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Not interested in Bisexuals, Bi-curious, switch, Sissy, Cross Dressers, Animals. I do not accept CHAT REQUESTS on here.
I wont add you as a friend unless I know you face to face.
SEEKS strong alpha male for LTR
My profile stipulates what I DESIRE in a RTLTR. Not who I will befriend or become friends and communicate with. Sexual orientation is ones own choice.
I simply REFUSE to share what is Mine in My personal LTR.
I am physically attracted to TALL men who are clean shaven, well groomed conservative in dress. I have set My personal criteria as follows
GENDER Biological Male
ETHNICITY Caucasian ONLY
ORIENTATION Straight heterosexual male ONLY
AGE Must be mentally mature and responsible over 45
DEMEANOR sub slave
I am very honest and open about My size and My looks.
I am 46 34 45.
A size 1012 bottom and a 1618 Top.
My body size has nothing whatsoever to do with My brain, My emotions or inner feelings. I am the same erotic woman no matter what weight I am. I simply seek a SINGLE, STRAIGHT, CAUCASIAN male with NO CHILDREN who is very serious about being owned, marked and held in chastity at My whim. Has the ability to go from vanilla to the lifestyle world and is willing to live it behind closed doors as My partner in a monogamous, loving relationship.. DO NOT CONTACT ME If you have listed bisexuals as your sexual orientation! I do not want to listen to your crap about how you have never, only listed it to please others, but you are not.
Or that as a slave you did it because your Mistress demanded it!
That simply tells Me...you are someone who will simply compromise your values, morals and integrity to be selected by someone who more than likely not respect any part of you. Right? Right! Because WHERE is she now??? Oh she moved and left you behind? Wrong! Face it, she put you out with the TRASH when she was done USING YOU!
DETERMINE the TYPE of Lifestyle you want to participate within.
If BDSM Lifestyle, you negotiate with your MASTER (Owner) BEFORE being taken. It is supposed to be a mutual agreement and satisfactory relationship.
If you are participating with in the kinkster realm or the slave subculture, they believe and treat you as mere chattel and you have no choices. You give up all of those rights. Youre lower than an animal and treated as such. A lifestyle slave is controlled psychologically . Whereas, someone who is in the slave subculture, is generally taken without permission and held physically. So know what you want and know where youre going.
I am often astounded by many individuals lack of knowledge regarding the lifestyle they wish to participate within. Instead of assuming, wouldnt an intelligent individual ask for clarification? I would. I often do. When someone writes Me to say they seek a Mistress.. Basically that is the same as saying I want to buy a car. What kind of car? What color? What options? The same holds true with Female Dominants. We are not all alike, nor do we think alike. So do ask for clarification. Ask yourself, what is the baseline difference between a sub and a slave? A sub submits within LIMITS. Negotiates from point A to point B. As well as BDSM Play Scenes.
A slave surrenders completely. his heart, mind, body and spirit to One individual. He seeks a structured environment that is female led.
Being a slave is a mind-set. It is how you feel, view and approach life psychologically as well as with your heart. The deep desire, that driving inner need.. to not only please that special someone, but to feel that you honestly belong to them. You are here in life to serve! To be used in whatever way the Master or Mistress desires to use you. The autonomy of a full Power Exchange with Consensual Non Consent. Giving them all of your power, so that they have absolute control over you, while agreeing they can do anything to you, even if it is something you dont like, is something you are willing to accept.
While submissimves think in terms of submitting for a pre determined amount of time or scene while retaining a certain amount of control over the Dominants actions..A slave thinks in terms of surrendering to the right Dominant and being owned. They have a deep psychological and emotional commitment to that Dominant while feeling their primary purpose is to serve the wants, needs and desires of their owners.To enhance the owners life by what ever means possible.They naturally focus on what would make their owner happy and how best to please them emotionally and physically. Please note that physically does not always mean SEX!
As such, slaves live by core words like honor, integrity, respect, discipline, obedience, duty, structure and communication.
Yes, it does take time to build that bond of trust between the two. Yet, I am not interested in continually exchanging emails endlessly. I have read individuals comments on how they have no desire to be a mindless slave. Slaves, are not mindless individuals. They are generally strong, intelligent, assertive ALPHA individuals in the vanilla world. They have a deep understanding of themselves and their needs. Are generally in a position of control and authority of others, while possessing an astounding sense of humor. Which I desire.
They seek a relationship wherein, the bond of trust is so great, they have the ability to totally let go to a strong Dominant woman, in their structured environment behind closed doors and within the BDSM community, where she controls the relationship being the authority figure.
The other misnomer is that a slave HAS no rights and must to turn over everything they own to the Master or Mistress. FALSE! Unless you are dealing with an individual who practices within what we call the Own
HONOR INTEGRITY And LACK THEREOF...
I really find it incredulous that many of the players are still out here contacting Me as well as other Domina that are serious Lifestylers.
Im not quite sure what they think they are getting away with..Yet never take into account that we are all intelligent women in our own right.
For most, it is their Internet game. They feel total animinity being on the internet. Yet, do not understand that they can be traced from any site by anyone who has computer savvay.
Their game screams of a lack of personal integrity. I often wonder if these are social skills not practiced within their families or instilled during their ative years.. Or if they simply abandon them?
Yes, I know the shoe is often on the other foot and that there are Dominants that also play this game.
Again, no matter the demeanor of the person, I personally find it revolting. Im also wondering if they take the same drivel to the vanilla jobs?
How could you possibly hope to build trust with someone who is a liar? An individual that lacks honesty?
Their game and story changes from person to person.
Lord knows there are so many DEAD Dominants, I almost fear taking someone into My life on a fulltime basis.
I think the death or dying card is one of the worst these individuals can play.
Next would have to be a family member with a terminal illness.
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♡♡♡♡♡ WHAT FUN ♡♡♡♡♡
IF you LQQK at photo 9, I have placed up a photo of My NEW TOYS!
On the left is a remote controlled electrical CBT UNIT.
It has 12 different feelings, intensity level from 1-10!
It can be preset to go from 1-15 minutes.
I love hearing slave say: "OH MY MA'AM."
See, No sounds forthcoming, I keep upping the intensity till I hear some sound of acknowledgement!
I might just crank it UP, For Fun!!!
The second UNIT you see.. the black one, is a remote controlled prostate massager. It has 10 different vibration patterns.
It has 12 different levels of intensity PLUS a heater.
The extension you see, wraps around the top of the balls.
Perhaps you take Me to dinner and I put it in before we leave,
sometime after the salad, I know I'm sure I turn the heater on. Then I sit there and watch you as I play with the level. Smile crossing my lips as my eyes made yours and your recognition of what is happening to your body.
This little machine is a joy! It brings me pleasure. I used it on Chastity slave, and watched as his cock continually leaked cum.
It was not anything he had control over, being milked.
I allowed him to nurse on me as I milked him for an hour.
Afterwards, I allowed him to shower me and clean me, then gave him permission to use the liquid shower gel to masturbate before he was locked back up!
I love my new toys. They will be for my slave! |
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Working very hard outside to get a few things straightened up before Easter tomorrow. I had to cut down my lilies. It's spring and they had grown up about 8 to 10 in and that's when you cut them down so that when they come back they all Thrive instead of die from being overgrown.
Once you cut them down you have to clean up your mess and bag the clippings.
Washing down my front entry porch and going to get the hammock frame out. My fertilizer is in and I've got April and May to get it down I am simply waiting on my broadleaf killer to come as well as my grass seed. I tend to do things prioritized. So I will spread my broadleaf first it has to be applied with a pump container and sprayer. And I'll wait a day or two and I'll put down my fertilizer. After a few days of watering overseed my lawn I need to let it grow out to about 4 in. I plan on doing some traveling this year and there won't be anybody around to water my lawn. I have house sitters come in and stay in the house, but they don't do yard work because they're vanilla! LOL
Don't be afraid to speak up I'll take your help! LOL |
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I have two tiny dogs. They are very much like children. The youngest one, who is the bigger one, is very friendly with everyone. He just loves attention and to be touched.
The oldest one by a year, it's the smallest one. However, he is the most protective of the two dogs period is very aggressive with people who come in my home, especially men. He doesn't trust them and he doesn't want them around me.
I have a collar Chastity slave who serves me.
You all should understand anyone who serves me ranks lower than the dogs. My dogs have watched the Chastity slave get me through the flu season where I was very sick. He would leave work during the day and come and administer my medication as well as feed me lunch and make dinner leaving it behind for me should I get hungry. My dog's witness to devotion and loyalty.
His kindness and loving Devotion to me extended to the dogs as well. Dogs are very sensitive to people they either like you or they don't.
Both of my dogs have come to love the slave. We nicknamed him Papa.
So now, after 6 weeks, when they hear his car come into the driveway, or I say Papa's here, they begin to whine and beg to get outside to him. When I open the door they run and jump all over him seeking his attention and love. They truly care about him.
This is the way I want additional slaves to treat my dogs, and my dogs to respond to them. We will be a family. Besides caring for me, they will care for my DOGS as well.
The smaller aggressive one weighs 5 lb. He is a tan male
chihuahua. The bigger one is a chocolate miniature pinscher and weighs in about 15 lb. My son calls him Tootsie Roll, because he looks like a giant Tootsie Roll! LOL
My dogs are welcome in my bed until 10 p.m. at that time they must go to their own beds and be zipped into their condo.
My household will and does exist of totally straight males only. No interaction among any of them. I am the queen bee! If you are seriously interested and I have spoken with you about joining my Straight poly household, please feel free to contact me. As I will be making my final decision.
It is not my responsibility to keep up with you. You have contacted me in hopes of serving me and being part of my house. You will be left behind. So be careful of who you throw away or put on hold. Because the true dominant, the real dominant, does not come back and does not have the time to put up with male ego.
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It's RAINING.. you know what that means, don't you bitch?
-Master-
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A Veteran is someone who at one point in their life wrote a blank check payable to the United States of America (and our allies) for an amount up to and including, their life. That is beyond honor and there are way too many people in this country who no longer remember that fact. Copy and paste this to your journal if you are a Veteran,... know a Veteran, Love a Veteran, or Support the Troops! May God Bless Them All. |
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I have been sick in bed for the last 4 days.
Not able to care for Myself.
Thankfully I am the key holder of wonderful SERVICE SUB.
He is held in chastity.
Let us discuss true service subs because many of you have the WRONG idea about them.
They exist to make the Dominants life easier. They are there to help in any way they can. No task is too great. Their place is truly giving.They do not expect or even dream of having sexual relations with the dominant they serve. Especially if the one serving is a slave. If held in Chastity, the dominant decides WHEN & HOW they may be released, if at all.
I have a wonderful service slave who cares deeply for Me.
Strangly enough we have had a friendship for several years, before I took him on as his key holder.
He has taken care of Me during this bout of flu, cold, congestion.
He is a keeper, because of his undying devotion to his Master.
Therein lies the difference of someone in service as opposed to a sub in general. subs serve from point A to point B.
Service subs or slaves expect nothing in return while deriving satisfaction in caring and making the dominants life easier, no matter the task. |
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Did my drive back to Dallas in 2 days.
Seemed to be racing between storms: rain, snow flurries
And freezing temperatures. No woman wants to be gassing up
Her car in 15 - 22 degrees.
After 10 days home, I took my time unpacking, then started My
Yearly SPRING CLEANING and downsizing in clothing and lingerie because of the recent weight loss I experiencd.
I met a really wonderful slave..however, being alone so long, like most men he REVERTS to his alpha mode.
DON'T you men know yet..you can NOT possibly get your way with a really strong Domme?
Now get naked bitch, get on your knees at my feet and BEG for forgiveness! *chuckles* |
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I have gassed up my car. I have checked all the fluids. Made sure I added deice window washer fluid to my reservoir. My car is packed except for a few final items I do not want locked in the car overnight
It seems there's some bad weather heading in, so I will be spending my first night in Birmingham Alabama.
Weather permitting, I will spend my second night in Meridian Mississippi
The third day which will be Sunday, depending on the what the weather is doing in the road conditions if it's bad raining sleet snow, I will travel from Meridian to Shreveport Louisiana and spend the night. If it's not bad I'll just go ahead and leave Meridian Mississippi and drive into Dallas.
At which point depending on the time I get home I may take my car and unload it and throw everything in the living room. Or I may just take out my clothing and overnight bag and leave everything else in the car. I'm not in a hurry to unpack once I get home I'll know I want a hot shower, and crawl into bed. I have missed my bed.
If you are on my route and feel like a meet greet over coffee or a light dinner please send me a message and we'll see what can be arranged.. if you are in Dallas, and wish to serve during this cold winter weather you have my permission to contact me.
I look forward to getting back and seeing, as well as spending time with my friends. |
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23* and snowed in. The dogs (WE) are staying in bed again today.
Too dang cold to get up! |
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ROAD TRIP!! To North Carolina. |
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For whatever reason collarspace will not allow me to answer mail and send it. It says that the site can't be reached! So what can I say I have been answering my mail it's just not going thru. Sorry |
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Rather cool in the evenings here.
Our temperatures have started to drop at bight after the sun goes down.
I am making simple fare for dinner this evening as well as to can and freeze. It is a hearty Chili called:
TIMBERLINE CHILI
10 oz.tomatoe sauce,
6 oz tomatoe paste,
1 15 oz can diced tomatoes [drained]
1 10 oz. can original ROTEL Tomatoes [for you foreigners it is 10 oz of chopped jalapeno peppers and diced tomatoes. I know I an not a chef, but I would say that that's about a cup. You can make your own]
1 diced yellow onion,
2 cloves of chopped garlic
1 Jalapeno chopped
1 can chili beans, [if in chili sauce put in whole. If not, drain]
1 10- 15 oz can drained kidney beans,
1 can drained whole kernel corn,
[Optional] peeled baby carrots. I chop mine in half]
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon ground pepper
1 teaspoon cumin
2 tablespoons Chili powder
2 cups water. [1 do 3]
2 pounds ground beef
Brown meat, onion and garlic, drain.
In crock pot add all your tomatoe sauces, rotel, then your spices.
STIR
Add your vegetables. STIR WELL!
Now add your meat mixture. STIR AGAIN!!
Cook on LOW IN CROCK POT, 6-7 HOURS.
Make sure that you have plastic containers, or glass jars to freeze meal size portions in. It freezes wonderfully and will last up to 6 months in the freezer. That should take you through winter. If it lasts that long. Serve it with a batch of cornbread or jalapeno cornbread.
As I said, simple fare. Very filling and addicting!
UPDATE: OMIT THE CARROTS/CORN as the recipe called for.
Carrots do not cook on low.
Texans are Mighty finicky about our chili.
This recipe must be a "YANKEE" version of chili
No Spice, or a bite to it. It's good, but doesn't pass the bar. |
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Only 2 hours and 47 minutes into my outside yard work and I am spent.
Yard equipment is not cooperating today whatsoever.
I took my new $100 pocket-sized charger down to my storage building to jump off my riding lawn mower. It did not work. It wouldn't start.
It's damn bad when you keep telling the technician who works on your equipment, hey the starter is out in my lawn mower.
No that can't be at your starter is only such and such years old the same age is your lawn mowers too soon.
What do I know? I'm only a woman! When you go to start something and it goes click click click, that should be a clue. I want to replace the starter.
So you don't need to replace your starter, I check so until and it's still good you just have Gremlins in your lawn tractor.
Exit the technician. I am not paying $50 an hour for a man to guess me and not do what I want done. Even if the starter is good, if I want to replace it, replace it! Pacify me! Make me happy !!
Enter my Honda Fit. I drive the little booger to the backyard I hook up the cables and it starts right up. Unfortunately you have to get off of this seat to disconnect the cables and when you do that it stops the engine of the lawn tractor. So I have learned to be somewhat open acrobat. In fact I think I might be able to go to work for Cirque du Soleil during the summer!
So I get This scathingly brilliant idea because once that happens, you have to drive the tractor around a little bit to charge up the battery. So I drive by some cinder blocks and I stopped and I put it in neutral while I take on board a cinder block beside me. I slowly ease over to my yard cart which I have replaced the wheels on with bigger 10 inch wheels instead of the six inch wheels that came on it. 6 inch wheels I kept blowing out. But I digress, I ease over to where my yard cart is loaded with cut tree limbs I eased the brick up into the seat and get off so that I can connect the cart to the lawn tractor. At which point I get back up in the seat and I throw the brick off. Not a smart idea I should have eased it back down to the floor board but who knew? So I drive up my property to the street I situate my my tractor and my yard cart on the street and shut the engine down. Go to the back disconnect the cart turn it dumped all the branches off the side of the street for bulk trash pickup. Now I'm not good at backing things up especially trailers I always jackknifed them. I post the card back to my driveway about 5 or 6 feet and let it wait for me I get on the lawn tractor and try to start it and guess what? It's dead as a doornail.
I post said tractor back to my driveway and you let going downhill and put the parking brake on getting off I connect the yard cart. Getting back on I let the brake going on in neutral flying but I took two close to my drainage and the tire went in and a tractor stop.
A dismount and I have to manually push the tractor out and get going downhill again at which point I get down to an area and I hit a patio stone stops it cold. At which point I got off again and push again and it gets going again and I let it Cruise to the left side of my property where I'm going to be cutting up tree branches if all goes correctly after this rest.
The last two branches that I have to take up to the bulk trash area or two rather large ones so and her Honda Fit. I open up my hatchback I paid the tree limbs in a crank ER up and drive them up the driveway to the drop-off area and unload them. At which point I'm at my car roll back down the street and I go down the second driveway so I can park my car in the shade. By then my body is so damn tired I just have to come in the house and get some Gatorade and lay down for about 10 minutes. The sun is really starting to pick up out there.
Arrest for another 10 minutes drink some more Gatorade and then I will go out and attempt to cut tree limbs that the high winds took down, into smaller pieces. For whatever reason the city bulk trash pickup will not take larger limb. Don't ask me why? They come with a 25 foot trailer truck and on the other truck is a damn scoop train shovel they pick the stuff up they throw it in the truck why should I have to spend all my time cutting it up into 4 inch branches when they've got this mess and thing that can pick up hundreds of pounds? Lazy.
I have three chainsaws. I have a 14 inch electric. I have an 18 inch Craftsman that the tightening wheel has gone out on. To wit, I have made three trips to Sears to order the replacement part. They keep sending me the wrong part. The final one is I have a 10 inch electric pole saw.
You would think with at least two of them working I can get these damn branches cut up.
The problem? They are electric. Oh did I mention that my outside GFCI plug went out? I didn't? Did I tell you that the electrician wants several hundred dollars to come and replace it? I keep asking is it the same as a GFCI plug in the house? Except for outside? Because if it is I can replace it myself! I am not a rock.
Ono says the electrician, we have to run tests to make sure that that's what it is.
But I have checked the fuse box and turn the breaker on and off. It still doesn't
As well, I have flipped the breaker in the separate panel for the GFCI. It doesn't work. Which means my main outside plug the one GFCI that the light is now out on is the one that needs to be replaced. Now how hard is that?
I'll tell you how hard... bend over and hang on because I'm not even going to kiss you...3 hundred dollars please!
I don't think so. Daddy didn't raise a dummy. It may take me longer than you, but I will get it done. I dislike someone taking advantage of me because they think I am the weaker sex, therefore not as intelligent.
I just love it when vanilla males make assumptions. They have no idea when they do that what a raging animal I become inside and could literally just beat them to a pulp.
I close my eyes and steady my breathing while they're talking this garbage to me and in my mind's eye I see myself shackling them and hanging them from a solid oak block hooked to an electric hoist I slowly ease them up into the air to where they are totally suspended and just the tips of their toes are touching the bricks.
Getting out my single tail I carefully cut their clothing from their body and watch it fall away and shreds. I heave a sigh of relief somewhat satisfied. But yet it's not enough.
Pacing myself out from their naked body suspended in the air, I take my beautiful kangaroo single tail, diligently putting the turks head in the palm of my hand. I let the single tail fly. Woosh! Snap! The beautiful yellow popper that I have made with my little tiny hands connects with flesh. I watch it bite, as he jumps in the air and screams. Because he has done this and agitated me the single tail flies again, the popper connect several times in a row you can hear it going off like a shotgun in the air. God I love that sound. Makes me wet and makes my nipples hard. Go ahead and scream it makes it all the sweeter.
And now the idiot has finished telling me about my GFCI plug. And I have just obliterated his ass in my mind!
You men never know what's going on in a dominant females mind when she closes her eyes. Just be leery... and now it's back outside to work.
I need someone here when I finish to give me a shower and a massage. It's going to be a rough day. Come take care of this master. And if you can't, cook, bring her some lunch on your way over.
I know I will need a bath too and then a nap.
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THANKS THANKS THANKS to everyone checking on Me during this Hurricane!
I am 250 miles North of Houston, so doing well.
For those with family members in Texas in the hit and flooding area,
I am posting numbers for you to be able to check on family and or friends.
More Numbers for Houston Emergency and important information
The floods in Houston have put a strain on emergency services phone numbers.
**Call 911 in the event of a life-threatening emergency.**
Do not use 911 to check on the status of the weather, flooded roads, power outages, or anything that is not an emergency. These calls delay help to people in true emergencies.
The United States Coast Guard posted additional phone numbers that were set up for people who are in danger and need rescued.
281-464-4851
281-464-4852
281-464-4853
281-464-4854
281-464-4855
Residents can also call 311 or Houston Police's non-emergency phone number at 713-884-3131.
713-207-2222 to report downed power lines to CenterPoint Energy
They urge people not to rely on social media to report that they need to be rescued. Rescues need to be coordinated by trained officials. There is very little your local TV station can do.
God Bless. XXX |
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Gracious Me.. in this late summer heat,
I have a fetish for Ice Cream..
Sweet Iced Tea and cold weather. LOL |
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It is time for a serious entry once again.
This is about emails to Domina's, your language and your words you use.
Not all Dominants are alike. As are no two subs or slaves.
Our concept of this lifestyle are vast as they are various.
I was fortunate to be fully trained as a Domina for two years almost daily. Trained and "groomed" in the philosophy.
Fortunate, to be a member of an International House (collectively speaking) overseas. This was when the lifestyle wS stll underground and hidden. People were treated with respect, because we earned that respect.
Not by virtue of a title we bore.
Sadly the days of old have been infiltrated by wanna be Doms and Dominants. By fake subs, slaves and pretenders simply seeking a quick fuck.
I am and always have been first and foremost a lady of culture, integrity, decorum. I am not here or in the lifestyle these last 40+ years for a quick "hook-up" to get laid. Understood? Don't insult Me and make yourself become lower than pond scum.
This is something ALL MEN SHOULD KNOW...
You should always speak to a woman as if she were a Lady.
SHE will open the door with you when she is ready.
True, some are only hete to get laid, but not all.
A woman, needs a reason. Most men, only need a Place. But not all.
For many on here, we are looking for a LTR.
With somone we share common values and core interests, that we hope will bring the type of long term relationship we seek.
So, if W/e are just starting to get to know one another thru conversation, do not start talking about how you want to ple
ase me orally or sexually. You just killed yourself mr scum.
What part of DOMINANT are you not comprehending?
It is My party. My dance, and if interested, I will teach you how I prefer to dance.
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Oh My.. It has been an arduous day to say the least.
I have been on the "GO" since my feet slid out of bed this morning. So muchso, I didn't get breakfast. Nor lunch.
Dogs out and fed. Paid my bills. Which is a chore I thoroughly detest.
However, I won't have to deal with this till August.
I had to go pick up an Igloo Mini Fridge for my guest bedroom.
Great that they loaded it in my car for me..but DUH!! I had to physically bring it in the house.Ugh.
I stopped on the way back home and did grocery shopping.
The second thing I detest in the world.
Because it is a holiday weekend, most grocery stores have the meats on sale.
Now once you get it home and in the kitchen, it must be subdivided, placed in freezer containers. Then arranged everything in the NEW Chest freezer.
I kept out Babyback ribs to put in the smoker. ALREADY Baked drumsticks to put on the Barby...
Italian sweet sausage to bake a pan of lasagna. Will sub divide the pan into meal portions to freeze. Also stuffed bellpeppers with Rotel tomatoes and brown sugar in spaghetti sauce.
It makes them sweet and spicy. I am not a gourmet cook. I never had to learn. I can read and follow a cookbook. I do what is called, down home southern cooking.
I also plan on baking several containers of the Golden Nuggets Bread Pudding for my neighbors and some to freeze.
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Contemplation on a year in review!
I would like to wish those serious in their Quest.. A wonderful, prosperous, Summer.
May you find your "O/one" you are searching for during the coming year.?
The Alternative lifestyle as it is termed, is endless in the types of people who play under that umbrella. I am here as a Lifestyler. Not a Kinkster, a hedonists, a swinger, or someone looking to be supported or to have endless sexual encounters. So listen up... This Domina is for real.
Take your games to those who get off on them.
Like the Domina I know in many cities and countries around the globe, this is not a game for Us. I adhere to protocol and etiquette and expect those practiced when approaching or writing to Me.
DON'T address me as Mistress. I am not your Mistress and I don't use it as part of My title. READING is fundamental! Take the time to read someones profile, not just look at their photos.?
PRACTICE HONESTY:
You would think that is self explanatory wouldn't you? yet there are many who constantly invalidate the meaning and intention of, not only this site, but others like it. If you can't be honest, it screams about your integrity.?
A good example is the fool in Canada named Liam. Liam has 2 completely different profiles. he is less than honest. his stories varies as to who and what he is, as to his location. The main reason I pick this person, for their are many like him, is that he was stupid enough to think he could play friend against friend. One profile was talking to a very close Domina friend and had entered an agreement of consideration with her. he disappeared for 10 days and low and behold, using a photo taken off the Internet, popped into My mailbox wanting to "get to know Me."?
What Liam forgot was a very important rule... Domina's communicate.
Knowing My close friend was in consideration with him, I began to quiz him to see what he had to say. Lies, Lies, lies... everything that sprang forth from his mouth was lies. I marvel at individuals like this.?
Well.. wait a minute.. maybe he has dual personalities and doesn't know the other "Liam" exists? NOT! If you'd like to see the stolen photo, it's under the name: Dsdevotee
A note to Liam and people like him: The Laws of the Universe. What goes around comes around. be prepared for it.
Many Dominants BITCH about the subs that play games. Guess what? That shoe is often worn on the other foot in the guise of someone pretending to? be a Dominant. Just because you consider yourself aggressive does not make you a Dominant.?
Then there is the individual who "PLAYS" at being a Dominant on line. Boss, Boss, Boss, Do, Do, Serve, Serve! Hey! If that's what gets you off..taking orders from someone you don't know, have never met and have not built a bond of trust with..So be it. Just don't think I'll do it for you.?
Again what individuals NOT practicing the Lifestyle have never learned is the important fact that just because someone is submissive..DOES NOT mean they will be submissive to YOU! Submissives and slaves are people first. Just like Dominants are. Mutual respect for an individual is a requirement to even start a friendship. Let alone advance to the point where they will comply and follow any orders you give them.?
Respect should be earned, noto bestowed because you call yourself a Dominant. In the mean time, social graces, consideration and manners should be practiced.?
THE RUNNER:
Ever exchange emails and chat with someone you enjoy. get to like and "think" possibly you have located someone that could "enhance" your life by being together? Oh I have... Yet when it comes down to serious talk of a "MEETING" they run! Like Arnold Schwarzenegger, you hear the words, i'll be back i just need to take care of_______ Whatever. Bang! They are gone like a person with their hair on fire, never to return. yet still on line and playing that game all over again.?
So where is the courage in saying: i don't feel ready to meet. i don't want to get serious or even , i'm sorry i don't feel this is something that will work for me. Now we have someone clueless and ball-less.?
THE WEEKEND WARRIOR:
This person is on line to meet very true. but to meet and serve a different person each and every weekend. They are like a Domina I use to know.. One in house.. One going out the back door..and one coming in the front. I won't even discuss the psychological profile of this type of person. If you don't meet "their" demands to a meeting as quickly as possible, they are Gone baby! Not anyone I'd want around Me anyway.?
What this fool doesn't realize is this: Vanilla life, family, job, and obligations ALWAYS come before the lifestyle and play. So not everyone will "fit" into your neat little time table.?
THE BRAT
If someone is honest enough to give you their REAL information respect that. It's not to be shared or numbers given out without that person's express permission. I am addressing a sub friend of mine, whom I took under My protection. What she experienced was making friends with another female sub and exchanging numbers. They would chat often. One day said sub got upset because My friend did not answer her on I-M. she felt slighted and got enraged. What she didn't realize, AND I do hope many of you will take note of this.. the sub was not at her computer. she had to go to the store. I know I don't sit in front of My I-M, even if I DO have it on. I go on with everyday responsibilities. But I digress.... enraged sub has her Master call My friend and chew her out. Now what VIOLATIONS just occurred??
1. The passing of a number without consent
2. That Master (for lack of a better term) had no business calling let alone chewing her out.?
Unless they OWN you... No one has the right to chastise or berate you. you have not given them permission or consent!?
Whether it's RACK or SSC.. The key word is Consensual! Along with respect of an individuals right to privacy.?
THE INVALIDATOR:
I have discussed this person in length in My journal. It might do you good to stop by and read it. It will help everyone recognize certain personality types and learn how to handle and avoid them. We all know an invalidator. Whether it is a family member, someone at work, or someone we come into contact often with. Avoid them.
THE DOOR MAT
I know you have seen this person. Talked to a few no doubt. It is the YES person who will do anything. They have every demeanor under the sub checked on their profile. They seek a body that only needs a pulse and is breathing. Again, what they fail to realize that almost ALL practicing and involved Dominants beyond this computer, don't seek a door mat, nor want one. They want someone they can respect. As well, a good sub or slave should want respect in one form or another.
Lastly, I will tell of the Domina I know that "grades" individuals on their actions. One of Her request is for the individual to write her a letter and mail it to her. She has even told them they need not put a return address on it. Pffft! Most are too lazy. Even a card would suffice. As She told me.. If I am not worth a 47 cent stamp, then they are not worth My time. So know that some things people do are a TEST to see how well you rank in your response.?
Remember that though many of us live the lifestyle 24/7.. We are not always in recognizable role 24/7 especially to vanilla people and the "outside" world.?
We are individuals, people with feelings. We hurt, we cry, we laugh, we give. We are considerate, understanding to a point.
Forgiving, loving, respectful. We treat others the way we wish to be treated. We were raised with "CORE" values. We have integrity. Our honor and our word mean everything to us. It is the foundation of the person we are and strive to live by daily.? if you can't understand these principals..If you don't live by them, the reality is, you are not worthy of a Real relationship with a truly gracious individual.?
For those of you who do practice this. Don't lose heart. Continue to be the best person you can be. When the time is right, the O/one right for you, will walk into your life.
It's not about being "OWNED" or OWNING. It's about being owned by the right one, or owning the one that is right for you!?
Think about this...
-DommeMaggie-
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Another silly person. If I dont give out My phone number and personal infotmation right away..I am moving too slow.
If I am not willing to become "closer" by texting and hanging on the phone all day...I must not be interested in moving forward.
PEOPLE..MY CELL PHONE IS NOT AN APPENDAGE!!! I do have a real life.
Least you forget..I say Who, What, When, Where.
If that is not agreeable to you, go on to the next profile.
I PROMISE My feelings wont be hurt. LOL
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Some subs have their head so far up their ass that they can't see daylight. And you know who you are. When I tell you, do not bother to respond to me that's what I mean. Just because you have been played by a player who calls herself a dominant and you think her way is the way.
Get a life period. We who lived and practiced in the alternative lifestyle do go by rules. Most of us train others because we have been trained. Because we are active in the lifestyle.
I find that many people on this site do not know a thing about the lifestyle. Whether it is SSC or RACK
Both are different. So listen up dirt bags when my profile says I want a Slave that is what I want. Because most slaves understand rack. I do not want some simpering male who called himself a submissive that has his head so far up his ass, to make assumptions when reading my profile. There is a difference between a slave and a submissive.
It is true that submissive with the right dominant can become a slave to her.
I don't want a submissive whose ego is so large that he assumes he has all the traits of a slave and calls himself a submissive. Wrong submission is not a mindset. Submission last from point A to point B.
So go get trained and understand what you're talking about.
I don't care how long you say you have been in the lifestyle.
Apparently not around people that live it and participate in it.
A kinkster is not a lifestyler. They do not look at BDSM as a lifestyle. And here's another hint: a kinkster does not put their age, they always put 99 years. Those are the people to stay away from unless you just want to fucking play. Or if you are a swinger.
I am so tired of you individuals who presume that you know everything there is to know about the lifestyle.
There ARE several types of Lifestyle within the BDSM community and the alternative lifestyle.
And if you're interested in talking to me, you need to read not only my profile but my journal.
I seek a slave that shares the same core values and family values that I have.
I am not saying that my way is the absolute right way or the only way that you should do it. I am saying it is my way. I have been in this lifestyle for over 40 years!!
I have earned my titles. I am a member of an mentoring lifestyle house and a member of the National Leather Association who earned and was bestowed every title I have earned! Up to and including a covered Master.
We take, We train, We live this as a lifestyle.
I'm not saying I cannot be questioned. But in my lifestyle there is a correct way to ask questions of a dominant.
You do not climb on your high horse and become comdensending.
Unfortunately a real dominant is taught not beat or play with someone out of anger. Otherwise I'd tear your ass up and it would not be a good thing for you. But it would make me feel so good inside to hurt you deeply because of your condescending attitude.
Teach you a lesson
To make you feel pain so the next time you get ready to open your mouth to any dominant you will have learned to do it the correct way.
My lifestyle IS NOT A GAME.
The End
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I am so wrapped up getting a flower bed in and a broken tree limb down before the 11th of May.
I have projects I want to complete before that date...so I seek good service Subs that are willing to WORK along side of Me in the yard.
If interested, contact Me and tell Me when you have availability.
you will be fed and watered well..possibly some play depending.
I DO NOT WANT you to ASSUME there would ever be anything sexual.
For clarification; a service sub gets gratification working for a dominant and helping make their life easier.
Please be mentally competent and physically capable of handling a live chainsaw without harming yourself or anyone else.
Be able to climb a ladder without falling off.
Be able to use a shovel to help me till the Earth to transplant flowers. Be able to help me put in wooden borders to hold gravel in place for a My secondary driveway.
I don't want to see a cross dresser. I need a man who is willing to work beside me because I work also. |
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From The Soft Lips Of An Irish Domme..
Happy St.Patrick's Day
May you day be Blessed!!
-DommeMaggie- |
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Any service Subs or slaves in the Cedar Creek Lake area?
Seven Points, Tool, Malakoff, Athens,Trinidad area wishing to be of service, for My longtime friend and sister dominant Madame D.
Madame (Mme) is a title used as a form of respect to a mature woman of authority.
Madame D is currently working on Her profile. Till then enquiries should be sent to Me. As we are currently together getting her moved in to the Cedar Creek area. Will need those willing to work inside and out. |
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.... Wishing you a Happy Valentine's Day !
Oh that we all were loved and had a counterpart
I still seek .... |
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I just did an 18 hour drive and road trip back
Home from North Carolina. Never again, alone.
It simply takes too much of a toll out of Me.
To top it off..I was and am sick.
I stopped at My local store and bought juice, 7-up, milk
And liquid slim fast.
Unloaded the car. Surveyed the yard and tree damage
from the high winds/ storms Dallas had.
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Wow... I have to admit, not a lot of snow. However being iced in has been relaxing. It forces one to wind down and just chill out.
The dogs and I have slept, watched TV, cooked and finished a few projects. It's been nice. My body has been able to relax having others around and caught up on much needed sleep.
Honda finally got the damage done to my car repaired
And returned the day before the snow was due.
Too late to try to make it home. The ice on roadways between her as home would have stranded me.
Better safe and to sit it out here with family.
No hurry. In another week the weather will be back to normal and I can go home. |
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Seems like Bryan Honda in Fayetteville will have
Me captive for another 7-10 days before the repair
Parts for my Honda Will be in. Blaaaah!
If you are close... give me ?hout out! |
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Christmas baking in progress.
My car will be tailored to the Honda collision repair on Monday.
That dang Georgia Pot Hole ripped lose the plastic undercarriage of My car. It was the orange barrel being hit @ 70 mph that put the nice size dent in my hood.
Time to shower and find a different Turkey Breast.
My daughter-in-law does not want a hickory smoked. No problem.
We will just have 2. More sandwiches After Christmas!
With the sliced baked ham tonight and turkey breast tomorrow..
I love the club sandwiches that can be made.
If I have to be here thru New Year, I will make the traditional Pork roast.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all.
Wish everyone could spend this season of shared happiness together.
A giant open house!
With Warm Affection,
DommeMaggie |
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I left Dallas yesterday 12/20 16 -@ 11:30 AM
I drove straight thru and arrived 10 hours later
In Fayetteville, NC.
Little mishap on I-95 about 3 am this morning @ 70 mph.
Just west of Douglasville, GA.
KThe angel on my shoulder allowed me to live.
CAR will have to go into the shop.
CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS COME IN MANY FORMS.
Wishing Everyone A Blessed Christmas and a Joyous,
Safe New Year.
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My Stocking is hung.
The Tree is up.
The House is decorated..
Doing some cookie donations for My Fire Dept.
Packing and getting ready for a ROAD TRIP!!
A two day drive it will be Alright,
as long as I am in Fayetteville before Christmas night.
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If I had read something like this several years ago in anyone's journal, I would have thought they were slightly barking mad. After reading several, I started to pay attention to what was happening in the news and what was happening all around Me.
If you are like Me, you can Google any question in the world to bring up history facts. It is all in how you ASK the question.
Look up gun registration laws written by Warner Best in 1931 which the Nazies would use to confiscate all guns.
Hillary has repeatedly stated she will take all guns.
As ludicrous as it may sound to you, Texas is the only state that can succeed and survive because we were a republic.
We can seal off all 14 entrances into our state and survive.
Or form a southern alliance along the southern coastline.
The strategies are endless.
Sadly those out on the west coast or upper Midwest are far removed from what has actually been taking place in the USA for 2 reasons. The government control of all news reporting and movement done under the cover of darkness.
For the last 2 years I have watched the movement of U.N. Armored vehicles, tanks, Hummers, massive amounts of Ford SUV'S loaded and being moved by open train cars. They move thru Dallas about 2 am each morning.
Vanilla friends laying the ground work of prepping. Building places somewhat isolated to protect their families.
Laying in long-term storage of food, etc.
With the election of Trump, the nation seemed to heave a sigh of relief.
Even though 16 states used George Soro's smartmatic rigged electronic voting machines.
Because of the rigged obama elections, Americans were more aware and caught the switching in most states. This is why they went to paper ballots on Election day IF an individual requested it.
Now the recount. Why you asked? Neither Hillary or obama can afford to lose. They each have committed heinous acts against the American people.
Not only has Soros many been funding the transportation and paying for demonstrators at $15 an hour around the country to protest the won presidency of Donald Trump, he has now spoken out and saying he is paying electoral to throw their promised votes for Trump to Hillary Clinton. This will cause a civil war within the United States. No doubt about it.
This is why Hillary made the statement to the Press prior to election, There will be Civil War if I do not win.
I can only urge anyone interested to go out on the Internet and do your due diligence to get you questions answered. Then take the appropriate action as you feel comfortable in protecting yourself.
If all electorals register their votes the way their state voted and do not swing, then again Mr Trump will prevail giving us 2 years at least or recouping and recovering from the vast damage done to our country and national security over the last 8 years.
- GOD BLESS -
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Every day I set myself tasks to complete
in order to be prepared for winter.
I only build my house 5 years ago, but I am replacing
All the door seals and painting both doors.
In between, I am doing normal Errands, grocery store, pharmacy, vet,
Dog baths and weekly cleaning of their little kennels.
Wrapping Christmas gifts.
Today I took donations of doggy jackets and new dog blankets to my local SPCA. It is a no kill shelter.
I also got out my 6 ft metal ladder and cleaned the fall leaves out of the gutter because we are due rain and the gutter was overflowing with leaves.
It is the first time in a long time, that I did not get hurt or fall off!
Now comes rearranging furniture to accommodate the Christmas Tree.
Oiling down my furniture as it is all mahogany.
I need to get my mattress turned and flipped.
I will be glad when I have it all done so I can relax.
I want to sleep late one morning.
I am also ready for a manicure and pedicure using ORLY bright red.
I want a long hot bubble bath and a soft hands on massage.
Make me some hot chocolate, please...
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As we enter this cold weather season ... the greatest warmth is achieved by snuggling. |
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It finally stopped raining for a day.
I was able to get My last three front
accent house lights put in. I am considering up
Lighting around a large tree. I love lighting.
It's 45 days till Christmas...time to get those lights UP!! |
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This is how I feel lately... Hello..Hello...is anyone out there?
When the elevator reaches the top is anyone home??
Sassy, strict, regimented, very opinionated, but loving Dominant. |
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Many of you males do have hot bodies.
I came across this post from someone I know.
Trust Me, it has and will have limited exposure.
One of those.."insider calls."
If interested contact the email.
Casting for a Cable television Show Murder Made Me Famous . This epic episode includes one of our countries most tragic events in history . We are seeking a AA Male Body Builder type NO TATTOOS . Still seeking many many extras for an epic scene that made history... Needing a AA male 18 -20 and a AA Female 18-20 email rhummel@amspictures.com
This is located in Dallas / Las Colinas area. |
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Thank you to all the friends and acquaintances that sent well wishes for my medical procedure. After two days rest, I feel as good as new.
**I'm back "in the saddle," working outside in hopes of getting everything done before I start to travel..** |
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There is something very comforting and reassuring to me, when I hear and feel the deep whooping rotor sounds of gunships flying low level inbound.
I know I am protected. Hellfire in the sky.
Sleep well America....
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Can't sleep tonight. Very anxious. Have to be up in 3.5 hours to be medicated for a medical procedure this morning.
Yes, the little girl in me, wishes she was being held.
****** ****** ****** |
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I am thoroughly enjoying the fall weather. Though it has not descended completely on Texas. Instead of the nineties we are in the upper 70s and 80s with a cool breeze.
Now that it has cooled down some, it puts me in the baking mood.
Having thought about it for several days... Today I baked a fresh pumpkin pie. I love the smell of all the spices mingling in the kitchen and throughout the house.
I also baked an egg custard pie, as well as bread pudding for my neighbors.
My bread pudding recipe was given to me by the chef of the Golden Nugget on my last trip to Las Vegas. My friends and neighbors have thoroughly enjoyed this recipe for several years.
At present I have an Eye of Round roast simmering in the crock pot. With chopped onions, baby carrots, and quartered Idaho potatoes.
It is simmering in a heavy beef broth stock where it will cook for 6 hours.
Because I do bake for my two local fire stations during the holiday season..I will start this, wrap and freeze and delivered at the appropriate time. I do enjoy doing this, as well as donating my time serving meals at local shelters or missions for the homeless or less fortunate. I do not do this for accolades or praise, but for the sheer joy it gives my heart.
