows these rules.
I think most Doms have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in their submissives life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that its participants crave.
