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CuteCurvynSub
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| I frequently find myself described as evil. I won't deny it, either. I'm a dominant with a distinct sadistic streak. The moans, the sudden intake of breath--I love a woman's response to all kinds of sensations. I enjoy helping a sub explore and push her boundaries and comfort zones, and guiding her to do things she previously didn't think she could do.
I am looking for a permanent 24/7 relationship, submissive or slave or somewhere in between. In the end it isn't the label that defines it.
The ideal sub/slave for me is already secure and confident in herself and her body. If she isn't I'll lead her there. She gets strength from not having to make every decision and sees the freedom in surrendering. Your submission is an amazing gift, to be cherished, not something to be taken by force and taken for granted.
I'm not interested humiliating you for its own sake, but I certain can if that's what it takes to get you where I want you to be. I do not see domination as about me objectifying you, or ignoring your needs, but about me taking the lead in exploring your limits and pushing them, pushing you and building you up in the process. Together we'll help you push well beyond your limits and watch you grow stronger in the process.
NOTE: I do not send money to people I have not met. If all you're looking for is someone you can tease into fixing your money problems look elsewhere. But if you're serious and want a life of seeing a man who respects and cherishes you, by all means introduce yourself.
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Perhaps our first meeting might go a little like this:
We've talked on the phone a couple of times. We both think our interests line up, and both of us felt a connection.
We've agreed on an evening and I've told you I'd text you the details. That was a couple of days ago. You've heard nothing since and tonight's the night.
I send you a text with an address, a time half an hour away and instructions to wear a nice skirt and button-down blouse. The address is fifteen minutes away. I warn you not to be late. I tell you to text me when you get to the parking lot.
You change in a bit of a rush and head out. You get to a restaurant with only a couple minutes to spare. You're nervous, but you aren't late. You're hoping I'll approve of your clothing choices.
You text me and the reply comes almost immediately:
"Put your panties in your purse and come inside. Go left and sit at the booth with the rose on it."
Maybe taking them off right there in the parking lot makes you nervous or uncomfortable, maybe not. But you do, because you don't want to disappoint me.
Inside it takes an uncomfortable amount of looking around to find the rose at a corner booth. One place setting has just the rose and a glass of wine. Across from it is the regular silverware/napkin and wine. You sit at the place with the rose, your back to the rest of the restaurant.
My voice comes from the booth behind you. "Don't turn around. Hand me your purse." You do as you're told.
There is an uncomfortable silence before I say, "Interesting choice," without elaborating. You wonder what else I'm looking at in there.
I join you at the table with a smile. We exchange hellos. I tell you to undo another button on your blouse. Again you do as you're told, even if it makes you a little uncomfortable.
Dinner comes, I've ordered for you. You still have no silverware and no napkin. You start to ask for them but I stop you. I tell you that in my presence you will not look at or speak to another without permission. You can lick your fingers clean. I give you a mischeivous grin every time you do.
We both have a great time. We both feel the chemistry easily and clearly. The conversation is natural and comfortable--most of the time. I ask and answer questions that get deeply personal. Maybe you find it surprising how easily you feel safe telling me things you might not tell even your friends.
"So, shall we take this a step further next time," I ask.
What is your answer? |
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From time to time I would give you a task I know to be beyond your capability. Not to punish you for failing, but to see how hard you try and reward accordingly. |
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What kind of submissive are you?
Are you submissive by nature, or as a break from daily stresses?
Do you want to offer up your submission as a gift, or have it taken from you as if you didn't deserve it?
There's nothing wrong with any of those, but figuring that out will tell you a lot about what kind of dominant to look for. |
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So here's a thought. If you're specifically wanting to not get any messages from anyone, maybe you should consider deactivating your profile.
Or at least mention it at the top of your profile, not the bottom.
I'm just sayin'. |
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I see profiles and posts about 18-20 year olds wanting to be lifetime slaves and I have to wonder how old one had to be to be mature enough to be really ready to make a decision like that. I meet people who get married young and then change and it doesn't work anymore.