This year, I would like to locate some type of organization that gives to or helps disabled veterans or underprivileged military families.
I dislike it when I hear people say, "oh it's their job they're supposed to do that. They get paid for it."
How are younger military families, especially those with children, supposed to do that being under paid. Usually they have a somewhat depressing or desolate Christmas,.. because they are trying on what little our government pays them, to pay their bills, keep a roof over their families heads and feed them.
I would like to find a family that I could donate a pre-made meal and small gifts for the parents and children.
I have thought about my last post and there's something that you men need to understand about me.
I am not the type of woman who will fall for your Ploy and play with you online. Regardless of what you tell me I am not going to order you around or verbally discipline you because you do not belong to me.
Any dominant who does this online without knowing you, without ever meeting you, this is a game. I don't play games and if you understand this I do not play baseball. Defined, that means you don't get three strikes with me.
I am a very easy-going dominant woman.
Because I will not control online or on the phone does not make me less of a dominant. It makes me a dominant in control.
Like many of you, I have recently been used.
I walked into the Trap Eyes Wide Open. I came in contact with someone who was everything I wanted. I had never come into contact with someone like him in the 10 years but I have been a member of this site.
I was manipulated very gently by someone who is very skilled.
So you see it does happen to dominance as well as slaves and submissives.
After bonding, he walked away and left me on the flimsiest excuse. One, I could not believe. But I accepted what he had to say very ladylike and kept quiet. Again, he did not belong to me.
I do not understand why you men do not know some dominants, especially those of us who are real and have been trained, practice our lifestyle but if you are not our property we are not going to order you around.
Yet once that bond is made that physical claiming taking place in person, you are our property and you are subject to disciplinary action.
After about a month... This man came back and apologized begging me to take him back. Which I did because at this point I was still crazy about the man. This lasted for about 2 weeks. Till it was time for him to physically meet. I won't go into the rhetoric and what he did to talk his way out of it but once again.
All of a sudden it was: you're self-centered, you complain a lot, only think about yourself, blah, blah blah.
Anyone who knows Me in real time, knows that a statement like this is far from the truth. I had to determine that this person is either.
1. Extremely bipolar
2. Playing online games.
3. Is out here to simply invalidate.
Pull up a chair children because I'm going to teach you about invalidators. You will come across them here pretending to be dominant.
Or perhaps a submissive...even a slave.
Once you learn about your validators you will recognize them.
For whatever reason they perceive you to be better or smarter than they are. Invalidation is all about power and control.
What better place to hide than the alternative lifestyle. Because our lifestyle is about power and control.
As long as you allow them to be in control and do what they want everything is fine. It's when you exercise your right or your intelligence, that it begins.
They will verbally accuse you of doing the same thing that they are doing in order to draw attention away from their movements and make you think about your actions instead.
A good example of this is they will say: I don't think you like me.
This causes you to think: hey... wait a minute, what did I do to make them think that I don't like them. The reality is they don't like you.
A great phrase they like to use is something like: I don't want to hurt your feelings but... Here it comes, yes they do want to hurt your feelings so you better be prepared for what follows the word but.
They also want to isolate you from friends, family, or acquaintances.
It's all about control. There's good control and bad control. This is bad control.
They will tell you that you need to keep this affair, this relationship private until such-and-such time.
Guess what ... that time never arrives. As well, by not sharing this relationship with others you put yourself in a very precarious situation as far as a safety issue goes.
Should something happen no one knows to look for said person.
Validation. They will not allow you to validate them. No real name. No exchanging of any personal information. They do not want you to know who they are. "I prefer to give you all that information when we meet. I will hand you my drivers license."
If you want to make an invalidator angry, don't follow their instructions if they seem far-fetched.
You will hear their wrath: you're not a dominant or you're not a real submissive. It becomes the challenge of who you are. Not they are. It is to call the attention away from them and put it squarely on you.
Perhaps you begin to think and question yourself. This is what they want.
People... For 16 years I was a pro and I train people as subs, as slaves, and as Dominants. Both male and female.
I do take them through step by step and teach them about invalidators.
I teach them how to Vet people.
Most importantly is to verify.
Verification of who this person really is. Do they belong to group outside of this site?
Can you go into any people search program and locate them by the name and the address you ask them for?
Validate: is this person single or married?
Are they a trained dominant or sub or is it something that they have picked up over years of experience from playing in the lifestyle?
Do they belong to outside organization? Can they prove it? Or do they only play in private.
Are they a sensual dominant? Are they a leather dominant? Are they really a dominant? Or are they a switch? Or a kinkster?
All are different. All behave differently. All play differently.
It is up to you to validate for sure what they are. Ask the same question on different days in different ways and see if you get the same answer.
If you do not validate you could wind up with the wrong type of dominant.
Let us assume you're strictly into sensual play that you have no interested in rough play or pain.
You need to see a sensual dominant. Because a leather dominant plays harder plays, Stronger, plays rougher.
A leather dominant plays in what we call R.A.C.K.
That stands for risk-aware consensual kink. On a scale of 1 to 10 it starts about 6.
safe and consensual play is more sensual and less pain.
That goes from 1 to 5.
In case you're wondering things like CBT, single tail, flogging, are considered r.a.c.k
R.A.C.K. translates to mean you are aware there is a risk involved in the type of play you are interested in and you are willing to take that risk.
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I had a very long day yesterday that started outside @ 7:30 AM.
I did have several areas on the property where I had piled metal items. In one place I had metal fence post. An old filing cabinet, aluminum shelving from inside storage, items like that.
Long-time friend of mine offered and he brought his truck over and we loaded the items in his truck. We took it to a recycling center to dispose of it. There was 300 pounds.
Got back home at noon. Made some lunch. Worked outside for a couple of hours then came into shower and took a nap. When I went back outside to work I found out that the clumps of dead grass that I'm digging up, my son says is Bermuda grass.
At 2:00 pm I went to my favorite jewelry repair and had a gold Celtic Knot ring I purchased at an estate sale in London, sized to somewhat fit my right hand ring finger. It is a massive statement piece and since it was originally hand-crafted for a man... The ring is somewhat top-heavy.
I did not want the ring cut down because it will be passed on to my son.
He can make that determination whether he wants to cut down or not as long as he retains the gold cut out.
Then I stopped to pick up 2 wool jackets I had in the dry cleaners.
Back to the jewelers to pick up the now finished ring.
While waiting and browsing about... I actually came across a pin I have been searching for..for the last 3 years.
A 14k gold and diamond bumble bee pin. The bumble bee is on our family Crest! So.. Due to the size and cost..will do a little thing called layaway till after the holidays!!
I watered the plants around my driveway and the front of my house and washed my car. I went in the house about 8 o'clock. 9 o'clock in for the night and dinner.
The boys and I watched TV for a while and bedtime at 10 o'clock.
This morning we were up an outside after working in the yard at 8 a.m.
I continue to clean up along the fence line. These items were still out from when I move my storage shed last year. I want to put them away inside the storage shed.
I THEN REVITALIZED MY car headlight lens covers. The oxyadization that had build up had made them cloudy. Now the look brand new.
I had arranged a companion to go to the fair with me today. But apparently that didn't happen. I swear... men are such prolific liars.
Oh well, maybe next year.
As a matter of fact it seems the number of game players on here have only increased. Anyone I have arranged to meet or give him my phone number to in the last 18 months has never followed through. A bunch of pussies.
So here's my whine; blah blah blah I'm just going to walk away and give it up. I have other things that I can occupy my life with besides playing with male game players who don't have any intention of being sincere. Hell I couldn't get laid if I wanted to. I've tried!!@ LOL
After lunch today I'm going to go pick up a few items at the grocery store and I'm going to bake a pumpkin pie and I believe I will bake an egg custard pie. I'm just in the mood for baking it's a nice cool overcast day.
Going to get on the phone with iMax and try to purchase tickets for the November 18th release JK Rowling new movie Fantastical Beast. It's another movie along the lines of Harry Potter rich I am a big Harry Potter fan along with a Lord of the Rings fan.
So I will go to my favorite restaurant and have dinner and go to IMAX and enjoy the movie or vice versa.
The holidays near and it will soon be time to start decorating. I have almost finished all of my Christmas shopping. Plus I have things wrapped.
Where I will be for the holidays depends on the extensive test the cardiologists and vascular surgeon due on the 28th of this month.
My health situation maybe such that I will not be able to travel so I will be home alone. LOL
The boys and I will make the best of it. My Dogs don't complain, they always enjoy sleeping in the mommy bed and watching TV.
Whatever you're doing I hope it makes you happy as well
In the meantime I'll deal with the general contractor sent out by My insurance company to repair the "leak" from my pipe that backed up,flooded and damaged the ceiling in my office and hall way.
Sometimes life is like...take one step forward and two steps back!!! LOL
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The title Mistress means acceptance of responsibility.
I have not accepted responsibility of you, so do not address me as Mistress. I am not yours!! |
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LIFE IS NOT ABOUT WAITING FOR THE STORM TO PASS..
IT IS ABOUT LEARNING TO DANCE IN THE RAIN!!
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As it moves into fall it is time to fertilize and re-seed my yard.
No I did not say lawn. Because what I have are -controlled weeds.
Day before yesterday it took 4 hours on my riding lawn tractor to cut the yard. Today it took 1 hour with the push mower and one hour with the string weed eater only to trim around my house and driveway.
Then an hour watering plants and another hour moving sprinklers around in the 90-degree weather. Basically 4 hours out in the yard today as well.
Nothing feels as good when I come in the house and step into a cold shower. Washing my hair and allowing the soap bubbles to run all over my body. Cold water is a really good feeling.
Drinking a cold bottle of Infuse to replace the electrolytes I lost during the four hours out in the heat. It also reduces lactic acid cramps.
But the best feeling in the world after I'm clean dry and hydrated is crawling into my bed. The house temperature is set at 69 degrees.
My bed which I refer to as: "the nest"... Is a pillow top mattress topped with a feather bed. Then has fresh microfiber sheets stretched and pulled tight. Followed by a down feather comforter and feather pillows.
Climbing into this bed and laying down is like sinking into a cloud.
Much like big bird must feel when he crawls into his nest!
The cold, soft sheets on my naked body feel tremendous. A well-deserved afternoon nap.
All the lawn equipment hosed down and cleaned after use... Drying outside waiting to be put away. Which I will do when I wake up from my nap.
I hope to broadcast the fertilizer and re-seed my yard.
Eventually I will get a lawn.
As well, it is time to plant Spring bulbs.
Still have an area I am trying to kill all weeds where I want to have gravel dumped and spread. I will go to the feed store to see what the have. I still have a few tree limbs to cut down.
Last week I replaced the fuel line in my lawn tractor, as well as put an
In-line shut off valve. Replaced the fouled spark plug, drained and replaced the oil, and purchased a new battery.
I so want to get everything set for winter so that I can allow My fingernails to grow back out long. I enjoy long red nails for the winter months.
Trust Me....it hurts like hell to hit and bend back a long nail into the nail bed. This is the reason they are cut off during the summer months.
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So here I sit in the dental chair for an adjustment.
The last few days, I have accomplished quite a few items
On my TO-DO LIST, alone.
Sidenote: to the gentlemen who did not want to work because "they felt" they were only being used for work.. Guess What?
I would Never consider a male who had not worked beside Me!
Those service Subs who have served Me and still continue to help,
Would tell you..I work with them outside or on any large project I am asking help with.
I climbed a ladder once again in My hall bath.
I installed a diverted, a new massage shower head and hand held.
I am too short to reach the diverted tho' LOL
I GOT my yard cart emptied of soil I had to dig up building
The Laurentian Abyss. A channel I am digging for a French drain.
I will finish it out this weekend.
I did weed and re-mulch My doberman Isabella's grave in My back
Yard. I laid in a barrier this rear. I did weed and retrenchment the circle around My tree under which all My pets have been laid to rest I will replace the brick surround, put down barrier, plat flowers for spring then mulch.
De-weed My fire pit area where the Chiminea goes and add new lava rock.
Level out the brick patio that has settled and lay a barrier under the bricks.
I have a wall light to hang in My office, a wall cabinet to hang, and using the Kreg system, 14 screw holes to drill in My previous cut wood for the small desktop desk I am building.
This sounds like a lot, but the projects go quite fast. The latter, I will do today.
I have several trees to trim, and 2 to cut down.
Since I am not too good with the 16 inch chainsaw..
And Subs aren't either, I will have to hire someone for that.
This will all be done in September, alone with planting flowers for Spring.
Because I do not own and am not in a relationship, after My surgeon's
Appointment at the end of the month, I will be free to travel.
I will go to North Carolina to spend time with My son, Les.
Those of you who know Me personally, know I almost lost him.
After back to back campaign's in Afghanistan, upon his return he had a massive coronary. Surgeon's said Stress related.
At 6' 4" and 225 perfect medically being Airborne, that was all it could be. I have never been IN a war zone, but close enough to still have night sweats.
I can not imagine what these brave people experience watching their friends, buddies, and brothers shot or blown to bits.
We owe them all a depth of gratitude for past, present, and future.
AMEN
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Very interesting day today. I had to get up early and get my new little dog to the veterinarian. It was his first checkup.
I rescued this dog from the SPCA. He had been abused and they had to use a court order to remove him from the premises.
He had been with the SPCA here for over four months. The reason being no one could get near him because he would growl, snarl, then lunge to bite.
I spent three different days at the SPCA just sitting and watching taking my time being locked in a room with him. I allowed him to come and smell me and I fed him treats. I did not try to touch him. I waited till he licked me and presented the opportunity that he would allow me to touch him. I did so limitedly. After 3 days I adopted him. I brought him home in a kennel cage and put him in my office room. There I left him quietly for about 3 hours. And when I went back in the room and open the door and gave him his freedom talking Softly, it was a totally different dog that emerged from that cage.
Isn't this the way that its life would be once he was taken then given his freedom?
Wouldn't he be secure with that individual knowing that they wouldn't do anything to hurt him? Certainly this dog has chosen his master. He loves and respects me. We are learning boundaries together. As it should be.
Today this 6-pound little monster had to be muzzled because he will not let the vet touch him. He still will not let anyone else but me touch him. Again, this is how it should be with my slave.
No one else should touch him. Nor should he ev .er allow it. For he has elected to belong to me. So when I find the right man and he likes to come and belong to me... he will know how life will be with me.
I seriously thought and felt with my heart I have found the right person. It turned out not to be. He concluded I was not the right one.
Whatever is to be said... It does have to work both ways otherwise someone of the two is unhappy.
It's not about owning and bossing someone around. It is about blending two lives together that are on the same wavelength. To bring happiness and love in the end for each others life.
So it's getting on with life. I fall back into the routine of working in the yard and in the house.
Because of all the recent rain my grass seed to grow tremendously. Although I cut it on a high level number 5, there is still a lot to be mulched and raked up. Now all the remains is to pick up the piles I had to rake as well as trim out specific areas.
I had to stop because the heat was getting to me and making me ill and dizzy. I felt like I was going to black out. So perhaps I'll finish it tomorrow. |
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APPRECIATE THOSE WHO LOVE YOU..
HELP THOSE WHO NEED YOU..
FORGIVE THOSE THAT HURT YOU..
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Sometimes things happen quite unexpectedly. Someone on collarspace promised they would help me do something in the house when they return from their out-of-town trip. I wait patiently for two weeks...
I am a woman of faith and trust. I believe in people. But when this person did not contact me I decided to try to do this thing myself.
Knowing better... And against my better judgement, since ladders and I do not get along, I got mine out anyway. I set up the ladder in the small confined space where I needed it. I climbed the ladder to reach the area I needed.
However, I found once I was up there I didn't have the strength to accomplish the task, so I started back down. Sadly, I misjudged the step and misplaced my foot. You guessed it. I fell about four feet down backwards onto the tile floor. I hit so hard it made my sphincter muscle hurt. Because I'm currently awaiting surgery for knee replacement I have limited range of motion in my leg. Well... the courtesy of the Fall expanded my range of motion rapidly. LOL
All I could do is lay on the floor for about 5 minutes mentally checking my body as I was reacting to the pain. I literally had to crawl to an area where I could unfold my body and just lay there until the pain subsided and I have the strength to get up off of the floor.
When I was able to do that, I decided to put away the ladder and wait 24 hours before I tried that again. Which is what I did. And I finally got it accomplished the following day.
So I guess there is something to say for perseverance and determination. I've also decided
1. Stop climbing ladders without a spotter!
2. I really do need a Slave to take care of me and accomplish the task that my mind is convinced.. and still continues to write the check that my body has to cash. LOL |
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I am going to post this again in hopes that someone will take this very seriously. I am looking for a Slave for my sister, that would be very good at the following things: farm hand and knows how to work with horses. Knows how to work with farm equipment and or repair. Understands about fencing for horses. Able to muck stalls. Able to help with home repairs. Knows about home building and renovation. Abiity to cook and willing to do housework. As well as personal care of owner.
IMPORTANT:
you need to understand that there is a difference between a naturally dominant woman who is in charge of everything always and a lifestyle dominant.
My sister is a natural dominant. She is not a lifestyle dominant and therefore does not go by the protocol and rules within the lifestyle. Discussing this with her this evening she in for me she did not have it in her to abuse or use someone as chattel, i.e. keep them in a cage or chain him up. As well just having gone through spinal surgery several months ago she is still not getting around very well.
Prospect I would live on 30 acres in the country.
She started building a home 4 years ago had it framed out. She is doing all the inside finish out by herself. I will be going to her on Thursday and helping her finish out an upstairs bedroom. There is extensive work to do to bring this house up to insurable acceptability.
I don't want a runner or someone who's too lazy to work. NO FREELOADERS.
Believe it or not this being Texas, someone who supports the Second
Constitutional Amendment. Possibly owns guns and knows how to use them.
There are Critters in the country that go after horses. IE coyotes.
Perhaps I'm wrong but I'm thinking that a bigger beefer man will fill this position easier than a small skinny one.
As well, slave should have some income, even if on the modest side.
This is to help with his keeping.
This is a very serious ad for anyone who thinks that they can fulfill the qualifications. I will not play 20 Questions with you.
This is a woman who is not computer savvy. But I will be there on Thursday and be able to show any positive feedback that I get to her.
As well there will be telephone communication with you.
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Sharing this as we move into the hot summer months.
I am still caught up working outside.
I do have a lot I would like to accomplish before fall. Yesterday I spent 5 hours out in the yard and finished up at 12 noon. This morning I only did 3 hours and yard and that was strategically planting perennials. If I'm going to put many implants is going to be something that's going to come back next year. After it cools off later this evening I will restrain my weed eater so that I may trim along my concrete driveway and around the retaining wall at the back of my property.
I also intend on measuring imprinting ounce steak for the fencing I will be doing in the coming months
If you are a gentleman, a service sub who enjoys working and tilling the Earth, come play with this Lady out in Her yard. I will welcome your companionship and your help. I have things to build, things to plant.
The Art of Imagination starts with one thought. One concept.
I have worked slowly and diligently over the last several years with the help a few times with some great service subs. Their physical strength helped me start bringing my concept into reality.
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GET TO KNOW SOUTHERN WOMEN!!
As we mature often our mindset and values change from time to time..Especially Southern Women. Here is a perfect case, to prove my point:
An elderly southern lady was standing at the railing of the cruise ship
holding her hat tight so that it would not blow away in the wind.
A gentleman approached her and said, "Pardon me, madam.. I do not intend to be forward but did you know that your dress is blowing up in this high wind?"
"Yes, I know," said the lady.
"I need both my hands to hold onto this hat."
"But madam, you must know that you are not wearing any panties
and your privates are exposed!" said the gentleman in earnest.
The woman looked down, then back up at the man and replied,
"Sir, anything you see down there is 65 years old.
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I learned something very important today on my trip to Shreveport with Lady Katherine a.k.a. KatDallas.
NEVAH allow someone to be your Navigator when you are the one that generally has to navigate them around town!! LOL
AND Never have said navigator handle the phone and dial contact numbers.
II said submissive who received two phone calls today about my arrival and waiting in Shreveport... So sorry Kathryn dialed the wrong Shreveport number. I only discovered this after sitting and waiting for the contact I was purchasing the leather chaps from not showing up. And then took my phone and discovered she had dialed by error. Pardon the intrusion.
Kat and I had a very eventful trip down and leisurely on the way back with several stops Collin Street Bakery being our number one stop for lunch. Was a good girl did not purchase anything sweet to eat. |
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Later this morning I will be driving to Shreveport, Louisiana to pick up a pair of black leather chaps I ordered. It should be a nice relaxing drive for me and I will look for places of interest to stop along the way.
The chaps were made to go with a black leather underbust corset. Along with knee high black suede custom-made boots.
Add to this a black an Argentinian Gaucho hat trimmed in red.
This is for those nights in the dungeon that I desire to play with my black and red kangaroo single tail. It was made just for my little hand.... by top tier whip maker James Gentry.
Come let me suspend you and show you how proficiently My whip can kiss your skin... masochist that you are, you will beg for more.
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Well well... for those of my friends following my exploits, I shall go into my first hand experience and learning so that I might open Helga's House of Pain. LOL
For it is written, for it is said, a dominant can not administer anything they have not personally experienced !
Tuesday found me with my follow up at the dental office. More work, with minor bruising, caused by face manipulation. And of course swelling. This is a very attractive new look.
Today, I had my appointment with a new orthopedic surgeon. This one is as I requested: A White American.
His predecessors was an Indian Hindu with extremely bad broken English and the bedside manners of a pig. We won't touch on the smell !
Every doctor and nurse I relay the above to, smiles or giggles, men shake their heads to the affirmative.
Today's lesson in pain boys and girls, was inserting a 2 inch needle beside my kneecap down into my muscles on each leg injecting me with steroid and Lidocaine.
The pain was excruciating. I Yelped very loudly through gritted teeth while clenching the table, but I did not uter any profanity, Nor kick my surgeon in the balls. He was smart enough to pin each foot with his leg against the table. Apparently this man has been kicked in the balls before buy a woman who he i
administering the shots too
LOL
I have determined I respect and Trust this Dr.
For any man that can outwit a dominia when it comes to administering p@in to her, has My utmost respect. |
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I would like to address an issue which came up again today. This is not the first time this has happened, but I hope it will be the last!
As an active lifestyle dominant I do not have to give a reason for my like or dislikes, my limits or my hard limits.
When reviewing and filling out my profile, I designate my hard limits and things that I would not do. I did this on the ospice as if the question being asked:Is this something that you would do with anyone and everyone.
Obviously,my answer is: NO!!
There are some things that are private and personal and only happen between two individuals that are mutually attracted to one another.
I am not here to be your whore. I am not going to have sex with you upon first meeting. I am not desperate as many women seem to be on this site. I do not appreciate being pestered endlessly about doing something with that is in my hard limits.
When I say no I mean no.
I don't care how alpha you say you are ... throwing a temper tantrum when you don't get your way and saying saying ugly things and disrespectful remarks does not win you favor.
Point in fact it shows your inmaturity and pushes Me further away from you.
I am not a woman that you top from the bottom. I won't tolerate that or your disrespect.
So if this is your attitude you will be blocked. I also suggest that you move on. Obviously it's not going to work and I'm not interested in spending time with someone with this attitude.
Least we forget, emails are a very poor way of communication. Make sure you read the email twice so that you know youre understanding what is being said. Although you can't hear the tone in the influx of the way it is being said, you should be able to ascertain the meaning in the email.
NEXT: because I do not know you I will attempt to be respectful to you until you show me that you do not deserve my respect.
I do not know you I do not own you therefore I am not going to boss you around. I'm not going to tell you I'm going to beat you or keep you naked in chains or any other game.
I am not here to play games I am here to meet friends as well as find a partner to be with for a female-led long-term relationship.
As my profile indicates I seek a slave. A man who upon getting to know me wants to surrender his heart mind body and soul into service to me. To develop a long-term relationship of total power control with consensual non-consent. In other words I am totally in charge.
If you do not understand this or this is not what you seek... Kindly move on. Life is too short to be putting up with some of the crap and or drama that is out here.
Not everyone is who they pretend to be or say they are. There for verification is very important to me. I value my life. I need to know who I will be meeting or possibly inviting into my home. If you are not willing to be verified by your real name address and phone number move on. I don't want to take the risk of spending time with someone I don't know who they are. You have to remember that this lifestyle is based on power and the power exchange. So we do have a lot of predators even on this site who hang out and pretend to be something they are not.
I can be verified and validated. So I want you to be able to do the same.
Thank you for reading this journal entry and I do hope you understand and appreciate it.
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It doesn't take a lot of strength to hang on....
It takes a lot of strength to let go.
J.C. Watts |
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Happy Mother's Day to all you mothers out there. And I know there's a lot of you.
For those of you who know me and have met me I will bring you up-to-date. My dental surgery was 3 days ago. I have been working toward that day for the last 2 years.
The bruising and the swelling is starting to go down and I have a temporary partial in place. I have to wait four months..healing, before they can put the pins into my jaw bone for the permanent teeth.
Right now it's living on soft foods: soups, baked potatoes, jello, puddings and liquids. No straws, no soda.
LA Madeline Tomato Basil soup seems to be a lot of my meals. LOL |
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As reward to Myself for my weight loss, I purchased the Beautiful black hand beaded design, Evan-Picone cocktail dress. To wear to dinner some evening.
It's wonderful being a woman and I enjoy dressing to the nines!
Ultra sheer black thigh hose silhouetting my shapely calves.
Because of the bead work, I can either wear all Ruby's with red heels. Peridots, with mint green heels, all black with black Spinal.
Of course there is always...gold and diamonds!
Should I be a blonde or a brunette for our night out?
Whichever I decide... Be prepared for men to stare. Even at my age, My elegance, carriage and My demeanor attract attention.
Deal with it little one. |
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Such an arduous day here 14 hours long. From the time I got up this morning at 9 a.m. till 11 o'clock this evening it was one thing after another.
I did get many things accomplished and tasks completed. However my body is so tired I just need a long hot bubble bath a massage while I'm soaking to be tender lead right off and put to bed.
I am the type of woman who is very organized, so I work from a list.
I still have many things to get accomplished this week and next.
Will gladly entertain help from a service sub or two.
Need one who likes housework because it's time for all my wood furniture to be oiled.
Need another who enjoys working outdoors in the yard I have flowers and bulbs that need to be planted, amongst other things. |
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Intending only to be gone 2 weeks, which turned into 3 months away from home, I returned to find you can now write your name in the dust on my wood furniture!! I require a good working boy to come in and oil my wood furniture. Any interested parties should contact me directly so that we may set up an appointment for you to serve. |
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2 days driving. A night in the hotel. And made it home safe and sound! Thank you to all of you who sent best wishes for my safe travel. |
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I will be away a few days while on the road.
I am driving back home tomorrow. With an overnight stop somewhere along the way,VIA the Southern Route. |
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I had not been paying attention over the last 3 months...being away from home.
I went from a BBW (full figured ) size 18 to a size 12.
Now in 34 X 32 Jeans and a size 12 dress.
So I had to buy all new clothes.
I let My nails grow out since all My moving and unpacking is finished. So now they are about 1.5 inches. Time for My manicure before I go back to Dallas this week. Naturally it has to be: OPI BIG APPLE RED for Valentines Day! |
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I am still in North Carolina bundled up. Although not much Snow here in Fayetteville, there was of course freezing rain, sleet, and I got frozen in for 4 days. On the bright side I maintained power.
For amusement, I bundled up in fluffy pj's and watched Hotel Transylvania 2. Clearly, one of the writers is into S&M.They had Me laughing at things Dacula does to others when he gets upset. Like grabbing a hold of, pinching and twisting the invisible man's nipples. LOL
I am going to go back to Dallas in the next week ... or so. lol |
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Wishing everyone a Happy 2016. May you find that which you seek!
-Domme- |
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Today was My manicure for Christmas. Big Apple Red by Opi. |
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Today was My manicure for Christmas. Big Apple Red by Opi. |
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There is something to be said for being back in the Carolina's. That word is; DAMN!! I spent t&e wee hours this morning in the Cape Fear Emergency Room. A three hour wait to be told I have fluid trapped behind the ear drum, along with a slight ear infection. Oh it hurts! So will spend the next few days on antibotics. I will be saying here thru Christmas with possible side trips to Biltmore House in Ashville and possibly Williamsburg,Va. Everyone should experience a Williamsburg Christmas, so will be taking my daughter-in-law to introduce her. Weather withstanding of course. Give Me a hello
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I hope everyone enjoyed their Thanksgibving. I am enjoying My visit here in North Carolina.
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Wow..WiFi difficulties on the road, but have arrived safe at My destination. Awoke this morning at 5 am to helocopters flying a low level overhead. There is so much you forget being out in the civilian world. Would like to take this time to wish everyone a safe, happy holiday . If all goes haywire, you can always find Me on f-e-t-l-i-f-e or yahoo. Always the same name. |
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The eagle has landed on the first leg of My journey.
I am in Mississippi with friends, once again enjoying
old southern charm and manners. So relaxing to be with Long time friends.
In the morning ...as Willie Nelson sings, I will be on the road again to Agusta for My next nights stop.
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MARITAL STATUS: Single
AGE: 65
HEIGHT: 5' 5" (1.73 cm)
WEIGHT: 185 LBS. (81 ~ 90 kg)
HAIR: Salt & Pepper
EYES: Deep Blue
BODY MEASUREMENTS: 48D ~ 39 ~ 45 (119D ~ 92 ~116)
FAVORITE MUSIC: Soft Jazz, Light Classical, New Age, Classic Rock, Big Band
MUSICAL ARTIST: Rippingtons, Chieli Minucci, Sarah Brightman, ADIEMUS, Secret Garden, Enigma, Cafe'del Mar
AUTHORS: Jane Austen, Anne Rice, Stephen King, Karen Marie Moning, Laurie Moore
FAVORITE MOVIES: Original-Dune, Armageddon, Independence Day, The Green Mile, Meet Joe Black, Lord Of The Rings, Harry Potter Movies, The Bucket List, Da Vinci Code
FAVORITE GENRE: Historical, Documentaries, Comedy, Action Adventure,
Sci Fi, Suspense.
MOST WATCHED ON TV: A&E, Biography, NOVA, Nature, Criminal Minds, CFI, Law & Order, BBC, British Comedies
FAVORITE ART MEDIUM: Watercolors, Oils, Oriental Art Objects
FOODS: Steak with a Baked Potato, Fresh Fruit
SWEETS: Anything Chocolate
FAVORITE COCKTAILS: Amaretto di Saronno: On the rocks
COLORS I Like To Wear: Turquoise, Royal Blue, White, Taupe, Black,
Blue Red, Purple
CHINESE SIGN: Metal Tiger
BODY PIERCINGS: Only one hole in each ear!
No Tattoos or Silicone, Drug and Disease free.
I have a soft sultry southern drawl, speak low and slow, while adore whispering. I am a woman that is very much in touch with her sensuality and revels in her femininity.
I am sexually erotic by nature, very deeply passionate.
With the right male, you will find me totally uninhibited.
I love to touch and be touched. I love seducing the man in my life.
Deep erotic kissing is a passion of mine, which I do not limit to your lips alone.
A sexually aggressive woman, I have an extremely high sex drive, while very much enjoying prolonged foreplay of both the mind and body. It is about being totally connected to the man in my life. My prowess seems both boundless and endless for him alone.
While exhibiting my cool reserve, exercising decorum in my public persona.
Most individuals who meet me.. even acquaintances in the lifestyle, perceive me as refined.. yet somewhat austere, even prudish. A mental game I enjoy encouraging. Only the man I elect to have in my life needs to know what I am really like or what our life is like together behind closed doors.
I enjoy the Arts, Reading, Music, Travel and history. I am a world traveler.
I have lived on 4 continents, visited 21 countries, and 43 of the 50 US States.
A woman with a higher educational level, I have 2 degrees in totally unrelated fields.
I adapt well and adjust, as well as being accepted in all social circles and circumstances.
I am extremely knowledgeable and entertaining.
I have a quick dry wit and can be very endearing to people.
I am always up front and honest. I enjoy engaging in banter and adore laughter.
In short, I fit in ANYPLACE!
Something so very few can say with conviction. My personality is very diverse,
like a Multi Faceted Diamond. I am relaxed attending cultural events and adore dressing
to the Nine's, as they say. My personality type loves to mingle.
I enjoy the "THRILL" of working a room and being social. Other times, I appear to be shy, quiet.
I am simply observing. Yet, prefer a more casual, relaxed, down to earth approach in my private time.
I have pushed the edge of the envelope, for Me, with Skydiving, White Water Rafting, Snow and Water skiing.
Climbing Mt. Fuji. I have a motorcycle and private pilots license.
Not All City Slicker, I was thrown from My first pony at the age of 5.
I like the beach and feeling the sand between my toes.
Walking a shore line in the surf. Or making love in the same.
Dusk, Dawn and Sunsets.
Fire light, Candle Light, Sensual scented candles.
Being at the railing on a Cruise Ship watching the Moonlight as it plays across the water,
while feeling the gentle breeze caresses my body.
Slow Dancing
Bubble Baths or Showers for 2
The elements of Mother Nature at Her best, and at Her worst.
Thunderstorms and Tornados excite Me.
Walks in a gentle rain. Watching snowflakes fall.
To lay on the ground in the evening, gazing at the celestial heavens or making love beneath them.
Sexy elegant lingerie (looks better after you remove it and drop it on the floor) I adore nudity
I am in awe and humbled when visiting things that fascinate Me such as: Battlefields, The Louvre, The Place in Versailles,
The Great Art Treasures of China in the Palace Museum in Taiwan, Walking Picket's Charge in Gettysburg,
or simply reading. Watching DVD's about History. Strolling thru a Museum, an Art Gallery, an old dusty Book shop, a
ny city's local market. Occasional leisurely drives simply to enjoy the day, to see what might be discovered along the way. I adore Travel of all types. Puttering in the earth with my bare hands, grounds me.
I am a Fire Sign, so Water calms me.
Having experienced life's ups and downs.. Though I enjoy nice things around me, I am not money centered or hung up
on material possessions. I believe a person's legacy is not what objects they leave behind, but the good they do for others
while here in this short span of time.
I appreciate the "Gift of Life" daily. As well as the people I come in contact with.
I have warm gracious manners. There is no such thing as a stranger. Southern ladies are warm, gracious individuals.
Do not take it as a sign of someone submissive.
I will defer to you in the right circumstances. And while playing the "GAME" in public.
THINGS THAT TURN ME ON:
The Gray Matter. I love the Mind.
A man of Intelligence.
It matters not whether it is acquired through Higher Education with a degree, or through life experiences.
A Great Silk Tie
Gray Hair is a turn on for Me
Great thighs
Beautiful Eyes
The scent of the man in my life (his pheromone)
A Warm Welcoming smile that reaches his eyes.
Manicured Nails
The smell of nice after shave or cologne
A Man in a tailored Business Suit
A Man that wants to pamper, spoil, and please JUST ME when we are together
A man who does what he is told..When he is asked or told to do it!
A man that demonstrates just how much he missed Me when he comes home.
and that, I'll leave to your imagination....
MY INNER CHILD:
Everyone has an inner child which from time to time will surface, while needing to be nurtured.
I have a precocious little imp.
Only a strong, self assured male will be able to indulge in this little game, which gives Me my balance.
Just as your submission gives you yours.
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HAPPY VETERANS DAY TO THOSE WHO ARE!!!
GOD BLESS YOU |
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** leans ovah and bangs head on computer desk ** Some of the male profiles I read TRY to sound so articulate and what is out on [paper] profile is utter crap!!!
I am sure the language you speak that other [PLAYERS] understand your drift.
But just for clarification I am going to TEACH you that a "switch" is not a DOM ..nor is it a sub! First and foremost I hate the personality of a switch. There are 3 types of switches...all of them fu#@ed
up. And tend to be bottoms more than anything.. you know.. me..me..me.
A switch will either TOP [guide the play scene] or bottom [be the recipient] A switch is all into the play and do not desire psychological control over anyone.
(1) you have your GENDER SWITCH; Which means the only either TOP or bottom to a specific gender. Perhaps they only top or bottom for females only. Or top for one sex and bottom for the other. Get the drift?
(2) The SITUATIONAL SWITCH; They may be a TOP, but will bottom in certain situations to either teach or simply play with the right person, depends on the situation but it is on a case by case basis only.
(3) Then you have the one that no one likes or respects. The SWITCH; who is a slut. Anyone, any place, any time, any thing. Just like a whore, they don't care who or what as long as they get their needs met.
So UNDERSTAND when you put switch on your profile.. YOU ARE NOT A DOM. you are a top. A Dom or Domme (pronounced the same) REQUIRES PSYCHOLOGICAL CONTROL AT ALL TIMES. A top [switch] bottom does not want control nor do they want to be controlled. As I said, with them,it is all about play.
And another thing..this 99 years old crap you people put on your profiles.. that is what Kinksters do. It is their way of telling each other WHO THEY ARE. A Kinkster does not believe in BDSM as a Lifestyle. They enjoy the aspects of certain types of play we do within the lifestyle..more of a hedonistic nature.
Oh yeah.. then there are the Hedonist and Swingers who hide within this genre.. for the sexual prowess, feelings and to their point of view, SEX within the lifestyle.
Are you understanding yet woobie?
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I have the cutest Nail tech that does My Manicures and Pedicures. She is in her 50's.
The sweetest round face, dark hair and eyes. When she smiles it lights up her eyes. She is oriental and like Me.. has a few extra pounds. Is more full figured. About 5' 2". This lady is a hard worker, while very much in control.
I keep telling her I am going to find her a boyfriend.. someone submissive. Someone to hold down a full time job, clean house and cook dinner for her. She laughs. There is no such man, she replies. Yes, I tell her, there is and he will want to take care of you.
He no gamble? No. he will do what you allow him to do.
Vanilla men are such assholes. Her last live in lost his job so she supported him while he supposedly looked. He took her money and gambled. But the worst thing is.. she came home early one day and caught him in HER bed with another woman. I then proceeded to tell her about the TEXAS law that is you catch your spouse in bed with someone else... you can shoot them. HOWEVER, to use this law and no get charged, you must shoot BOTH people and kill them. Naturally all the women in then Salon got a big laugh out of that.
So I seek for Amie what ever dominant female wants. Tall, nice looking, clean shaven, STRAIGHT BIOLOGICAL MALE. Has a full time job, money producer able to pull his own weight. Height and weight proportionate. Has an attraction to oriental women.
NO SISSY'S, CROSS DRESSERS, ANIMALS or CUCKS.
She is not a trained Domina, but an aggressive female leader who is highly intelligent.
Are you willing to meet Me at the Salon in Grand Prairie while I get My nails done, so you may meet and have light conversation? That will hopefully lead to LTFLR. Let Me know. It sure would be nice if it clicked.
You men are always bitching about there not being enough REAL Dominants.. yet FEW I have come across are even willing to come out to meet anyone.
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Enjoying this rain so much. Spent some quality time with a very dear, dear friend. Beating his ass till it glowed, put us both right to sorts. My hands have been still for far too long!!
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STILL WAITING ON THIS RAIN...
The weather forecaster (which you should be aware means: LIAR in Japanese) has predicted 5.5 inches of rain in the next few days.
The playhouse has been put on hold because I had to level it again yesterday, due to the continual shifting Texas ground.
Still working on CAMY (fabric) bedding for My 10 year old grandson. I finished his camy Mombasa Mesquieto Net to go over and around his bed. He can pretend his is camping out! LOL
I have decided to decorate Early for Christmas. I will be taking a ROAD TRIP to North Carolina for Thanksgiving. This way the house will be ready for the Christmas Holidays when I return.
I will be stopping in Meridian, Ms. for a day or two, visiting old friends, before I continue on. |
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George Carlin's wife died early in 2008 and George followed her, dying in July 2008. It is ironic George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent and so very appropriate. An observation by George Carlin:
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.
Remember to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away.
George Carlin
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Here we are in Fall... I love this time of year. The seasonal change, when the soaring heat in Texas drops to a mild day, cool nights, and soft gentle southern breeze.
I realized something last night as I answered an email.
I've known it but never actually put voice to it and it is this: I have a dog named Kyler who has been with Me for 3 years. He is very spoiled, totally loved little Min Pin. He has his own side of My King Size bed. LOL
I want to be like Kyler.. spoiled rotten by someone who loves Me.
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To ALL My Collarspace Friends I correspond with, who sent well wishes and said Prayers, THANK YOU very much. My surgery yesterday went very well.
After a day and a half without food, When I was moved from ICU.. I got a Dr. Pepper [ REAL TEXANS DRINK DR PEPPER] and some honey graham crackers.
I was released late yesterday evening, came home and went to bed. I slept till almost 8 AM this morning. I have been diligently following orders and staying down, not lifting anything, keeping the left leg they went thru to do the angiogram, straight. I got a shower @ 1:30 [ok I was just a wee bit short of 24 hrs] and had lunch @ 2 PM.
The surgical bandages are still in place in the groin area. I do not look forward to their removal. Even if they did shave Me! LOL That surgical tape hurts!!!!
I will be down for a few more days, just resting because I am not supposed to be driving yet either. |
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YOU MIGHT BE A TEXAN IF..........
1. You can properly pronounce Corsicana, Palestine, Decatur, Wichita Falls, Mexia, Waco, Beaumont, Pflugerville, Kerrville, Boerne, New Braunfels, Amarillo, Pedernales and Leakey!!
2. Your manners include: "Please", "Thank You", "Excuse me", "Ma'am" & "Sir" & you wanna punch those who don't use them.
3. A tornado warning siren is your signal to put the stuff out in the yard you wanna get rid of.
4. Your idea of a traffic jam is ten cars waiting to pass a tractor on the highway.
5. You’ve ever had to switch from “heat” to “A/C”, TWICE in the same day.
6. You know that the true value of a parking space is not determined by the distance to the door, but by the availability of shade.
7. Stores don’t have bags, they have sacks.
8. You see people wear bib overalls at funerals, with the utmost respect!
9. You think everyone from a bigger city has an accent.
10. You measure distance in minutes or hours.
11. You hear & use the term "fixin' to" daily.
12. You know that the Chicken Ranch didn’t really raise chickens.
13. Little Smokies are something you serve only for special occasions.
14. You go to the lake because you know what a Bigmouth and a Striper is.
15. You listen to the weather forecast before picking out an outfit.
16. You know cowpies are not made of beef.
17. Someone you know has used a football schedule to plan a wedding date.
18. You have known someone who has had one belt buckle bigger than your
fist.
19. A bad traffic jam involves two cars staring each other down at a four-way stop, each determined to be the most polite and let the other go first.
20. You know that “Damnyankee” is one word.
21. You aren’t surprised to find movie rental, ammunition, and bait all in the same store... & it's a Drive-thru.
22. You always have iced tea & cold beer available for guests.
23. A Mercedes Benz is not a status symbol. A Ford F350 diesel 4x4 is.
24. You know everything goes better with Ranch dressing or hot sauce.
25. You learned how to shoot a gun as soon as you can walk.
26. You actually like these jokes and are fixin’ to send them to your friends.
27. You know not to order a chicken fried steak using words like “rare” or “well done”.
28. You never use the word “veggies”.
29. You know where the Cotton Bowl is.
30. You are 100% Texan if you've EVER heard this conversation:
“You wanna coke?”
