Compatibility and attractions are such ethereal concepts and when we overlay this with the need to connect within the D/s paradigm and the odds of finding the elusive 'One' multiply substantially. Ideally I'd like to find someone that I can connect with outside Ds play but after several false starts and an increasing pace of life I think it's time to retreat and regroup. I've not give up on meeting a soul mate but for the time being I'm happy to explore a relationship more along the lines of dating...Ds dating. Think vanilla dating…but a lot more fun! I know enough about myself to acknowledge that I have a need to express my dominant persona. You are self-aware and find explore your submissive side but need to do so with someone that you find attractive and trustworthy. You may not have time or the inclination for a full on relationship but you do have needs and enjoy the company of a man and love to play. We can figure out exactly what it is we mean to each other as we go on. I'm looking for something relaxed. Honest but not intrusive. I will respect your privacy and don’t need to know the in's and out of your life outside of your time with me. I'm single and would prefer that you were too but that's your call and your business. I'm well educated, intuitive and creative. I'd like to think I like a balanced life. mind, body and spirit. You'll find me easy company, good conversation and a very at tentative Dom. I'm imaginative and understand the importance of expectation and anticipation in magnifying your experience as a sub. I have a very private and spacious home ideal for relaxed encounters. BDSM has been a part of my life since I was in my early thirties. It's a private part of my life, I've been to clubs but have need played publically. So, there you have it... relaxed, respectful and real.