I just seems to me a pretty major life decision to make at that age. I'd like to hear some other perspectives... |
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A little more on what I'm looking for. I want a woman that will put her life in my hands. Not in the life and death manner, but rather a woman who is willing to surrender herself to knowing that I will change her life forever.
Clearly not every relationship can be that. And that's not where a relationship starts at first meeting.
But that's a place it inevitably goes. |
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I'm not going to be able to play with my submissive for a few to several weeks. I've got a lot of pent up energy right now, which has me thinking about some of the things I really like and miss just now.
I really like my sadist side. I get off on the half-gasp/half-whimper a woman makes right at the edge of pleasure and pain. When it gets past that point where it's not so yummy for her it's still really yummy for me. I like taking a woman just that little bit too far, nudging toward where that breaking point might be.
I don't feel bad for making her cry. It makes me hungry. Literally.
I like the look in her face and in her eyes when she begs me to stop. Especially when she's begging me to let her stop. When she's pretty sure she can't do more but is scared of what happens if she disobeys and stops before I tell her to.
I like that look when she realizes she's just gotten into trouble. That "oh crap" look. I like that look when she starts to wonder if she's getting in over her head.
I really like when I can get any woman in the position where they've moved beyond wanting to please me and afraid of what will happen if they don't. That's when they push themselves the hardest, and that is hot as hell. I really like how it feels to have that power, and I love how it feels to know they trust me enough to let me take them there. |
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I need a woman in the NW Chicago suburbs to come take care of some things around the house for me. Reward for good work can be negotiated. |
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Ya know, white text on yellow really doesn't help get your point across. I'm just sayin'... |
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Meet your potential Dom/Master in a restaurant. The way he treats the serving staff will give you insight into how he'll treat you.
Ask how long he has owned his car. If he leases a different car every year, how long is he likely to stay interested in you? What shape is his car in? If he can't take care of that, will he take good care of you?
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Today would be a good day to have a slave waiting at home. |
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Most of today's fun evil ideas seem to be revolving around predicament bondage... |
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I recently had a 20 year old girl offer to be my slave. I turned her down because I knew it wasn't what she really wanted--it was something she was willing to do to get out if a bad situation. I would have been just taking advantage of her.
While I'm attracted to the idea of a slave that young, I wonder how many people that age really have the maturity to make the decision to become someone's property like that. I'd like to hear from a couple women around that age who want to be slaves, and hear your perspectives. |
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I find it fascinating how everyone's view of domination and submission is different. For some it is discipline. For some an escape from regular life, for some a core part of who they are. Some want beatings. Some want humiliation. I wonder how many ever think about why they like what they like.
For me, I like pushing people beyond themselves. Helping them learn they are stronger than they thought. Building new strengths, turning fears and perceived weaknesses into new sources of pride. Humiliation doesn't appeal to me much. If I'm doing things right, she feels stronger and greater than she did before.
Maybe that's just me... |
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I've been seeing/hearing a lot of profiles and journals from self-titled dominants/masters/mistresses griping about people starting conversations. "Don't contact me until you're willing to promise a lifetime of servitude," one said. "I don't have time to waste with conversation, my time is too important to waste on chatting," to paraphrase them.
Bullshit.
If someone isn't willing to spend the time getting to know you, how can you expect them to keep you safe? Can you trust someone who doesn't think you are important? Should you? I wouldn't suggest it.
Every person is different. Every relationship is different. There is no "one true way." The dominant/master might say, "Mine is the only way that matters," but that is not the same as saying there is only one way. And his/her way only matters after you have agreed to it. No one owns you or controls you until you agree to let them. If they can't handle simple respect, if they don't show that your safety matters... run. They'll only hurt you. In the wrong way. |
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There is something hot as hell about that sudden intake of breath when a woman can't decide if a pain feels good or not. In that instant I know where her attention is at. She's entirely in the moment. In that moment she's suspended, balanced between pleasure and pain, desire and fear. And in that moment she is mine. |
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| Age: 38 |
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