“Yeah.”
“What kind?”
“Dr. Pepper.”
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OK.. Now that I am down sick, don't feel well, in a crappy mood, I have to tell you that looking at: Who's Viewing Me? seeing a male's big ass bent over in woman's white lace panties pulled up the crack of his ass, brings out the savage sadist in Me.
It takes every ounce of strength and self control I have to just turn My head and walk away. -DELETE-
A Dominant does not play or touch anyone in anger.
I respect your right to cross-dress, but personally.. I find the act nauseating.
If I am not putting it on you to humiliate you.. I would beat you mercilessly. Then every time you even looked at women's clothes, your body memory would make your body hurt!
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I was at the Vascular Surgeon's office yesterday.
I have to tell you this funny story about his team of 3 doing the extensive ultra sound on Me. Oh jeeze.. I had everyone in the room laughing.
They actually put blood pressure cuffs one at a time on My arms.. record, My legs, record. Then each of My toes! They put these [wide] plastic clothes pins. One side of the clothes pins have 2 metal prongs. Then they shock you!! lol So I had to have all toes and fingers done one at a time. That is 20 shocks!! I kept telling the guy hooking Me up he needed to get a job at Helga's house of pain. Bettah still, I would open a House of Pain and hire him!!! LOL One shock was so great I started laughing cause it hurt, I turned to Lady Katherine and said: these would make great nipple clamps.. and the room lost it!!
I bet I was their funniest patient. Afterwards, My blood pressure already being low, My blood sugar dropped.. and when I went back to the Front waiting room.. I kinda got dizzy as I was about to sit down.. the room whirled and the next thing, I was on the floor. LOL How embarrassing, because I was in a summer skirt. However, Katherine assures Me I maintained My dignity!!~!~~ LOL
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13 Texas Rules for Non-Texans in the Lone Star State
1. We don’t pretend that other people don’t exist or become rude when we meet strangers.
We wave from our cars. We say hi at the store. We’re friendly.
If you want to fit in, you’re going to have to develop some social skills.
2. Don’t laugh at people’s names. Merleen, Bodie, Luther Ray, Tammy Ann, Mari Beth, and Inez have all been known to whip a man’s butt for less than that.
3. Don’t order a bottle of pop or a can of soda — this can lead to a merciless beating. Here in Texas it’s called Coke, even if you want a Pepsi. But don’t ever call a Dr Pepper a Coke, especially in Waco; you’re liable to end up in the hospital.
4. Don’t show allegiances to any college football squad that isn’t a Texas team. Quite frankly, we don’t care about how the sissies in Michigan and Massachusetts are doing.
5. Don’t refer to Texans as a bunch of hillbillies. Many of us are/have been more literate than you, better educated, and generally much nicer to boot. We’ve got plenty of business sense – so much that our economy is the best in the world. We don’t care if you think we’re dumb, we know better!
6. We are fully aware that the humidity is high. Quit your bitching, spend your money, and leave.
7. Don’t order wheat toast at the Cracker Barrel. If you do this, everyone will know you’re from Ohio.
Eat the biscuits like God intended and for goodness sake, don’t put sugar in your grits.
8. Don’t attempt to fake a Texas accent. Nothing will incite a riot faster.
9. Don’t go around talking about how much better it is back home.
If you don’t like it here, take your Yankee ass back home.
10. We don’t play lacrosse, hockey or any of those other sissy ass Northern games, so don’t ask about the scores. We…simply…don’t…care.
11. We know how to speak proper English, we talk this way because we want to and we can. It’s like playing jazz, you have to know how to do it right first.
12. DO NOT try to tell us how to Bar-B-Q. This could lead to permanent expulsion and revocation of your work visa.
Consider yourself just damn lucky that we let you come down here in the first place. Don’t push your luck!
13 Last, but by no means least… George Strait is the best musician in the history of the WORLD. That’s why we call him King George. All others bow down to him.
The sooner you get that straight, the sooner you’ll understand why we just don’t care about your silly noise bands from up north. If we wanted to hear music that sounds like a sawmill, we’d go to a freaking sawmill.
Welcome to Texas. We are who we are and if you don’t like it… leave.
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I live in TEXAS. We are a REPUBLICAN State. We support the 2nd Amendment. Southerners have always supported the American Military.
If you are a liberal..kindly don't bother to contact Me. We will not get along.
I have a logical fully functioning brain and liberals seem to be... well..liberals! ~LOL~
See what I mean? you are already pissed off and have called Me every name you can think of... Liberals are so easy to bait...which is terribly funny to Me.
My profile already stipulates I love to tap dance..
So DO be careful what you say to Me and how you say it. Seriously.
Being far inferior and insecure, [both as a male and a liberal] you will leave the internet so pissed off and agitated, it will not be good for you.
*pirouette/bow*
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The Rain has departed Texas.. It has happened! Sinusitus Season though delayed, has arrived in Dallas. [Dang Pollen] I am DOWN FOR THE COUNT and in bed for several days to come. Will need some "fussing" over by a good nurturing slave. |
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Now that the buildings have been moved to their new location within the yard, I have been able to relax and take a few days off to rest up. It was really strenuous work unloading the buildings.
I will now take My time renovating the insides to My specifications. A tool area. A work area. Built in overhead shelves to hold Holiday decorations out of the way.
Sealing both buildings, adding insulation lay a new sub floor over the existing ones and seal them. I have plank vinyl to go in the working/tool building and carpet in the other..which will be a regal outdoor retreat to play, relax, or nap in.
I do not anticipate being finished till fall.. No rush.
But I do want "PRIVACY" right away in order to play outside. My St. Andrews Cross has reappeared. As well as the solid Oak suspension block, which has been hung from the Ash Tree. A wonderful place for My whip play!!!!
Alas a small platform and privacy fence extending from behind the small building to one side for the pool placement that We Female Dominants "skinny dip" in the evenings during the hot Texas summer.
Just kick back, relax and it will eventually come together. I have been working on this since My new house was built 3 years ago. Some painting, planting flowers, hanging solar lighting from the trees.
How serious are you about learning or being played? Come donate your time, your skill and some knowledge. Or just serve. you are more than welcome..
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* WARNING: Thou should never be consuming anything Liquid when reading My journal entries! *
At the end of the day.... it sounded like a good idea, but..... you need some back story. I have been unloading my storage buildings for the last 4 days in order to have them moved down into my back yard.
I never got this far really because as soon as the ground would DRY out enough to support a 28,000 lb truck, it would rain again!
Never the less, the day arrived on Monday.
I had been outside since 7 AM moving my tools from the smaller building and worked till 4 PM before giving up. Every fiber of my being hurt and ached.
I left a few things inside both buildings figuring if they can't be moved with the things in them.. *Pewf*
The 18 ft. flatbed tow truck arrived about 5 PM.
It took about 2 hours to manoeuvre that big truck around lifting one building at a time and placing it where I wanted them to be located. As well as the "DIRECTION" I wanted them going. Job Well Done,Guys.
There were 4 things I need to lock up in one of the buildings before nightfall and I was able to end my day. My bench walker, My push lawn mower, my bicycle and the ridding lawn tractor.
I take the walker and push mower down to the building. The terrain is sloped downward and the truck ruts are getting harder to see in the failing light.
I get to the bicycle and start pushing it down hill and think: "why not"
Let me remind you of the elements we are dealing with:
1. A 64 3/4 brain dear woman who has been up working for 8 hours.
2. Minimal amount of daylight.
3. A downhill slope which now has deep ruts from tire impressions in the earth.
4. A Beach Bike with 2 flat tires.
So I find a flat spot aimed downhill and climbs on me bike.
Oh yes, did I mention I was wearing a dress????
I didn't even get a chance to peddle, it escalated with such ferocity and velocity I felt like I was on a rocket racing toward hell....
Just as many people have LEARNED you have No steering power on ICE,
I learned you have No Braking power with 2 flats!! I found this out how???
Trying to brake before I got to one of those big truck ruts, which now seemed as if I was going to be jumping the Grand Canyon Evil Kenievel style.
W-h-e-n the front tire hit the rut.... I'm not sure what the rest of the bicycle did in the rear, but the front tire stopped dead as I was catapulted OVER the handle bars. My hands flying forward to protect my fall....which stoved my left pointer and thumb
WHY is it we sober people always strive to protect our self, when drunks...
None the less... You know that saying we all learned in science class: a body in motion?? And the second part is???
Well.. I was about to do the second part...
face first into the dirt, I seemed to connect on all levels...
This big Irish nose, my body, my knees, my shins. SKIDDDDDDDDDD...
1st layer of skin removed.
At first I was horrified one of my neighbors might have witnessed, till I rolled over and felt the blood from my nose and face..
then it was like, who cares??
NEXT:
Never try to pick yourself up off the ground pointed downhill... OK? Nuff said.
I was so thankful I always learned the forward roll in gym class tumbling...
When I finally got up... I walked my bike to the building..which is what I should have done in the first place!!
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What an exhausting 2 days getting My lawn mowed and edged. As well as transplanting some Liope grass.
What I could use now is a hot bubble bath, a pair of strong hands to give Me a gentle bath & dry..then a massage.
My neck is all kinked up and My body simply aches from the strain. |
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.... Did you ever have one of these??? Yesterday seemed to be...
It was just one of those days where everything seemed to go wrong for Me.
Thank you very much!!
Thanks to Safari4444, some of My day got rectified.
Seems the reason My Lawn Tractor would not start was for 2 Reasons.
This man has been fixing My steed for the last 4 years!! And he surmised reason #1 just from what I told him it was doing.
reason # 2 was a surprise to both of us!
#1 It was Way out of Timing. #2 My float stuck open and all My gas drained into My oil.
As usual safari got the tractor as good as new by draining, cleaning, adjusting, fixing. Basically working on it all afternoon. But the battery is still @ 10.7 instead of 12. OK OK OK.. so I go to put air in My front tires. Get one done and before I can do the other, I have to let the mower move backwards about a foot...
O_M_G instead it rolls 4 ft and rips the electrical cord to My new compressor in half... Well Fudge!
I start to cut the lawn and am a-l-m-o-s-t finished when I hear a ker-plunk!
I immediately start scanning the ground to see what I had hit or run over. Nothing there, but I can tell by the tone of the engine that is it no longer in the cutting mode.
I pull the deck to the highest position, shut it down and dismount...
Down on My hand and knees [ some of My favorite words and positions]
Oh no.. Did I say that? Must have inadvertently slipped out.
YIKES! Speaking of slipping out.. Oh No Maggie do not go there it's been too many years now... ANYWAY>>>
I peer under the deck.. A deep sigh of frustration because the belt has broken. It was 2012 the last time that happened.
Thankfully I was almost finished with My little 1/2 acre. So I put the lawn tractor away. What is left is where the hammock frame, tables and chairs are sitting and in front of the BBQ Grill. It can be finished with the push mower... I am simply agitated. Wishing I had a body to string up to My tree and suspend them, to work all this out with My single tail!! Oh Well.
I go in and shower, wash My hair and call Kat Dallas ..aka: Lady Katherine.
Her day seems to have been just as crappy as mine. So WE decide to go to dinner to cheer us up.
We met at Dunston's on Harry Hines & Regal Row last evening. It is a place where we both enjoy the food immensely.
Salad, a bacon wrapped 6 oz filet, baked potato with the works..
I eat so slow that My entree has to be sent back to put on the grill.
I finish My salad and eat half of My meal. A TO GO Box will provide Lunch for today. We top off our meals with a small homemade Banana Pudding with a dollop of real Whipped Cream.
We have now laughed, talked and solved the problems of the world in a little over 2 hours!! Gosh I am sleepy! Wish I did not have to drive home..
Where is that Chauffeur??? ~chuckle~
Home at last, now it is Kyler who needs to go out for his last pee..
I wait calmly in the night breeze till he waters several of the trees in the yard.
He does get a small piece of steak for being good in his kennel while I am gone.
I look around for the dresser and he is no where to be seen... I am going to beat that man when I find one to serve, just on general principle!!!
So now I must undress Myself and hang up My clothing. Sheesh!
Totally unencumbered of clothing, I climb up into the NEST ready for sleep.
Kyler assumes his place in the middle of My bed.
For those unaware..Kyler is My Miniature Pincher. He is under the impression that he is HUMAN, because that is how he has been raised. He will always be above and before any slave or sub who comes into My home or My life.
I set the TV timer and go to sleep to WHITE NOISE....
Waking up.. Now WHERE is My breakfast? Do I have to get that too???
I put on the Chocolate Silk Coffee, pour the OJ and drive to QT for a Sausage Biscuit.
I sweah.. I am going to hurt and punish you when I find you.. for NOT being here soon enough to do this! ~Laughs~
Have an enjoyable day and a HAPPY EASTER!!
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The season is upon Me. I have started spending a lot of time outdoors.
Presently in the midst of unloading My two storage buildings, to relocate them 65 feet further into My back yard, under a tree canopy. The smaller one will be transformed into a Guest house. Meaning a place to rest during days outside working. Extra floor boards, insulation, dry walls, minor electric and carpeting will be added. Changed from the barn red..to a White.
Between this project, transplanting, fertilizing, seeding and overall general yard work, I plan to keep My summer busy.
Somewhere in there, I plan on a mini vacation, road trip with My sister. Probably a few months down the road. I am wanting to go to Sea World and do River Walk in San Antonio.. She on the other hand wants to go to the beach @ Corpus Christi. The problem is.. neither of us wants to drive over that huge bridge that goes out to the island. We both have issues with driving on HIGH bridges or highways. Yeah.. acrophobia! It is why I took up flying.. to conquer that fear. Yet somehow FLYING is very different from Driving. I guess because I never had a fear of flying.
If any gentlemen have skills in building, or enjoy it, I have a deck off the back of My house, on My "TO DO" List. NO ta big one.. about a 5 or 6 X 12. Just big enough to walk out and be able to descend into the back yard.
In case you're wondering.. this is going to be a contained outdoor PLAY area.
It took Me two summers..working with the help of one subbie: helping Me chop out tree roots..and another cutting overhead tree limbs.. then Me, with contributions from someone special.. digging out and laying a 10 X 10 brick patio for the small building to abut. Now having a level surface to be able to do outdoor suspension from the BIG tree.
A place to relax by the Chiminia in the evening, sip Lemonade in the hot summer sun. Or simply lay in the hammock.
That is My spring/summer plans. But you know what the saying is: If you want to know if GOD has a sense of humor, make plans!
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For All Those Who TRY To Sing It To Me!!
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Submission is about finding BALANCE.
Meeting your needs to find BALANCE..
W/we all have needs within that should be taken care of.
Imagine if you will, a Dominant person, who must be in charge at work.
Generally most are responsible for making life altering decisions in a split second.
They have the responsibility of caring for staff, sometimes other individuals.
Or they have the responsibility of, say a Territory and quota to meet.
These are the very people WHO seek to find balance in their life by submitting.
Those I use to help on an ongoing basis when I was a PRO:
* Doctors
*Lawyers
*CEO
*CFO
*Pilots
* Business Executives
* Individuals in Sales
These same people generally must also make decisions when they go home at night. ERGO: For Them: It is very comforting and relaxing to have decision making taken away from them by a strong Dominant.
When a BDSM Dom seeks out this type of personal relationship, it is termed: Yielding. It is not switching.
Remember topping and bottoming role change is called switching.
It is devoid of psychological control or feelings of being controlled by another.
topping and bottoming is all about PLAY! And that is about the Physical feelings felt during play.
When the average person seeks it, it will either be in the way of a submissive..
or it will as a slave. Depending on their own personal INTERNAL feelings.
It is also predicated on their feelings for the Dominant in question.
When you desire to be OF SERVICE to a Dominant from point A to point B,
you are being a submissive.
When you want to surrender to the Dominant, give them your all.. your heart, mind, body soul to allow them to take total control of you and structure your life and being.. it is as a slave.
The same 2 "feelings" and "needs" ring true for a BDSM Dominant.
You may "YEILD" and be a submissive or be a slave to the Dominant that will guide you thru this, allow you to have and experience "BALANCE"
and love them the more for understanding the you inside.
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..It is time to address so many issues because I am being contacted by people who THINK [their 1st mistake] that I am going to ORDER them to do something. OMG people.. We are online! I am seeking a REAL LT Relationship.
Online? I want to get to know you then progress from there. When you feel you trust, I would like to see a photo. From there: I might give you My Yahoo.. eventually talk on the phone. It's a matter of building trust and bonding. Then a meeting. I DO NOT want this thing dragging on ...... Life is short. Life is also what We Make it. Not sure you are a slave? I'd say it's the semantics of words. People often "mean" the same thing but say it differently, depending on HOW they have developed and viewed this WIIWD [what it is we do] as well as their experience level.
I am going to give you My views on a slave because many people assume a sub and slave are the same. THEY ARE NOT. The demeanors are Not interchangeable. This will also help you understand Me a little better psychologically. Perhaps it will help you understand your own feelings or even maybe, where you fit into the lifestyle, as a lifestyle.
Nothing in the lifestyle is absolute. There are variations and shades of gray because no two people are alike. Nor do they think, feel, talk alike, even in the same place psychologically, at the same time. Some have yet to evolve, because they have not been given all the information. This is why people are trained or mentored. To help them understand.
Believe it or not, many slaves I have conversed with over the years, tell Me they grew up having these deep feelings inside. The theories of why this happens can be endless according to how you approach it. Maybe it was based in a deep need as a child to please a parent to gain their approval. Perhaps it developed in the early years to gain the attention, while wishing to be of service or please a favorite teacher. None can actually pinpoint it for Me. They simply know it is an inner feeling they have always had but never understood. Others, possibly like you.. developed these feelings later in life.
Whatever the case, I am more than sure, once you learned about, discovered the world of BDSM, you were elated to learn there are other people in this world who actually understand and "feel" the same way you do. All too often you hear it bandied about by those who do not understand that "slaves are mindless. Let Me assure you, nothing could be further from the truth.
Your inner feelings and needs are what drives you. They are what you seek with that "ONE" special Dominant. Not with every or all Dominants.
Being a slave is a mind-set. It is how you feel, view and approach life psychologically as well as with your heart.
The deep desire, that driving inner need.. to not only please that special someone, but to feel that you honestly belong to them. To be used in whatever way the Master or Mistress desires to use you. The autonomy of a full Power Exchange with Consensual Non Consent. Giving them all of your power, so that they have absolute control over you, while agreeing they can do anything to you, even if it is something you don't like, is something you are willing to accept. It is about PLEASING THEM, for you.
Let Me stop for a moment, because I know what you are going to say: "I am a slave, but only up to a point." Right? Wrong.
You need to be advise of the different levels of slavery to understand where you fit in. So I'll go over that first. The list is not intended as a rigid classification, it will simply broaden your understanding, so that you are informed, to be careful HOW you use the term slave.
We have in this genre, what is called the Ownership/slave sub-culture.
Very few actually fit or want to live in this category. Yet, there are those that actually thrive, desire, want to be. There will always be those who have the "Fantasy" of the way they imagine it to be. The reality is, in many cases, the individual finds out that fantasy and reality are quite different. In this subculture, The Owner treats the slave as a real slave in every sense of the word.
No doubt at some point or other a Dominant has presented their self proclaiming you would be kept naked, sleep in a cage, have no rights, be used, abused, while being treated like they are nothing more than chattel to their owners. These slaves sign contracts, are expected to turn over everything they own, possess, including and up to, continuing to work outside to turn over all pay earned to support their owners.
This is what is termed: Enforced slavery. There are many who desire this type of ownership. There are Camps and schools spread out across the globe that teach & train others about this culture. Both owners & slaves. It is very real. It exists. There are those who take a slave this way, just as there are those who WANT to be taken and live this way.
I find that all too often, when people hear the word "slave" they confuse the above with a true M/s relationship of Internal slavery.
Though the Dominant "owns" their slave, the M/s relationship is one of balanced mutual respect which encompasses, rights, limits, hard limits, compassion, joy, love.
To Be Continued in next Journal Entry
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slave continued from above Journal Entry:
Below I have listed several different variations of slaves.
The fact of the matter is what you are and what you and a Dominant
negotiate/agree upon is what you are.
submissive Play slave: This individual gives up temporary control to a Dominant
(within limits) and derives their pleasure from being used by the Dominant,
serving them, however, generally for fun play purposes only and almost always erotic in nature.
If they are into pain, they place very few restrictions on their Dominants sadistic nature
allowing it to flow freely.
Non Committed short term semi play slave: This individual does give up control.
Again, within limits. Yet desires to serve, be used by the Dominant.
Generally it is for practical use (non erotic service) down to and may include erotic services,
only on the slaves terms when they are in the mood.
Some may continue this service for a pre-set negotiated amount of time.. but always
retains the right to say when they will serve as well as end service at any time. i.e.,
should they feel bored or that it is no longer any fun!
The Following are considered: Internal slavery
Consensual Real slave [part time basis] This individual does regard themselves at all times,
as the owned property of the Dominant. Though they do not live together, they are committed to an ongoing M/s relationship.
They will [as should be expected] place other vanilla commitments (job/family) first.
But their Owner/Dominant has say over this individuals free time away from those commitments. Since they do not live together,
Owner does have somewhat limited control over many aspects of the slaves movements in everyday life.
Open communication is extremely important in this type of relationship for it to work or last.
Live In Consensual slave: This is a real M/s relationship where the two live together.
They have negotiated, agreed upon and the Dominant has taken control of the slave
as His/Her owned property. Within the confines of an M/s relationship, a full-time "slave"
arrangement is entered into with an explicit attention to detail through negotiation because of the of the magnitude of the power exchange.
The relationship should always be clearly defined, discussed, negotiated and agreed upon by both individuals. It is more of a lifetime commitment
to one another than the usual D/s relationship.
In many cases, after a period of time...the Owner will marry the slave making it a full recognized relationship.
It seems to Me, that slaves who function and live within the slave Ownership subculture, do not..
nor can they see themselves as having an intimate relationship with their owner.
They feel unworthy of such interaction taking place. They are there to serve in any way imaginable
that will enhance the Dominants life.
Others, want a totally balanced relationship with their owner that encompasses full intimacy.
They want to be a lover as well.
Some Dominants would never consider being intimate with their slave..
While many want them to be friend, lover, companion, slave all rolled into one.
This is why the dynamics of complete disclosure should be addressed, discussed and agreed upon,
before agreeing to anything, turning over control or moving in together.
Both have to desire the same type of relationship for it to work.
As with anything, when the total balance of power rests with just one individual, there is always the Danger of abuse.
So before entering, make sure you understand totally. Don't take words or phrases at face value.
Always use diligence when exploring the possibility of belonging and living with someone.
slave with No Limits: This is often a fantasy of the mind for most.
We all have limits. Some have just not been asked to do something contrary to their thinking or against their own self preservation. Some have the belief that you aren't truly a slave unless you will do anything a Dominant asks of you without limits.
Or that thinking contrary to that, makes them less of a slave. NOT TRUE!
A Master/slave [M/s] relationship is predicated on a Bond Of Trust established between the two.
Once it has been established, then I can see many limitations being removed.
Don't believe all that hype unless you want to be in Enforced slavery.
Now that I have covered the different levels for you.. I will go back to MY opinion
of what a slave is to Me.
As I stated in the beginning.. A slave has a different mind-set than a submissive.
While submissives think in terms of submitting for a pre determined amount of time or "scene"
while retaining a certain amount of control over the Dominants actions..
A slave thinks in terms of surrendering to the "right" Dominant and being owned.
They have a deep psychological and emotional commitment to that Dominant while feeling their primary purpose
is to serve the wants, needs and desires of their owner. To enhance the owners life by what ever means possible.
They naturally focus on what would make their owner happy and how best to please them emotionally, physically and spiritually.
*Please note that physically does not always mean SEX!
As such, slaves live by core words like: honor, integrity, respect, discipline, obedience, duty, structure and communication.
They understand that as a slave, it is their responsibility to address all the 5 senses of the Dominant.
Within this relationship, the slave thrives on the fact that with the transfer of power to the Owner,
they do not have any control over the relationship nor what happens within it.
Because of this, they have a higher degree of acceptance of an often more intense behavioral pattern
of their owner. It does not mean that a slave will stay in an abusive relationship if it is not
what they consider a full, loving relationship that they desired and agreed to.
A slave not into the slave subculture...wants, desires to be respected, cherished, controlled and be
given structure.
To the slaves way of thinking, the owner and his/her needs always come first.
Leaving slaves own needs secondary. This is part and parcel of surrendering, which they accept.
Slaves work hard to know themselves, while mastering internal feelings that many individuals would
normally express, such as: frustration, anger, bratting, talking back or refusing to cooperate on something ,
is something they do not agree with.
A slave knowingly expects their limits to be pushed.
To often be asked to perform duties or tasks they do not like.
Yet comply willingly out of love, respect and obedience to their owner.
Doing so as immediately as possible once asked or told to do something.
Some have told Me that they think a slave having limits or utilizing them, are contrary to the meaning of a slave.
I, simply look at these limits as a guide for My total understanding of the individual.
It knowingly points out their dislikes or things they are uncomfortable doing. If they are not detrimental to their health,
mental acuity or acumen, I may push those limits purposely to help My slave become more open and accepting..
while possibly helping to overcome a fear or dislike of something they may not have tried.
As example: sub draws a line in the sand for Dominant.. You may go this far. However, if and when dominant
attempts to cross the line.. sub holds up hand.. Oops.. no.. Stop!, now we have to negotiate to extend the line.
This is the excepted and EXPECTED norm in the BDSM D/s community.
For a slave, in a committed M/s relationship, no such limitations exist.
They generally try not to set any limitations on their owners.
They have surrendered all control.
A relationship of consensual non consent.
When entering the M/s relationship, it is generally understood that the transfer of power
from the slave to the owner will be absolute.
It will be one of a Total Power Exchange of Consensual Non Consent.
They will not be consulted on every decision.
The CNC being the polar opposite of a submissives safe words or veto power.
Only if the slave also holds the position of companion, lover, husband will they be asked their opinions more often,
while given permission to openly express their views by request to the owner.
Example: "Permission to speak freely Sir or Ma'am? If the owner wants the input or to consider the slaves thoughts,
feelings on whatever matter.. They will grant permission. Thus allowing slave (in a manner of speaking) to step out of role as a
subordinate to express their own personal opinion on the matter. Otherwise, the slaves position on all matters concur with their owners.
These positions also allow the slave to be part, when desired, of the owners activities outside the home.
Let's be realistic here for a moment. Though many individuals hate it when I say I am not in ROLE 24/7.
What this means to Me is.. I am not in High Protocol mode 24/7. I will always expect My slave to use the honorific of Ma'am
simply because it serves to reinforce who is in charge of the relationship. There will always be times when both are able
to kick back, relax and be people together. To tell jokes, laugh, cut up, tease and joust with verbal banter or comebacks.
They may be your slave, but they are people first and foremost.
Knowing their owner, they will keep an eye open for reactions as to the mood of owner and just how much play is acceptable
at any given time.
A good slave is very mindful that the above activities do not take place in front of others.
They are keenly aware that their actions are a direct reflection on their owner.
That all too often, a slip of this nature may indirectly put their owners ability to guide, control them.. in the eyes of others,
as weak or non existent. They will however.. out of respect, love obedience and loyalty, always place their owners
in the best light possible in the eyes of others, by slipping into formal protocol.
A slave will learn to anticipate their owners every need and desire and see to them without being pushy but rather
in a suggestive way. They will attend to the intellectual, physical, emotional needs, as well as others their owner may
have. Think of the five senses. They will strive for total perfection in the handling, care and keeping of their owner.
Many will strive to do things they were not told to do, but think they will be pleasing to the owner.
This anticipation can be a good thing or bad. Depending on the Dominant.
I know some Dominants that do not want to be anticipated, but would rather issue requests.
Also be aware there are two different thought process when it comes to slaves actions.
On one hand you have the owner who wants to be in total control, making ALL decisions when it comes to their slave,
as well as their movements.
On the other front, you have the owner who requires a slave to be totally self sufficient so that a transfer of responsibility
can occur. They want to totally trust a slaves good judgment and actions so they do not have to micro-manage the slave.
Again, be aware that you have the difference in thought process of slaves and owners as to how exactly the slavery
was accepted and the conditions in which the slave will be treated. Some slaves only expect basic life sustaining necessities.
Some want to be treated much as one would treat a Eunuch. While others still desire a full balanced relationship with their owners.
It's as wide and varied as there are individuals in the lifestyle. That is why more often than not, it takes time to locate
the right owner.. or the right slave.
slaves do however, no matter the level their slavery is accepted by, expect to be trained to the owners ways,
so they can be utilized to the full extent of their abilities.
If, for example an owner loves manicures or pedicures, why not have slave take classes in their free time
to learn this skill? Or enroll them in a gourmet cooking class?
Remember, the position of the slave is about fully bringing pleasure to their owner.
By broadening their abilities and skills, an owner is also enhancing their own lifestyle.
Most slaves will say that because of this, it is imperative that the slave chose to surrender to a dominant
whose likes/dislikes are a close match of their own and thus they will not be asked or ordered to do something
they are totally opposed to. But even then, the slave will expect that these limits may change over time and
accept it, should it occur.
It will always be hard to define because the semantics of words we each use and how we interpret those words.
Ergo: While many may be on the same page: * Never assume you are understanding what things mean.
* Never take anything for granted.
* Dominants and submissives do not often think alike.
* Please ALWAYS ask for clarification.
To Be Continued in next Journal Entry:
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Being one who loves to give analogies during training,
I will share two stories that will drive My point home!
My best friend, who is also a Domina, took a slave as Owner.
Being a new relationship and not living together, they would often spend as much time together as possible.
One Friday afternoon, her slave got off of work early because they were going to spend the weekend together at her residence.
On the drive across the city, the slave called his owner to inquire: "Ma'am is there anything that you need or that I may bring?"
"Yes," came the reply. "I am in the mood for a turkey and cheese sandwich. Please stop at the deli and bring home
stuff to make sandwiches." The request completed, she hung up.
Ten minutes later her phone rang. It was her slave.
"Ma'am? I am at the deli. They have 3 types of turkey, Ma'am. There is Honey Roasted Turkey, Roasted Turkey and Baked Turkey.
Which would Ma'am like?"
She made her decision and told slave.
"Ma'am? As to the cheese. This deli has various cheeses Ma'am. American cheese, Swiss cheese, Pepperjack cheese..
he rattled off the entire selection then stopped.
She made her decision then asked if there was anything else?
"Yes, Ma'am. What type of bread does ma'am wish the sandwich to be made with?
There is White Bread, Wheat Bread, Sourdough, Rye, Croissants, Rolls, Sesame Seed Buns or regular buns?"
The reply was made.
"Ma'am? Do I need to bring lettuce and tomato home?"
"Yes dear, and thank you for calling to ask"
The end result was the Owner, got exactly the type of sandwich not only that she wanted,
but that satisfied her mental taste buds.
It also served to teach HER, to be more specific when requesting something of her slave.
Had the taste not match what she had been thinking of, she would have been upset with herself for not
being more precise.
Had she been a less honorable Dominant and owner, being dissatisfied with the outcome,
she would never have taken nor understood that the burden of responsibility was hers alone.
She would have used her dissatisfaction to berate, chastise and punish the slave.
When relaying this story to someone who claimed to be a lifestyle slave, the gentleman became very angry
with the comment: "Oh, I see, so you would not trust me to provide you with something proper,
that is good for you!"
Sadly, he missed the entire point in My opinion.
Story Two [2]
Some years back I had a Classroom on another Chat site.
There I and several other Dominants [M&F] Tried to teach others
about the lifestyle and due diligence.
Submissives enter a phase in the beginning that We Dominants call: sub frenzy.
It is when they rush out blindly to the first person claiming to be dominant ..to take them.
They allow themselves to be collared on line, never having met the person.
Such is the case I am about to share. We will call the female submissive in this story; brenda.
brenda was often in class trying to learn. Then would enter one of the other chat rooms after.
There she met a "Master" searching for a slave.
She immediately set out to capture him. She was going to be his slave.
Daily they would be in the chat room and allowed their little fantasy world to unfold for all to see.
How she would bow to him.. address him as Master. Wait on him. Curl up to him lovingly.
Yet to many of the Dominants, this relationship did not ring true. Why? Because when she was not around,
he was dogging other female submissives.
We asked if she had done her due diligence on him? Is he who he claims to be?
Have the two of you discussed what your duties are to be within his household? Will there be other slaves?
What is his concept of slavery?
She had no idea and did not want to think about it. She had found her Master.
Turned in her 2 week notice.
Had located a Nursing job in said state and would be flying to join him in another state.
Several weeks passed before anyone had heard from her.
She was miserable. It was NOT as she had hoped.
Yes, she was His slave. However...when he said "slave" he meant ENFORCED slavery.
He was not employed and had no income. The conditions she was forced to live in were intolerable.
She had to work double shifts at the Hospital, turn over every bit of income to pay rent and buy food.
He had a live in submissive lover who did nothing. Not even pick up after herself, and felt it her right to be
waited on. After shifts at the Hospital she had to come home, clean house and cook for both of them.
She was allowed the leftovers, if there were any.
She could not leave.. no where to go. She could not return. No income to even purchase a Bus ticket.
After a few months, friends did manage to extricate her and get her back to her home state.
You will always have those that claim to be dominant, yet do not have any knowledge or real experience beyond
what they may have read on the internet. To them, being bossy, demanding, abusive is the way they think a
slave should be treated.
Some Dominants, be they male or female, do not understand that: The strength of the Dominant lies in their mutual
respect and love for the sub or slave.
They have yet to figure out that mutual respect, appreciation, protection and even love, no matter the degree it is given
from the Dominant.. are attributes a good slave, wants, needs, desires and requires.
In conclusion, with the right Dominant, any sub can turn into a wonderful slave, if they so desire.
It is predicated on the bond of trust between the two and the desire to serve from Obedience rather than submission.
Submission, no matter what level one gives it over, will always be to one they trust.
It will be to a Dominant the individual will seek and desire to increase the bond between the two.
I feel that consideration, compassion and yes, even love on a defined level is healthy for both individuals.
Those involved at the Ownership subculture will disagree that love has no place in the relationship of owning a slave,
because they are mere chattel to be used.
Love, is not defined by sexual activity. The surrendering of ones self, comes from the heart.
If I desire to tell him what a good boy, or what an excellent job he has done.. Or thank him for any effort he has put forth on My or our behalf, I will.
If he cannot accept this.. then he is not the right individual for Me or My household.
I encourage open communication. I find that only insecure individuals seek to isolate those in their life.
I am perfectly sane, while being very secure in who and what I am. Of My abilities, love and loyalty for those I
elect to keep in My life. Though we cannot choose our families, we can choose those we elect to have in our lives.
People come together for a reason, a season, or a lifetime...
Lastly, there will be always those who dissent on ANY issue. I am not saying My way
or My thinking is the only way or the right way.
The *Lifestyle* is INFINITE!
This is a lifestyle for Me.. therein lies the difference between those playing on the fringes, not being involved, or only being involved in a hedonistic manner. To each his own.
Simply know yourself, your needs, your desires, your abilities and capabilities.
Then try to match them up with the right Dominant for YOU! It's not about being owned.
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When a male octopus finds a mate...he rips off his penis and throws it at the female so she can inseminate herself. He then grows a new penis.
What a legend!
~laughs~
man would never...he is too vain!! |
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Ahhhh.. Another chilly Friday Night.
Feels like Pizza, Creme Soda and "Game of Thrones" tonight. |
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-Wishing you a safe, happy New Year 2015-
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Wishing Everyone A Merry Christmas.
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HOW TO HANG CHRISTMAS LIGHTS
by: DommeMaggie
OK well as promised just in time for the weekend.. For those that have not already done so.... Your tutorial on: How To Hang Christmas Lights!
Start now..telling the other half you are going to hang lights this weekend.
Assemble a multitude of things in the garage or better yet a corner of your den. This will give the impression you are serious.
Yell at anyone that even ventures near your stock pile and tell them to keep out or they have to help..and the job will take all day!
This usually keeps the wife and kiddies out of your way as they do not want to be tied down for an entire day...especially on a Saturday.
Walk around the house hunting for things you need.
And even if you know where it is.. say: Honey have you seen____?
Rummage around in that closet and drawer I know you have.
You know...the one where you stash all your junk... yeah, the one in the kitchen. And the hall closet...
You will need the following:
A 6 ft Ladder
A 16 ft quad fold Ladder
2-3 moving quilts or heavy blankets
Duc Tape
Electrical Tape
Staple gun
1 pair of needle nose pliers
2- Brown Paper Bags
1-6 ft orange outdoor extension cord
1-12 ft orange outdoor extension cord
1 x 1 wooden stakes 12" in length~ Home Depot
2 Large Cinder Blocks or a pair of car ramps
A Hammer
Outdoor Timer~ Walmart
Several packages of clips (8) Walmart
Strands of outdoor lights for roof top~ BIG LOTS
Strands for around windows~ BIG LOTS
Replacement bulbs~ BIG LOTS
4 X 4 for bushes~ BIG LOTS
2-3 prong adapters (just in case)
1 pair of ridged bottom rubber sole shoes
1 note pad
1 pen
1 tape measure
1 Flashlight
1 pair of work gloves
1 Carpenters Apron or utility belt
1 box cutter
1 can white spray paint
1 4 X 8 Sheet 1/4" Plywood
WEDNESDAY~ THURSDAY
Now as you do your mass assembly.. you are allowed to go out and seek what you do not have.. ALONE!
This gives you time to screw around!
During the week.. untangle all your damn lights you wadded up from last year and check them.
But you know.. It's just cheaper to put them in Brown paper bag number one and walk them out to the garbage can.
At any rate, take them out of the packages or ball and check them.
If your doing those stinking ice cycles like everyone does.. hang them up
somewhere and let the kinks fall out, OK? ( no pun intended)
Roughly measure to know how many strands of lights you will need to go around your roof line.
Wait till after dinner then Drag the kids or the wife out to hold the tape, especially if it is cold or snowing outside.
Double check your measurements just to be sure..also giving the "holder" enough time to be uncomfortable and get good & cold!
Use your pad, pen & flashlight to write down your measurements and stand there grafting the house!
When you go indoors.. be sure to locate your wife and put your cold hands on her body under her clothing and suggest something lude to "warm you up!" This should put her in a "HAPPY MOOD"
FRIDAY
You may go out again on "Your Quest" to finish purchasing your needed supplies.
In case you don't have one on your Christmas Tree you can disconnect and use.. Be sure you locate one of those stinking 16 Christmas melody boxes to hook into your timer to annoy all your neighbors.
While out.. Call your favorite Dominatrix to drop by for a quick beating to calm your nerves and play the next day while hanging lights and set an appointment for lunch time the following day.
SATURDAY
The BIG DAY is finally here.
Make sure you have on your ridged bottom rubber sole shoes.
Drag everything out to the front yard and drop it all in one big pile.
Now put your gloves on.. put your hands on your hips and walk around making the AR AR AR sound in the back of your throat as you survey your majestic pile.
Now you drag out that 16 footer.. you know the one. Yep that's it.
Folded like a damn accordion.
Spend the next 15 minutes trying to get it unfolded as you swear, stomp, kick at it. Only to start all over.
By the way.. watch your fingers! The Bitch bites!
(Why are inanimate objects always female?)
OK you got it open. CONGRATULATIONS!
Now very carefully heave it over your head.. and start toward the house.
NOTE: STAY AWAY FROM WINDOWS
Position it at a 40 degree angle resting on the roof line.
Make sure you have the right end UP.
Place moving quilts or blankets over bushes beneath your ladder
Place either cinder blocks or car ramps at the base of ladder to keep it from sliding.
This way the ladder will not slide fall completely but it will ricochet off the neighbors house and send you back into position.
Now make sure if you bought clips that you open all packages and pour
contents into your carpenters apron. Also add hammer, pliers and box cutter
If you were stupid enough not to buy any.. put in your staple gun, pliers, hammer, box cutter and electrical tape.
Put your Duc tape on your wrist.
Climb the ladder
Duc tape your legs to the sides. (This eliminates a spotter on the ground)
Now leaning to one side, place your first clip in trim and hammer that baby home. repeat every 12 inches.
Again.. if you didn't buy clips..position your first strand of lights and
carefully get out your staple gun and position the first staple to straddle the wire.
OOPS! Ya missed. Put up the staple gun, get out the pliers, remove staple, and use your electrical tape to mend the damn broken wire.
Use box cutter to cut tape.
Position a staple every 12 inches for as far as you can reach on either side.
Now get out your box cutter again, cut thru your Duc tape and climb down the ladder to move it.
Repeat this process around the house.
Stop at 11:30 AM.
Go into the house mumbling while retrieving your keys
Drive off still talking to yourself till you are out of sight of the house and continue to your "LUNCH" rendezvous.
Return home at 1:45 with a new strand of lights and a smug satisfied look on your face.
Proudly pull the lights out of the bag if confronted by your wife declaring you got the last stand! And BEAM!
Now go back up the ladder and Duc tape yourself back in position and finish the job.
Once finished with the roof line.. if you feel so incline, you can write a lude graphic message to pilots of the airlines you hate the most..
that frequently flies over your house.. On the plywood with the white spray paint and Duc tape it to the roof.
I personally always write: FUCK YOU AMERICAN AIRLINES!
Now hopefully you have plugged each strand together and GOT THEM GOING THE RIGHT WAY so that you end up with a MALE plug at the end to go into the extension cord. If you didn't, you're screwed!
Now plug them into the extension cord.
Plug extension cord into timer.
Plug timer into outdoor outlet
Set timer for 6 PM on.. and 10 PM OFF
No Outlet?
Run cord into Garage and Duc tape over wire.
No Garage?
Run cord thru window and Duc tape around entire bottom of window.
Now take your 1 X 1 wooden stakes and place them up the drive to the side walk that leads to the front door.
Pound those suckers in with your hammer.
Take out your staple gun and staple your lights to the top stretching them from pole to pole.
Remember to let your staple straddle the wire.
When you finish.. it should resemble final approach at any Major Airport.
By this time you are so damn tired of Christmas Lights,
You can just throw the blanket lights on the bushes helter skelter.
Screw the windows...
Just go buy plastic wreaths with big RED BOWS and Epoxy them to the center pane of each window.
Those damn things won't blow off in a gale force wind!
Don't forget that "16 song Music Box" and turn it up as loud as that sucker will go.
If you have a street mailbox: place lights like a candy cane all the way around the base and listen to the neighborhood dogs yep late at night as they relieve themselves on your pole. They ARC real nice in the dark.
Now take all left overs and place in brown bag #2
Hide this someplace where the wife won't see.
