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| Females only. Did you get that? Females only. That means girls, women. No, cross-dressers don't qualify. Trans, well, post-op, sure. Penisless, how's that to be clear?
Now, ladies, let's get down to it...
I present friendly, which, I really am. I won't jump on the top wagon and demand your nipples, house or bank account. I won't even ask for the passwords to your collarme account, right? That does not mean I am not a strict top, it means there is a filtering process.
First comes manners, respect, friendliness. That is how we determine we are compatible.
Next comes attraction, physical awareness. If you don't stoke my passion fire, nothing is going to happen. If I don't stoke yours, nothing....
There are two sides to my existence, so in some cases you would call me ma'am, in others you would call me sir. Confusing, well, learning is good.
Once we have established that you and I are going to go down the BDSM road together, I will begin to train you how I want things. This does not include door mat walking, though I do love foot rubs, it does not include shut the fuck up, well, usually, since I love stimulating conversations. It does include two types of behaviors, strict dungeon rules and casual rules. It will include position training and reports. It will include laughing and begging, and orgasms.
It is a mind and body experience. For this to happen you must have the time and inclination to be what you claim you want.
If you are on the fence, we can talk, if you are yanking us both around, go find what is important to you. People make time for what is important to them. Be aware enough to know where your desires live.
I don’t want to have to hunt you down. Either you are at my hand or you are not.
This is how it works:
We write to each other, first here then email.
We talk on the phone.
Next comes the meeting.
That's when we either feel drawn or we don't.
Finally the decision whether or not we want to play.
Once that happens the paradigm changes.
You go into training for 30 days. I used to make it three months but 30 days is enough to know if we want to continue. After the thirty days comes the three month period, with an evaluation every three months up to a year.
If we are still in this together after a year I will collar you, and the paradigm will shift again.
That essentially means we are in it for the long haul.
Every year at the collaring anniversary we will evaluate where we are and move ahead.
That is how it works.
During your training I will expect you to keep a journal for your personal thoughts.
You will keep an updated blog so you can share your experiences with your friends.
You will have your rules book.
And finally you will have your punishment book. We'll talk about that when the time comes.
You see, it is not a ten minute a day encounter. What else do I want?
Here goes:
I want to know what you're wearing, what you ate, what sort of exercise you did that day.
I want to know how you feel, if you slept well, what sort of health issues you have.
I want to know about your previous life, have you served before? I want to know what creams you up, or if you have trouble about orgasm.
Don't tell me all that now! It is just an example of things we will discuss and work on.
If you think I am getting too personal, I am. It is deeply personal, it is a profound relationship. No, I don't expect all this to happen at once. Maybe you are attracted to me, like the training but I am still a stranger, and you don't tell strangers about what lives in your secret heart or emotional history. Some things are immediate, other things take time and trust. That is why if you don't have your head around being a submissive/slave, if you don't really feel it in your chakras, this isn't for you. If you are still unsure, tell me that right off the bat, a simple I have never subbed before but think I want to try it. That's intention, and that is the most powerful force you have.
My check list:
A female between 40 and 60.
No obesity, I am an active person and you must be able to reasonably keep up.
Casual partier is all right, that does not mean cocaine. Nothing like that.
No cigarette or alcohol addictions.
Lies are unacceptable.
An independent thinker. I do not want to live your life instead of you doing it. I have my own life. You have to be able to make your own decisions. Have dreams, hopes, passions, opinions, initiative.
Clean, this means breath too. Floss!
Willing.
No criminals.
Go ahead and wr... Oh, you want to hear a few things about me?
Here goes.
Things I am:
Musician, writer, poet, adventurer, psychic, visually impaired, attractive, creative, experimenter, energy healer, funny, kind, honest, just to name a few.
Things I love:
Reading, singing, dabbling, working out, hiking, biking, nature, storms, animals, plants, our planet, kind people, naughty toys, the smell of snow, birds, orgasms, pianos, the moon and sea, my family, the internet, live performances, laughing my ass off, and way too many more things to list.
What I am not:
A liar, criminal, brain surgeon, Christian, perfect, bigot, closed minded, stingy, grouchy, negative, stupid and lots more.
By the way if you are any of those things, don't write me!
Well, Christian is all right. But brain surgeons are way too busy!
Good luck to both of us.
D22
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