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MadameCherrie
Hi, my name is David.

I have a dominant personality & know well the difference between dominant & domineering. When I was introduced to this way of life, I was smart enough to know I was out of my element, so I got a Mentor. My 1st mentor and I are still in close contact. In fact I learned my basics & theory from several experienced & well respected Dominants in our community. My 1st mentor made sure I knew the theory of BDSM & drilled safety, safety, safety into me. Another taught me whips, while a third taught me other toys. I have experience & we can chat about our personal likes & dislikes as we are getting to know one another.

Before we go any further, I want to make clear a couple of things. First, I am looking for a friend, who would enjoy submitting to me because that is in her nature. I am looking for partnership with a submissive and eventually a play relationship with my friend. If everything goes well, I am more than open to a long term relationship.

Considering that I don't care much about the Age (as long as she's legal), Height, or Weight of my companion, if you do we might not be a good match. The natural chemistry between a woman and a man is the most important thing to me. I firmly believe that the mind is far more important than what you look like or how old you are. I need an intelligent, communicative woman I can talk to. Sharing intimacies goes way beyond the sexuality aspect. Sharing life's adventures gets us in tune, together, so any play will naturally be more intense.

To me, the word DOM is NOT a license for abuse. I also do not subscribe to the take, take and take with no giving back type of domination so popular among the callow and egocentric. Insensitivity to the welfare of a friend or submissive is not part of the way I live my life. My sense of spirituality will not allow callousness or brutality. The interaction between a submissive & a Dom is not just an excuse to have sex. Yes, sex is a part of it, but I didn't train with my mentors to be the best Dom I could be, to 'just get laid'. In my opinion, unlike others, sex &/or play before we become friends is stupid.

I'm laid back in many of the ways I view life. I don't like lists that say a submissive should be this & do that or she's not good enough for me. I think a woman having unrealistic lists and expectations about her dream dom is a little too immature for me. I'm not perfect. This is not a perfect world, and the perfect woman belongs in romance novels.

I am seeking someone that is submissive because she enjoys serving and helping someone who has her respect. I also seek a woman that enjoys some level of pleasure/pain. I believe that BDSM play is just as, if not more intimate than, sex. I am a sadist, but not a brute. Pleasure/pain is not punishment, but an exchange of intimacy on a very intense level. Also, please understand that I am not looking to get an email, make a phone call, and go play. That is something that I am not in a hurry to rush into. I just want to be upfront and clear on these issues.
If you have questions about this, ask me.

I also seek a muse in my life. I am artistic and creative. I am looking for people who help that, not challenge or try to change it. Too few women are adventurous (especially sexually), fun, exciting and still submissive. Inspiration is something I desire in a woman who wants to be in my circle. Any woman who could also be my muse would be cherished.

When you read this, if you find me interesting, email me with a note of introduction. I'll check what your profile says, read your more personal discription of yourself, & send you a reply, one way or another. I enjoy communicating with intelligent people, so please, don't be shy. Feel free to ask questions. Isn't that why we are all on here anyways? Let's get acquainted.
4/28/2008 7:15:26 AM
What is it about the need that people have to play games. I am tired of running into people on this site that feel that thier entire need on this site is to lie, mess with, and screw with people. Is it so hard to believe that someone who sounds different, talks different, and acts different might be different. I am tired of getting lumped in with all the guys on here labeling themselves as doms just to get laid. What ever happened to BDSM being about BDSM, not about getting laid, not about being a popularity contest, not about being something or someone that you are not, and sure as hell not about abusing people. BDSM was and is supposed to be fun. If it is not, what the hell is the point!
prrrfectmistress
 
 Age: 27
 Brookline, Massachusetts