Move your ladder to the back yard and throw it on the ground cause I know you don't want to wrestle with that bitch tonight.
But make sure it is close to the house or fence.
Fold it up tomorrow.. unless it is going to snow.
Then leave it till first spring thaw.
Hope This Helped.
As Red Green Always says:
If Women Don't Find Ya Handsome.. They Should AT Least Find Ya Handy
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Hello...
As Owner of this profile, kindly take a moment to READ it before you contact Me and I piss you off..K?
NO BISEXUALS period.
If you have bisexual listed on your profile because some twit told you it would get more Dominants looking at you.. Good Luck with that.
If you put bisexual because you are willing to do what someone tells you to do..
That does not make you a good slave. It makes you an idiot.
Either you put it because you have the DESIRE and are not willing to face your bisexual tendencies, OR you sadly assume to be a good slave you MUST DO as you are always told.
THAT IS CHATTEL. ERGO: Enforced slavery Vs. Internal. Learn the difference.
Take off your blinders people. So many of you "profess" the lifestyle is infinite, but only when it concerns your particular "kink."
your profile may have been written as a fantasy, true, yet what you need to know is: This type of thinking, attitude and participation is what is known in the BDSM World as the Ownership/slave subculture. It is very real. It exists. There are those who take this way, just as there are those who WANT to be taken and live this way.
If one were to judge BDSM like a ruler, I term this right at the far end of 12. There are many dark things up around 12, just in case you haven't opened your eyes and looked. Simply because we don't agree with them, consider them dangerous, (which I do) does not mean they don't exist and won't keep happening.
For you people who profess "you don't like labels" this is one of the main reasons definitions were started in the first place. So that people who were like minded could easily locate those with the same kinks, or on the same line of thinking. I always viewed them as directional beacons rather then labels, but I digress.
In the subculture, people are treated as real slaves in every sense of the word. They are nothing more than chattel to their owners. That is what is termed: Enforced slavery.
There are many who desire this type of ownership. There are Camps and schools spread out across the globe that teach & train others about this culture. Both owners & slaves.
I will repost a point I brought up in another discussion on fetlife about slavery.
There will always be those who have the "Fantasy" of the way they imagine it to be.
The reality is, in many cases, the individual finds out that fantasy and reality are quite different. There are many similar points that could be used as an example, yet I will use the role-play "RAPE." It seems to have a rather large following in this play. It is a fantasy to some, so they indulge. Yet, were that same women to experience a real rape upon her person, I don't think she would find it as sexually exciting. Nor would any man being forcefully bent over and taken against his will.
During the time the OJ Simpson trial was going on here in the USA, there was another large trial going on in Germany. At any rate, it never made news headlines over here.
There was a slave who posted in a German paper seeking someone to kill him. Not only this, but once the individual killed him, he wanted them to eat him. He found and connected with such a person. The man was killed and eaten. The individual who did it was put on trial for murder.
The question I keep asking is this: Was this a fantasy the man had, that got out of control?
Or was it something he really wanted for whatever reason? We will never know.
In my logic based reasoning, there is something seriously "wrong" in this type of thinking for BOTH individuals. Something isn't firing correctly right in their brains. Is that being judgmental? Yes, to a great degree it is because it goes without reason, it is outside of our traditional values and principles we live our lives by.
So does that make BDSM wrong in the eyes of the vanilla world?
Aren't we too being judged because they don't understand our wants, needs and desires?
I would say yes, we are. Even though we are not carrying it to the 12th degree, as others do.
As to the danger to "newbies" and others in the lifestyle... Yes, that has always been a major concern of mine.
Besides this subculture, they could also accidentally connect with the predator who is into the actual (real life) slave trading market. Reference the Movie out: TAKEN with Liam Neeson.
It deals with just this subject.
Britian has discovered that the "slave" trafficing in their country is REAL **SEE ARTICULE PUBLISHED HERE **http://www.aol.com/article/2014/11/29/report-up-to-13-000-victims-in-uk-modern-slavery/21000437/?icid=maing-grid7%7Chtmlws-main-bb%7Cdl14%7Csec1_lnk3%26pLid%3D572591
Though you may not be "into" slaves or slavery, you might just enhance you knowledge on the subject. Learning the differences in:
Enforced slavey, Internal Slavery, BDSM role-play slavery. With this knowledge, you just might be able to help someone understand the difference to keep them safe, while they are out there professing to "Be a slave."
OR keep yourself from being caught in something way over your head.
Like all things in the Alternative lifestyle, the individual seeking, has to bear a certain responsibility for their actions as well.
Simply because we do not desire to be involved in this genre, (the subculture) does not mean it is wrong..Because BOTH are agreeing to it. Nor does it mean that it does not exist. It's very real. What is wrong, is someone being taken AGAINST their will.
Hence: I seek a slave, yes.. but one who understands and desires a TPE - CNC relatioship based on INTERNAL SLAVERY.
Internal slaves DO have a choice. It is called Negotiations BEFORE you surrender!
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....you know every once in a while, when you are minding your own business...
a total jerk comes along, sending unsolicited email
I have a winner tonight.
Maam Another woman who eases into the fact that she is a BBW ?
Before I would wish to give myself to a special woman I would have to know
that she has controls over her own by being of an appropriate weight no more than 150 pounds to maintain proper health? jimmy333
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I ANSWERED: And THIS is important to Me WHY?????
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Yes, gentlemen, I am a BBW according to Fashion Designers. 48-39-45
I celebrate My Voluptous curves and am not ashamed of My looks or body.
String someone along till we meet then WALA.. A Big Beautiful Babe? No thanks.
I am always UP FRONT and Honest, so easing into it, jimmy? your point?
I simply elect straight forward honesty and cut thru the games and lies.
There ARE men who adore women with curves, full breasts, shapely legs and a
nice round firm derriere to worship.
"Variété, c'est le piment de la vie" Variety is the Spice of life.... ~wicked smile~
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Wow..this year has simply flown by for Me.
I have made and met a few new friends along the way.
The outdoor project I started 2 years ago has come to a very satisfactory end.
I dubbed it: The La'Brea Tar Pit.
Because that is what it felt like I was digging.
A 10 X 10 Pit 6 inches deep. I did get 2 days donated labor from a sub I will not name.
Some massive tree roots had to be contended with along the way,
from My 60 year old Tree.
He was very good with My Ax, because I would have never gotten that massive root chopped out without his strong swing!
As well as hanging branches needed to be removed, so I purchased a pole chain saw.
I got down what I could reach. Thankfully a wonderful local sub [tall] donated an afternoon to Me to saw off the limbs.
I then framed the pit with 2X6X10's.
A long time service sub, who checks on Me often, runs errands and helps Me whenever I ask, took Me and I purchased 3 YARDS of sand. We both shoveled it out of his truck bed one afternoon.
It then took Me a couple of weeks working with My level, square shovel and believe it or not, a flooring scraper without a blade, but 5 foot handle, between rain storms, to get the sand leveled and compacted.
I moved My bricks and started to lay them. It took 3 days. Then I filled with sand instead of concrete, so that anytime it can be removed or changed without a problem.
I hung a solid Oak Suspension Block in the tree over the patio.
That was the sole purpose of building this patio.
So subs would have a solid place to stand on their tip toes! LOL
In the interim, My chiminea, lounge chairs, and a round coffee table occupy the patio.
It seems it was finished just in time, because the cooler nights, lower temps during the day, have settled in.
I still have one minor and one major project to finish before winter....
As well, an Austin service sub reminded Me.. "It's almost time to get the Christmas Decorations out again, Domme."
[Bless his heart] he so loves being naked... oiling My Mahogany furniture
to get ready for the holidays.
Should you find yourself with some FREE time and wish to volunteer[one who offers to enter into service]
because it is NOT about sex .. but serving, do contact Me and W/we will work something out.
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My one candle wish for My recent Birthday is: Everyone find happiness in whatever form they desire.
If you seek, may you find that counterpart that meets most of your needs.
No one person will be perfect and meet ALL of your expectations. However, if they meet 80% you should grab onto them. Because as your relationship evolves, the other 20 % will come.
Remember, Life is fleeting. We are not promised tomorrow, in the blink of an eye..it can be taken from you, or severely curtailed impacting your quality of life and self sufficiency.
HAVE FUN and Enjoy!
However, Do be SAFE, SANE and CAREFUL this LABOR DAY WEEKEND. |
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Another 4 weeks has flown by very quickly.
Did yard work yesterday morning and this morning.
This is the last month I will water grass and flowers. It is time to get ready for FALL.
Time to thatch the grass and put out fertilizer. When the Fall Mums come out,
I will plant containers to replace the summer flowers.
The Ladies and I will be gathering for Dinner Saturday Night, to share light fare of:
Quiche, Salad, Fresh Fruit, Garlic Bread. Cherry Pie w/ Vanilla Ice Cream and a Chocolate Birthday Cake for Me.
A White Zinfindel and of course our Southern Sweet Tea.
I do have a 10 X 12 X 30 in deep blow-up pool I will be getting out and place in the center of My driveway.
Filling it up for us to sit in and drink Wine or Margarita's. [Suit's Optional]
Just a relaxing evening with friends..In The Dark...Under The Stars.
Now WHERE... "Is" that CABANA BOY??? ~LOL |
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Looking forward to the fall and the State Fair of Texas. Yes, The Great State Fair of Texas..that the Musical was made after. So much to see and do..as well as EAT!! We all have our favorites..from Fletcher's Corny Dogs to Belgian Waffles. Some like Jack's Curly, cheesy fries or the Homemade BBQ.
There is the Midway and Games, which I avoid and of course the Rides. I only do a few..
I do like the Exhibition Buildings and all the [pardon the phrase] crap people are there selling. flagpoles, vibrating recliners, beds, sewing machines, pot and pans, ginsu knives.. you get the picture.. It's loads of fun.
I don't do the stock shows or exhibitions. Sometimes when it is really hot.. it is nice to go into the AC arena and watch the Dogs jump distance or heard livestock.
The Pig races.. Ice Cold Root Beer.. Cotton Candy.. The Texas Star
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There is something very sad about people who are exceedingly desperate to "belong" to someone that they BRAG about who they are, what they have..
It shows total insecurity and self esteem issues.
Yes, it will draw women to you.. like flies. But then, flies are always drawn to S_ _ T!
"Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't."
Margaret Thatcher
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WOW.. It is 4th Saturday again!
Our group of Dallas Dominants do enjoy getting together for dinner.
Especially during these HOT Dawg Days of Summer. One Lady suggested I get out and put up My blow up pool which is a small 8 X 15' X 36 inches deep. They want to go skinny dipping after dark!! I guess while they are out there I could have them do the Naked Rain Dance. [We could really use the rain in Dallas] ~laughs~
MENU FOR TONIGHT'S GIRLS NIGHT OUT
SALAD: Sliced Cucumber, chunk Roma Tomato, Avocado Chunks, Cooked Shrimp in an Italian Vinaigrette
ENTREE:
Brown Sugar / Rotel Tomato Baked Meatloaf
Creamy American Macaroni and Cheese
Cooked, Cut Green Beans
Hawaiian Bread
Southern Sweet Tea
Iced Water
DESSERT:
Homemade Apple Crumble Pie
Vanilla Ice Cream
Vanilla Coffee
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I have started to hostess a dinner party, entertaining My Dominant female friends on a specific Saturday night of each month. I call it: Girls Night Out.
Because they tend to run late and several drive a great distance, I put a time limit of dinners.
My thinking was they would be able to travel the highway before it got too late. (Hmmp) So much for that.
The invitation clearly said: 6-9 PM ! I forced them out of My door @ 11:00 PM. Truth is, We could have gone on for hours more. We all had so much fun and laughed so much. Our topics of discussion was whatever came out of anyone's mouth.
[EXCEPT: Game of Thrones! I refuse to let anyone tell Me about Season 4!]
Some of the Topics might actually make people blush because they are blunt, straight to the point and factual.
After 3 years, I have located a [REAL] Service sub that will serve 4 of us Dominant woman by rotation.
he will go to whomever has the most pressing tasks for him to take care of. Right now it will be Domme J, south of FTW.
What I have found is, few men who claim to be service subs, actually DO ANY WORK. They think of it more as sexual service. Which we all know this is far from the truth. Fewer still have transferable handyman skills.
Face the fact gentlemen: A woman, any woman..especially a Dominant woman: Say's WHO, WHAT, WHEN, WHERE, HOW and for HOW LONG: anyone touches her body. What do you have to offer intelligence wise? Brains will always win in My book over body. Unless of course he is that magic 6' 5" or taller! LOL
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When people find out I believe in GOD and Pray, they are astounded. Some individuals do not understand that you can still BELIEVE, Worship and follow the teachings, while being involved in the Alternative Lifestyle. I am a firm believer that our lives are pre-destine to a point. Remember GOD gave man FREE WILL and Choice. Your actions and choices can take you on a different path to your destiny.
Oftentimes, people get stuck in life because they’ve been hurt or betrayed, and they end up settling where they are. They allow the disappointment to keep them from the divine appointment.
Don’t let that be you! Don’t let what somebody did or didn’t do for you be an excuse to live sour. Don’t let a bad break, a divorce, a betrayal or a bad childhood cause you to settle where you are. Move forward and God will pay you back. Move forward and God will vindicate you. Move forward and you’ll come into a new beginning.
God knows us. Nothing that has happened to you is a surprise to God. The loss of that loved one didn’t catch God off guard. The business that didn’t make it, the relationship that didn’t work out did not stop God’s plan for your life. They were each a lesson you had to go through in order to learn and let go.
As long as you’re living in regret, focused on the negative things of the past, it’s going to keep you from the bright future God has in store. You’ve got to let go of what didn’t work out. Let go of the hurts and pain. Let go of your disappointments and failures. You can’t do anything about the past, but you can do something about right now. Whether it happened 20 years ago or 20 minutes ago, let it go and move forward. If you keep bringing negative baggage from yesterday into today, it will poison your future.
Now, the real question is: are you going to get stuck, fall into self-pity, become bitter, let the past poison your future?
Or, are you going to shake it off and move forward knowing that your best days are still up ahead?
You may have had an unfair past, but you don’t have to have an unfair future.
You may have gotten off to a rough start in life, but it’s not how you start that matters.
It’s how you finish.
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I wish to acknowledge and thank the service sub who presented himself at My home on Wednesday last. your service was exemplary. The manual labor your provided was outstanding. your willingness to do whatever THIS dominant needed, speaks highly of you.
you are welcome back to My home, HOWEVER.. Next time LISTEN to everything I say to you, or you will find yourself up against a wall. Not in a position you will like. ~LOL~ |
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Three Mature Female Dominants together last night for dinner. Despite the oppressive Texas heat, we met at My home about 6:30. Refreshment in the air conditioned home as we relaxed to unwind from a long day as we discussed local current lifestyle issues, politics, protocol and etiquette.
As the sun began to set, temperatures dropped, the wind kicked up outside. The gas grill came to life and Ribeye steaks put on the grill, timed to a perfect medium over low flame. A wonderful tossed salad, a baked potato. The beverage of choice was chilled Ice water.
I certainly could have used a [service] sub to wait the dinner service.
Folgers Chocolate Silk coffee and a homemade Luby's Chocolate Ice Box Pie was served for after dinner dessert as the ALL IMPORTANT topic for discussion was: "Game Of Thrones."
Being Dominants we love venturing to express out opinions on what will happen next or to whom, simply by acute observation and carefully listening to answers given at any juncture within the series.
I find the series much like any well played game of Chess... or Murder Mystery...so your brain has to work on that level.
If you do not have that type of mind set/brain, you can just relax and enjoy each episode.
Now where the heck is next weeks service serving sub???
An idea for a uniform. A white starched collar [ONLY] and tux tie. White starched French Cuffs, White gloves and the all important black leather posing pouch! ~laughs~ |
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For My friends that have been or will be inquiring, My dog Kyler and I had a very relaxing Mothers Day.
My main entree, I baked Baby Back Ribs. I got the meat, Kyler got the bones. Had you been here at My feet.. I might have given you a few hand fed morsels. For which you could have kissed My feet!!
Weighing in at 15 pounds, when My Miniature Pincher, Kyler runs thru the house, it sounds like a baby horse. Offering him a rib bone and saying: "Go to Kyler bed" It was as if the gates had opened at the Kentucky Derby. Those little legs went as fast as they could to his kennel cage. They sound like little hooves racing down the hall.
Kyler is trained to the Riding Crop which hangs by My front door. He rarely wonders from My yard when outside. If he does, I call him back. If he ignores Me.. I count to 3. More often than not, by the time I get to 3, he is once again at the door waiting to go in.
If he has been really bad, I get out the Dog whip (which is much like a singletail with the exception of the shaft. It is soft and bends) Doing one over head throw allowing the whip to break the sound barrier..he will run completely around the house to get IN the front door without going by Me!
I always laugh about how he THINKS he has outsmarted Me. Hmmp! I allow him. I love him dearly and would never spank him.
I find that much like the slave when they have misbehaved, ignoring him, not allowing him on My bed, hurts him far worse. Because he is a dog, you can not punish for long periods because of their attention span. He does get the point and he does learn. As will any who serve Me.
For the weekend, We did a recap watching Seasons 1, 2, and 3 of The Game of Thrones.
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Spring Time... Planting flowers. Dozing outside in the hammock, feeling the warm gentle southern breeze. Sunlight playing thru the leaves of the overhead branches. Allowing a hint of warmth to sensually caress your closed eyes. Cherry Kool-aid
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I have never been a big one for Country Music.. but there are a few Artist and Albums I like to listen to. Tonight it is Willie.. STARDUST. A great Album, every song. Somehow on a cold Texas night like tonight.. this album begs for a Fire in a fireplace. Damn! Too bad I had my new house built without one. All I thought about was the energy loss and the mess!!! LOL |
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Did you ever meet that person that will be late for their own funeral? That is My sister J!
When I give her a time to be somewhere, I usually back it up a few hours to make sure she is on time.
I keep hearing TREE BEARDS voice from Lord Of The Rings saying, "We Ents never do anything that we do not do slowly." That's My Sister!
So Saturday last, being a nice day in the mid 50's and sunshine, I decide to drive down to her place.
Warm day, wonderful. I dress in white tank, white sweater trimmed in Navy blue and Navy Blue slacks. I slip on my new Talbots white tennis shoes, trimmed in navy blue. TA DA! Dressed for the day.
I get on the highway ..drive up to Cedar Hill.. get on Hwy 67 and head West. I am exactly in the middle of NOWHERE when all of a sudden I have to pee! Come on.. I know this has never happened to any of my female friends. You men just stop on the side of the road and take business in hand. We females are not as fortunate. We have to mentally talk to our bodies.
I turn on the radio and try to distract myself.. not working.
I talk to Kyler.. he's not listening. He happens to be angry with me at the moment for stopping at ROSS - Dress for Less in Cedar Hill to look for an electric blanket. I swear I was only in there 20 minutes!
To make a long story shorter.. I am battling my kidneys all the way to Her small West Texas Town (60+ miles) AND staying within the highway speed limits.
So I get to her place, pull up to the outside gates and low and behold, she has an EXTRA Lock on the gate that I do not have a key for.. I am looking around in a panic. Ah! Cell Phone.
RING RING.. Hello?
ME: J? I am at the gate and I have to pee so bad I hurt..
HER: (Laughs) I'll be right there.
I get back in the car and I wait.. and wait... and wait.
My kidneys are going to burst it hurts so badly.
I look around the car in a panic. There outside on the west side of my car is high dead weeds.
My brain said: you can not go out there you are sitting off the main highway. My body said shut TFU!
I actually had to drag myself out of the car because I was doubled over in pain. I tromp off into the weeds toward the fence line as if I were fighting my way thru the Amazon Jungle..
I had to located an area where my bottom is not exposed to the main highway, or her closest neighbor, who's front windows face J's driveway, could see.
I pull down my pants, squatting as best I can do.. The damn burst free... ah relief....
Then I see my sisters truck approaching. Stops and as she climbs down out of the truck, I then hear O-M-G !!!!!
I tune her out and finish peacefully, then pull up My pants..walk out of the weeds.
My new white tennis shoes have black streaks on them from the dead weeds.
My sister wants to know how many cars have passed with me in that position?
It doesn't matter that it took her 10 minutes to get from house to gate..
Just worried about how many people she "MAY" have known "MIGHT" have seen My Bare Ass! LOL
Me: Those are the first two vehicles that have passed..and at 60 MPH, I doubt they saw much or you would have heard brakes and smelled the rubber!
Her: Oh good!
Me: Where were you? What took you so long?
Her: I had to find my truck keys and when I did.. I looked in the mirror, and my hair was flat, so I had to go find My hat.
Me: do you think I care that your hair was fecking flat? I told you I had to bee badly.
Her: well.. as I was driving up here.. all I saw was this big white thing by my fence. I thought one of those big garbage bags had blown up against it at first. Then as I got closer.. peering, I said, No, it is one of My neighbors picking something up. Then as I got closer.. closer.. OMG !!!!!! You were not doing that!
Me: J..you live on 35 acres out in the country. YOUR closest neighbor is several acres away in any direction. Cars travel by at 60 MPH.. I really could not hold it ANY LONGER and don't care who might have seen My Big White Ass!!!
We both laughed and she unlocked the gates for me to drive thru before locking them back.
I knew I better tell on MYSELF, before she tells anyone and everyone at OUR NEXT LIFESTYLE MEETING, embellishes the story more than need be.
So know this.. I will do as I damn well please, within reason. And no one was going to see what I was doing in 4 foot tall dead weeds!
If Nothing Else, Life Teaches Us To Laugh At Our self!
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2nd Attempt At Posting This. W/we will see if IT Stays!!
2014 BITCH
It seems to Me that W/we, the world, are in a crisis situation. From not only a corrupt US GOVERNMENT and their unethical practices that are totally self serving, to the way many are beginning to THINK and ACT.
We have always had PLAYERS online on both sides of the fence. Dominants and subs. I have had to take a step back to UNDERSTAND THE NEW MEANING BEHIND THEIR WORDS.
Does not do public play or attend lifestyle group functions: seeking sex only
Will not attend anything because they do not know anything about the lifestyle.
i want, i want: bastard is topping from the bottom again..
When someone starts off with a litany of things THEY WANT to do for Me.. I have a problem with it. It identifies them as not only a liar, but player.
VESTED INTEREST: So you want to continually chat about bullshit while you are spreading yourself thin with other women? I'm not having it. I am not one of many.
I have found that men without a vested interest have nothing to lose or are worried about lying to you now or in the future.
Trust Me, when you push Me to the point I seriously want to hurt you real time, you instantly go on "IGGY" Because the truth is, a Real Dominant, knows they should never lift a hand to anyone in anger. They abide by and follow this practice. It is what makes them a GOOD Dominant.
DUE DILLIGENCE: means you take the time to make sure the person you are speaking to IS REAL. That they are who they profess to be. That they can be VALIDATED (Are who they say they are), VERIFIED (sensual,sadistic, Dominant, top, switch) And QUALIFIED (married, single, lifestyle experience)
The one thing all Dominants will agree upon..and all predators know is that NEW submissives and those new to this lifestyle are very needy.
They are in a great hurry to jump out there and to experience or belong.
This is what predators thrive on.
This is why so many newbies have bad experiences and get hurt and hello: USED!
I have been willing to give you My time and My knowledge, so that your feet on Our pathway will be one of safety and security. That you may discover this wonderful lifestyle in a safe, Sane, Consensual manner. Or that at least you are aware of the Risks involved in your particular kink.
I want each of you to look deep and hard and TRY to define what it is you are feeling inside.
Do you fit one type of sub? Or have you discovered you don't want to be psychologically controlled by another, you just want to play? If so, then you are a bottom.
Once you have clearly decided where you fall within the constraints of role description, you are ready to create your profile on line.
Creating a profile is not as easy as it sounds, if you wish to find that which you are searching for. That being: An honest, experienced Dominant who will desire to be with you.
First and foremost is HONESTY.
Always be honest about WHO you are and what it is you seek.
Do you want to just play on line and exchange erotic emails with others? Fine. Then openly state that.
Or do you really want someone in your life that will meet your needs, respect your limits and hard limits? Even on a limited basis?
Are you just here on line for sex and play? State it.
If you are married and playing with your spouse's approval, be sure to put that! It's Important. Why? Because, a Dominant looking for someone to be in their life 24/7, you would not fit.
However, you will fit if they seek someone for an on-going limited basis. Or are willing to accept this knowledge and start an honest relationship based on this fact.
If you are married and playing without approval, simply know, in this lifestyle, it is considered the same as a cheating spouse. It is considered lying.
You are deceiving someone and once they find out, will drop you so fast it won't be funny.
Because if you will lie about something as important as that.. What else will you lie about?
So always be honest, no matter the costs. You will find someone seeking what you have to offer in the way of limited play.
Your profile is a reflection of the type of person you are.
Just as you despise the Dominants out there playing games and pretending, it doesn't mean you have to act in the same despicable manner. Be Honest.
Some do and have started out in the lifestyle only wanting to play. Then discovered that this lifestyle is about more than "play" and once they got into what it is about...
Were in awe of their own self discovery that opened before them, much like the Yellow brick Road. Your honest profile will draw to you, like minded people.
In the mean time, it is up to you to READ about this lifestyle and educate yourself.
Don't hang around chat rooms waiting to find a Dominant to take and train you.
If you don't know anything.. How can you expect to GUARD yourself against those that would use and abuse you? You simply can't. Doing less than learning, you are easy prey for a Predator.
Remember? I stated: all newbies are easy prey. If that insults you..then do something about it. Protect yourself.
Don't be in a HURRY. Talk yourself into calming down. Don't rush anything.
And for gods sake, don't fall in love on line and rush to the first person that pays attention to you. You have more value and self worth than that. Even if you don't feel you do inside.
There is a saying: fat and ugly can be changed. Stupid is forever.
Well, I am here to tell you, you do not have to be stupid. Educate yourself. Know what people are talking about. Ask questions. Learn in order to better protect yourself.
Just as women can be used by one claiming to be a male Dominant, so can men be used. Just because you are male, does not mean there are not female predators out there just waiting to use you as well. Predators have no specific gender. Remember that. Predators seek to assure you, that They are your dream come true.
Like everything else, if it sounds too good on line.. Chances are it is.
It is up to you, to use your head, not your heart or sexual feelings, to check out WHOM it is you are going to give your phone number to or whom you are going to meet in real life.
A REAL Dominant knows and understands this. They will not pressure you for a phone number, nor will they pressure you for a meet.
Use any of the numerous programs out on the net to validate the person you are talking to. Make sure they ARE who they claim to be.
Find out if they belong to any of their local organizations. Ask around in those groups even through email.
Again, A real lifestyle Dominant, will make sure they can be validated, unless they have something to hide.
Now you are in communication with one you would possibly consider for a play partner or a possible Dominant.
Have you bother to ask if they are a sensual Dom/me or a Leather Dom/me or Top?
Are they Sadistic? Seeking a slave or a sub? Ask questions and listen to the answers or read them very carefully.
SCRUTINIZE their profile.
It will tell you what you want to know as well as give you RED FLAGS as to whether this person is a good match for you. Again, use your better judgement and don't be in a hurry to belong.
If it stipulates they are looking for a woman who is HWP or slim and you are a BBW.. That is not a match.
Simply because I am an experienced Dominant, does not mean that all subs or slaves will be what I want, need or seek in My personal life.
I am experienced enough, as well as intelligent enough to know and understand this.
I am NOT in a hurry to own. Neither should you be, to belong.
Don't be in a hurry to change your chat name to reflect you are HIS or HERS and you haven't even met this individual in real life.
It makes you look like a fool when the situation turns out not to be what you envisioned.
And though this lifestyle is about being non judgemental,
HELLO, that means as far as your likes or kinks are concerned. We are all judgmental of fools, idiots, players, wanna-be's and trolls.
I will simply say this about the later, if you are silly enough to rush into something with someone you have NOT carefully checked out, find yourself in a situation you had not bargained for, or one of abuse, get out as quickly as possible, but know you MUST take at least half of the responsibility. Don't play the victim. It won't fly with those who know.
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THERE WAS A JOURNAL ENTRY HERE WHICH APPARENTLY COLLARME DID NOT LIKE.
BY THE TIME THEY REMOVED AND HACKED OUT THE PARTS THEY DID NOT LIKE, THE ENTRY MADE NO SENSE...
SEEMS WE NOW HAVE OUR THOUGHTS, FEELINGS AND WORDS EDITIED BY COLLARME.. WHO LIKE THE POTUS, SIMPLY REMOVE WHAT THEY DO NOT LIKE OR WISH OTHERS TO BE AWARE OF...... HOW NICE. |
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What we do for ourselves, dies with us..
What we do for others, was/is a part of the world.
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Because (W) we are involved in the Alternative Lifestyle in whatever manner you are, outsiders, or those who are not and find out, assume we are less than moral people. That we do not have any values, good judgement, that we lack morals. We are not fit to raise a cat or dog, let alone children.
Most individuals I personally know involved or playing IN this genre; their children, their family always comes first. As it should be.
I have raised 2 beautiful children to Adulthood. I was involved in this lifestyle for almost all of their lives.
Yet I easily managed to instill integrity, honor, trust, high morals, family values, truth, loyalty to others and to themselves. Most of all, right from wrong and a great deal of compassion.
When you do something for others, it is called planting a seed. I do not look at it that way. I look at it as a small gesture of human kindness to our fellow man. Generally I tell about it, not to get accolades, but to call attention to a plight in hopes OTHERS will somehow feel a twinge, and do 1 small thing to help others.
So please read and should the following true exchange move you, please do that one small thing for someone in need.
THIS WAS MY SON'S CHRISTMAS EVE EXPERIENCE. I was actually on the phone with his wife when he came rushing in and started to pack items up. These are his words after:
"Today was about giving and showing kindness to others in need. I am blessed to have the many fine things in my life and someone to share those luxuries with.
However I was saddened today to see a little old man and lady that society had seemed to forget about. They were huddled together trying to escape the cold and the wind on the side of a building. They were homeless and lived in a tent. I pulled over and gave them some loose cash so they could at least have a Xmas meal and I gave the lady my pt cap to try to keep her head warm. As I offered the hat, her eyes grew big and a smile came across her face you'd thought she won the lottery.
I told her MERRY Christmas and to be safe. She gave me a hug and when it came time to let go of her she said she didn't want to because I was so warm and it felt good on her hands. They were like ice cubes. I made up my mind that she was getting another gift.
I proceeded to the store for some items and picked out a pair of soft plush gloves for her to wear. I gave her the gloves and she cried saying that no one has been this nice to them because they were homeless. I immediately went home and began to pack up all the warm clothes I didn't wear and filled an entire kit bag full of sweats, sweaters, long johns, jeans, and new wool socks, along with a first aid kit and my lovely wife did the same.
I returned to the couple and they were speechless. The lady cried and cried tears of joy, because a total stranger had given them so much that was needed. The older gentleman shook my hand firmly and looked me dead in the eyes and said" you're AIRBORNE aren't you? I can tell son." That filled my heart with pride to know I helped someone out that so desperately needed it.
So, as you sit around your tables filling your bellies with family and friends, say a prayer asking for those needing help to receive it. Go one step further, and donate to your local shelters, and food pantrys. It's cold out and a lot of people would be thankful to be indoors but have no place to go or food to eat. I am thankful to have met that couple today and was able to provide a little bit of joy for them this holiday season. Merry Christmas to all my family and friends."
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Merry Christmas son. You do this Mother and the Army Airborne PROUD. I thank GOD and pray for you and countless thousands who Serve, Protect and Defend our Great Nation. From bases here in the US to points around the world. Most Americans do not know all the soils your feet are on. Fewer still even care that you spend sleepless nights, cold, hungry, often thirsty. On and In hostile terrain. God Speed To All.
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Don't confuse My Personality with My Attitude.
My personality IS who I am ...
My attitude depends on who you are!
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Brrrrrrrrrr.... A whole 17* outside today. I have been ICED in for 2 days now. Spent some time outside with My and the neighborhood dogs watching them try to run and play on My property. That is, till they have to cross the driveway! ~LMAO~ Even dogs can not get traction on ice. I watched My 12 pound Miniture Pincher (TRY) to run up My horse shoe driveway. He got a good start then hit some really slippery ice, which spun him around 180* degrees and he started sliding down and couldn't stop. Mean while the black Lab pup (about 6 months old) and the Pit Bull, tried to get traction as well. No GO. They all looked as if they were skating. But they sure enjoyed it. Like watching a bunch of children. They ran and slid all over the place. We are due for more freezing rain tonight and over the weekend. Not sure WHEN My neighborhood will thaw out because we are not well traveled. It's Hill Country and the only one's who come in here are the Home Owners. Right now, no cars are moving due to the layof the land. None of us wants to be the 1ST on the slalom course of our driveways or streets!! LOL Any one who tries is guaranteed to get Airborne! |
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It's that time of year once again.
Wishing each of you a safe, warm, Happy Thanksgiving.
All My baking is done for friends and family. As well as the goodies I make and take to My two local Fire Stations that serve My area. The crews that work the Holiday are very appreciative being remembered.
Today is a stay in bed ALL DAY and watch Movies day. Being as it is 28* outside right now, seems like a wonderful idea! Saturday our local temp will be climbing back up to the high 60's ..low 70's. Perfect time to hang My outdoor Christmas Lights on the House.
Next week I will start gearing up for the Holiday Baking and pressure sealing the food items, to keep them fresh and freeze them. Festive Gift Baskets for My Fire Stations along with fresh fruit baskets from the farmers market. Same donated to the USO at the Airport. Especially if our weather turns bad and flight delays or cancellations. Our Troops traveling during the Holidays do not need to incur any further expenses due to weather delays. I will give Little Crock Pots of homemade Bread Pudding to My neighbors, along with Kolaches for Christmas morning breakfast.
I encourage each of you to donate something somewhere. The USO, your local Fire or Police Stations.
I always remember My Mail Man and Sanitation collector. It makes them feel appreciated.
Even if you don't bake, I know you can spend $6.00 at your local Grocery to pick up a Pudding Cake a Pie or some cookies to drop off. Donate to Shelters and especially can goods to the Food Pantry. Just a few cans of anything.
Right now in America we have the largest UNEMPLOYED rate in the History of the USA. We have families that must decide between keeping a roof over their heads or food for the table.
We have children of all races going to bed hungry, all over our great Nation.
I am not going to point the finger of blame because it does go too far back in reality.
Just know if you are fortunate enough to have a job and perhaps a little extra, skip that 1 (one) Starbucks Coffee because your kindness will be repaid in KARMA.
Put a Smile on someone's face. Bring a little hope, happiness and most of all the feeling of well being, even if it is only temporary... to someone you don't know. It will make you feel great.
It Is The Season Of Giving
Seasons Best to each of you with love,
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This just cracks Me up every time I read or see it...For My beautifully submissive friend in Boston: No explanation needed:
Camel: Mike..Mike.. Mike.. Mike..
Girl Answers: Mike was furloughed! ~LOL~ |
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It’s easy to have a good attitude and pursue our dreams as long as everything is going our way. That doesn’t take a lot of faith. But what about the difficult times — when a relationship doesn’t work out, or you get a bad health report, or a friend does you wrong? It’s easy to lose your passion when you’re hurt. Too many people are sitting on the sidelines of life because they’re injured. Now they’re nursing their wounds, not moving forward because of what they’ve been through.
You may have a reason to feel sorry for yourself, but you don’t have a right. God promised He will give you beauty for those ashes. He said He would pay you back double for the wrongs, but you have to do your part. If you’re going to see the beauty, you have to shake off the ashes of self-pity. You’ve got to shake off the discouragement and get back in the game. Every person has injuries. We all have wounds, but you can’t let a loss, a health issue, a divorce or a hurt be an excuse to sit on the sidelines. Everyone has experienced this and been down in life at one time or another. It is NOT OK to stay there. Today, get back in the game. Know that your best days are ahead. Know that GOD is working things together for your good, and He has victory in store for your future! BELIEVE. For what you put out in the world will come back to you.
You might be saying: "Oh I am never going to find the one." "I do not think They exist." YOU have just released negative energy in the Universe to come back to you. You also do not have faith that GOD will bring what is right in your life, when it is time for you to appreciate it and have it. Stay Positive and Try.
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I want t say: Thank You to my lifestyle friends who shared dinner with Me on my Birthday.
It is always wonderful spending time with each and ever one of you as a group or individually.
The Food, Cards and Gifts were wonderful. Yet the camaraderie we each share is far more precious than any of the previous. May we each experience positive "growth" throughout the rest of the year.
A special thanks to my sister, for her late night arrival and visit till early AM. I Love You.
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Oddly enough I still have the deep desire to not only find "the one" to have a BDSM relationship of Master/slave..But also share My desire of ANR. I use the term "Master" instead of Mistress because I have earned, been accorded and recognized as a Master by NLA. The title: Lady by the Old World International House I am a member of. The reason in pointing all this out is simple. After 38 years of WWD in this lifestyle, I do know what I am doing.
My world is predicated on Honesty, Trust, (which does not happen overnight) Integrity, Truth, Open Communication, Loyalty and most important for Me, Monogamy.
I want an individual who is not afraid to move forward to a "MEET," when the time is right.
For Me.. there must be a Physical attraction.
There must also be a Mental attraction. Possessing a higher IQ than most, I do not suffer fools, idiots, or the under developed brain matter.
I seek a LTR. Would consider relocation for the right individual, but will maintain My Home in Dallas.
Mine is a life of negotiation prior to entering servility for One Year and one day in a collar of consideration. Chastity is required so that your focus stays strictly upon Me, where it should. your need becoming great, as it should till I decide to release you in the manner of My choosing.
you will be trained in all aspects of the lifestyle including Protocol, etiquette, My personal protocol at home, as well as serving in all aspects. I am very diverse. I can be very loving.. But as a Southern Woman, I will always extract My toll upon you. Giving with one hand and taking back with the other. Sadistic to the point you will love the kisses from My single tail in play as I engulf your body, soul, desire with the heat of passion..as you surrender to My hand and mind. I am not for just anyone. I MUST HAVE an alpha male who wishes to get lost in his total surrender beyond the vanilla world. Perhaps it is time you talk to Me.
If you are one of those fools who starts out loving Me and desires or thinks collars are automatic, please move on to the next profile. I am not here to play or be brought into your world of fantasy by demanding this or bossing you around.
I do not want to hear about your last Dominant or BDSM experience. I will not be used to "relive" the experience vicariously. Nor be your stimulas for Euphoric Recall......Again Move On!
What is it about Tall Caucasian Males you do not understand when reading My profile requirements?
As My profile stipulates I DO NOT WANT: Bisexuals, sissy, cross-dressers, switch, or anyone "into" Forced anything.
I do not live in a Dungeon nor maintain one. I function as well as live in the Vanilla world and My community.
If you can not.. Move on.
Though I am active within the BDSM Community, REAL LIFE ISSUES always come first and foremost.
For THAT married male who desires to play and be submissive to Me.. I ask you: Can you afford TWO WIVES? I am not here to be your toy. To be ready to accept you when you "have free time."
A sub or slave has the responsibility to help meet their Dominant desires and needs.
To contribute to their lifestyle to make it better to some degree. What woman does not appreciate time, consideration, small gifts? Housework or yard work?
Or as one man in My past use to refer to it: Cab Fare or rainy day fund? GET IT? This is not a one-way lifestyle where I do all the giving and you receive.
Because I do and have always taken care of Myself, I am not out here seeking anyone to support Me.
I maintain My household, House, Yard, Car, financial affairs all by Myself.
Sometimes a Dominant needs go far beyond what the average person imagines.
I will just leave it at that.... I am a strong Texas Republican Catholic!!! Oh? your Mother never warned you about Catholic Girls? Imagine it packed as a Sexual Woman???? ~LOL!~
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Normally this time of year, late Summer..when it is SOOOOOOOO HOT here in "da South," I get what I call My BILLY IDOL haircut. But not this summer. With temperatures ranging in the upper 90's for our lows.. to 104-105* during the afternoons, I got My very first GUY FIERI haircut. For those of you who do not know this look, Guy hosts the food networks: Diners, Drive-ins, and Dives. In Essence, I have a little boy hair cut. I am loving this look. Damn.. you guys have it so lucky. No muss, no fuss, just shower and WHAM!
Keeping the top a little longer, I am still able to spike it, or have the Dennis the Menace comb over. See photos number 1 and 5.
It remains delicate enough that I still retain My femininity. In short (pun intended) a look I pull off quite nicely I am told. I am the type of Woman who does not need, long hair, long nails, specific body parts, to make Me feel sensual, sexual, or define the woman I am. Femininity, Sexuality, Sensuality to Me.. are attitudes. It is something you either feel or don't. So like it or not.. For Me... The little boy look is in. |
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Spent a very peaceful (Breezy) Sunday morning with KatDallas (Lady Katherine) sharing cafe`and Buttermilk Cake Donuts, as Summer bears down upon us here in the South! She suggested I locate a yard slave to play with outdoors. The problem seems to be: 1) I can do any work required much better than them. 2) Very FEW are interested in producing work. 3) Few locals are real! And if they are, they mistakenly ASSUME you are going to have sexual intercourse with them! Right.. I keep forgetting I AM SUPPOSED to DO what they want! Sheesh! *smacks head for poor memory*
I will finish My brick patio out under the Tree for My Chimina and sit out in the evening enjoying the stillness and smell of burning pinion wood. |
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Someone asked Me last year: What was My thoughts about individuals wearing Military cammy's jumpsuits or uniforms. I gave very much the same answer that you will read as it was printed and posted on Military Logs. Well, last week, one contestant in particular made a fashion statement during his performance on American Idol that caught the attention of the military community. Elijah Liu, who was voted off the show the following night, wore a Marine Corps jacket with Lance Corporal chevrons on the sleeves. Liu’s outfit choice was the topic of conversation on this Marine Corps Recruit Depot – Parris IslanD Facebook page
, where nearly 250 comments were left, mostly from people expressing their outrage over the Idol contestant’s disrespect for the uniform. There was also chatter on the American Idol discussion board
, as well as on our own SpouseBuzz Facebook page
, in which commenters make it quite clear that wearing a military uniform when not in the military is unacceptable. It really is disrespectful to those who are serving our country. Especially in this day and age. But dont get Me started on this subject because we always have liberal assholes who take the Military for granted and disrespect them. YET.. HELLO.. They want all the Adsvantages of an American. Somehow it never occures to them there has been and always will be someones life and limb on the line protecting their right to continue to be that asshole. ~ Just sayin'...
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Being a private pilot, I found the following story quite sad..and yet so damn funny.
WOOOOOPS!
This brand spanking new Airbus 340-600, the largest passenger airplane ever built, sits just outside its hangar in Toulouse, France without a single hour of airtime.
Enter the Arab flight crew of Abu Dhabi Aircraft Technologies (ADAT) to conduct pre-delivery tests on the ground, such as engine run-ups, prior to delivery to Etihad Airways in Abu Dhabi .
The ADAT crew taxied the A340-600 to the run-up area.
Then they took all four engines to take-off power with a virtually empty aircraft. Not having read the run-up manuals, they had no clue just how light an empty A340-600 really is.
The take-off warning horn was blaring away in the cockpit because they had all 4 engines at full power. The aircraft computers thought they were trying to take off, but it had not been configured properly (flaps/slats, etc.)
Then one of the ADAT crew decided to pull the circuit breaker on the Ground Proximity Sensor to silence the alarm. This fools the aircraft into thinking it is in the air. The computers automatically released all the brakes and set the aircraft rocketing forward.
The ADAT crew had no idea that this is a safety feature so that pilots can't land with the brakes on.
Not one member of the seven-man Arab crew was smart enough to throttle back the engines from their max power setting, so the $200 million brand-new aircraft crashed into a blast barrier, totalling it.
The extent of injuries to the crew is unknown due to the news blackout in the major media in France and elsewhere. Because........Coverage of the story was deemed insulting to Muslim Arabs.
Finally, the photos are starting to leak out.
One French Airbus: $200 million dollars
Untrained Arab Flight Crew: $300,000 Yearly Salary
Unread Operating Manual: $300
Aircraft meets retaining wall and the wall wins.
PRICELESS!!!
"And that's why God gave them camels "!
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In The DFW Area? Want To Meet REAL Lifestyle People in a Safe Enviorment?
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A vanilla event for Kinky People, held in a Family Restaurant!
VANILLA DRESS REQUIRED.
Come visit with friends!Find Me and Introduce yourself or send Me a email telling Me you will be attending.
You will recognize Me by the short Platinum hair. (Spiked or not)
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Plan ahead and make a weekend of it.
you get your invitation to the Dungeon at this munch. Must have invite and $15 to enter Dungeon.
The next night in the Dungeon is the NEAAL Group, which is diverse. you can look it up and join it on (NEAAL) It stands for North East Area Alternative Lifestyle. As a member of the group (join on line) your entrance fee is $15.00.
TIME: 7:00 PM TILL 2:00 AM
PLACE: SANCTUARY DALLAS
BRING: Something to eat and share. Go to a local grocery store and pick something up. Cookies, a cake, cheese tray, fruit tray. Stop by KFC or any fast food. It's easy. Especially if you donot cook or are from Out Of Town.
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THIS FOLLOWING IS NOT LIFESTYLE RELATED:
ATTENTION: READ AND SHARE!
PLEASE READ. WILL NOT HURT TO COPY/PASTE AND FORWARD.
Kids are putting Drano, tin foil, and a little water in plastic drink bottles
and capping it up - leaving it on lawns, in mail boxes, in gardens, on
driveways etc. just waiting for you to pick it ...up intending to put it in the
rubbish, but you'll never make it!!!
If the bottle is picked up, and the bottle is shaken even just a little - in
about 30 seconds or less it builds up enough gas which then explodes with
enough force to remove some your extremities. The liquid that comes out is
boiling hot as well.
Don't pick up any plastic bottles that may be lying in your yards or in the
gutter, etc.
Pay attention to this. A plastic bottle with a cap. A little Drano. A little
water. A small piece of foil.
Disturb it by moving it; and BOOM!!
No fingers left and other serious effects to your face, eyes, etc.
Please ensure that everyone that may not have email access are also informed
of this. ESPECIALLY YOUR FAMILY AND LOVED ONES.
It only takes a mnute to inform someone.
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Many think I am a BITCH! That I do a lot of Bitching...
I call it Verbal Release Therapy. It is all about perspective.
Who IS in charge here? HELLO!
I have been affiliated with the Military in one form or another: ALL MY LIFE!
So it is not withstanding when I talk to so called (subs) *hic that claim to be liberal, and go so far as to state: I have never served, will never serve, and don't support those who do. Honestly, this type of individual makes Me want to puke.
They want the freedom to enjoy their life and pleasures, so they can enjoy that life of freedom...without the responsibility of giving anything back.
Nor do they seem appreciative of thousand of others who give, often in many cases; lose the ability to cope, sometimes loss of limb and even their own lives.
Because they believe in Our Country. They fight for all of our FREEDOM.
Think about this a minute: Basically you are warm, have shelter from the elements of Mother Nature (now there is a Bitch but that is another story)
You have food, have access to eat and drink anything you want, any time you want and can afford. You can elect to stay warm or cool whatever the need might be.
You are blessed with the freedom of CHOICE!
Being able to READ about those who serve, pushing a button in support of and attesting that you personally support our troops, is far different than being conscience of those living in your neighborhood, community, or area who are serving.
These include family members left behind. It might be their husbands, wives, children, mothers or fathers.
When a man or woman serves our country, THEIR family is there paying the price also.
Sadly, so few of you will actually do this.. yet I encourage you to find these families in your community or area.
Perhaps get your church or a local organization involved if you are not one to do things alone.
Stop by, introduce yourself.
You single submissive males have a female friend somewhere that you can drag along.
Thank them for their family members service and their support.
Ask: What may I do to help?
Many times a loved one left behind with children, needs something minor repaired but cannot afford to have it fixed.
Sometimes they have a child with special needs, so they do not have time to clean house, polish furniture or straighten the garage, etc.
They might need help in moving furniture around. Painting.
Maybe the family DOG needs a bath or a walkie...
Maybe something as simple as shoveling a walk or driveway if you reside in a snow area during winter.. Or help with the lawn in summer.
Perhaps give the family vehicle the once over for a fluid check and top off, which includes tire pressure. Keeping that family safe.
There are a 1,001 things you could do to be of SERVICE.
Kindly remember that 80% of our Militaries are enlisted personal.
This means most according to our own Government Guidelines exist in the poverty level. Therefore do not have the extra funds to pay for all the extras that come into our lives on a daily basis.
GIFTS you might give:
LOWES $10.00 : An American Flag and mounting bracket. Install it.
Walmart Ribbon Section $3.00: A Large YELLOW RIBBON for a Tree or front Porch
Local Florist charges $5.00 for a 5 YD Ribbon
$25-$30: A Gift Card for a Manicure & Pedicure. They have the salons in every Walmart store. Give a wife the gift of being pampered.
Local Nail Salons run Specials. Go in and talk to the Salon people and purchase one.
A GIFT BASKET: with all sorts of goodies in it.
Be Creative. Cut out a Circle and put: ROUND TUIT on it with your first name and phone number to be called when they have something that needs to be done or they require help with.
Is there a NATIONAL GUARD UNIT in your area? Are they or any members currently deployed? Reach out to that unit. ASK what can I do to help?
We here in the Dallas-Ft Worth area have USO's, We have a joint base that deploys units to both Iran and Afghanistan. We each (City) have National Guard Units that deploy.
There is not ANY excuse for your lack of compassion or involvement on some level, even for a one time offering.
It costs less than your cup of Starbucks coffee or that meal you and your friends are going to go out and have.
Lastly, if you are not incline to help your fellow man because it is too much effort to locate these people:
Find your local USO. There is always one at local Major Airports. Call them.
Donate baked goods.
Go to Dollar Tree and purchase a box of tea bags, hot chocolate, a bag or container of ground coffee, non dairy milk, milk that can be stored on shelves, sugar, sugar substitute.
Donate: Paper goods (plates, paper towels, napkins, toilet paper, cups, plastic glasses, eating utensils)
Inquire into the organizations needs.
Get others involved to help you. You will be surprised how many major companies and organizations are looking for things to get employees involved in and support.
Only in supporting one another as humans, by caring, reaching out, can we ever survive as a nation and as GOD wanted us to treat one another.
"DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UPON YOU."
Because when you do, that warm wonderful feeling inside you have, is being satisfied with yourself as a human. Knowing in your own small way, you helped support.
You made a difference. You cared.
you are a compassionate male who will make a difference in someone else's life and the type of man I would like to befriend. 
Even if you do not agree with the War, be aware you are only free to live your life because of others. Kindly watch:
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Tall men excite and calm Me. 6'4" - 6'5". They cause My body to produce oxytocin.
What is that you ask?
Well...Oxytocin is a naturally occurring neurochemical,(sometimes called a neuropeptide or a neurotransmitter, produced in the hypothalamus deep in the mid-brain) that acts like a hormone in our bodies, meaning it crosses the blood-brain barrier and circulates in the blood steam as well as in the brain, to regulate the arousal level of our nervous system.
Oxytocin is released through touch, warmth, and affectionate connection. Classic examples of connections that release oxytocin are breastfeeding and orgasm, both of which can generate a blissful, other-worldly sense of contentment, “everything is all right.”
But any warm, loving, touch can release oxytocin – hugs, snuggles, holding hands, partner dancing, massage and body work. Neuroscience has confirmed, because of how our brains process information, even thinking about someone who loves us or someone we deeply care for is enough to activate the release of oxytocin in the brain. Which is very good news as we learn to use the relax and repair quality of oxytocin to re-pair and heal old relational wounds with new experiences of safe and affectionate connection. |
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So tired from Baking. A long day in the kitchen. I do like giving gifts of baked goods to neighbors and friends. As well I gave cupcakes to the ladies at the Post Office who wait on Me throughout the year. My Postal Carrier will find his tray of baked goodies in the Mail box on Monday. I will be delivering to both of My local Fire Departments on Tuesday. It is nice to let others know they are appreciated, even if it is their job.
I will do one last delivery to the USO out at DFW Airport, for the troops passing thru and spending time there waiting on their flights.
Needing a break, I cleaned up the kitched and started the dish washer after I iced the last Tripple Chocolate Fudge Cake.
I headed to My home office to update a few computer programs and check My mail. While there, KYLER discovered and noticed for the first time .. My Computer Sound system woofer sitting on the floor under the Library table. I was listening to: (wait for it) The Moody Blues; Tuesday Afternoon. I realize that many of you reading this will not even know WHO the Moody Blues are, let alone the song. Let Me assure you there is a great amount of Base in that song. A really driving beat. I look down and KYLER has thrown his little 4 pound body over the Dell Woofer! He is just lying there being vibrated to the beat of the Music. *shaking My head* all I can do is laugh. Wonder if that is considered ANIMAL ABUSE?? ~LOL~ Bet it feel to him much like when your washing machine spin cycle is out of balance and you put your body weight on the machine to keep it from dancing across the laundry room floor!!! ~laughs~ |
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The TREE is up and Stockings hung. Baking has started, which is always fun. Many of you I have chatted with thru the years, wait for My Christmas Stories. They are very real. Whether you think they are funny or not..depends on how you view life. If the Glass is half full.. they are funny.. If not.. Oh well.. Guess you will get Coal from Santa this year!
Many of you have read the story or watched the film of: How The Grinch Stole Christmas.
Yet I bet few of you are aware of the Christmas Bandit named: Kyler!
Now Kyler, from all appearances, seems to be a soft, loving, well mannered Miniature Pincher.
The reality that has come to light the last few days is, Kyler is in fact the Christmas Bandit!
All of a sudden what I assumed were little isolated incidences, have finally formed a complete picture. And it doesn't look promising folks.
It started with the placement of my tiny Christmas Village. The tiny buildings, trees, people, objects. Putting each item in a special place so it told a story.
Over on the snow covered hill, with a pond of ice skaters, some boys doing downhill sledding, some doing cross country skiing and others building a snowman. There are trees all around along with 2 wooden logs.
One day I walked out and found the wooden logs out on the floor. I know I didn't do it, so I found Kyler skulking around. I chastised him and put the logs back. This went on for several days, till I unpacked My Christmas Toys and gave him the Taco Bell Dog in a Christmas Stocking Cap. This seemed to pacify him. Every once in a while I would find an ornament under the tree. I simply assumed since My Tree revolves, that it got knocked off.
Among my Christmas ornaments I have some 3 dimensional Reindeer made from wool and felt.
Oddly enough I found one of them on the floor by the coffee table. I picked it up and returned it to the tree. I assumed I must have had it hanging too low down and it caught on the window sill as the Tree turned. I located a branch higher up to hang the Ray-Me-No from.
Earlier this week, My neighbor Vickie brought over some Christmas cookies and a gift.
Small and soft, tied with jute string, I placed the little package under the Tree.
Several times I "thought" it had been moved. Yet duly noted it was still under the Tree.
I thought perhaps Kyler had hit it and moved it during his many "LAP" runs thru the house.
Yesterday, a male sub stopped by on his way home from the Airport. He had been in NYC this last week. Inspecting the Tree and in awe of it's light changing abilities and movement, he asked: "so the dog doesn't bother it?'
As I am responding I am looking at the Tree and notice: The present is GONE!!!! O_M_G!
I drop to my knees and look under the Settee. There it is big as day. Lying there alone with the jute bow untied.
I called Kyler to forefront, showed it to him and scolded him, placing it back under the Tree.
Taco Bell Dog or Blue Man in his mouth running around the house for the rest of the day and evening. The boy seems to finally caught on to leave stuff alone... Or so I thought.
Today, I find the Reindeer once again on the floor. Now I know I am not crazy.
Taking it to the Tree, I place it once again on a branch but much higher up.
I return to the kitchen to start my Christmas baking.
As I am assembling the needed items to make Chocolate Fudge, I hear this little sound coming from the living room. It is a faint sound of total frustration.
I walk to the opening of the kitchen and look into the living room and look around for Kyler.
Nowhere to be seen. The noise comes again. I look in the direction of the Christmas Tree and I don't see him.. but something catches my eye.. I bend over and look THRU the Tree to the front window it is sitting in the middle of.
There on the window sill.. just a foot above the floor.. standing on his hind legs jumping up in the air.. is KYLER trying to get to the damn Reindeer off the Tree.
I stood there for a few seconds, just watching to see how determined he was to get that ornament.
When I called his name as if I were looking for him and didn't know where he was.. He stood very still, leaning his front paws into the tree but still on his hind legs.
I called again.
Now I know this guy is thinking: "OH SHIT!"
I go back in the kitchen and peek out... Slowly all fours come down on the sill... He slinks off the sill to under the TREE.. Runs off to the Left bypassing the front door.. around the Settee..Then enters the Living Room ..AS IF he had come from down the Hall...
All I could do was laugh. This IS like having a child again at Christmas.
I guess MOST of the time he does fool Me.. But now I know his game, Watson..
I have placed him on WANTED POSTERS. So BEWARE.
If KYLER comes to visit you.. watch your Tree and your presents!
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This morning I spent oiling all the wood furniture in my living room. Moving some things around to accommodate the Christmas Tree.
I will spend the weekend hanging the outside Christmas Lights while I have good weather. But leary because at my age.. ladders and I do not get along. Haven't for years!
Like the Christmas I waited for My son to show up and sting the lights on my condo over on Preston/Frankfort.
Finally getting tired of waiting (1 week) I decided to do it myself....During the climb up,
My feet slipped and my body went thru the rungs.. the ladder fell from the 2 story roof and there I stood planted in a 4 foot Beaufort Holly bush, with a 20 ft. metal ladder around my Hips!!! HA! Try getting out of that situation gracefully..
Or the night I let my poodle out the front door to go out for his last late night pee. I'm standing there and my neighbor walks past. She stops to chat a minute. A gust of wind yanks the door out of my hands and slams it shut. LOCKED! Ahhhhhh
It is 47*, I am standing outside in an ankle length sheer nightgown and of course NO PANTIES, because I was going to bed!
ALL Doors and windows downstairs are LOCKED!
My neighbor assures me she has a 6 ft ladder I can use.
This is when I learned ALL LAWYERS ARE LIARS and tend to exaggerate the truth. Being about 4 foot 10 inches, she brings back a 5 foot wooden ladder that is rickety and barley able to stand up.
I take it to the fenced in patio area..stand it up.. climb up it.. and have to stand on the flat top part on My tip toes. This allows me to propel my body weight upward catching the overhang of the second story roof. As I am lying prone on the roof from the waist up..a strong gust of wind comes once more to send my gown over my head. This is when my neighbor exits because the moon she was seeing was not the only one up in the sky!
I want you to know.. I had to get my knee up..the pull my body weight along the roof on a 45* angle to my bedroom window some 20 feet away. By the time I got to the window the shingles had eaten up my skin!!! But HEY! I got the window up crawled over the sill and fell inside.
What did I learn?
1. Keep a key hidden outside!
2. Never trust a Lawyer
3. Stay away from Ladders
Ya'll have a good one.. I have to get out my ladder now.. ~LOL~
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I am not one who follows or even bothers to locate to read My Horoscope. It is always too much trouble because I am two signs, being born in the cusp. When a good friend emailed Me these today, I had to laugh because unfortunately.. It has Me NAILED to a T!
LEO - The Lion (July 23 to August 22)
Great talker. Attractive and passionate. Laid back. Usually happy but when unhappy tend to be grouchy and childish. A Leo's problem becomes everyone's problem. Most Leos are very predictable and tend to be monotonous. Knows how to have fun. Is really good at almost anything. Great kisser. Very predictable. Outgoing. Down to earth. Addictive. Attractive. Loud. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Not one to mess with. Rare to find.
VIRGO - The One that Waits (August 23 to September 22)
Dominant in relationships. Someone loves them right now. Always wants the last word. Caring. Smart. Loud. Loyal. Easy to talk to. Everything you ever wanted. Easy to please. A pushover. Loves to gamble and take chances. Needs to have the last say in everything. They think they know everything and usually do. Respectful to others but you will quickly lose their respect if you do something untrustworthy towards them and never regain respect. They do not forgive and never forget. The one and only.
Sound like anyone you want to cross or mess with?? ~LOL~ |
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If you want to change the world.. Love a woman
If you want to change the world.. love a woman-really love her.
Find the one who calls to your soul, who doesnt make sense.
Throw away your check list and put your ear to her heart and listen.
Hear the names, the prayers, the songs of every living thing-
every winged one, every furry and scaled one,
every underground and underwater one, every green and flowering one,
every not yet born and dying one
Hear their melancholy praises back to the One who gave them life.
If you havent heard your own name yet, you havent listened long enough.
If your eyes arent filled with tears, if you arent bowing at her feet,
you havent ever grieved having almost lost her.
If you want to change the world..love a woman-one woman
beyond yourself, beyond desire and reason,
beyond your male preferences for youth, beauty and variety
and all your superficial concepts of freedom.
We have given ourselves so many choices
we have forgotten that true liberation
comes from standing in the middle of the souls fire
and burning through our resistance to Love.
There is only one Goddess.
Look into Her eyes and see.. really see
if she is the one to bring the axe to your head.
If not, walk away. Right now.
Dont waste time trying.
Know that your decision has nothing to do with her
because ultimately its not with who, but when we choose to surrender.
If you want to change the world... love a woman.
Love her for life-beyond your fear of death,
beyond your fear of being manipulated
by the Mother inside your head.
Dont tell her youre willing to die for her.
Say youre willing to LIVE with her,
plant trees with her and watch them grow.
Be her hero by telling her how beautiful she is in her vulnerable majesty,
by helping her to remember every day that she IS Goddess
through your adoration and devotion.
If you want to change the world... love a woman
in all her faces, through all her seasons
and she will heal you of your schizophrenia..
your double-mindedness and half-heartedness
which keeps your Spirit and body separate..
which keeps you alone and always looking outside your Self
for something to make your life worth living.
There will always be another woman.
Soon the new shiny one will become the old dull one
and youll grow restless again, trading in women like cars,
trading in the Goddess for the latest object of your desire.
Man doesnt need any more choices.
What man needs is Woman, the Way of the Feminine,
of Patience and Compassion, non-seeking, non-doing,
of breathing in one place and sinking deep intertwining roots
strong enough to hold the Earth together
while she shakes off the cement and steel from her skin.
If you want to change the world... love a woman, just one woman .
Love and protect her as if she is the last holy vessel.
Love her through her fear of abandonment
which she has been holding for all of humanity.
No, the wound is not hers to heal alone.
No, she is not weak in her codependence.
If you want to change the world... love a woman
all the way through until she believes you,
until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion,
her wildness have returned to her until she is a force of love more powerful
than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her.
If you want to change the world,
lay down your causes, your guns and protest signs.
Lay down your inner war, your righteous anger and love a woman
beyond all of your striving for greatness,
beyond your tenacious quest for enlightenment.
The holy grail stands before you if you would only take her in your arms
and let go of searching for something beyond this intimacy.
What if peace is a dream which can only be re-membered
through the heart of Woman?
What if a mans love for Woman, the Way of the Feminine
is the key to opening Her heart?
If you want to change the world... love a woman
to the depths of your shadow,
to the highest reaches of your Being,
back to the Garden where you first met her,
to the gateway of the rainbow realm
where you walk through together as Light as One,
to the point of no return,
to the ends and the beginning of a new Earth.
by LISA CITORE on AUGUST 8, 2008
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zeEFHJFUbEg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2ReqwUFhrI&feature=player_embedded
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Do you understand?
RL DOMINA SEEKS RL LTR M/s TPE CNC ANR NOTWITHSTANDING.. |
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your revelation and education
I have to laugh, but at the same time I become highly offended by some of the so called (subs/slaves) THINKING AND ASSUMPTIONS about a Dominant and Her actions within the lifestyle.
I am not sure what type of women you have been talking to, playing with or serving.. But I assure you that you are not comparing Apples To Apples.
I am an educated woman with class, who has MORALS.
NOT the redneck slut that calls herself a Domme..but is simply trailer park white trash using the lifestyle to get fucked!
I had someone ask Me:
sub: if I came to you what would I be?
I replied honestly: I am not sure because I do not know you.
sub: Well, wouldn't i take care of your sexual needs?
ME: I said I do not know you. What makes you think I will have sex with you?
sub: Well.. arent you a Dominant?
ME: Yes, what has that got to do with anything?
sub: well.. arent you on this website?
ME: Oh LORD!
Do you men NOT FU#*@%$ get it? Being on an Adult Site does not mean ALL of us are going to have sex or sexual encounters with someone we do not know. That goes for Dominant, sub, slave, switch, top, bottom. Not everyone is a hedonist. Not everyone is a swinger. Just like.. not every male desires to suck a cock.. Not every woman desires to spread her legs for just anyone. Some of us (male and female alike) do have morals and family values we were raised with.
W/we care about our physical health. W/we are selective.
If the male Dominants make these type of errors in judgment about female subs, its not any wonder you are still seeking.
Hence, the male who claims to be educated, but apparently is missing the brain cell called: common sense, because he assumes I am here looking for anyone who will kneel before MY HIGH ALTER (My Pussy) and My legs will miraculously spread to be serviced.. Oh Really? PUKE!
The old Me would have reamed your ass, and as we pilots say, "Gone High And To The Right!"
Instead I opted to take a deep breath and ignore your stupid ass. Because no amount of explaining will ever make you get it. No amount of talking will ever convince you, some of us here are serious in our quest to find our match, lover, friend, confidant, playmate, sub, slave, dominant, Master, Mistress, Lady etc.
That individual that excites us mentally and physically. They touch us spiritually.. and W/we can never get enough of one another. They makes us laugh, smile, can shift our hard limits.. create deep sexual feelings and desires within us.. for them alone!
TRUST ME.. a total stranger is not going to do it for Me, right out of the chute. I want to know something about that person. I want into them MENTALLY. I want to know what makes him tick, how he thinks. What his limitations, his hard limits, his experience, his preference of pain. What he is willing to learn. How much he is willing to give, What he will contribute to the relationship IF selected. How is he about common courtesy? Building a bond of trust?
ALL PEOPLE HAVE VALUE! Treat them as such or leave them alone.
I will not jump into Domme mode and start bossing you around. YOU are not mine. I do not assume and I do not want on line internet submission. BE REAL, be realistic in your expectations.
W/we are not equals in My mind. Not in this life or the next. Not even in a vanilla situation.
For I will always make sure that under your outter street wear there WILL BE something to constantly remind you .. WHO OWNS those balls.. That cock.. Who is in charge of the relationship at all times!
If you cannot think this way.. Do not desire someone to take total charge of you mentally, physically.. as well as psychologically.. Kindly do not try to enter My life. Just stay away from Me. NEVER ASSUME when it comes to Me.. U/us.. or any possible relationship.
Those who have come to know Me, understand I am quite outspoken. I will always give you My thoughts, My opinion and tell you how I want things. I dont hint. I tell, I guide, I expect.. but not demand.
Again, if you cannot meet or are not willing to meet My expectations of you, do not waste My time.
I have had men tell Me they try to read between the lines of My profile.
Dummy, there is not any between the lines. My profile is honest, straight forward and TELLS any interested male what I seek, what I expect. What I want. I do not want an ALMOST..or a doormat.
I am an intelligent, educated, extremely sensual, mature Dominant, with a very high libido (with the right person) that has a slight bite and a southern drawl.
To Those Male Dominants that approach Me.. I am NOT A switch. I will not serve you. I am not interested in how great you think you are.. what you have or who the hell you know. Tell it to someone who cares. You are not impressing Me nor becomming friends with Me.
God jokingly gave you a cock, but I will put you in your place and lock that tiny cock up!
I am not on this site because I am desperate. GOT IT? I am a FEMALE. I have the Gold, so I make the Rules. I can get laid, fucked, serviced, whatever you want to call it.. any time I am in the mood and feel like it. Trust Me.. It takes a very SPECIAL MALE to push that button IN Me. The button markd: DESIRE
As the saying goes: "IF YOU WANT MY BODY, FIRST YOU MUST TOUCH MY MIND."
It all starts in the brain subbies. The brain is the largest sex organ in the human body.
You may be a sub. Yet not a sub to just anyone or everyone.. you will only be a slave to Me.
I want your surrender.
Now you know..
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Life is not all about Dom/me, sub, slave, whatever. There are times when a woman, simply needs to be a woman when responding to the attentions of a man.
To open like that tight rose bud responding to a light rain in the early morning dawn. The unfurling.. letting go as he lightly touches, kisses, drives you wild with lust and passion. ~DommeMaggie~
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What An Inconsiderate BITCH!
OK so you see the name of My new post. Inconsiderate Bitch!
Wow guess I am.. After many years in the lifestyle, I note some THINGS never change.
For you newbies.. it is ATTITUDE.
Sadly, many men approach Me and have the DO ME attitude. I want you to do this.. I want you to do that. I want to submit to you. I want you to FILL_ IN_ THE_ BLANK!
Sorry dear.. when you start that crap, and it is crap, I consider it topping from the bottom and nothing I am remotely interested in. I DO NOT play with Tops, bottoms or switches. UNDERSTAND? Nope, NADA, NEVAH! The aforementioned do not give nor want psychological control. Whereas a sub, slave, Dominant do want, desire and require it. I am a Dominant. Hello!
For all you little heathens that do not understand how this works, let Me clue you in.. K?
Why isn't your VANILLA relationship working? Oh.. she doesn't understand your needs or desires, huh?
So you hide them. Now you have decided to quit lying to yourself and find someone who does understand. But.. you know what? you dont do a damn thing to get Her attention. Oh .. you look at Her profile. Whoopee. That is not a calling card.
The ratio for Female Dominant to male sub is significantly high. I would guess 10-1. If you want a REAL Dominant Vs a REEL Dominant (see journal posting for that one) I would have to say I assume the numbers then become lopsided and astronomically out of your favor. So what is one to do. Yo! In the Old Days before all the newbies started bastardizing the lifestyle.. W/we use to have what are called PETITIONS. A petition was in short a letter of introduction to a Dominant. Telling who you are, what you are interested in, what you are willing to do, etc.
Its funny that any man KNOWS if he wants to date a vanilla woman.. he takes her out. He will take her to dinner. Possibly a Movie, whatever she wants to do to be entertained. Yet, they never consider doing this for the most important woman of their life. The Dominant.
Hello boys.. the last time I looked.. or allowed anyone else to look, I am a natural born female with curves, a brain, all the right elements to drive this man wild and send him to sub heaven. My understanding, knowledge, skill, and acceptance of the lifestyle, practiced as a LIFESTYLER, Vs a Kinkster, hedonist or Kinkster is above and beyond reproach. That said, for whatever unknown reason.. YALL do not see that you need to WOO.. FLIRT, Compliment to get HER attention. Show Her WHY She should consider YOU above all others. Invite Her out for Dinner. Take Her flowers. Maybe Her favorite Perfume. Heck, I have service subs who really want nothing from Me but to clean or help out around My house that treat Me better than most male subs or slaves that are interested.
WHAT is it you do not understand about Southern Women? Besides having sexy accents, we know how to treat men. We always give with one hand and take back with the other. As a Dominant, I have the right and want to be treated lovingly, kindly, worshiped, adored, pampered, spoiled and YES.. that L word. Trust Me.. treat Me like that Queen.. and you will be treated the same in return. Even those who prefer harsh treatment get what they want. Humiliation in public? No problem... you just need to know HOW to treat Her.. and in this case.. ME! Wine Me, Dine Me, Woo Me. I am well worth the effort! Not that I am into it.. But take Me shopping or bring Me something nice. Gift Card? That works.
Now I hear all you cheap bastards saying: "Oh She just wants us to support Her." Not so. What I want is the same respect and consideration you give to vanilla women who do not meet your damn needs!
I can sit across a dinner table from you and have you WANTING to spoon feed Me. Why? That is for you to find out.
Lastly..and I do mean LASTLY.. this is for all the DUMMIES that do not get it. I function very effectively in 3 different realms.
MY everyday Life: As a Lifestyle Dominant behind closed doors or in My BDSM Community.
My Vanilla Community: Where I give as a volunteer to upstanding organizations, as well as My neighborhood, neighbors and NON Lifestyle friends.
My Work Life: Yes, I am and have been a PRO DOMME since 1995. I do not bring My pro work into any of My lifestyles, vanilla or BDSM. It is kept separate. As I am sure you DO NOT bring your work life into your BDSM world. So stop assuming I am seeking you out as a client. I dont have to go out seeking clients. I am highly selective of WHOM I allow to spend time with Me as a Pro. What makes you think I would be on here like so many others who just cant make it on their own.. and have to come here drumming up business like some ambulance chaser?
For those of you that have yet to figure it out.. MATURE, EXPERIENCED, PRO DOMMES have all the clients they want because they have experience and KNOW what they are doing. HELLO.. I maintain a website for that!
On Collarme or , those are My Private profiles to:
(1) stay in touch with friends I already have
(2) Meet New friends
(3) Hopefully find the slave (last love of My life) I desire to finish out My life with.
So if you cant get this straight, I donot need you around or in My life.
NEVER assume when it comes to Me or My life. Got it?
Treat Me like the Lady I am.. and you will be treated kindly, respectfully in return.
I am a mature Southern Dominant Woman. I live My life with honor, integrity, loyalty, mutual respect, expressing OPEN communication. I have compassion, empathy and a deep passion for life. Discover Me. Lets just try a petition or invitation out and see what happens. Ya nevah know. lightening could strike! ~laughs~
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..you have to understand My humor..BUT:
Do you know how bad I am starting to HATE hot weather? Next week is forecast to be in the tripple digits. EGADS!!! I dont know about the rest of you folks but given the options of jacking UP my water bill to keep everything alive Vs brown and dead (fire fodder) or start doing that naked rain dance out in the yard late at night.... I am going for the dance! ~LOL~ |
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IF you can read and UNDERSTAND this .. W/we might just get along!
I got My usual Summer "Billy Idol" Haircut. Except this year, I did it being Edgar Winter "WHITE!" ~laughs~
To the femdom who wrote about her "bitch boi" Answer: Darlin' since he is playing behind his wifes back=i.e. cheating on her, What makes you assume he will show any loyalty to you? By definition a bitch is much like; anyone, any place, any time, any way, any thing! Not a whore. Get your expressions straight. A whore is a prostitute and charges a FEE.
NEXT: Check the laws in YOUR State. Here in Texas, a Spouse can file and have a 3rd party served, named and sued for alienation of affection while they file adultry against the spouse. * I am not attempting to teach or practice Law just relaying information on a case presently in action here in Texas where the spouse *WIFE* learned of her husbands indiscretions playing with a Mistress in the Alternative Lifestyle of BDSM* Hope this helped. |
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Its THAT Time again... The 4th of July Rant.. so pay heed !!
All too often I either read this or get it in an email:
I am a married submissive male who has been out of the lifestyle... "My wife is vanilla and has no interest in participating or even communicating about it. I am not seeking sex, but have found that greatly miss serving! I am not seeking sex nor to cheat on my wife. I love her and we have a great sex life!"
First and foremost, if your wife has not given you permission to be out here and you are hiding it.. Sex or no sex, YOU ARE CHEATING! YOU are breaking the BOND OF TRUST that woman has made with you when she said "I DO!"
Secondly: If you KNEW you were kinky and married a totally vanilla woman.. WTF were you thinking?
Just sayin'.
Cause now you are running around like some bitch, trying to get your needs met AWAY from home and the woman you vowed to love, honor, and cherrish. Just slink back into your man cave and be a good little boy. Because without her permission or at least a negotiated agreement allowing you to play, you will PAY DEARLY in $$$$ when you are caught and she files for a divorce, taking the car, house, boat, kids and any bonds the weekend place and half your 401K. Then dont be surprised if your best friend is not in there allowing her to cry on his shoulder about what a pervert you are.
Judges, especially SOUTHERN Judges in the Bible Belt, do not think kindly of men playing in the alternative lifestyle. (Even tho' many of them also play) Your mistake was getting caught (tiger..john.. whatever your name is)
Some of you are stupid enough and desperate enough to submit to the first woman who shows interest.
Gosh almighty.. Lucky you. Till she gets pissed and tells your wife, your parents, your boss, your clergyman and anyone else who might know you and want to hear the dirt...It happens time and time again. Always Verify and Validate.
Wake up, wise up.. tell her you are interested and going to seek information and training. Negotiate whatever you have to ..to get permission. Most vanilla woman do not want you out here screwing anyone else..Female or male. So there is your negotiating point. Play it safe. Get permission. If you can not get permission, be smart enough to locate someone out of state and as far away from your wife as possible.
Lastly.. Should you wish to indulge in the #1 Male fantasy and suck cock, you better pray your wife does not find out. Cause if you think she would have a hard time accepting you serving another woman.. Wait till she finds out that. Some things a wife, can not over look or forgive! Right, Kelly Trovlta?
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I will be in NORTH CAROLINA later this month. Anyone interested in meeting? Possibly attending the Dungeon together? Send Me an email. |
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Oh those lazy Dog Days of Summer have arrived in Texas.. time to kick it up a notch. Gone is the Auburn hair color of spring to be replaced with a light Ash Blonde to go with My now tan skin and blue eyes.
Porch swings, lounging in the Hammock, gentle breezes and Sweet Southern Iced Tea. I always have one project or another going on around here.
Those who wish to serve in a service sub capacity are always welcome to petition. Time granted depending on the project and your willingness to work along side of Me. I do not ask anyone to do anything I personally would not do. Nor do I sit on the sidelines delegating My authority or orders. The fact of the matter is.. I enjoy physical labor and sweating during the summer. However, I do not need someone here just taking up space, not willing to work. I AM NOT HERE.. to placate your wishes, indulge your deep dark fantasies or play you! If this is what you think, I sincerely suggest you move on to the next profile because you do not have the slightest comprehension of what a service sub does. As I have repeatedly stated, A service sub is NOT ABOUT SEX, SEXUAL ACTIVITY, or Doing the Ma'am. Hello player. A service sub wishes to be of HELP in some capacity to the Dominant, be they Male or Female, that will add pleasure, enjoyment and overall make the Dominants life better in some small way. This is THEIR kink.
Those of us who utilize service subs do appreciate the time, energy, talent and friendship they give and dedicate to us.
Do you enjoy cooking? Want to prepare and share a meal?
Do you bake? Warm cookies and cold milk are excellent to watch TV or a Movie with.
Do you like using oil to polish wood furniture? The smell of Orange oil in the house is divine.
Massage feet or do body massages?
Enjoy working outside? Be a good boy and you might be able to go topless to evade that farmer tan! Come help Me lay in a small brick patio for the Chiminia in the evening.. Not to mention the Oak Block hanging from the tree branch above to suspend good subbie from.. A water fight to cool down.
If you are dependable, honest, sincere, trustworthy, I would enjoy discussing some time together.
Gentlemen.. this is strictly about service and friendship. To think or try otherwise puts your ass in harms way of My foot or singletail! |
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"A woman is like a tea bag…you can’t tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water” -Eleanor Roosevelt |
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Thank you to those who have called to wish Me a Happy Mothers Day! All you little subbies that have experienced My warmth, My friendship, My wrath, My hand and the lucky few.. My Single tail! For you know.. I am a Mother! ~laughs~ |
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What are you doing as you search for the "Dominant" of your dreams?
Are you joining local groups to go out and meet individuals? Getting to know your local area Dominants?
Know who is REAL and who is REEL and faking it by pretending?
Once you meet that Dominant, are you asking for local community references? No? Why not?
Does your security not mean anything to you? I am sure Hers does to Her.
Why not make friends in your local BDSM community? If there is not one in your local area, look around and find one close to attend meetings or functions once a month. It could be a great getaway for you.
After all ... you work hard and deserve to "pamper" your self once in a while also. Right? Right!
I have talked to several local subs on collarme. One was kind enough to issue an invitation which I accepted.
Yesterday, I attended the Dallas Opera "La Traviata" with Bottom4Big. What a wonderful time. W/ we enjoyed the Opera as well as dinner at Texas Cattle Company afterwards. The conversation delightful. Many questions/answers during our conversations on the lifestyle AND our Vanilla selves.
I do believe I have persuaded Bottom to come out and meet other female Dominants in the area. It is always great to broaden your horizons, make friends, do things with people as we continue to search for that "perfect" fit. (Or as close to it) There is no written rule that W/we must each remain alone and not enjoy life as we search. Socializing with people who have the same interests is relaxing and allows us each to be ourselves.
Possessing My International Right seat drivers license, I was able to tell Bottom how to drive when he got us on the slot car track! One more mistake and I was going to make him relinquish the car!! ~LOL~
Driving apart, I had a very enjoyable time.. Even if it was NOT the Rangers game! ~lAUGHING~
WARNING: gentlemen.. If you cannot take the heat.. Do not take out Dominant women.
Put your best foot forward, take a deep breath and lets get to know one another. The worst that can happen is you make a "friend" in the lifestyle. The best that can happen is that you may have found someone to teach, train, or play with you.
I do remember speaking with someone about that ART Exhibit now going on at the Kimball.... Where did he go??? ~chuckle~
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It is always dangerous (for you) when I have too much time on My hands to really think.
I could be dreaming up ways to make you suffer. I could be tripping the light fantastic as I mentally administer pain to your little body because I want to hear the whimpers and whines. The begging, pleading and promising to be good forever and ever.
But Nooooooooooooooooo... What I was thinking about was the IGNORANCE I see typed in the profile of those who CLAIM to be a submissive or slave.
HOLY MOTHER OF GOD... Do you men not understand BDSM 101?
I seriously would like to reach thru this monitor and snatch a few of you up by the balls, (since I am into cbt) shake you, squeese them and slam you back in your seat.
gentlemen.. A switch is NOT A DOMINANT! A switch is a switch and that is all.
A switch guides the play sceen period. A switch is there for the play, period. In that capacity they are a TOP, not a Dominant.
A Dominant, sub, slave all require psychological control. The sub and slave to be controlled by the Dominant.
A Top, bottom and switch are NOT into psychological control but into the play aspect.
So if you are a REAL sub or slave, and you honestly seek that mental connection along with structured control.. do not put on your profile you seek a switch. Not only will you be disappointed in the outcome.. But you also offend real female dominants by putting switch in the same profile with us. It can only be read as either / or. "If i cant have this.. then i will settle for this!!!" you need to think about how your profile is perceived and interpreted by the real Domiant females you seek.
Lastly .. if you do seek a switch, you b etter know what kind of switch you want because there are 3 different kinds! If the switch doesn't know that and can't tell you what type they are.. Guess what? PLAYER!
KNOWLEDGE is power. Arm yourself or suffer the consequences!
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As we approach the FULL MOON.. I bring forth My Monthly rant.
We females especially Dominants are allowed to go bezzerk at least Once a month legally.
PMS? Who knows.. If I kill you, that's the legal defense I am standing on because every man KNOWS about it and has experienced it. Every woman goes through it, so I would be justified in her mind.
So here goes..
WTF is it with you men and facial hair? What defect or deformity are you hiding under all that crap?
Does it actually make you feel MORE attractive?
Or is it that many of you are just too damn lazy to shave?
Yeah Yeah, I have heard how much work it is to maintain a nice beard or mustache.
Honest to goodness.. spend that time taking it off and make yourself more huMAN than Ape.
The thought of a man wanting to kiss ANY part of Me or My body and rubbing that crap on My skin makes My flesh crawl and makes Me seriously want to vomit.
Maybe you guys should allow another man rub his facial hair all over you and see how it effects you.
If you like it.. HEY.. swing that way.
Just quit giving Me the creeps by even suggesting an interest in Me.. Especially when you have not taken the F!@* time to READ that I wrote Clean shaven. Now you know why Master Guy calls Me.. MEAN MAGGIE! |
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Thank you to those who diligently tried to reach Me when I vanished. Rest assured, I am now back among the living of this world.. NO thanks to Time Warner! ~laughs~ |
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There often comes a time when I hit a wall.
Saturday was that time for Me.
Having out of state company and entertaining for 3 days with very little sleep, capped off with 2 hours of heavy Sadistic play in the Dungeon till 1 AM. Lying down for a Power Refresh with a 4:30 AM wake-up for an Airport run. The UP for the entire day.
As evenihng approached and I was supposed to attend another Group Munch, My body refused to even think about Dungeon on this evening.
So I treated Myself to a lengthy shower with a loofa scrub from toes to head.. where upon a deep cleansing shampooo for My now short Red hair.
Followed by the 7 minute deluge from the Rain Forest Shower head.
Twelve inch circumfrence and 75 jets provide the most wonderful feeling as the water cascades down My sudzed up body.
What I want to know is... Where were you? Yes, you!
The slave I seek to be part of My life.
you should have been the one with the Loofa in your hands. Then on your knees..bathing, scrubbing, massaging My feet and the calfs of My legs.
Those magic fingers trailing over My skin to work out every little kink and tired muscle. your hands fluttering over My hips, bottom and back. Mmmmm. your fingers kneeding at the base of My spine and neck. A warm fluffy oversized Spa towel is what you wrap Me in as you slowly pat My body dry.
Body Lotion applied liberally all over My body...to keep Me soft to the touch.
The house temp set at a nice 72*, the ceiling fan on providing a slow sensual breeze. you turn back the covers and help Me into a mountain of satin sheets and pillows. Covering Me every so gently.
Hmmmm.. be a good boy and go take a hot shower. I want you squeeky clean before you get into My bed to spoon Me to sleep. Oh yes.. and don't forget to put your sperm stopper in. you are not allowed to drip or leak on Mistress's sheets.
Come on.. I am waiting. Waiting for you to contact Me and tell me. you know what to tell Me.
Be sure you are down on your knees, head bowed and whispering... with hope in your heart. |
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I surmise this post will bring them out in droves. But before you send that nasty letter, understand I am entitled to My personal opinions. Duly note if your email is nasty, I will post it along with your collarme name for other Domina to see.
Being a woman who is extremely cerebral, I am often moved beyond words (disgust being a good one) at the men who contact Me stating they are the "PERFECT" match for Me. That they are just what I am looking for. Enclosed is a photo. EWWW!
WHAT part of clean cut, conservative male are they not understanding?
The photo shows a man unshaven, hair unkept and askew that looks to be greasy. *cringe*
The T-shirt, well what can one say about t-shirts except -- NO!
I do not have to see the hands, nails or shoes to know this is not a clean cut conservative male.
SHAME ON ALL OF YOU MEN WHO SEND OUT THIS TYPE OF PHOTO!
you present the worst possible image of yourself to ANY Domina.
As a smaller BBW Domina (US size 16) Let Me assure you.. Mature and Large does not equal Desperate!
Then you have others like this dickhead (Maledinki) here on collarme who feels so insecure and ashamed of the type of person they are, they have to get IN YOUR FACE, trying to invalidate Me so that they can feel good about their self and actions. his email: From: maledinki Dated: 2/11/12 4:50 PM
just because i suck cock and take it up the ass no reason to be a bitch about it a fat bitch at that (this is laughable)
Kindly note: 1. the individuals photo does not show a face (IN My best Gomer Pyle: surprise surprise) which brings about the fact either he can't read or he can not understand the significance of the sentence. you decide. Or.. OMG.. Maybe it is because he is Canadian? ~chuckle~ (sorry to all My kunuck friends)
MY profile simply states I DO NOT WANT A BISEXUAL AS A LOVE INTEREST AND RL COUNTERPART. I DO NOT SHARE<----- NOR DO I WANT TO.
I am not judging anyone, but I have serious health issues with those that: 1. Swing 2. sleep around all over the place. 3. males that have sexual encounters with other males.
If any of you happen to donate blood, which I do because mine is the most requested and the least obtainable, the first question the Blood Bank has is: Have you slept with ANY man who is sleeping with other men?
If you have HIV test done, which I do yearly along with all My other Health blood work: Again the same question is asked: Have you been intimate with any man who is or has slept with another man?
All I can reply is I hope the hell not!
So get off of your fucking self righteous horse and understand not all of us out there want to track 15 years of your sexual exploits along with God knows how many blow jobs and partners, as well as their partners and hope like hell you didn't pass something along. GET IT?
As to the rest of you imbeciles who assume I am desperate, CLEAN CUT CONSERVATIVE MEANS:
A man who is exemplary and meticulous about his appearance. Has well cut hair. Clean shaven. No facial hair, period for Me. Also tame those eyebrows! It is a turn off for Me.
Well groomed in all aspects. Clean, manicured nails (even if done yourself) No nostril, or ear hair. (seriously)
No photos in t-shirts that look like they have food spills on them OR the cluttered background of your untidy home. OMG! What are you thinking? Are you showing off your palace in hopes that we are all swooning to come live with you???
Lastly, the all nude bathroom mirror shot with your head cut off.
Come on now.. why not just get the little boy hard and take that camera shot from above straight down.
If you want to show him off.. Let us have a good look at the merchandise.
I am not sure what makes males ASSUME all women want to see your cock?
I would much rather see a pair of nice eyes, a warm smile, show me what you look like all cleaned up, even if you do not work in a business suit. Even a well shot "tushie" is impressive. If I want to see your cock, I am old enough to ask, trust Me.
My attitude is not that of a Bitch, but a Dominant, aggressive, assertive individual, that knows what she wants and takes pride in her overall appearance and that of those she elects to spend time with. Water seeks its own level. Take from this post what you will. If you are insecure, you will be pissed or offended, felt like it is a personal attack upon you. If you are secure, well adjusted functioning individual, you will not only understand where I am coming from, but hopefully agree. Always remember.. fat or ugly can be changed. Stupid is forever. ~chuckle~
IQ Classifications
Wechsler, David. Wechsler Adult Intelligence Scale-Third edition
Psychological Corporation, 1997 Classification IQ Score Percent Included Theoretical Normal Curve Actual Sample
Very Superior 130 and above <---I am functioning UP HERE
Superior 120-129
High Average* 110-119
Average 90-109
Low Average* 80-89
Borderline 70-79
Extremely Low* ** 69 and below
*The terms High Average, Low Average and Extremely Low correspond to the terms Bright Normal, Dull Normal and Mental Defective, respectively, used in the 1955 WAIS manual.
**The term Extremely Low is used in place of the terms Mentally Retarded, used in the WAIS-R, and Intellectually Deficient, used in the WISC-III to avoid the implication that a very low IQ score is sufficient evidence by itself for the classification of "mental retardation" or "intellectually deficient." |
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A blustery winter's day in Dallas..the thermometer just edging up to 38* as the winds blows from the North and the steady rain pelts My windows. What can one do on a day such as this when we all need comfort?
I put on a big pot of Irish Beef stew at 8:00 a.m., the sweet southern cornbread is baking in the oven. Which will be followed by a small Peach pie served with Hazelnut coffee and cream? Nothing fancy.
Just home cooking on a cold day. Put on your pajama's and lets watch TV or a Movie. It's time to stay home ... maybe take naps! ~chuckle~ |
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The start of the New Year of 2012.
Only a few days into it and I went out to dinner alone. I sat at home for almost 2 hours debating the issue of going out.
We women are "cravers." Did you know that? Men really aren't. But women are.
So for whatever reason, my brain is craving Mexican food.
But not just any Mexican food. My taste buds are demanding El Fenix Mexican Food.
Off to the computer I go to Google locations. Oh I know where they are. I just want to ascertain which location is closer to me. Being able to look at an overview of locations spread over the Metroplex, I can also judge which location is not apt to be busy this time of the evening. I am lucky, three locations in close proximity with a mile difference give or take in either direction. My location selected I head out the door.
I am one that has always felt ODD dining alone.
I hated it so much that years ago, I designed a restaurant in my mind for singles.
There would be tables for one, with a Magazine or News Paper on each table, like a Doctors waiting room. Who cares what it is, you are only going to read for an hour.
If you don't like what is on your table, walk around and exchange it for something interesting to you.
Around three quarters of Interior walls would be sectioned off cubby holes.
Each would have a counter top with stainless steel sinks and a dishwasher placed in them. Why? Because for the most, we single people eat a lot of our meals standing beside or over the sink. This way everyone feels right at home.
People who eat over sinks, also eat faster. They always seem to be in a hurry.
This way they could stay on schedule, eat, rinse off their plate and drop it in the dish washer beside them. Once this was done, their check would come up thru the counter top in a pneumatic tube.
I had to learn the "who cares" look or even resort to reading a book while I wait for my food. But it is 2012! I am here to tell you.. Wake Up America!
Do not worry about eating alone any longer. The singles are now in the Majority it seems.
As I gazed around the room, single individuals were everywhere in the restaurant. Some on cell phones, others with notebooks, still others laughing and texting with someone far off. So I didn't feel the least bit out of place when the hostess showed Me to my assigned spot for the next hour or so I slide into the seat, placing purse beside Me.. then the portable DVD player on the tabletop with the selected movie.
Accepting the menu, knowing full well what my body had been telling me what it had been craving, I scanned it politely. Gave my precise order in detail, smiling that dismissing smile.. I handed it back with a nod of authority a General awaiting a good soldier to carry out their orders.
To the task at hand, I set up the DVD player, making options selections for the movie I am about to watch. Drink arrives, I hit
Ever notice how fast time goes when you have something to do other than look around at the walls or people around you? it does.
Dinner arrives steaming hot and is placed in the usual arc in front of me.
Smiling. "Yes, everything looks wonderful. No thank you, I don't need anything else."
Now comes the meal set up. Ever notice how it takes a good 3-4 minutes to add your condiments? Butter that soft tortilla, add salsa, etc. Now I am ready for the first bite.
Yep! Just what the body ordered! The next 45 minutes Harry Potter and I make our way thru my dinner. My wait staff not disturbing, but being observant as to my needs and magically delivering it, without being asked, but thanked.
Now at the end, with food left, but feeling much too full.. I set my silver and plate to indicate I am finished. Dirty dishes swept away, I am asked about coffee or dessert.
"I'm sorry, I could not force another thing into my body."
Smiling, I accept the check. Gather my belongings and go to the cashier.
A 30% gratuity is left for what I feel is excellent service.
After all.. who should know about exceptional service but a Domme.
- Be pleasant
- Smile as if it is your pleasure to serve
- Do not instigate or expect direct conversation
- Do not hover but stay at a relative distance with an eye on the individuals possible needs or wants, even if you are not sure
- Deliver it with a smile, clearing off used dishes and exiting promptly
- DO NOT delay me from leaving the table to go on about my business
Whether in food service, being a sub, or a slave serving a Dominant, it should always be your pleasure to serve, attend the needs, wants, wishes or desires and that fact will be reflected in your face, manners and attitude.
Or then again, maybe I am simply one of those women in maturity, that leaves people with the impression "She is one who is worthy of being waited upon."
And thus comply. |
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To those who sent New Years wishes.. Thank you. I will be answering all mail over the next few days. But FIRST I have to get all the Christmas decorations packed up and back in storage. |
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The Three Wi-Fi Men
Shall We Follow The Star To Give Gifts To Our Saviour?
No..No...No..No.. Lets Send An Email
Here Use My Blackberry! ~LOL~ |
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I would like to take this time to wish all those here.. The Merriest Of Christmas, a Joyful, safe Holiday Season. May you find peace in your life. In keeping with the Season, God gave Me My first gift last night. A gift of love, a gift of joy and a gift of life. My little 5 pound dog, Ming.. gave birth to her very first puppy. A female. She is My Christmas Bell, so I have named her Belle. Considering she is the size of a stick of butter and probably weighs less.. It is a name befitting her, because she is boisterous! ~smile~
MERRY CHRISTMAS ! |
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Holiday Spirits ... Especially with Christmas coming up, better to be safe than sorry!
Drinking and driving.
I would like to share an experience with you about drinking and driving.
As you well know, some of us have been known to have had brushes with the authorities on our way home from the odd social session over the years. Well, I have done something about it!
A couple of nights ago I was out for a few drinks with some pals and had a few too many whiskeys as well as beers and some rather nice claret; but knowing full well I may have been slightly over the limit, I did something I've never done before ... I took a bus home.
I arrived back safely and without incident which was a real surprise, since I had never driven a bus before and am not sure where I got this one.
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I have friends drop Me notes to tell Me that they miss reading My stories. My stories are simply things that happen in My everyday normal life. I tend to look at the funny side of things, where I surmise many people become horrified. Point is, we only pass this way once in life. Step back, relax and enjoy being IN life instead of a bystander allowing it to pass you by. This story is true. It happened just the other day and I am still laughing over it. So I'll call it.. "IT COULD ONLY HAPPEN TO ME"
Have no doubt ... though a mature Southern Lady, I am not your Grandmother.
I still have curves, dress to fit the occasion and enjoy looking nice.
I do have to confess that as a southern woman, I have always taken the liberty to enjoy My freedom.. If you will.. by indulging in "not wearing panties!"
I abhor shopping, stores, malls, all of it. I would not go grocery shopping except I do have to eat.
Anyway, I digress. Being the Season and all, I dressed warmly for My venture out to fight with the masses over whatever item it is I want to give someone. It's fecking 32* out there and I really am not in the mood. Donning an oversized cream color Scottish wool sweater, an old pair of faded blue jeans.. just the right color from years of washing and throwing in the dryer on high. Wejuns loafers, a large plaid scarf and a black and white tweed jacket, I hit the door before I change My mind about this foray out into the abyss of Christmas shoppers.
I live in a centrally located area which means I have access to the entire Metroplex easily by freeway.
I scoot My little car across to midtown where few shoppers will have started their day this early in the morning. Few are up before noon.. seriously.
Parking is a breeze and the Name brand store seems all but empty at this hour. I wander around sort of aimlessly, picking up a basket, then removing My coat and scarf because the store has the heat cranked to an unbearably high temperature.. that once the store starts filling up with people.. I am sure bodies will start dropping like flies.
Most shoppers milling about seem to be men. I head to the men's wear department as I have 2 males on My list to buy for. My son and My son-in-law. Neither being the "Larry the cable guy" type I'm milling around in RL Polo section and Tommy Hilfiger. All of a sudden something catches My eye. My fine senses zero in on it.. it seems to be hidden there on an out of the way bottom shelf. I glide over, place My basket on the floor, bend over quickly and have the object in My hands.
The next sound you hear is not one you ever want to hear unless you are a bystander..
My jeans split up the back on both sides very quickly & neatly..leaving the overlapped denim seam like a thong up the crack of My ass and since I was pantyless.. exposing the Domme. I hear a male voice behind Me say.. "Nice!"
I pick up My coat and exit quickly. Laughing and leave the store.
Now I know that My ass was in male dreams that night.. either Nightmares or fantasy.. who knows! LOL
So there you have your RL funny story. I thought you'd enjoy the humor of it. |
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Thank you to those who remembered this is My special day by sending warm wishes. |
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God Created TEXAS
God was missing for six days.
Eventually, Michael, the archangel, found him, resting on the seventh day.
He inquired, "Where have you been?"
God smiled deeply and proudly pointed downwards through the clouds, "Look, Michael. Look what I've made."
Archangel Michael looked puzzled, and said, "What is it?"
"It's a planet," replied God, and I've put life on it. I'm going to call it Earth and it's going to be a place to test Balance."
"Balance?" inquired Michael, "I'm still confused."
God explained, pointing to different parts of Earth. "For example, northern Europe will be a place of great opportunity and wealth, while
southern Europe is going to be poor. Over here I've placed a continent of white people, and over there is a continent of black people. Balance in all things."
God continued pointing to different countries.
"This one will be extremely hot, while this one will be very cold and covered in ice."
The Archangel , impressed by God's work, then pointed to a land area and said, "What's that one?"
"That's Texas , the most glorious place on earth. There are beautiful mountains, rivers and streams, lakes, forests, hills, and plains.
The people from Texas are going to be handsome, modest, intelligent, and humorous, and they are going to travel the world. They will be extremely sociable, hardworking, high achieving, carriers of peace, and producers
of good things."
Michael gasped in wonder and admiration, but then asked, "But what about balance, God? You said there would be balance."
God smiled, "I will create Washington , DC .
Wait till you see the idiots I put there." |
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~~~* RACK VANILLA STYLE *~~~
While helping a friend on Wednesday, retrieving a paint brush from her garage to do some painting, I had the misfortune of being bitten by a spider.
As soon as the bite took place on my right hand little finger, I slung my hand side ways propelling the little beastie into a cardboard box.
I could hear the offending varmint hit and ricochet off of the box, but did not hunt for the little bastard as I was experiencing what to Me was tremendous pain.
The baby digit began to swell immediately at a phenomenal rate as I watched. Immediately I had thoughts of Harry Potter's Aunt in The Prisoner of Azkaban.. Or James Kirk in Star Trek when Bones gave him a shot. The flesh continued to swell and engulfed My diamond pinkie ring cutting off the circulation.
I watched in fascination and shock as the hand grew, My blood veins pumped up and red started to spread up My now aching arm..
Water! Ice Water! That will do the trick I thought..
So I soaked the hand in Ice Water. It took the swelling down enough for Me to get the pinkie ring off... Ahhhhhh.. that helped somewhat... enough to paint for a few hours.
Cleaning up the painting supplies, showering, I eased out of the house, locking it on My way out so as not to disturb my now sleeping friend.
I went home and went to bed, waking late this morning.
Discovering the swelling back and My right arm aching, I decided to visit My local ER. Little did I ever suspect the RACK experience I was about to undergo.
Those who know Me personally know I delight in administering slight pain to individuals during certain types of play. Yet My own pain tolerance is somewhere around -200.
The hand is examined by several individuals including the administration check-in, security guard, before I am whisked to triage for blood pressure, temps, pulse while being probed by anyone who walks by and has never seen a spider bite.
Bands are being slapped on My wrists to identify the body as well as a bright red one to alert staff I have allergic reactions to certain medications.
A sweet nurse grabs Me and say's come with me.. I am going to take you to your room.. I stop dead still in horror. I'm being admitted, I gasp?
I'm thinking how pissed My dog Ian is going to be when I don't get back to let him out of his kennel for his afternoon pee. I can't be admitted.
So they take Me to a somewhat private cubical in ER to a big (what looks like) comfy wing chair. I am seen by several nurses, a PA, then the Doctor.. Who tells Me the prescribed treatment because I am highly allergic to penicillin. Blood work, IV drip, strong antibiotics.
Now it starts .. Dracula comes in.
Holy Mary, I hate needles and My veins hate them worse than I do.
I tell Dracula.. I sure hope you are good with that stuff, cause I might vomit on you, or cause retribution. He unknowing laughs.. seated on his stool scooting it within reach of My bad hand.
All right.. what is the worse you can do to me? he smugly laughs.
My mind is going 90 to nothing thinking about the cbt I could reek on his testicles in those flimsy scrubs...But say nothing...Just smile sweetly.
We won't even discuss the Blood Pressure Cuff that squeezes the crap out of your arm till it blows it's self completely off your arm.
What sadistical bastard thought about making them automated????
Then there is the tourniquet to the upper arm in order to draw blood..
Ever notice how they let it SLAP into the flesh after they get the tie done? LOL
He locates a good vein and wala.. Pushes in what seems like a needle the size of a pencil and blood squirts everywhere. I hear "oops." I know that word oops. I use it on occasion in the Dungeon. I look up to see him smile and chuckle.
Now I am seriously thinking of how I could twist his balls as I yank downward with all My might.
With the IV line in.. he tapes it off and tapes Me to the chair.
I look down and laughingly ask him if this is supposed to be My restraints?
Jokes are exchanged and Drac draws 6 vials of blood. I am wondering if he is secretly hoarding for his private stash somewhere...
Finished, he hooks up the drip and I am on My way. He puts additional tape on the IV line and the needle. OK.. you should be ready to go home in about 2 hours.
2 Hours? Jesus, can't I just take a pill or something???
Ha! I heard you trying to convince the Dr. about not doing an IV.. he laughs and walks out.
What temperature do they keep Hospitals?
Ever notice how cold it is in there?
I last about 30 minutes in My sleeveless dress before I ask for a blanket.
Drac brings Me 2 cotton blankets from the dryer.
Ahhhhhh.. toasty warm. He reclines My chair, I cover from head to toe as if I were in a cocoon and go into a twilight state.
Have you ever tried to sit still for 2 hours with a needle shoved in and taped to your arm without being drugged up? It's not easy.
Two hours later the Doctor comes back and My bag is only 3/4 done.
He gives Me a report on My blood work..as I try to convince him I'm full... Nope you have to drink the whole thing! It is now 3 PM and I'm starving for real.
I feel like I am going to vomit.
Drac comes to check on Me and I ask for a cracker.. he brings Me Nilla wafers & Baked Chips.
For the next hour, I munch slowing with each drip of the IV.. Willing it to move!
Finally it's over and the fun begins.
I had no fucking idea how bad surgical tape hurts when pulled off.
The first strip he yanks off quickly..
OOOOUCH! I look down at My tanned arm and there is a perfect white strip going across it where all the hair has been removed.
I look up at him and say.. you took the hair off My arm?!
He laughs and said.. Look at the bright side, people pays big bucks at spas to have their hair removed. I think it's called waxing.
Biting My lower lip I want to say.. No, it's depilation!
Then he does 3 more. I can't believe the enjoyment this man is getting out of this. I wonder if he is a sadistic Dom in his personal life.
He's laughing and all I can do is laugh with him, knowing how this knowledge will enhance Dungeon play.
I now KNOW why Mstrs Boots loves Duc Tape Play! ~laughs~
Thinking .. I wonder if I should tell him he can always find a job at Helga's House of Pain should he ever decide to leave nursing??
I know I am going to procure some to put on subs as punishment.
I envision it in the pubis area of unshaved subs.. HA!
Signing My life away again for the expensive lunch I have just been served, I head out the door into the Texas Heat, to a locked car that feels like Dante's Inferno.. a step up from the frigid condition inside, trust Me.. it feels good.
It is said and followed by Lifestylers.. A Good Dominant does not do anything to a submissive they have not personally experienced.
BEWARE.. I am now adding Surgical Tape to My Toy bag! ~laughs~ |
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For My Friends who think I am WARPED! THE KOHL's SHOPPING TRIP
(This is just too funny! This could only be true; you simply can't make this stuff up!)
Clutching their Kohl's shopping bags, Ellen and Kay woefully gazed down at a dead cat in the mall parking lot.? Obviously a recent hit..no flies, no smell..What business could that poor kitty have had here?' murmured Ellen..'
'Come on, Ellen, let's just go...
But Ellen had already grabbed her shopping bag and was explaining, 'I'll just put my things in your bag, and then I'll use this tissue....'
She dumped her purchases into Kay's bag and then used the tissue paper to cradle and lower the former feline into her own Kohl's bag and cover it.
They continued the short trek to the car in silence, stashing their goods in the trunk. But it occurred to both of them that if they left Ellen's burial bag in the trunk, warmed by the Texas sunshine while they ate, Kay's Lumina would soon lose that new-car smell.
They decided to leave the bag on top of the trunk, and they headed over to K & W Cafeteria.
They went through the serving line and sat down at a window table. They had a view of Kay's Chevy with the Kohl's bag still on the trunk.
BUT not for long!? As they ate, they noticed a big woman in a red gingham shirt stroll by their car.. She looked quickly this way and that, and then took the Kohl's bag without breaking stride. She quickly walked out of their line of vision. Kay and Ellen shot each other a wide-eyed look of amazement.
It all happened so fast that neither of them could think how to respond. 'Can you imagine?' finally sputtered Ellen..? 'The nerve of that woman!' Kay sympathized with Ellen, but inwardly a laugh was building as she thought about the grand surprise awaiting the female thief.
Just when she thought she'd have to giggle into her napkin, she noticed Ellen's eyes freeze in the direction of the serving line. Following her gaze, Kay recognized the big woman in the red gingham shirt with the Kohl's bag hanging from her arm. She was brazenly pushing her tray toward the cashier.
Helplessly they watched the scene unfold:
After leaving the register, the woman settled at a table across from theirs, put the bag on an empty chair and began to eat.
After a few bites of baked whitefish and green beans, she casually lifted the bag into her lap to survey her treasure.? Looking from side to side, but not far enough to notice her rapt audience three tables over, she pulled out the tissue paper and peered into the bag.
Her eyes widened, and she began to make a sort of gasping noise.? The noise
grew. The bag slid from her lap as she sank to the floor, wheezing and clutching her upper chest. The beverage cart attendant quickly recognized a customer in trouble and sent the busboy to call 911, while she administered the Heimlich maneuver.
A crowd quickly gathered that did not include Ellen and Kay, who remained
riveted to their chairs for seven whole minutes until the ambulance arrived. In a matter of minutes, the big woman with the red gingham shirt emerged, still gasping, and securely strapped on a gurney.
Two well-trained EMT volunteers steered her to the waiting ambulance, while a third scooped up her belongings. The last they saw of the distressed cat-burglar was as she disappeared behind the ambulance doors .......the Kohl's Bag perched on her stomach!!
God does take care of those who do bad things! AND once in a while...He allows us to witness! |
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Why Some Men Have a Dog and No Wife:
1. The later you are, the more excited Dogs are to see you!
2. Dogs don't notice if you call them by another dog's name.
3. Dogs like it if you leave a lot of things on the floor.
4. A dog's parents never visit.
5. Dogs agree that you have to raise your voice to get your point across!
6. Dogs find you amusing when you're drunk.
7. Dogs like to go hunting and fishing.
8. A dog will not wake you in the middle of the night to ask: "If I died, would you get another wife?"
9. If a dog has babies, you can put an ad in the paper and give them away...
10. A dog will let you put a studded collar on it without calling you a pervert.
11. If a dog smells another dog on you, they don't get mad. They just think it is interesting.
And last but not least:
12. If a dog leaves, it won't take half your stuff.
To test this theory: Lock your wife and your dog in the garage for an hour. Then open it and see who's happy to see you! |
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PONDERISM
1 · I used to eat a lot of natural foods until I learned that most people die of natural causes.
2 · There are two kinds of pedestrians: the quick and the dead.
3 · Life is sexually transmitted.
4 · Healthy is merely the slowest possible rate at which one can die.
5 · The only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth.
6 · Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in hospitals dying of nothing.
7 · Have you noticed since everyone has a camcorder these days no one talks about seeing UFOs like they used to?
8 · Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.
9 · All of us could take a lesson from the weather. It pays no attention to criticism.
10 · In the 60's, people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird and people take Prozac to make it normal.
11 · How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire?
12 · Who was the first person to look at a cow and say, 'I think I'll squeeze these dangly things and drink whatever comes out'?
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~ Women and Wine ~
Women are like apples on a tree. The best ones are at the very top of the tree. Most men do not want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. The apples at the top think there is something wrong with them.. When in fact, they are amazing. They simply have to wait for the right man to come along. The one whos is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
Now men.. men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes..and it's up to WOMAN to stomp the shit out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with. |
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Seeking local experienced, talented cable technician in the DFW area. Time Warned preferred, if possible. New home cable into attic, not run to boxes. Four of them. Willing to trade either play time (nothing sexual) grilled steak dinner/wine OR Pot Roast Dinner with the fixins. your choice. Congenial Company, Contact Me as ASAP. Thanks. |
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Once again, I am obliged to point out that MY involvement in the Alternative Lifestyle is very REAL.
I am not here to play with you. I am not here to entertain you. My lifestyle is elected, while taking full responsibility of My choices, as a mature, sane, intelligent adult.
It is not centered on your desires or limited to just "THE BEDROOM!" as so many seem interested in.
Get a serious grip! If that is the limit of your "participation" you are a hedonist and I have no interest in you. If you are only interested in being "played", i.e: What I can do to you.. then you are a kinkster! Again of no interest to Me.
I suggest that you understand the difference between all demeanors and depth of lifestyle participation within the Alternative Lifestyle of individuals you are contacting.
I am a LIFESTYLER. Learn it. Understand it before you contact Me.
I am active within the lifestyle community, locally, Nationally and Internationally. I DO NOT ADD FRIENDS unless I know you personally face to face. So kindly do not ask.
For those who are members on the style, I do maintain a more comprehensive profile to learn about Me. If you don't know what that is, I suggest you try google. |
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It IS that time of year again, so I am seeking RT service subs who enjoy working outdoors in the yard. This is not something I expect YOU to do alone. I enjoy working outside..It calms Me.
If you are the type of male who "expects something" in return... or cannot fathom a Dominant actually working: DO NOT APPLY!
My home is NOT that Magical Dungeon, where everyone serves Me while I walk around slapping a crop against My thigh shouting Dommly orders in Fetish Gear. I live in Reality folks. I am RT and expect as much from you.
However, that said, I can guarantee you will be well cared for (fed & watered) enjoy a pleasant time with many laughs. Who knows.. you could make a friend. |
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MORE Paraprosdokian Sentences:
I asked God for a bike, but I know God doesn't work that way. So I stole a bike and asked for forgiveness..
Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.
To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism. To steal from many is research.
A bank is a place that will lend you money, if you can prove that you don't need it.
Why does someone believe you when you say there are four billion stars, but check when you say the paint is wet?
Why do Americans choose from just two people to run for president and 50 for Miss America ?
A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.
Always borrow money from a pessimist. They won't be expecting it back.
Money can't buy happiness, but it sure makes misery easier to live with!
Some people cause happiness wherever they go. Others, whenever they go.
I used to be indecisive. Now I am not sure.
Nostalgia isn't what it used to be.
Some people hear voices. Some see invisible people. Others have no imagination whatsoever.
If you are supposed to learn from your mistakes, why do some people have more than one child?
Change is inevitable, except from a vending machine! |
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All the jokes, fun and laughter I thoroughly enjoy aside, I see it is time for a serious post.
I will not be one to rant, rage, while invalidating all submissive males on this site as being players. The "illusion" or "game" comes from both sides of the fence. I will simply state, that many times..the games, take the heart out of those of U/us who are serious. Both Dominant and submissive.
I fully understand that I am not the right Dominant for many. Factually stated, I am a Mature, full Figure (smaller BBW) Dominant. I no longer resemble Ertha Kitt, as Cat Woman from Batman, while dressed head to toe in Latex...strutting around slapping My thigh with a crop. I have never been that style of Domina. I believe if people in My local lifestyle community were asked to describe Me, you would hear words like: knowledgeable, experienced, strong, confident, respectful, intelligent, friendly, funny, classy and elegant.
I am highly selective in My acquaintances, friends and especially in a "potential" life partner, who will serve as My slave in a 24/7 LTR. Perhaps for many on this site, My bar is set too high.
I seek much more than a doormat. I desire, want and NEED the power exchange. Mats have no power..
The tenets I live My life by daily are; Honor, Trust, Truth, Integrity and Loyalty..to name a few.
I am NOT locked in BDSM completely. I function fully beyond My front door in the vanilla world. In fact, I enjoy it. I volunteer time to different organizations, while appreciating, supporting My neighborhood community of neighbors. I am Loyal in My word and deed to all I come in contact with. As strange as it may sound to many of you.. I believe in God, pray and worship.
Have you ever noticed that righteousness and loyalty go together? In other words, If we are not being loyal to your family, friends, country, job, then we are not going to experience God's best.
Loyal people are honorable people. When you are loyal, you stick with someone through thick and thin. They do not hit the door running when the chips seem down, someone becomes ill, or they decide they want a "change" or get a better offer.
When you are loyal, you keep your word..whether in job or relationships. ALL too often in today's Society, people and relationships become disposable to others. Some refuse to work through problems with open communication. Divorce is a quick fix for many, so they float in and out of relationships never understanding that possibly the "fix" needs to come internally. I have seen this grow in the last 15 years in the Alternative Lifestyle with the Velcro collars.. Or quick "Hool-ups" Not respecting the fact that a "Collar" is supposed to be a lifetime commitment between the two. Much deeper, stronger than a marriage vow.
Loyal people are respectful of others. They honor their parents and defend their family. No matter if "family" is in the conventional or unconventional sense. When you are loyal, you are a person of integrity. You build trust and security in others.
I challenge you to think! Is this an area when you can rise higher? Can you be more loyal? Are you faithful in the things you are committed to? Do not let the distractions of everyday life keep you from pursuing loyalty. Look for ways to be faithful to those around you. Is there something you need to set aside for the sake of a loved one? Show your love by staying loyal.
As you pursue loyalty and righteousness, good things will come back to you. What you put out in the Universe, will come back to you. Remember the saying; "What goes around.. Comes around." When you or I, think negatively.. Negativity is what we receive back. Do not allow those playing on line, the power over you.. to stop you from pursing what you truly seek and what is best possible for you, in your mind and heart. Think positive, move ever forward, while following your dream. Never settle, just to conform to what "Society" perceives as "normal." Society does not live with you..Support you financially, nor care for your needs, wants or desires. Only a human can do that. Nor does it know what goes on behind closed door. It only knows what you tell it.
It is OK to be down in life. We all are down at one time or another. It is not OK to stay there...
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This just in:
This morning the Muslim Brotherhood warned the United States that if United States meddling in Egypt continued they intend to cut off America's supply of 7-11 and Motel 6 managers.
If this action does not yield sufficient results, cab drivers will be next, followed by Dell, AT&T and AOL customer service reps!
Finally, if all else fails, they have threatened not to send us any more presidents either.
It's gonna get ugly, people.
But Don't let them scare you - - Kenya has agreed to send ANOTHER president ! ! |
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For Those Who Enjoy My Dark Humor
Wellhung: Hello, Sweetheart. What do you look like?
Sweetheart: I am wearing a red silk blouse, a miniskirt and high heels.
I work out every day, I'm toned and perfect.
My measurements are 36-24-36.
What do you look like?
Wellhung: I'm 6'3" and about 250 pounds.
I wear glasses and I have on a pair of blue sweat pants I just bought from Walmart.
I'm also wearing a T-shirt with a few spots of barbecue sauce on it from dinner...it smells funny.
Sweetheart: I want you.Would you like to screw me?
Wellhung: OK.
Sweetheart: We're in my bedroom.
There's soft music playing on the stereo and candles on my dresser and night table. I'm looking up into your eyes, smiling.
My hand works its way down to your crotch and begins to fondle your huge, swelling bulge.
Wellhung: I'm gulping, I'm beginning to sweat.
Sweetheart: I'm pulling up your shirt and kissing your chest.
Wellhung: Now I'm unbuttoning your blouse. My hands are trembling.
Sweetheart: I'm moaning softly.
Wellhung: I'm taking hold of your blouse and sliding it off slowly.
Sweetheart: I'm throwing my head back in pleasure.
The cool silk slides off my warm skin.
I'm rubbing your bulge faster, pulling and rubbing.
Wellhung: My hand suddenly jerks spastically and accidentally rips a hole in your blouse. I'm sorry.
Sweetheart: That's OK, it wasn't really too expensive.
Wellhung: I'll pay for it.
Sweetheart: Don't worry about it. I'm wearing a lacy black bra.
My soft breasts are rising and falling, as I breathe harder and harder.
Wellhung: I'm fumbling with the clasp on your bra. I think it's stuck.
Do you have any scissors?
Sweetheart: I take your hand and kiss it softly.
I'm reaching back undoing the clasp. The bra slides off my body.
The air caresses my breasts. My nipples are erect for you.
Wellhung: How did you do that?
I'm picking up the bra and inspecting the clasp.
Sweetheart: I'm arching my back.
Oh baby. I just want to feel your tongue all over me.
Wellhung: I'm dropping the bra.
Now I'm licking your, you know, breasts.
They're neat!
Sweetheart: I'm running my fingers through your hair.
Now I'm nibbling your ear.
Wellhung: I suddenly sneeze.
Your breasts are covered with spit and phlegm.
Sweetheart: What?
Wellhung: I'm so sorry. Really.
Sweetheart: I'm wiping your phlegm off my breasts
with the remains of my blouse.
Wellhung: I'm taking the sopping wet blouse from you.
I drop it with a plop.
Sweetheart: OK. I'm pulling your sweat pants down
and rubbing your hard tool.
Wellhung: I'm screaming like a woman.
Your hands are cold! Yeeee!
Sweetheart: I'm pulling up my miniskirt.
Take off my panties.
Wellhung: I'm pulling off your panties.
My tongue is going all over, in and out nibbling on you...umm... wait a minute.
Sweetheart: What's the matter?
Wellhung: I've got a pubic hair caught in my throat.
I'm choking.
Sweetheart: Are you OK?
Wellhung: I'm having a coughing fit. I'm turning all red.
Sweetheart: Can I help?
Wellhung: I'm running to the kitchen, choking wildly.
I'm fumbling hrough the cabinets, looking for a cup.
Where do you keep your cups?
Sweetheart: In the cabinet to the right of the sink.
Wellhung: I'm drinking a cup of water. There, that's better.
Sweetheart: Come back to me, lover.
Wellhung: I'm washing the cup now.
Sweetheart: I'm on the bed arching for you.
Wellhung: I'm drying the cup.
Now I'm putting it back in the cabinet.
And now I'm walking back to the bedroom.
Wait, it's dark, I'm lost. Where's the bedroom?
Sweetheart: Last door on the left at the end of the hall.
Wellhung: I found it.
Sweetheart: I'm tuggin' off your pants.
I'm moaning. I want you so badly.
Wellhung: Me too.
Sweetheart: Your pants are off.
I kiss you passionately-our naked bodies pressing each other.
Wellhung: Your face is pushing my glasses into my face. It hurts.
Sweetheart: Why don't you take off your glasses?
Wellhung: OK, but I can't see very well without them.
I place the glasses on the night table.
Sweetheart: I'm bending over the bed.
Give it to me, baby!
Wellhung: I have to pee.
I'm fumbling my way blindly across the room and toward the bathroom.
Sweetheart: Hurry back, lover.
Wellhung: I find the bathroom and it's dark.
I'm feeling around for the toilet.
I lift the lid.
Sweetheart: I'm waiting eagerly for your return.
Wellhung: I'm done going.
I'm feeling around for the flush handle, but I can't find it.
Uh-oh!
Sweetheart: What's the matter now?
Wellhung: I've realized that I've peed into your laundry hamper.
Sorry again.
I'm walking back to the bedroom now, blindly feeling my way.
Sweetheart: Mmm, yes. Come on.
Wellhung: OK, now I'm going to put my...you know ...thing...in your...you know...woman's thing.
Sweetheart: Yes! Do it, baby! Do it!
Wellhung: I'm touching your smooth butt.
It feels so nice. I kiss your neck.
Umm, I'm having a little trouble here.
Sweetheart: I'm moving my ass back and forth, moaning.
I can't stand it another second!
Slide in! Screw me now!
Wellhung: I'm flaccid.
Sweetheart: What?
Wellhung: I'm limp. I can't sustain an erection.
Sweetheart: I'm standing up and turning around; an incredulous look on my face.
Wellhung: I'm shrugging with a sad look on my face, my weiner all floppy.
I'm going to get my glasses and see what's wrong.
Sweetheart: No, never mind.
I'm getting dressed. I'm putting on my underwear.
Now I'm putting on my wet nasty blouse.
Wellhung: No wait! Now I'm squinting, trying to find the night table.
I'm feeling along the dresser, knocking over cans of hair spray, picture frames and your candles.
Sweetheart: I'm buttoning my blouse.
Now I'm putting on my shoes.
Wellhung: I've found my glasses.
I'm putting them on. My God! One of our candles fell on the curtain.
The curtain is on fire!
I'm pointing at it, a shocked look on my face.
Sweetheart: Go to hell. I'm logging off, you loser!
Wellhung: Now the carpet is on fire! Oh noooo!
Sweetheart: logged off
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The Humorous Side of The Paralyzed Immobile Siege
So I ran to the store night before last, armed with my shopping list, because the storm, she is a commin. Yeah, Yeah, I hear all you Yankees who have invaded My City for Super Bowl, bragging about your weather is colder, you get much more snow, yada, yada, yada. Well, look at it from My standpoint. If you bastards had not come, we would still be at 75* here. But nooooooooooo.. you have to bring this crap with you. Whatsamattah..youse guys cant play in sunshine?
So now you are here in the mess and do not understand WHY you are immobile. HA!
Look around. See all those freeways and bridges up in the air? Are YOU going to try to drive on them? Hell, those are giant down hill slalom courses for Big Boy Toys. Covered in about 5 inches of thick ice. Brakes? Brakes don't work on ice. If you do not believe Me.. Just watch the Mexicans try to drive on it... and you bettah be heavily insured if you are in that close a proximity. We Southerners might be slow, but honey, we are not stupid. As the old joke goes, "By the time I got stop out.. He already had!"
We have in DFW 2 tollways, the George Bush and the Dallas North. Four Spurs, those being 482, 408, 366 (Woodall Rogers) 97 (out of DFW International) And all of those IN DA AIR! We have 3 Loops. Those being Loop 12, Loop 388. I count 635 but it is only a half loop. We have 13 State highways that run thru and Intersect. Along with 7 major Interstates. This does not include the Farm to Market Roads or recreational roads around our lakes and parks. Nor the City or Neighborhood streets....
Dallas has about 22 sand trucks! That's it Baaaaaaybe!!! This for 7 million people and miles and miles of roadway. We KNOW not to venture out. But enough fools still ventured out to cause hundreds of accidents, including over a dozen jackknifed 18-wheeler trucks.
Even as much of the areas traffic was crippled, the city of Irving provided two sand trucks (out of their 12) as an escort to lead the four buses carrying the Green Bay Packers so they could make the approximately 20-mile trek from their hotel to Arlington for Super Bowl media day by 9 a.m., come hell or freezing water. Four Buses? Who the hell needs 4 Buses?
The Pittsburgh Steelers, who are staying in Fort Worth, also got a sand-truck convoy a little later for their media appearance. Because Ft. Worth had to FIND their sand trucks.
And as youse guys are out in the frigid cold, I am sitting here laughing.
My dog Ian, who has never experienced winter snow or ice, hit the front door running for his morning weeeeee. That is till he made it off of the porch in his usual leap only to land on an icy driveway! His slide, with the over the shoulder glance of panic..was priceless. As he tried for traction, he resembled a US Olympic speed skater going across the drive. By that time the look was sheer terror, till he hit solid ground. Then he charged up hill to water My Lilies for an extended period of time. I surmised he did not have any intention of returning to this frigid tundra.
In the mean time, I am watching My (new) neighbor try to back his NEW 2011 pickup out of his driveway, some 60 feet away. Now I don't know how many of you gentleman understand Newton's laws of motion, but there is an 18 foot drop from the street in front of our homes to our houses. The concrete is covered in ice.. DUH! I watch as he guns the engine, throws it into gear and almost makes it to the top..Note the ALMOST. He applies the brakes, I assume to hold his position, but we know brakes do not hold on ice when on a downhill slope. Now he has also discovered... He can't steer! Thankfully his drive is 25 feet wide. Yet he barely misses the giant Tree on the left between us and his wife's Ram SUV. Persistent though he is, I go inside and listen to this for another 20 minutes.. I hear what reminds Me of the NHRA Winter National Warm ups. I am sure when he finally gave up, his new truck now sports 4 Mickey Thompson slicks.
Come to Dallas.. Enjoy our weather and hospitality! ~laughs~
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Subject: Paraprosdokian
Pronounced Para-pros-do-kian
A paraprosdokian is a figure of speech in which the latter part of a sentence or phrase is surprising or unexpected in a way that causes the reader or listener to reframe or reinterpret the first part. It is frequently used for humorous or dramatic effect, sometimes producing an anticlimax.
1. Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
2. Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.
3. The last thing I want to do is hurt you. But it's still on the list.
4. If I agreed with you we'd both be wrong.
5. We never really grow up, we only learn how to act in public.
6. War does not determine who is right - only who is left.
7. Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit; Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.
8. Evening news is where they begin with 'Good evening', and then proceed to tell you why it isn't.
9. A bus station is where a bus stops. A train station is where a train stops. On my desk, I have a work station.
10. How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire?
11. Dolphins are so smart that within a few weeks of captivity, they can train people to stand on the very edge of the pool and throw them fish.
12. I thought I wanted a career, turns out I just wanted pay checks.
13. Whenever I fill out an application, in the part that says "In an emergency, notify:
" I put "Doctor".
14. I didn't say it was your fault, I said I was blaming you.
15. Behind every successful man is his woman. Behind the fall of a successful man is usually another woman.
16. You do not need a parachute to skydive. You only need a parachute to skydive twice.
17. The voices in my head may not be real, but they have some good ideas!
18. Hospitality: Making your guests feel like they're at home, even if you wish they were.
19. I discovered I scream the same way whether I'm about to be devoured by a great white shark or if a piece of seaweed touches my foot.
20. There's a fine line between cuddling and holding someone down so they can't get away.
21. I always take life with a grain of salt, plus a slice of lemon, and a shot of tequila.
22. When tempted to fight fire with fire, remember that the Fire Department usually uses water.
23. You're never too old to learn something stupid.
24. To be sure of hitting the target, shoot first and call whatever you hit the target.
25. The early bird gets the worm, but it is the second mouse that gets the cheese.
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NINE WORDS THAT WOMEN USE
(1) Fine: This word is used to end an argument when they are right, and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes : If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing : This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead : This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh : This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That's Okay : This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks : A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' . that will bring on a 'whatever').
(8) Whatever : Is a woman's way of saying GO TO HELL
(9) Don't worry about it, I got it : Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # (3.)
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Supermarket Mambo:
Armed with a small shopping list for baking, I hit a local grocery store that I rarely stop in.. The other night on my way home from a festive night out. I was slightly overdressed for late night grocery shopping to say the least. Even in Texas! ~laughs~
I never pay attention to others doing shopping. Yet this night, as I was looking over the Bacon selection of all things, someone came into my peripheral vision. I looked up, smiled and moved on. For the next 10 minutes it seems..wherever I went in the store, we kept meeting head on. Finally he stood in front of me (all 6'2" in his tight fitting jeans and black leather jacket) with his hand basket and said in a soft voice, "I am so lost in this store." ~ help me sexy smile on his lips ~
Embarrassed at the Dommly cbt thoughts that flashed thru my mind like lightening. I already had this guy naked and suspended. I replied: "That makes two of us." I know I was blushing at my inner thoughts, so I quickly moved around him and went on my way.
I never think of men looking at me. Let alone while grocery shopping.
Sometimes it takes DAYS for me to catch on to things like this in the vanilla world. DUH!
Lady Katherine and I were locked in a car yesterday for 4 hours together. (Road trip) So we had a chance to discuss this very incident, while laughing.
I was Soooo pleased to discover that She has in fact had the same thoughts and encounters while shopping. (wonders why we always have them naked in our minds?) ~laughs~
The reality is as I stated. Many of us women do not think of ourselves in a sexually appealing manner to men (when) in the vanilla world, doing vanilla things such as grocery shopping. I simply do not pay attention to others nor their reactions to me as an individual.
I now realize that your cocks are ALWAYS paying attention!
If it ever happens again, I am going for shock value in my reply...While letting my upper most thoughts come out!
Would positioning Myself in front of him so no one could see.. Then slipping My hand between his legs to "grasp" for attention while I spoke, be considered sexual assault? BEWARE little boyz of what you just might unleash in a grocery store! The reality is.. you never know who it is you might be following! ~laughs~
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Today's perspective:
All too often it is easy to get stuck in a rut. Doing the same things, the same way, day after day.
Each of us living our lives at the absolute best. We should be constantly growing and developing our skills.
We should strive to learn and grow every single day because when you stop learning, you stop growing. When you stop growing, you stop living. What are you doing to stretch yourself?
What are you doing to improve your skills?
Don’t get trapped into thinking that “good enough” is good enough.
Today is a new day, and there are new heights for you to climb.
Pursue what you love and keep developing that area of your life.
Take a class or find a mentor that will help you live skillfully. As you do, you’ll rise up higher and higher. |
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Not being use to the COLD.. If this weather continues...
I am going to be in search of a TALL warm body to drag
into My nest! ~laughs~ |
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A new year.. A new outlook
Over the years on this site, I have tried to be polite to anyone contacting Me.
I have tried to be helpful, constructive, while encouraging them to learn.
Bothering to explain to those who seem discouraged or upset at finding only players...
That it was in fact either their profiles that were drawing the users & predators to them, or their misunderstanding of demeanors they placed in their Actively Seeking box on their profile.
ALL submissives who have not been properly trained, or don't have any REAL LIFE experience, will automatically go into what we term "sub frenzy." This term means they latch onto the first individual that seems much too good to be true. They rush off to meet said person, some have even relocated only to find the individual does not exist. OMG! Then they are pissed off at everyone for their own stupidity.
That said, I have always encouraged, taught, demanded that individuals I train, CLARIFY, QUALIFY, VALIDATE.
CLARIFY: WHAT type of Dominant they are. All Dominants are NOT created Equal.
Are they a sensual Dominant?
A Leather Dominant?
Or are they a Top?
FYI= switch does not qualify as a Dominant.
QUALIFY: Are they Married, Separated, Divorced or Single?
If Married, does their spouse know they are active in this Lifestyle?
How long have they been in the Lifestyle scene as an active participant?
Where and how did they come by their experience?
Do they currently own any subs or slave?
Are they in any ongoing relationships at this time?
Are they a Lifestyler, Leather, Kinkster, hedonist or swinger?
VALIDATE: What Lifestyle Organizations are they active members of?
What name do they use within those groups or organizations?
Are they a member of their local Dungeon?
What name do they go by or are known by?
I am a Sensual Domme with a bite!
I like many play activities which are considered RACK. *SEE PROFILE*
I am single.
I have 35 years experience in this venue, being mentored for two years as a Dominant.
I ALWAYS go by and Am known by My Scene Moniker of DommeMaggie.
I can be validated ~~~~
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Interesting time of year..Christmas.
It's the only time of year I hear from all Politicians, on both sides.
Local, State, Congressional and Senate!
The bastards know how to mail out cards at OUR expense!
Last year, I even got a card from the local Constable who wrote Me a speeding ticket!
I fought him in court and won! I think he just sent the card to piss Me off... ~laughs~
Do have a safe Holiday Season wherever you go.. whatever you do!
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Considering My profile is honest, up to date, I keep wondering WHY I have so many bisexual men contact Me? I mean come on now. My profile stipulates I am not interested in, want, nor will entertain the thought of owning a bisexual male. So you must be pain sluts or crave humiliation to even attempt this conversation with Me.
I am not quite sure where the word came from that Female Dominants are more interested in bisexual men... But I am here to inform you, That simply isnt true. Not for a true (active lifestyle) Dominant.
1. We dont share what is ours! Not your mind, your body, your mouth and least of all OUR cock!
2. We are not into using and then putting someone to the curb when we "tire" of them.
3. That willingness on your part to perform such acts, is a NEGOTIATING POINT with the Domina you enter into a relationship with or agree to serve.
So if you want to put it on your stinking little profile because you "THINK" it makes you more attractive to Dominant women, you just go right ahead. Just dont get pissy with Me or others when we reject you because of it. No amount of pleading, begging or telling Me it is just there because: blah blah blah blah.
I dont want to hear it, I am not interested WHY it is there, I dont care.
Any person that is so desperate, as well as willing to violate their own hard limits just to belong or play with someone, needs to rethink the logic in belonging to someone who will do that to you.
~snaps fingers~ NEXT! |
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I had a recent conversation with someone who informed Me about ANR. No! I am not going to tell you what it is, if you do not know! If you have any information on this topic or are interested, I would enjoy seriously chatting with you. |
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A Series on Sexuality by a Quebec Film crew, which will air on channel 5..has been filming in several different countries around the world. The American segment, was filmed this evening in Dallas, Texas
I was honored to be a part of the Open Forum Discussion informing the general Canadian public what The Alternative Lifestyle of BDSM is all about. It was a very enjoyable, sometimes funny, mostly serious, open, honest, informative discussion. I found it astounding that this crew had NO idea that some of their fellow Canadians were even interested in the Lifestyle, let alone participated! ~chuckle~ Helloooooooooo... It's everywhere baby!
It is not defined by breeding, class, race, gender, or even socioeconomics.
So to My Canadian counterparts.. Be sure to watch for this series to be run during "prime time."
I think you will enjoy it. |
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Today, I celebrate LIFE!
Today I will lovingly bathe My Toy Poodle for the last time. She has been a devoted companion for the last 14 years. Always loving unconditionally. Her time is now at an end. Her quality of life suffers. It is indeed hard to remain selfish to hold on to her, when at this time, she needs to be free from pain and allowed to go with dignity.
I will dress her in her pink heart sweater. Then travel to the Vet together. I want her in My arms when she passes from this life. My respect and unconditional love for her. Bundled in satin, she will be laid to rest beside another beloved poodle of 14 years, under a pink flowering tree in My back yard.
I do not make this entry for many to feel sorry for Me. I wish to share the joy and love one feels when they have something or someone in their life that truly loves, trust and yes, many times needs you.
Celibate the fact that you came together for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
I was her lifetime. She was My reason. Each experience, whether it be joy or sorrow serves to teach us something valuable, if we will each open our hearts, minds and simply listen.
I hope you each find your reason..... |
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Dear Gawd... Some of the emails I receive. I do not need the BAU to tell Me some of the individuals on here are mentally deranged, while living in a world of pure fantasy, lies and deceit! I would however, like to hand them a stack of the "fucked up" emails and compare My psychological profile assessment with theirs! ~chuckle~ |
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Gentleman.. I am not a Cougar! I need someone home when the elevator goes UP!
Childish antics, verbal retaliation for My lack of interest will never gain favor with this Dominant.
Perhaps you might have a great body now..It will not last forever. Trust Me.
What is more important is what is between your ears!
As the saying goes: Fat and Ugly can be changed. Stupid is forever!
Think about this before you send your snide emails to ANY Dominant. |
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I'm not sure what all the hype from men not understanding a woman, stating: We are too complicated, is about....
1. Give us chocolate
2. Tell us we're pretty
3. Speak only when the duct tape is removed.
GOT IT? |
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I, along with many DFW Domina's will be attending Fourth Friday @ Pappas BBQ tonight. It's located off I-35 & Northwest Hwy. How many so called real subs on here.. Or those interested in the Alternative Lifestyle, have the balls to come out and meet your local Dominants in a completely safe, VANILLA environment? If you do.. Be sure to ask anyone which one I am.. Come over, introduce yourself, just to say Hi! I'd really like to meet you. |
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What a nice weekend. I rejoined the staff of Sanctuary on a limited basis. Saturday night was My first night back after a long hiatus. I met many new individuals to the lifestyle, while being engrossed in conversations, answering questions and explaining the lifestyle, from MY point of view. You never know what will be discussed out back on the Smoking Deck! Come on out and find us.
Sunday was WICK'D Domme Luncheon. It's always nice to spend time with some incredible Female Dominants and old friends. If you are local to the DFW area, a Femdom, would like to come on our lunch on the Second Sunday of EVERY MONTH, contact Lady Topaz, Mystic Fire Topaz on here (as well as )
We'd love to meet you. The meeting place changes restaurant locations each month. But is generally around the I-35 / Northwest Hwy. area of Restaurant Row. We don't bite and you'll make some great friends in the Lifestyle Community.
For the male subbies.. WICK'D DFW is going to be having their monthly Femdom Play Party and Munch on 9/17, held at the Sanctuary @ 7:00 PM. Contact Lady Topaz to get on the list and don't forget to bring something YUMMY to share with everyone. It's always a POTLUCK Dinner. If you CAN cook.. Make something to woo all the femdoms with your talents. If you can't cook, like Me.. There's always the Deli or Bakery section of your local Grocery Store. We all bring something, share a meal together, then venture into the Back 2 Dungeons to play. Who knows.. you might just get lucky. The worst that can happen is you'll meet new people and make friends. Now, Is That So Bad?
I hope I get the chance to meet some of you out here who profess they want to meet. Now's your chance.
Lastly, there is always 4th Friday. Read the Sanctuary website for INFO on how to get your "INVITATION" to attend this gathering.
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As I approach My 60th Birthday this month, I continue to be astounded by the number of individuals that have not taken the time to READ Profiles, READ about this wonderful lifestyle we call BDSM. They are clueless about this genre.
Admitting that the Alternative Lifestyle is "INFINITE," so few do not understand that this title: ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLE encompasses many different genre's within that title. Subdivisions if you will. Yet there are those who Assume, while lumping everyone together as a whole. WRONG!
I know I am not the only Dominant preaching to take the time to READ someone's profile.
I personally know (from real life in person contact away from this wee computer) many Dominants listed on this site who are "LIFESTYLERS." Both Male and Female. We all have something very important in common. We understand OUR lifestyle and what it is We want, seek and demand in a relationship. We take the time to fill out our profile being as explicit as possible so others can understand our words and meanings.
I cannot convey to you or emphasize enough how important selecting the right Dominant for yourself is. It is not about running or relocating to someone just because you think they are attractive. Or think they "might" meet your needs.
I will not spend useless time telling you of all the atrocities I know about committed on unsuspecting individuals in the name of BDSM I have knowledge of over the last 33 years I have been involved. If you do not realize by now..That predators DO NOT HAVE A SPECIFIC GENDER or demeanor, then you never will.
Though I find it flattering that individuals contact Me expounding the fact that they can relocate to Me immediately to be My slave, yet I know nothing about them, I find that disturbing. If they will do this to Me, a Dominant who is known in the community, what do they offer the individuals who cannot be validated? One has to wonder.
Most importantly, I value MY LIFE, so they have to be validated.
It's never about, Yes, OK, get on a plane and come be My slave and move into My home.
Then there are those who write telling Me they want to get to know Me. OK Fine...
But reviewing their profile, they seek every demeanor listed on collarme. More importantly, they seek something I am NOT! Hello!
They don't even know who they are or what they want. They are willing to settle. Not Me.
I know who I am.. As well as what I want. READ MY PROFILE.
Get to know Me as a person, First and foremost. If you cannot do that, why should I waste My valuable time on you or with you?
I am NOT a Kinkster- one into the KINK utilized within the lifestyle
I am NOT a Swinger- one who enjoys sexual contact with multiple partners
I am NOT a Hedonist- one who is into the sexual feeling and gratification's derived from
I am NOT a Switch- one who changes their demeanor
I am NOT a submissive- one who submits
I am not Bisexual- one who enjoys sexual contact with both sexes
So if you seek the above, kindly don't send Me your emails.
I detest one line emails, so understand that going in. If you don't have the time or inclination to write at least several lines, don't bother. It makes you appear as though you are trolling to see who in fact will answer you.
I seek an ALPHA male slave. A D/s M/s Dominant led relationship, is one where the Dominant derives THEIR POWER and satisfaction from the TPE (Total Power Exchange) from within that relationship. A Lifestyle Dom/Domme {Both pronounced the same: Dom} Are into the mental aspects of control and the play. They find all aspects of the lifestyle fulfilling and well rounded. I personally do not derive any such power from a doormat. The individual I seek MUST be a strong man who knows himself as well as his personal needs within.
Being a slave is a MIND SET. The demeanors ARE NOT interchangeable. He does not submit. He surrenders.
Lastly, for those who seek that elusive "PERFECT DOMINANT" I don't walk around in BDSM gear or clothing every day. I don't have a perfect body. I am a mature individual that is full figure that still has an hourglass shape. As we say in Texas; I clean up well.
I am a Southern Lady in all respects. Outside My own home or lifestyle community, NO ONE would ever guess I am a Lifestyle Dominant. Though many feel the power that emanates and radiates from within Me, thus treat Me with common courtesy, respect and naturally defer to My wishes.
My mind, My knowledge, My friendship are the greatest gifts I have to offer. Interested? |
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You would think that those who profess to be Dominants, are experienced enough, not to mention intelligent enough to READ PROFILES. If not, why would any of you subs or slave trust them?
I am fortunate enough to have under My protection in RT, several subs who know Me personally. Together we share a bond of trust.
I was astounded yesterday when one of these contacted Me very agitated.
The profile of this sub reads they are under My protection.
ERGO: When someone is under protection of a specific Dominant that IS named in that profile.. IT IS your responsibility, as a Dominant, to contact the named Protector to request permission to write, speak, address the sub or slave in question. That is protocol and proper etiquette.
Individuals place themselves under protection for a reason. It keeps all the players and wannabe's away.
In my estimation incontr0l is nothing more than a player sending out mass emails, hoping that someone will respond. It also makes me wonder if this is really a female..LOL Certainly NOT a RL Dominant. Here is the letter she (?) sent to the protected sub....
{ I'm a 28 female dominant woman. I'm interested in a new slave\sub for online training (if i'm satisfied RT is optional). Read my profile and msg me back if you're interested and have a cam with your skype name.
* if you msg me back make sure your msg includes:
1.pic of face+body
2.list of toys
3. understanding that you have a cam
4. your skype or msn name }
Reading the profile it is understood that this person doesn't have the slightest clue about what is entailed to be a true to life Dominant. How disgraceful, not to mention disgusting.
People like this..create problems. |
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What is it about Newbies, that in their mind it is collar, then trained? Hello!! ~laughs~
Without the proper training.. without knowledge.. How do they even KNOW they have the right Dominant for them? Or is it a matter of: I'll just take whatever comes along first and offers me a collar?
They are clueless as to RED FLAGS that people project.
They don't know about safety. Nor do they understand that to those of us who participate IN the lifestyle.. Being collared is the same as becoming engaged in the Vanilla realm.
Since people object to the word "REAL" I will state unequivocally... A TRUE Lifestyle Dominant does not do Velcro collars. In short they will not collar you on line or immediately.
Generally speaking you will be in a collar of consideration for a length of time.. To ascertain if it is a "match" and a situation that will work out. If after the designated time expires, you are not, the relationship ends for each to go their separate ways. No Harm, No foul.
So My advice is to learn ALL that you can. Get training when and where you can..and don't wait for the Dominant of your dreams to train you to their ways.
If you at least have the BASICS, you are far ahead of the pack. |
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My Latest Bitch! Dear Gawd.. I am so tired of the ignorant emails that some people send!
So many who have jumped on this site do not understand the different between a Lifestyler, a Kinkster or a Hedonist! Get a grip people. DON'T send me all the garbage that seems to be spewing from your infinitesimal, twit of a brain.
I wonder if some of you are even sentient? Why not try READING My entire profile.. or better yet, My journals for the last few years? Might just learn something worth asking about.. That sure beats those one line emails I detest! |
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It's that time of year again in Dallas. The winds are blowing and with them comes that need within Me. My blood..races, My mind wanders off to various places to run away to.
The spring rains bring a deep longing and need. RUN MAGGIE RUN !
Being landlocked, I want to feel sand between My toes..And the Sun kiss My naked body as I lounge languidly worshiping it. Oh wait! I forgot.. I don't have a Cabana Boy or the funds to take Me very far for very long! Ah well.. There's always next year! ~LOL~ |
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An intense week ahead. The British sub who has been under My protection for the last year, will be arriving in Dallas in the AM for a week of extensive in-depth submissive training.
I look forward to spending time with her. Both in Lifestyle and doing many things in the vanilla realm... such as the Scarborough Faire Renaissance Festival, an evening and dinner watching the Thoroughbreds run @ Lone Star Park. (maybe a little betting)
I want her to leave not only with knowledge and a firm grip on our lifestyle.. But appreciate Texans and our Southern Charm as well as what My City has to offer in the way of entertainment. |
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First and foremost.. I want to extend my great appreciation for the wonderful Service subs that have so graciously served Me.
Words cannot express how wonderful and such a hard worker this sub has been. Never complaining, always willing no matter the task of what I need done.
My life is in the midst of great change. I will keep my friends here on collarme posted.
To those who are in my life daily.. I appreciate the "gift" of your friendship, along with the encouraging, never wavering support you give me, in all my endeavors.
~Follow your heart and follow your dreams~
Namaste` |
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Remember: "MURPHY'S LAW"
When you least expect it, something will happen to screw up your plans! ~Laughs~ |
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03-04-2010
To My Friends..
Please remember Our Troops serving our country around the world. Not only in Iraq.
Some of whom are members of this very site. I bid "God Speed" to a wonderful sub just this last week headed to Iraq for a tour of duty. As I am sure many of you have.
My son called last night to inform me he was one of 20 selected to go to Iraq, then Afghanastan.
As a mother, my heart breaks. All I could do was keep telling him how much I love him.
Growing up as a Military child, then a Government Civilian in Security overseas during Vietnam, a Military wife for 20 years, I understand and support our need to have our troops..Not only in Harm's way, but many places we have never even heard of, to up hold and defend possible retaliation against our country and our way of life as "AMERICANS," of which I am damn proud to be one.
A simple prayer should be easy for you to do, as well as give, for the luxury of your freedom, being a citizen of our great Nation.
My thanks, as well as those serving, their spouses and family members, go to you with our blessing and prayers that you never have to feel or share the sorrow of losing a love one in this turbulent time.
Namaste |
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~~ SERVICE sub WANTED ~~
I am in the midst of a move. I could certainly use a qualified Service sub to help Me get settled. I was thinking about this just last night.
Several months ago I placed an Ad on another BDSM website seeking one man to share between three (3) Lifestyle Dominas, on a rotation basis. he would serve whomever needed work done that week. I never got a response. you would think as big an area as DFW is.. there would be one man who desires nothing more than to serve and help out in any way his service could please a Mistress. Nope.. not one.
Oh yeah, I get mail like every other Domina from people over 500 miles away that say:"Gee, if i only lived closer, Ma'am." Right! Now perhaps they are sincere. Or perhaps it is just a line that gets them off the hook..knowing full well they are much too far away even to be considered.
So I have to ask.. Why is it when actual WORK is mentioned, those who profess to be service subs, run for the hills as if their hair was on fire? ~laughs~
Contrary to popular belief, Service sub, does not mean sexual service! Most service subs don't even have an interest in "Play or being played." Their KINK, if you will, is doing whatever is required or needed by the Dominant.. to make the Dominants life easier. They rejoice in doing a good job and being appreciated for all their effort and energy. Knowing they made a difference in someone's life.
For what I require at this time, no special skill is needed. Just help Me unpack and rearrange furniture. It doesn't take a rocket scientist or a degree. But it does take a dedicated willingness to serve along with (I would hope) sincerity, a kind heart, warm smile as well as the ability to joke and laugh.
So I ask again.. Are there any true Service subs in the DFW area who would like to serve on a limited basis at this time?
Kindly understand if you have a bad back.. or weight limitations on your lifting and moving abilities, I can't honestly use you.
Email Me here and we'll discuss your availability. |
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Contemplation on a year in review!
I would like to wish those serious in their Quest.. A wonderful prosperous New Year. May you find your "O/one" you are searching for during the coming year.
The Alternative lifestyle as it is termed, is endless in the types of people who play under that umbrella. I am here as a Lifestyler. Not a Kinkster, a hedonists, a swinger, or someone looking to be supported or to have endless sexual encounters. So listen up... This Domina is for real.
Take your games to those who get off on them.
Like the Domina I know in many cities and countries around the globe, this is not a game for Us. I adhere to protocol and etiquette and expect those practiced when approaching or writing to Me.
DON'T address me as Mistress. I am not your Mistress and I don't use it as part of My title. READING is fundamental! Take the time to read someones profile, not just look at their photos.
PRACTICE HONESTY:
You would think that is self explanatory wouldn't you? yet there are many who constantly invalidate the meaning and intention of, not only this site, but others like it. If you can't be honest, it screams about your integrity.
A good example is the fool in Canada/ New York named Liam. Liam has 2 completely different profiles. he is less than honest. his stories varies as to who and what he is, as to his location. The main reason I pick this person, for there are many like him, is that he was stupid enough to think he could play friend against friend. One profile was talking to a very close Domina friend and had entered an agreement of consideration with her. he disappeared for 10 days and low and behold, using a photo taken off the Internet, popped into My mailbox wanting to "get to know Me."
What Liam forgot was a very important rule... Domina's communicate.
Knowing My close friend was in consideration with him, I began to quiz him to see what he had to say. Lies, Lies, lies... everything that sprang forth from his mouth was lies. I marvel at individuals like this.
Well.. wait a minute.. maybe he has dual personalities and doesn't know the other "Liam" exists? NOT! If you'd like to see the stolen photo, it's under the name: Dsdevotee
A note to Liam and people like him: The Laws of the Universe. What goes around comes around. be prepared for it.
IT GOES BOTH WAYS!
Many Dominants BITCH about the subs that play games. Guess what? That shoe is often worn on the other foot in the guise of someone pretending to be a Dominant. Just because you consider yourself aggressive does not make you a Dominant.
Then there is the individual who "PLAYS" at being a Dominant on line. Boss, Boss, Boss, Do, Do, Serve, Serve! Hey! If that's what gets you off..taking orders from someone you don't know, have never met and have not built a bond of trust with..So be it. Just don't think I'll do it for you.
Again what individuals NOT practicing the Lifestyle have never learned is the important fact that just because someone is submissive..DOES NOT mean they will be submissive to YOU! Submissives and slaves are people first. Just like Dominants are. Mutual respect for an individual is a requirement to even start a friendship. Let alone advance to the point where they will comply and follow any orders you give them.
Respect should be earned, not bestowed because you call yourself a Dominant. In the mean time, social graces, consideration and manners should be practiced.
THE RUNNER:
Ever exchange emails and chat with someone you enjoy. get to like and "think" possibly;y you have located someone that could "enhance" your life by being together? Oh I have... Yet when it comes down to serious talk of a "MEETING" they run! Like Arnold Schwarzenegger, you hear the words, i'll be back i just need to take care of_______ Whatever. Bang! They are gone like a person with their hair on fire, never to return. yet still on line and playing that game all over again.
So where is the courage in saying: i don't feel ready to meet. i don't want to get serious or even , i'm sorry i don't feel this is something that will work for me. Now we have someone clueless and ball-less.
THE WEEKEND WARRIOR:
This person is on line to meet very true. but to meet and serve a different person each and every weekend. They are like a Domina I use to know.. One in house.. One going out the back door..and one coming in the front. I won't even discuss the psychological profile of this type of person. If you don't meet "their" demands to a meeting as quickly as possible, they are Gone baby! Not anyone I'd want around Me anyway.
What this fool doesn't realize is this: Vanilla life, family, job, and obligations ALWAYS come before the lifestyle and play. So not everyone will "fit" into your neat little timetable.
THE BRAT
If someone is honest enough to give you their REAL information respect that. It's not to be shared or numbers given out without that person's express permission. I am addressing a sub friend of mine, whom I took under My protection. What she experienced was making friends with another female sub and exchanging numbers. They would chat often. One day said sub got upset because My friend did not answer her on I-M. she felt slighted and got enraged. What she didn't realize, AND I do hope many of you will take note of this.. the sub was not at her computer. she had to go to the store. I know I don't sit in front of My I-M, even if I DO have it on. I go on with everyday responsibilities. But I digress.... enraged sub has her Master call My friend and chew her out. Now what VIOLATIONS just occurred?
1. The passing of a number without consent
2. That Master (for lack of a better term) had no business calling let alone chewing her out.
Unless they OWN you... No one has the right to chastise or berate you. you have not given them permission or consent!
Whether it's RACK or SSC.. The key word is Consensual! Along with respect of an individuals right to privacy.
THE INVALIDATOR:
I have discussed this person in length in My journal. It might do you good to stop by and read it. It will help everyone recognize certain personality types and learn how to handle and avoid them. We all know an invalidator. Whether it is a family member, someone at work, or someone we come into contact often with. Avoid them.
THE DOOR MAT
I know you have seen this person. Talked to a few no doubt. It is the YES person who will do anything. They have every demeanor under the sun checked on their profile. They seek a body that only needs a pulse and is breathing. Again, what they fail to realize that almost ALL practicing and involved Dominants beyond this computer, don't seek a door mat, nor want one. They want someone they can respect. As well, a good sub or slave should want respect in one form or another.
Lastly, I will tell of the Domina I know that "grades" individuals on their actions. One of Her request is for the individual to write her a letter and mail it to her. She has even told them they need not put a return address on it. Pffft! Most are too lazy. Even a card would suffice. As She told me.. If I am not worth a 47 cent stamp, then they are not worth My time. So know that some things people do are a TEST to see how well you rank in your response.
Remember that though many of us live the lifestyle 24/7.. We are not always in role 24/7. We are individuals, people with feelings. We hurt, we cry, we laugh, we give. We are considerate, understanding to a point.
Forgiving, loving, respectful. We treat others the way we wish to be treated. We were raised with "CORE" values. We have integrity. Our honor and our word mean everything to us. It is the foundation of the person we are and strive to live by daily. if you can't understand these principles..If you don't live by them, the reality is, you are not worthy of a Real relationship with a truly gracious individual.
For those of you who do practice this. Don't lose heart. Continue to be the best person you can be. When the time is right, the O/one right for you, will walk into your life.
It's not about being "OWNED" or OWNING. It's about being owned by the right one, or owning the one that is right for you! |
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~* Wishing Everyone A Safe, Joyous, Holiday Season *~
May you travel in safety whether it is across town or across the globe.
May you share your time in the loving warmth of friends and or family.
May the Joy of the Season touch your heart so that you extend a kindness to someone you don't even know. It could make a big difference in their life. |
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Sometimes when I check "who's viewing me," I will click on an individuals profile to see what they have to say or their interests.
As you may surmise, many don't have profiles or have much to say!
Surprise! Surprise! *ponders* so this is supposed to get my attention or interest? I don't think soooo.
Then there is the man who wants it all. he doesn't care what it is, as long as it is living and breathing. I think he has every demeanor in the box checked. Hellooooo! ~laughs~
Now I am not going to dog anyones interest. In the lifestyle, as long as it's consensual between 2 responsible consenting adults...It's fine. Yet it may not be MY interest. So kindly do READ my interests before you contact me.
I don't play "games" and I don't do anything with a high risk factor involved. Be that a sexual risk to me.. or a physical/psychological risk to either myself or a partner or playmate.
A good example of this would be Breath Play and Queening. Why you ask? Because both cause accumulative brain damage due to oxygen deprivation. It then becomes a matter of WHEN the sub/slave will experience an aneurysm.. not "IF"
In the case of breath play you have a 1 in 3 survival rate.
1. you come through the play seemingly just fine, but damage is done.
2. you become a vegetable for the rest of your life
3. you die.
Also be aware there are cases NOW in US courts where Femdoms are accused of murder because the partner died during "Queening."
A fate I would surmise, only James Bond would appreciate! ~laughs~
Strap-on is another story all together. If you enjoy it, fine.
I don't do it, nor am I interested. The long term damage to an individual can be devastating in later years. If you doubt me, talk to a surgeon.
To the sub or slave that contacts me stating he is not really bisexual, but he has served in the past and Ma'am made him do it! Pffft! Talk to My hand! I am not going to BUY IT!
It should be understood here and now, simply because you are a sub or slave, does not give anyone the right to violate a person's hard limits. YES! slaves are entitled to hard limits just as everyone else is.
This is WHY you should select a Dominant that has interests, desires and a philosophy very close to your own. Within the confines of that relationship should be mutual respect for one another.
Negotiations having taken place, a Good Dominant, will not violate any Hard Limits you have expressed beforehand.
I can not respect an individual that desires so greatly to belong or please that they would violate their own hard limits or code of ethics simply to please such a Dominant. That being the case, if She did love you so greatly, where is She now?
Ummm huh. Used you, abused you and threw you away, huh? Yep! Happens all too often.
There is a vast difference between Internal enslavement and Enforced.
Enforced, the individual wants to be treated as chattel. They expect to be regarded as total property without any rights or consideration and to be kept caged or in chains. This is not My idea of a fulfilling relationship. Again, kindly ask about My slave requirements.
Comming from a strong Military family and background I am a firm believer in Honor, Integrity, Truth in all things and Trust. If these are not core values of yours, I am not interested in you.
Although I live this lifestyle 24/7 you need to understand that few Domina I know in real life desire to be IN Role, 24/7.
Besides being involved in our local BDSM communities, We each have and are active within the Vanilla realm as well. I am one of them. If you can't accept that or participate within that realm, do not contact me.
Being a Southern Domina and Lady, I move in and out of both worlds very easily. Never doubt my sincerity or my Dominance.
Southern Ladies are gracious and considerate. It has been drilled into our core since birth. Yet we each have the fire and desire to almost always be in charge. Our word is law. As the old joke goes: She Who MUST Be obeyed!
In the vanilla world, we would be viewed as a loving couple, yet like the graceful Swan, people would never see things hidden from view or the under lying current that an exchanged look may convey. Yet, I am not beyond knocking you down a peg verbally in vanilla public. Never doubt that either.
I practice and demand protocol and etiquette. In short, Southern manners. If you can't act like a gentleman, especially in public, don't contact me either. I don't have to settle for anything or anyone less than I personally feel is BEST for Me!
Remember: It's not about being owned or collared. It's about being owned and collared to the RIGHT ONE!
Enjoy your day... |
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Whether Home or Travel.. I wish each of you a Safe, Joyous, Thanksgiving Holiday! |
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My new favorite phrase is:
"ALL MEN ARE BASTARDS!"
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November 04, 2009
"Suspected Serial Killer Trolled Sex Sites For 'Submissive' Women To 'Train'
I am not sure how many people have been following this News. My first information about it came this morning while I was reading the Wall Street Journal. I then followed up with an Internet search. I think you will find the results again, shocking. Though they did not list this site by name, several which you will recognize were listed.
Sadly and unfortunately, this brings My Rant home to bear. This serial killer claimed to be a Master. So most of the 10 victims just found were trolled off of the internet. This has been going on according to police over the last several months.
Read the story and see the News clips here:
http://www.wtol.com/Global/story.asp?S=11436930
I hope this makes everyone stop to think and Go that extra mile of researching individuals before meeting off the Internet in Private! Use SAFE CALLS!! Be safe out there. |
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My RANT.. Your Education
Recently, someone new in the Lifestyle was referred to me by a Dom I know. I read the young lady's profile and answered her questions to the Best of My ability. I am sure they may not have been what she expected. I was brutally honest.
Claiming to be new to the lifestyle, listed as a "switch" seeking a Dominant Master, yet had no real lifestyle experience. Had never played. Yet again, the profile stipulated she was under consideration. This all in 2 days time.
One of her questions was: I note that most men who contact me, expect sexual performance from the onset. Is this the norm for a male Dom? As I read her journal, I was really shocked that most of her posts were of a sexual nature. No wonder she was getting THIS type of email. HELLO!
It brought Me full circle in my thinking about Safety, Security and Profiles. Especially for Newbies.
I so detest the person who states: I don't like Labels. Profiles are labels. Blah blah blah. It makes me wonder what is it exactly that this person is trying to hide?
Profiles are tools. It narrows the matching or contact (we would hope) to like minded individuals. In short, it narrows your group to a manageable number. I don't think of profiles as labels. I view them more like Directional beacons. Pointing someone my way, who understands, while accepting what I am all about. We hopefully have a lot in common to discuss as we get to know one another.
Those of us who are experienced beyond this computer understand the inherent DANGERS that lie in wait of the newbie. We know about Red Flags, they don't. We know about sub frenzy, they don't.
They simply have no clue that because our elected lifestyle is emerged in Dominance and submission, what better genre than The Alternative Lifestyle for a Predator to take their time and select their victim. To seem to be the "be all and end all" of a perfect dominant. To manipulate the individual just where they want them. Predators do not have a specific gender.
With all the above in consideration, I am going to pass on some information that hopefully each of you will willingly share with others. Especially newbies. If you are like me, most of it will shock you.
"Every year in this country, (USA) we have about 20 Serial Killers. 10 of which are apprehended. Ten who are not. They are responsible in total for some 200 deaths. What makes it particularly important for us, is the average Serial Killer is responsible for 10 deaths. That's a huge body count!" -Jack Levin, Ph.D. - Criminologist Northeastern University Boston
Sadistic killing is associated with sex.
The joining of sex (often sexual fantasy) and killing is a common factor among Serial Killers. Prime examples are: Albert Desalvo's sexual strangulation's. Raping & Killing or Killing & mutilation. Something a killer does to meet his own psychological needs. What is more powerful?
DEFINITION OF A SERIAL KILLER
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They kill 2 or more people with gaps of time between murders.
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Have a ME FIRST attitude.
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Have a Lack of Empathy.
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Have an Antisocial Personality Disorder (Sociopath and Psychopath are used for this type person interchangeably)
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They very easily manipulate people.
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They view people as objects.
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They see people as a way to meet their own ends.
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Type A Personality (Dominant)
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They want people who are Easy, Controllable, Vulnerable
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Wants Power. Wants to Dominant and control people before they kill them.
"In any case, the Serial Killer will strangle an individual to the point they pass out, then release them. Then they will repeat this method, again and again. Over and over till they decide: "OK you're dead" and will finally stay with the person till they are strangled to death." -Steven A. Egger, Ph.D.- Criminologist University of Houston, Clear Lake.
Does any of this personality type sound familiar to any of you?
Does this specific type of strangulation resemble a specific type of play within the lifestyle to you?
A Serial Killer may not always use the same MO.. But their signature will always be the same. People often confuse a signature with MO. They are not the same.
MO: Modus Operandi: The way they kill.
Signature: The visual marking or display the killer leaves behind that gives them gratification.
There are 3 different types of killers.
1. Keepers: Killers who surround themselves with their victims. The decomposing smell turns them on.
2. Dumpers: They take the body off and dump it somewhere else after killing.
3. Deserters: They leave the body where it was killed and walk away.
Criminologists agree that Serial Killers:
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Choose to Kill (Individual Choice) I want to, I am going to.
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Experts agree Serial Killers ENJOY Killing. (They enjoy the High derived from being in control of their victim)
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That are NOT Psychopaths or Sociopaths. (They feel no remorse for their victims)
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Serial Killer Experts agree that Serial Killers are NOT insane.
Frederic Reamer Ph.D. of Rhode Island College, created what he calls the Topology of Criminal Circumstances. It classifies different types of killing. They are as follows:
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Murders of Greed: People paid or for hire killings.
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Murders of Rage
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Murders of Retribution: Disgruntle employee or angry coworker. Someone wanting to EVEN the score.
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Murders of Frolic: For the fun or joy of it
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Crimes of Addiction: Murders committed while under the influence of drugs.
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Mental Illness
People often wonder how victims are selected. Criminologists and Serial Killer Specialists agree that individuals are selected by accessibility and convenience. Anybody will do. Anybody could be the next victim. There are not any relationships between the serial killer and their target. Nothing ties them together. They only meet and know the victim on the day they kill them. Because the Serial Killer selects from what they consider to be the fringes of society. Those that are not likely to be missed or at any rate reported missing soon. Police term these type of people "Less Dead." These often include, The elderly, Street People, Runaways, The lone Hitchhiker, Prostitutes. It is my personal opinion that those playing in the BDSM lifestyle have not accurately been considered in this equasion.
With limited information on these people's movements or lack of constant interaction with others, there is often limited information when they turn up missing or do not check in with others. The lack of quick response of the public to the crime, does not put pressure on any police department to solve the crime quickly.
Homicide Detectives are getting cases all the time in large metropolitan areas and cities. If it comes in that someone is perhaps missing.. With limited information and have no information to POINT then in the direction they should be looking to solve the crime, the solvability factor of the crime is going to be very low.
Because the person may not be what our society considers: Of Value, i.e., Middle Class or influential citizens, members of society, the case is going to go on the bottom of the pile. This mere fact, allows killers to get to the people they want.
The stigma attached to those who either play in, or participate within the Alternative Lifestyle is one of general depravity, sick, sadistic or masochistic in nature as an individual. Nothing could be further from the truth in reality. People from ALL walks of life participate, play, experience, live and explore the Alternative Lifestyle.
Yet the public's impression of us is that we are not contributing members of society. So why would there be an outcry by the public to solve a murder, rape, beating or mutilation of someone who plays or practices within our lifestyle? There wouldn't be.
This is not to intimate that all law enforcement officials would turn a blind eye to the fact that this type of thing happens. Yet I have read over and over repeatedly in the papers or heard on the news when something of this mature happens: Oh they were into BDSM. As if that explains away everything with those 4 initials.
Why would anyone set themselves up to bring this type of individual to them? Yet newbies and others often do by their profiles and lack of experience.
Why would anyone be in such a hurry to Play with someone or Belong that they actually circumvent the Security standards that we (those who practice or live the lifestyle AS a lifestyle) go to the trouble to set up and follow? What is the value of a human life? What is your life worth?
I teach, I drill into people:
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1) Qualify: Is the individual you are speaking to a Dom? Domme? Top? Are they Sensual? Leather? Or Sadistic?
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2) Verify: Obtain as much information as you can to check the individual out through any number of personal background checks. Many memberships are $39.95 a year with unlimited checks.
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3) Validate:Check with local groups they give or references they may supply of groups or organizations to ascertain if the person is known in REAL TIME and the overall impression of that person. As well as how long they have been active? Granted this does not assure total safety. Yet the odds are in your favor with this type of investigation. It takes little time and will alert anyone with harmful intentions in regards to you, that you are not going to accept their word alone. Therefore you have just removed yourself from what they want.
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4) Safe Calls: I have created and so have others, SAFE CALL Forms. These should always be filled out in detail any time you are going to a Munch, to a Play Party, or especially to Meet someone. Whether it is the first time or the 10th. IN short: EVERYTIME!
Those of us individuals who view and practice the lifestyle as such, encourage Safety. We want you to check. We want you to feel secure about whom your meeting. Because we will be checking on YOU!
We want and encourage you to have a safe call. Because we are going to have one. It protects BOTH parties.
This last statement made me stop dead in my tracks when I heard it. It gave me serious pause to consider the statement in a REAL context. It reinforced my opinion of Safety and Security. It appears to be accurate: I hope it will impact your actions in the future:
"There are at least a couple hundred Serial Killers in operation right now. They want to feel superior to their victim. Serial Killers are the best at what they do and can go on for years without capture."
-Steven Ainsworth-
Detective, Serial Killer Specialist
Think about this. Mull it over and store this information in your brain. Maybe some of you will think before you take risks. I certainly hope so.
~DM~ |
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I have not gone into a BITCHING MODE in a long time. Guess you fools and Hedonists are due for a good one, so here goes.
Those of US that practice and participate in this lifestyle beyond the realm of our wee computer screens have a different view of things than many who play on line. As well, one has to break the Lifestyle apart from Kinkster and Lifestyler. I won't even discuss the hedonist and swinger.
I am a LIFESTYLER. I live it 24/7. I am active in it.
There are a few things we all do take seriously. One being when a Dominant takes one under consideration, or enters the "DISCOVERY" phase with an individual.
Some "think" and "feel" this means nothing. That they are still able to flirt, chase and cavort as before. To each his own.
However, those I know in the Lifestyle, consider this a very serious step in the process of building trust, while getting to know an individual for a lifestyle commitment. It is predicated on trust as I stated. Honesty, Integrity, Open Communication, Obedience, to name a few.
Being under "Consideration" takes one totally OFF the market so to speak, till such time the Individuals decide if this is something they are going to DO.. or if they are going to go their separate ways.
If they are going to move forward, then the sub/slave generally makes a commitment to serve under consideration for at least one year, electing to belong to that Dominant. Other Dominants that transgress on this situation show their lack of Integrity and worth. Subs or slaves who have entered such a discovery process with a Dominant, yet don't declare it, but continue to chat with, email, flirt with Dominants, are not only misleading Dominants, but also show their lack of Integrity as an individual. It is intentionally withholding information which is equivalent to lying. Just as: "Oh? i didn't mention i was married?" Yeah Right!
So stating that you are in the process of discovery or consideration with someone is an outward declaration of your internal intentions.
My point in all of this is to make it abundantly clear that I have taken someone under consideration. I find him mentally and physically pleasing to My mind.
This individual enhances, rather than completes. He stimulates My mind in many directions.
I do not feel the need to continue to seek until such time that WE (he and I) determined whether we wish to move forward together or simply part friends and walk away.
The reality is: The Dominant may decided if they want to accept the individual.. However it is the sub / slave who makes the final decisions in these matters.
You can't be a Dominant.. if there isn't anyone to Dominate, now can you?  |
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It has been a long arduous few months in preparing for My move. The time is upon Me and it starts tomorrow.
As well, I have been in communication/discovery with a very impressive individual. A slave of substance, quality, and honor. An individual I feel is a perfect match for all that I seek and require in a lifelong Mistress/slave relationship. At this point, it is our desire to move forward to a physical meet as our schedules permit. I am "told" he will know within the first 10 seconds of meeting, if "It" will work. I will allow this indiscretion and illusion if only to pacify his heart and mind. Because a slave...should always surrender willingly with his heart. |
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It's very simple. This expedition is about finding the right slave that will fit into MY lifestyle.
Someone of a slave mindset who desires to be owned for a long term, 24/7 (live in), loving situation within a POLY Family.
Core words like: honor, integrity, respect, discipline, obedience, duty, structure, communication and a strong ethical commitment to your owner and her household.
I DO NOT seek those who wish to be used as chattel. I am not into Enforced slavery.
As well, this is not about your sexual service to Me.. or anyone else.
I NEVER share My property!
Active in the Old World Lifestyle Community both local and on a National / International level, I am not here for the game players or those who simply wish to fulfill a mental fantasy online. Kindly skip My profile and move on to the inexperienced Domina who seeks the same thing you seek...Online games.
If you wish to know My requirements and expectations for consideration you may ask Me.
Thanks for your time and consideration. |
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The Perfect Domme/Mistress
by: slavedoge on f-e-t-l-i-f-e
The perfect Domme/Mistress is as follows:
- She struts around all around all day in a leather catsuits.
- She cracks her whip constantly.
- She loves to say dommy things like "on your knees slave" or "polish my boots with your tongue."
- She has an evil and seductive laugh (ah ha ha ha ha hah. Think the count from sesame street but with a more velvet tone).
Ah yes, fantasies. Wonderful aren't they. And all of the above are nice and a lot of men. But BDSM isn't just about knky fun to me. Its about evolving. It's about becoming a complete person and being able to express as many facets of myself as possible. So I'll take all of the above but I seek more, deeper (and darker. But beautiful darkness).
To me, the perfect Domme/Mistress is this:
- She is a person first. All to easy to forget this when the journey starts. Your mind focuses on the fantasy. But a fantasy is merely a series of images swirling around the imagination. They have no real substance. And what use is a fantasy fulfiled if you can't relate to the person.
- She is strong: By this I dont physically or strong in a "I can drink any man under the table, just watch me go" I mean strong in her femininity. Feminine stength is vastly different to masculine strength. It's what draws me to dominant women. She is fully aware of that strength but doesn't abuse it. She uses it wisely.
- She has kindness in her cruelty. By this I mean she doesn't view submission to her as an act of weakness that she merely exploits. Oh, she will exploit it but to her the submission is about balance. She knows that one cannot exist without the other.
- She has a sensual side.
- She wants to know you not just as a sub but as a person.
- She enjoys the power of bending you to her will but she doesn't do it because she wants to make you powerless. She does it because she wants to see you revealed completely. She can see something in you that is aching to be free and she wants to free it.
Yes, I know there is more and many people will have their own definitions. If you Understand this, Now you Know Me..
~DommeMaggie~
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For your Learning Experience:
Contacting a Domme is not an easy thing to do for many. I am somewhat tolerant on emails depending on My mood when I open it and read it. Take Note: ONE LINERS do not get answered, period. If you don't have time to engage in intelligent conversation via an email Don't Contact Me!
The following is why most REAL Life (people hate that word but it means= practicing & participating in real life outside the realm of this cyber world) get disgusted with emails.
LETTER RECEIVED:
"If you are looking for something and it really matter to you.Then u will have to sacrify effort in terms of been more curious,inquisitive,and focus. i do have a love channel in my heart were i seek to fine tune into the woman that will fit in as my life partner.someone who understands and knows how to treat a man's right.The woman that my heart will glow and rekindle for naturaly without sentiment.The one i will call my true betterhalf.who is ready to relocate.I"m in a journey in search for my missin rib.i hope i could get it right making the right and correct choice out there.if u sincerely believe you can handle me with care and i will do the same pls feel free to drop me a line so we can get started to the journey of love to where we can find trust and happiness.can u dig it!!!"
ANSWER TO SENDER:
Normally I would simply delete a message like yours and block the sender. However, on the off chance you are seriously looking for someone to fit into your life, I give you the following information.
1) Learn to type and spell. Use spellchecker when sending any mail to a Domina.
2) I suggest you learn and understand the correct definitions of the demeanor switch. There are (3) types of switches. 1. Gender switch 2. Situational switch 3. switch (slut) I detest switches. Most people who call themselves one, doesn't even know what it really means. Nor are they aware of the difference in the three. Ergo: type #3 has control and trust issues. Why do you think most switches are detested in the BDSM Lifestyle?
3) Take the time to read someone's profile.
4) Strongly suggest you keep your emails to OTHER switches. This type of message will not be received well by any REAL Lifestyle Domina. It is considered topping from the bottom. Another thing people who are active in the lifestyle detest. Maybe some online only honey will love it.
Thank you for allowing Me to present your message to others as a learning curve. Now consider yourself blocked!
To the men considering writing Me... Do you get it? ~smirk!~ |
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Dominants do have a sense of humor. Mine is very dry and sometimes black... but very much in abundance. My friends will tell you I keep them laughing when they are around Me.
Simply explaining an every day "REAL LIFE" situation, I seem to find the humor in it.
So it is with the following that was sent to Me by a life long Vanilla friend. Knowing I live the lifestyle, she knew I would appreciate the humor. I hope you do as well!
It's Titled: GIRL TALK
The other day I had lunch with 2 of my unmarried friends. One is engaged, one is a mistress, and of course I have been married for 20+ years.
We were chatting about our relationships and decided to amaze our men by wearing a black leather bra & bodice, stiletto heels and a mask over just our eyes. We agreed to meet in a few days to exchange notes. Here's how it all went: My engaged friend:
The other night my boyfriend came over and found me wearing a black leather bodice, tall stilettos and a mask. He saw me and said, 'You are the woman of my dreams. I love you.'
Then we made love all night long.
The mistress:
Me too! The other night I met my lover at his office and I was wearing the leather bodice, heels and mask over my eyes and a raincoat. When I opened the raincoat he didn't say a word, but we had wild sex all night.
Then I had to share my story:
When my husband came home I was wearing the leather bodice, black stockings, stilettos and a mask over my eyes. As soon as he came in the door and saw me he said:
"What's for dinner, Batman?"
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Thank you to those who take the time to write or drop notes into My email.
Don't email me and suggest I read your profile. How rude!
W/we might be a good match, but you have just demonstrated that you will be topping Me from the bottom, with your suggestion.
If you want me to read your profile, copy paste it into the email. AGAIN, Along with a PHOTO.
For those serious about consideration {IF you have READ My entire profile and feel you qualify} Kindly put your request in the form of a PETITION, along with a G-Rated Photo.
Do not copy My examples, these are there to give one a general IDEA of what information is desired.
In a petition [formal or otherwise] one states a simple greeting to the Dominant.
[first declare your appreciation for this opportunity]
[second explain any assets that would help the Dominant understand your goals]
i have been in the lifestyle for ___ years. i have served a Mistress part time for _ years and was fully trained in the following:
_____________. i am seeking a long term relationship in which i may serve to my fullest potential.
i have skills in the following areas: Cooking, Cleaning, Woodworking, Landscaping, Building, electrical work, Book Keeping, Web Services, Etc. [ whatever your different skills are, list them]
Let the Dominant KNOW what skills you bring to the table and in what ways you will be able to contribute to the relationship and Household besides monetarily.
i do hold a full time job with a company that is easily transferable.
i do have a full time job in the ____________field, but can easily locate another position in your area if accepted for service.
[third respectfully explain other points that the Dominant should be aware of]
examples:
i am seeking to serve on a PT basis only as My job requires extensive travel at this time.
i am not able to relocate at this time due to_____________________
i do have the following health issues which I feel it is important to know and be taken into consideration: _________________________
i am not able to do heavy physical work [i.e. lifting over _lbs due to a back problem]
[forth show your willingness to comply]
example: i have not been fully trained in protocol or etiquette, but do have the desire to learn to do things correctly, as expected in Your household.
i am more than willing to undergo any such training that would please any Dominant willing to accept me.
[closing is simple]
With respect, [the wording here is optional]
sign your name
ALL Dominants are different.
ALL Dominants seek different things in an individual and a relationship with that individual.
READ the profile of the Dominant you are going to contact.
Like the ugly step-sisters in Cinderella, Don't Try to make the Shoe fit! It won't work.
Instead, keep it realistic and seek to serve those who's service requirements listed on their profiles, you fulfill. |
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I have started a new Discussion Group in alt.com titled: BDSM Back to Basics.
This is to help newer people learn and understand the Alternative lifestyle.
We meet M-W-F @ 7PM CST / 8PM EST.
It is for serious minded people only, no matter your demeanor.
I try to cover a different topic each class night.
Bring your paper, pen and questions. They will be answered AFTER the presentation, during the discussion period. |
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Do you fit one of the 3 personality types of sub? The Common 3 types of Subs:
1. The sexual submissive. Also known as a bottom or sensual sub. This type of submissive is into it mainly for the sexual gratification derived from some of the activities practiced in BDSM. Once their needs are met they no longer feel a need to submit or surrender any other personal power or control.
2. The psychological submissive. This group contains many of the masochistic submissives. They are into it for the pain, punishment and humiliation often inflicted on them by more sadistic dominants. Many abused individuals often end up in this category and are not actually submissives but may have emotional problems that keep them in the "victim" mode because of their previous experiences.
3. The natural submissive. Also called true submissive. This type of individual seems to have been born submissive. It goes beyond the sexual aspects of the BDSM and is a normal part of their makeup. It is their nature to please others and readily relinquish their personal power with little or no urging from their dominant. They desire the D/s psychological control in their relationships.
Or have you discovered you don't want the psychological control of another, you just want to play? If so, then you are a bottom.
bottom:
Is just what the name implies. They like to receive. They are not into the issue of being controlled by anyone. They just want to play, then walk away
As to a slave: I personally feel that a slave is a greater extension of an EXPERIENCED submissive. they understand the lifestyle and wish to enter a relationship within the Total Power Exchange using Consensual Non Consent.
Only a FOOL jumps into the lifestyle claiming to be a slave and yet they have no knowledge or experience.
Perhaps you feel you are a Dominant because you have such an aggressive personality?
A Dominant:
First of all, the word Domme is the feminine of the male word Dom. Both are Latin based words.
People will argue the semantics on the pronunciation of the word, but it is pronounced the same as the male: Dom. The e is silent. It stems from the Latin word Domna
Dominants are into the mental aspects, control and the play. They find all aspects of the lifestyle fulfilling and well rounded.
Or a Top because you want to control the scene play?
Tops:
Tops are generally found in the Leather side (SM) of the BDSM House. They are the one that controls the scene. Administering the "play" if you will. However, does not have psychological control over the person they are playing with. They are NOT into the aspects of control.
Whichever you think, allow Me to assure you, just because you have an assertive personality does not make you a Lifestyle Dominant.
It is often said within My lifestyle: "Being Dominant is the greatest act of submission."
All real Lifestyle Dominants understand this statement.
Once you have clearly decided where you fall within the constraints of role description, you are ready to create your profile on line.
Creating a profile is not as easy as it sounds, if you wish to find that which you are searching for. That being: An honest, experienced Dominant who will desire to be with you.
First and foremost is HONESTY.
Always be honest about WHO you are and what it is you seek.
Do you want to just play on line and exchange erotic emails with others? Fine. Then check that box.
Or do you really want someone in your life that will meet your needs, respect your limits and hard limits? Even on a limited basis?
Are you just here on line for sex and play? State it.
If you are married and playing with your spouse's approval, be sure to put that! It's Important.
Why? Because, a Dominant looking for someone to be in their life 24/7, you would not fit.
However, you will fit if they seek someone on an on-going limited basis. Or are willing to accept this knowledge and start an honest relationship based on this fact.
If you are married and playing without approval, simply know, in this lifestyle, it is considered the same as a cheating spouse. It is considered lying.
You are deceiving someone and once they find out, will drop you so fast it won't be funny.
Because if you will lie about something as important as that.. What else will you lie about?
So always be honest, no matter the costs. you will find someone seeking what you have to offer in the way of limited play.
Your profile is a reflection of the type of person you are.
Just as you despise the Dominants out there playing games and pretending, it doesn't mean you have to act in the same despicable manner. Be Honest.
Some do and have started out in the lifestyle only wanting to play. Then discovered that this lifestyle is about more than "play" and once they got into what it is about...
Were in awe of their own self discovery that opened before them, much like the Yellow brick Road. Your honest profile will draw to you, like minded people.
In the mean time, it is up to you to READ about this lifestyle and educate yourself.
Don't hang around chat rooms waiting to find a Dominant to take and train you.
If you don't know anything.. How can you expect to GUARD yourself against those that would use and abuse you? You simply can't. Doing less than learning, you are easy prey for a Predator.
Remember? I stated: All newbies are easy prey. If that insults you..then do something about it. Protect yourself.
Don't be in a HURRY. Talk yourself into calming down. Don't rush anything.
And for gods sake, don't fall in love on line and rush to the first person that pays attention to you. You have more value and self worth than that. Even if you don't feel you do inside.
There is a saying: fat and ugly can be changed. Stupid is forever.
Well, I am here to tell you, you do not have to be stupid. Educate yourself. Know what people are talking about. Ask questions. Learn in order to better protect yourself.
Just as women can be used by one claiming to be a male Dominant, so can men be used.
Just because you are male, does not mean there are not female predators out there just waiting to use you as well. Predators have no specific gender. Remember that.
Predators seek to assure you, that They are your dream come true.
Like everything else, if it sounds too good on line.. Chances are it is.
It is up to you, to use your head, not your heart or sexual feelings, to check out WHOM it is you are going to give your phone number to or whom you are going to meet in real life.
A REAL Dominant knows and understands this. They will not pressure you for a phone number, nor will they pressure you for a meet.
Use any of the numerous programs out on the net to validate the person you are talking to. Make sure they ARE who they claim to be.
Find out if they belong to any of their local organizations. Ask around in those groups even through email.
Again, A real lifestyle Dominant, will make sure they can be validated, unless they have something to hide.
Now you are in communication with one you would possibly consider for a play partner or a possible Dominant.
Have you bother to ask if they are a sensual Dom/me or a Leather Dom/me or Top?
Are they Sadistic? Seeking a slave or a sub? Ask questions and listen to the answers or read them very carefully.
SCRUTINIZE their profile.
It will tell you what you want to know as well as give you RED FLAGS as to whether this person is a good match for you. Again, use your better judgement and don't be in a hurry.
If it stipulates they are looking for a woman who is HWP or slim and you are a BBW.. That is not a match.
Simply because I am an experienced Dominant, does not mean that all subs or slaves will be what I want, need or seek in My personal life.
I am experienced enough, as well as intelligent enough to know and understand this.
I am NOT in a hurry to own. Neither should you be, to belong.
Don't be in a hurry to change your chat name to reflect you are HIS or HERS and you haven't even met this individual in real life.
It makes you look like a fool when the situation turns out not to be what you invisioned.
And though this lifestyle is about being non judge mental,
HELLO, that means as far as your likes or kinks are concerned. We are all
judgemental of fools, idiots, players, wanna-be's and trolls.
I will simply say this about the later, if you are silly enough to rush into something with someone you have NOT carefully checked out, find yourself in a situation you had not bargained for, or one of abuse, get out as quickly as possible, but know you MUST take at least half of the responsibility. Don't play the victim. It won't fly with those who know.
Now that you have created an honest profile, joined in a chat group, again educate yourself. |
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-FASHION FOCUS-
I play in a 7,200 sq foot Dungeon here in Dallas.
Almost A/all who attend are regulars in this lifestyle.
W/we each enjoy getting together several times a month in various "group" meetings to have discussions, demonstrations, training sessions, or just being "social" animals with like minded individuals. It's generally always great fun!
As of late, I have noticed a NEW trend among the new submissives "Visiting" our Dungeon.
That of Fashion. Sometimes it looks great, HOWEVER, not ALL Dungeons are what We in the lifestyle term SM. That standing for Show and Model.
We don't dress in High or expensive fetish gear.
We don't walk around carrying implements We don't intend on using.
By The Way, that collar you are wearing, which you think makes you look appealing?
Guess What? It keeps EVERY real Dominant in the place from talking to you!
Now you know WHY no one has approached you, welcomed you or even so much as recognized your presence. HELLO! If you're silly enough to wear a collar to a Dungeon because you think it looks "fashion forward" you deserve the treatment you get.
A collar signifies that one is owned and belongs to someone.
They are NOT a Fashion Statement!
They are serious business and are revered and respected.
In almost all Dungeons, the rules include:
Do not talk to owned or collared subs without the Owners consent!
Do not touch other's toys, toy bag, sub or slave!
If un-collared, do not touch a sub or slave without their consent or permission!
Just because someone identifies as being a submissive, DOES NOT MEAN they are going to be submissive to You!
It also does not mean they are there to be pawed on or hit up.
Dominants: Don't prowl the Dungeons looking for someone to bed or own immediately.
Treat Everyone with dignity and respect, the way You desire to be treated in the community.
A real lifestyle Dominant is not in a rush to play, collar, own or bed anyone.
A Hedonist is.
Real Dominants like to socialize with individuals and get to know them as a person first.
If play is all you have in common, negotiate it, and follow thru, making sure the other person is AWARE of the "TYPE" of Dominant You are!
Are you a Sensual Dominant? A Leather Dominant? Or are you simply a Top.
There is a difference in ALL 3, as well as Their Play Styles.
submissives: If you are not owned and there to see what the "Scene" is..
To be social, meet like minded people, or perhaps find someone to play you that evening..
For God's sake, KEEP the Fashion Collars off! you will leave disappointed otherwise.
For those single attending an event, If someone approaches you and wishes to enter conversation, it's up to you if you want to or not.
If someone disrespects you by touching without permission and you don't agree with it, either confront that person, move away, or excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and go ask a DM (Dungeon Monitor) for help That's WHY We are there.
To do nothing, is to accept PART of the responsibility for the situation you find yourself in.
The reality is O/one should always ask for a 3rd party introduction Via another Dominant, sub or using the Dungeon Monitor.
Lets take this hypothetical situation:
you are visiting a Dungeon or New to the area and have only started to attend.
A Dominant catches your eye. you watch them play and are intrigued by their playing style or skill level. Or maybe it's just raw animal sexual attraction!
A sub should never approach a Dominant outright.
Why? Because you never know what type of situation you are walking into or creating for that Dominant.
The correct thing to do is ASK someone to introduce you.
A Dungeon Monitor more than likely knows almost all the players in their Dungeon.
They will approach the Dominant requesting permission to make an introduction.
If, for any reason, the Dominant is having a problem that night with: say a sub, slave, They may respectfully decline giving a reason to be sent to you that "THIS is not a good night. Perhaps another."
As well, there are Dominants that DO NOT like to be approached by submissives period!
They want a 3rd party introduction.
Do not take a decline personally.
There are apparently circumstances in play which you are not aware of.
But by using this method, you have eliminated a scene from playing out that could cause you embarrassment, or from possibly being physically hurt.
Dungeon time is meant to be fun and social. Not all Dominants, especially those who are insecure, check their ego's at the Door. Some are never gracious, period!
I have been witness to more problems by people "TOUCHING" what is not their property.
Be it implement or person.
Don't put yourself in that position.
If you see something or someone you are interested in, ASK PERMISSION.
Never take anything for granted.
Now go out there and experience The REAL LIFESTYLE and ENJOY! |
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We live in a society of sadists and masochists.
We pay backbreaking taxes to hire governments to cheat and oppress us, armies of policemen to harass and abuse us, censors to tell us what we may or may not do, and leaders to exploit us.
We are not too different from the next man on the street, except for one thing: a slave gives himself to his Master -- lock, stock, and barrel. Everything he is or has is in the Master's hands. His personality and psyche, as well as his physical being and sex life, are what his Master determines they will be. It could be a big responsibility and one that may make slaves of you both. |
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I am going to address an issue again that I have in the past. CONTACT!
AT best, an email is a poor form of communication between two people.
I wish to arm all of you so that YOU, like I have learned over the years, to never take things personally. Especially on a medium such as a computer that has not real means of communication. Unless you are in a specific program, like voice chat, you cannot hear voice inflections, laughter, giggles, or sighs. Something your eyes perceive as a stern rebuke.. may be something that someone said in jest. If you are Unsure, ask for clarification. If you perceived it right. Then your reaction.. is up to you.
Be aware though, that with the Internet, there are those that do need to be nasty to other people.
I often wonder at the arrogance of these people simply because they feel anonymity being on a chat site. Guess they assume everyone is computer illiterate.
The need to be rude, draw negative attention to their self, speaks volumes about them psychologically.
This post is about a sector of population that contributes to a specific phenomenon called: invalidation. Invalidation could very well be the cause of poor self-esteem,mental anguish, and overall unhappiness.
Invalidation is propagated in our society by all of us.
And before you get upset and say.. I don't, understand that many times we do it unknowingly. Only 1 percent intentionally spread this misery to manipulate and control others.
What better genre than BDSM to find invalidators.
Because as you know, our realm is immersed in submission/control.
An Invalidation can range anywhere from a shot in the back to a "tsk tsk."
A rolling of the eyeballs can be an invalidation, if not done in jest.
It's usually the sneaky mental invalidator that cause the most damage.
Lets face it, a punch in the nose is obvious, and it heals.
However, an attack on self-esteem..at the right moment and in the right way..Can last a lifetime.
Nevertheless, the people who get invalidated allow themselves to be invalidated, and they are just as responsible as the people doing it.
It is everyone's responsibility to learn to recognize and divert or diffuse the devaluating attack. If invalidation didn't work, then nobody would do it.
ALWAYS remember, You are a submissive by choice.
There is a BIG difference between being submissive and a DOOR MAT.
If you want to learn to be a good Master/Mistress: Do not use invalidation tactics on submissives. There are other means of control.
INTRODUCING THE INVALIDATOR
They are hard to recognize because someone who is truly good at it can bypass the scrutiny of your logical mind, and you find yourself feeling bad without knowing why.
The invalidator is under handed, and the person being invalidated is often unsuspecting except for knowing that they feel bad. The invalidator actually feels inferior to some other person, so he or she tries to make the other person feel small. Thus, the invalidator can control the victim.
Have you ever met anyone like this? I bet you have. Without even knowing it, I venture to guess you know one or several invalidators.
The invalidator uses various suppressive mechanisms to chop away at your self-esteem.
They pretend to acknowledge something you are proud of, then later will make some negative insinuation about it.
They feel out what you think your shortcomings are then exploits them at calculated times when they know you are vulnerable.
They may persist in invalidating you until you succumb.
They have to control you because they perceive you as being superior to them.
They take accusations that have "some truth," and fires them at you "in all honesty," "just being your friend," "to help you."
The difference between an invalidator and a real friend is that a real friend will tell you one negative thing, then back off and give you space to consider it.
An Invalidator will lay many of your faults out for you and persist until you feel as big as the period at the end of this sentence.
They will pick out the qualities that are most important to you and then tear them apart. They will listen to you share something about yourself that you don't like and then later use it against you.
This is all done in such a subtle way that you are unaware of it.
If you do confront an Invalidator on what they are doing, they will say something like: "oh come now, I love you. I am your friend. Where do you get these silly ideas?"
And they may really like you.. They may want to really be your friend.. but know this.. it is only on their terms and they have you in their control.
They will make you look silly for even thinking such a thing.
They may make you feel guilty or cheap in front of your friends for accusing them of invalidating you. They may get angry at you for the accusation. Whatever they can do to invalidate you further, they will. If they think you are onto them, they may apologize and then not invalidate you again..until later when you are unsuspecting.
METHODS OF INVALIDATION
One method is to keep you in a constant state of uncertainty.
They rarely give you an answer.
Just vagueness - no commitment.
They make you feel unsure of your environment for long periods of time, until your adaptive ability begins to fail.
They may do this in a number of way.
They will suddenly become nice to you, being understanding and lovable.
Things WILL remain this way until you become trusting.
Then with one swift blow, they make you uncertain again by means of criticism, insinuations, or suppressed rage.
You probably think to yourself.. What happened? What did I do? What's wrong?
Now I know many of you that are BBW's have felt this, right?
You bet. Cause first of all we ALREADY have self-esteem issues forced on us by our own society. Learn to develop the attitude, This is WHO I,AM.
Accept me for this, or get away from me and leave me alone.
No amount of invalidation is EVER going to change our body size.
PROJECTION
projection is a psychological maneuver that can be explained very easy.
It is the favorite tool of an invalidator. They simply take their own feelings and put the responsibility of them onto other people, as if the feeling originated with the other person.
Example: a person who doesn't like you say's, "I don't think you like me."
This statement perhaps gets you questioning yourself.
It thereby puts the attention on you, and you start looking at your feelings instead of NOTICING the others person's feelings.
This provides a good hiding place for the other person. The one calling you to task for things they are doing. So don't walk into this trap.
I find it astounding that those who Lash out at others for their negative feelings are often the ones guilty of the same failings in thought, misdeed, and words.
When someone attacks you for something you didn't do.. it say's more about then than it does about you.
EXAMPLE: A devoted spouse or partner starts being accused of cheating.
They should almost know for sure that the other had done it in thought, word or deed.
You can tell an enormous amount about people by their projections, as I have already discussed with you. LISTEN CLOSELY.
GENERALIZATION
Keep an eye out for generalizations.
An Invalidator will often use generalizations, which are simply exaggerations of small truths.
The more truth there is in a generalization, the more it can be exaggerated.
EXAMPLE: You get home from work and your spouse greets you with:
"You are inconsiderate" translation: you forgot to bring home the milk.
"You are stupid" translation: you forgot to being home the milk
Your self=esteem is attacked instead of the problem.
The problem is, there is not milk
The problem is NOT that you are inconsiderate or stupid.
And even if you were stupid, what could you do about that? ~LOL~
The person who uses generalizations does so to be in control of others.
MANIPULATION
There is such a thing as GOOD control and BAD control.
In BDSM, hopefully you will only play with responsible people that practice good control.
If not, you need to get away from that person.
BAD control is manipulation.
Good control is ethical and includes a fair exchange of "Please," and "Thank you."
Later when we discuss what is a Good Mistress/Master you will recognize that this should be one of the traits that comprise someone who is.
Anyway, the Invalidator wants control..period!
If good control fails, they use bad control. If the usual method fails they will use devious, covert, or overt method, because they are compelled to win at being in control.
They will use sneaky methods. An invalidator by definition is a manipulator.
SNEAK ATTACK
"I don't want to upset you, but" (they probably do want to upset you)
"I don't mean to interrupt" (Right!)
"I don't want to rain on your parade." (uh huh)
"Don't let this bother you, but" (Brother here it comes)
"I hope this doesn't insult you, but" (here comes the insult)
The voice will be soft, the face a mirror of concern, but know underneath there are daggers. The tongue is a mighty weapon, a sharp sword.
Invalidators will set you up with double messages. How are you?
If you respond, "Screw you Jack" then they use it to their advantage.
Poor Jack..all he did was ask you how you were. You must be having a bad day.
How often have you seen or experienced this from someone that has hurt you in the past?
If your normal like Me.. A LOT.
And you do see it a lot on the web. People get nasty because you don't give them what they want. That being total control of you. So they invalidate you to make themselves feel better about themselves.
Wanting to give your submission to someone, is totally different than letting someone invalidate you.
Submission is a feeling, a role and a gift that involves trust.
Invalidation can scar and last a lifetime. Learn to recognize the difference.
Some Ways to Handle Invalidation:
Humor
Respect
Affinity
Professionalism
Acknowledgment
Diplomacy
Patience
Discretion
Firmness
Specific, impersonal, but personable comments Words that tell how you feel...
If Reasoning Doesn't Work, Try Cause-Effect:
Hurt them when they invalidate
Invalidate them (Show them how it feels) How? If this is something they do to you in private, say on messenger I-M... Tell it aloud in the room and then laugh!
This also serves to alert others as to the type of person they are.
Do something outrageous (Talk Loudly, Act crazy, squirt them with a water gun, Pee on their flowers, Laugh shrilly as if they just told you a joke, wink at them, Make flatulent noises, morph into an animal and chew at their ankles)
Insult them
Squeeze their cheeks
Raise your eyebrows at them
Stare at them unwaveringly..
Stand your ground.. for if you disconnect by leaving, you let them win.
They have succeeded in making YOU feel bad.
If your invalidator actually likes any of the above and enters into the game with you,
STOP what you are doing and move on to the next step.
Last resort is you can hit the damn IGGY button and remove them.
Chances are they will normally give up and leave you alone.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"
-Eleanor Roosevelt-
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August brings about the final stages of a Mentoring program for Dominants I have been sponsoring. They will be arriving from all over the USA and be staying in My home, while they complete the final stages of their program.
It's time for some of the DFW, (i am a real sub or slave) to step forward and meet KNOWN Master's and Mistress' in the DFW Community.
We will be putting the new Dominant's through their paces during "Hands On Implement and Skill Training." They will be experiencing being played under skilled hands, as well as practicing on subs/slaves with a Mentor beside them.
I would appreciate any submissive or slave who would like to take part in this "RARE" opportunity to meet and play, to kindly contact Me.
Please note that this training night, will be held in a local Dungeon.
your body, mind, spirit is only required for one evening during this week long gathering.
However, the connections you make, could possibly lead to other play times for you.
Only those individuals who are serious should contact Me.
Remember, in this lifestyle, Honor, Trust, Integrity, your word is your bond.
Please be familiar with both S.S.C. and R.A.C.K. rules.
-Many Thanks- NOTE****
Due to SOARING Heat temperatures in DFW the Dominant Mentoring has been rescheduled for October and cooler Texas weather. |
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Life Just Happens..
Contrary to the belief of, or acknowledgement of many, the flow of life is constant.
It continues with or without our cerebral awareness.
People come in and out of our lives for reasons. To Teach us, to learn from us, to befriend us. Then, when it is their time, move on, for whatever reason.
How often do we actually take the time to reiterate to our friends, trainers and Mentors how much we value and appreciate their interaction with us? Not often enough I can tell you.
This past month, Dallas lost a TRUE Lifestyle Master. He was heavily involved and highly respected, loved by all in the community who had the joy of meeting this man, no matter their demeanor, persuasion, or specific lifestyle practice.
Yesterday, many came together to celebrate the life of this wonderful man.
Yes, celebrate. Because we were all aware of his unselfishness, his giving to all. His lack of over inflated ego, or self pity despite any hardships life flung his way. Soft spoken, gentle, passionate about Our lifestyle and helping guide others in any way he could.
Years ago, before he lost his battle with cancer too, My Father told Me... "As long as you remember, talk about a person, enjoy the memories of their laughter, jokes, antics, THEY will live on. Life as we know it, is just a fleeting moment in time."
I have found this to be very true.
You will be sorely missed, but never forgotten.
Master David Brown
March 16, 2008
Founding member of several area groups, including Different Strokes, MAsT:DFW and Sanctuary of the Lifestyle Arts.
Additionally an Active member of Leather Rose, Inquisition Dallas, NLA-Dallas, NLA-International, NCSF, and Dallas-Gor. He also was a reciprocal member of Black Rose in Washington DC. He is survived by his slave, cecelia.
For those of you who knew him and might wish to pay tribute, Master David requested memorials to be made to the Humane Society of North Texas or to the charity of your choice.
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Thank you for taking the time to read My profile and submit a petition.
I do apologize for the delay in answering your email.
My time has been very limited, while consumed with things I wish to get accomplished or had prior commitments to. While, teaching, training and Mentoring in the alternative lifestyle, I have as well, been undergoing an advanced Recognized Certification with Real Time Lifestyle Masters.
I am now at a point that I will be able to go back and address emails. your patience in this matter is greatly appreciated and reflects favorably on you by not bombarding Me continually.
~Many Thanks~ |
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Darlin' slaves,
As I often discuss rules and protocol.. I felt you might appreciate the following. (tongue in cheek) Memorize them! -chuckle-
i will not carve the flogger handles
i will not spank others
i will not aim for Mistress's head
i will not yell safeword in the grocery store
i will not sell the names on Her newsgroup list to the National Enquirer or Sun
i will not read and giggle at Mistress's logs from the Dominant Forum
i will not yell fire every time Mistress lights a candle
funny noises are not funny
i will not snap Mistress's bra
Punishment is not boring or pointless
i will not call Mistress, Dr. Death
i will not put laxatives in the candy bowl before Mistress's D/s party
i will not hide the newbies or send them snipe-Dom hunting
i will not bring sheep to the subbie forum
a burp is not an appropriate response to Mistress
i will not eat all Mistress's m & m's while she is at work
i will not yell she's tied up at the subbie forum
Mistress's gags are not to be used to keep the children quiet
i will not call Mistress, spud head, butt head or any kind of head,
Mistress IS perfect
mud is not an acceptable side dish for Mistress's dinner
i will NOT walk around wearing Mistress's bra cup on my head,
pretending it is a Yamaka.
i will not peek out of the blindfold
there is no such thing as "slave immunity"
i will not sneak in the bathroom when i don't have permission
i did not win an emmy for my last session
i will not hide all Mistress's toys
all play and no work does not a good slave make
i will not say "oh Mistress you're the bestest and brightest" just to get a spanking
i can not fire Mistress
my last assignment was not stolen by one armed internet hackers
i will not scare the newbies by telling them ALL REAL subs like bullwhips
i will refrain from saying "hail satan" when i don't like Mistres's orders
i will not remind Mistress daily of our 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, 1 yr anniversary
i will not waste wax by playing with it or putting it on all the clamps
i will not use Mistress's bondage table for a skateboard ramp or a slide into the pool
i will not wear Mistress's underwear on my head
Mistress's dog does not stink
i will not torment the newbies with the violet wand
....and last but not least
i will not use the pages from Mistress's Dominant Handbook to start the grill...
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Multifaceted like a Fine Diamond. I am a smoldering Volcano before eruption, there is great heat of passion below the surface. Yet like quality Jade, there is cool temperance in My demeanor. It is All here, in My eyes.
I lament for those that still do not "GET" that My lifestyle is not about sex or sexual activities or even scene play. It is of the mind. For the mind is the largest sexual organ in the body. Without it.. you would not produce peptides or endorphines.
Do you have the knowledge and manners to show courtesy to a real Lifestyle Dominant?
Do you really have the desire to be owned for the rest of your life?
Do you "FIT" the perameters of which I seek?
Do you have the courage to write an ingenious petition or email?
Only My email will tell if you are out there waiting for Me to claim you! |
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Will it be a Happy New Year?
My sincere thanks to all that sent Me heartfelt New Year Wishes.
For each of you, as well as those I don't know, nor have ever met, I wish the same.
Wouldn't be a wonderful thing indeed, if we all could find that which we seek in this lifestyle.
However, life being what it is, needs, desires and values change.
Many of us use the New Year to visit, re-evaluate our personal needs and desires. Our goals.
People drift in and out of our lives.. Some fall off the grid, some stay around for longer periods of time. Some are fortunate to have located a Master, Mistress, or Family. To those that have: My heartfelt Congratulations. May you each be worthy of the other, while sharing a long, loving relationship.
The world as we know it is constantly changing around us.
The lifestyle is growing and in the midst of change as well. My only hope is that there are experienced individuals still around, that can help guide those who have just set their feet on our pathway, safely through the sometimes rigorous journey. To show patience, tolerance and understanding while teaching or answering questions to the best of their ability as they know or understand things. To help "positive" growth prosper within our lifestyle.
To those NEW to the Lifestyle, I bid you welcome. May you seek out knowledge not only from books or websites, but find a Mentor to help you along your way.
To those like Me, who have been around for a great while, I ask that you find it in yourself to remember what it was like when you were new to this lifestyle, and help others along the way. If you don't feel incline to help, at least point them in the right direction to learn.
A simple task that only takes a moment of your time.
While books and websites are helpful, the reality is, many do not portray what the real lifestyle is all about.
Because the lifestyle is so infinite, it may be hard for some to find that "niche" where they feel comfortable or belong. To those, I advise you to seek out local groups, munches or Dungeons to visit. There you will get a grasp of what it is like.
Be mindful that you ALWAYS use safety precautions, along with safe calls.
NEVER meet anyone alone without these precautions in place. It protects BOTH people.
DO Not Allow those to claim to be Dominant intimidate you into going against your better judgement. For if they truly are a Lifestyle Dominant, the will always put your welfare before anything else, especially when it comes to a meeting.
As for Myself... I look forward to this New Year and all it has in store for Me. I do hope you are a part of it, even through friendship.
With Warm Regards Always,
In Honor,
DommeMaggie
aka: Mistress Maggie. House of The Noble Heart |
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With Veterans Day behind us, America's Thanksgiving fast approaching, many are "thinking" of hanging Christmas lights. Here for your amusement is My take on:
How To Hang Christmas Lights!
Start now..telling the other half you are going to hang lights this weekend.
Assemble a multitude of things in the garage or better yet a corner of your den. This will give the impression you are serious.
Yell at anyone that even ventures near your stock pile and tell them to keep out or they have to help..and the job will take all day!
This usually keeps the wife and kiddies out of your way as they do not want to be tied down for an entire day...especially on a Saturday.
Walk around the house hunting for things you need.
And even if you know where it is.. say: Honey have you seen____?
Rummage around in that closet and drawer I know you have.
You know...the one where you stash all your junk... yeah, the one in the kitchen. And the hall closet...
You will need the following:
A 6 ft Ladder
A 16 ft quad fold Ladder
2-3 moving quilts or heavy blankets
Duct Tape
Electrical Tape
Staple gun
1 pair of needle nose pliers
2- Brown Paper Bags
1-6 ft orange outdoor extension cord
1-12 ft orange outdoor extension cord
1 x 1 wooden stakes 12" in length~ Home Depot
2 Large Cinder Blocks or a pair of car ramps
A Hammer
Outdoor Timer~ KMART
Several packages of clips (8) KMART
Strands of outdoor lights for roof top~ BIG LOT
Strands for around windows~ BIG LOT
Replacement bulbs~ BIG LOT
4 X 4 for bushes~ KMART
2- 3 prong adapters (just in case)
1 pair of ridged bottom rubber sole shoes
1 note pad
1 pen
1 tape measure
1 Flashlight
1 pair of work gloves
1 Carpenters Apron or utility belt
1 box cutter
1 can white spray paint
1 4 X 8 Sheet 1/4" Plywood
WEDNESDAY~ THURSDAY
Now as you do your mass assembly.. you are allowed to go out and seek what you do not have.. ALONE!
This gives you time to screw around!
During the week.. untangle all your damn lights you wadded up from last year and check them.
But you know.. It's just cheaper to put them in Brown paper bag number one and walk them out to the garbage can.
But at any rate, take them out of the packages or ball and check them.
If your doing those stinking ice cycles like everyone does.. hang them up
somewhere and let the kinks fall out, OK?
Roughly measure to know how many strands of lights you will need to go around your roof line.
Wait till after dinner then Drag the kids or the wife out to hold the tape, especially if it is cold or snowing outside.
Double check your measurements just to be sure..also giving the "holder" enough time to be uncomfortable and get good & cold!
Use your pad, pen & flashlight to write down your measurements and stand there grafting the house!
When you go indoors.. be sure to locate your wife and put your cold hands on her body under her clothing and suggest something lude to "warm you up!" This should put her in a "HAPPY MOOD"
FRIDAY
You may go out again on "Your Quest" to finish purchasing your needed supplies.
In case you don't have one on your Christmas Tree you can disconnect and use.. Be sure you locate one of those stinking 16 Christmas melody boxes to hook into your timer to annoy all your neighbors.
While out.. Call your local Escort to set an appointment for lunch time the following day.
SATURDAY
The BIG DAY is finally here.
Make sure you have on your ridged bottom rubber sole shoes.
Drag everything out to the front yard and drop it all in one big pile.
Now put your gloves on.. put your hands on your hips and walk around making the AR AR AR sound in the back of your throat as you survey your majestic pile.
Now you drag out that 16 footer.. you know the one. Yep that's it.
Folded like a damn accordion.
Spend the next 15 minutes trying to get it unfolded as you swear, stomp, kick at it. Only to start all over.
By the way.. watch your fingers! The Bitch bites!
(Why are inanimate objects always female?)
OK you got it open. CONGRATULATIONS!
Now very carefully heave it over your head.. and start toward the house.
NOTE: STAY AWAY FROM WINDOWS
Position it at a 40 degree angle resting on the roof line.
Make sure you have the right end UP.
Place moving quilts or blankets over bushes beneath your ladder
Place either cinder blocks or car ramps at the base of ladder to keep it from sliding.
This way the ladder will not slide down and it will ricochet off the neighbors house and send you back into position.
Now make sure if you bought clips that you open all packages and pour
contents into your carpenters apron. Also add hammer, pliers and box cutter
If you were stupid enough not to buy any.. put in your staple gun, pliers, hammer, box cutter and electrical tape.
Put your Duct tape on your wrist.
Climb the ladder
Duct tape your legs to the sides. (This eliminates a spotter on the ground)
Now leaning to one side, place your first clip in trim and hammer that baby home. Repeat every 12 inches.
Again.. if you didn't buy clips..position your first strand of lights and
carefully get out your staple gun and position the first staple to straddle the wire.
OOPS! Ya missed. Put up the staple gun, get out the pliers, remove staple, and use your electrical tape to mend the damn broken wire.
Use box cutter to cut tape.
Position a staple every 12 inches for as far as you can reach on either side.
Now get out your box cutter again, cut thru your Duct tape and climb down the ladder to move it.
Repeat this process around the house.
Stop at 11:30 AM.
Go into the house mumbling while retrieving your keys
Drive off still talking to yourself till you are out of sight of the house and continue to your "LUNCH" rendezvous.
Return home at 1:45 with a new strand of lights and a smug satisfied look on your face.
Proudly pull the lights out of the bag if confronted by your wife, declaring you got the last stand! And BEAM!
Now go back up the ladder and Duct tape yourself back in position and finish the job.
Once finished with the roof line.. if you feel so incline, you can write a lude graphic message to pilots of the airlines you hate the most..that frequently flies over your house.. On the plywood with the white spray paint and Duct tape it to the roof.
I personally always write: FUCK YOU AMERICAN AIRLINES!
Now hopefully you have plugged each strand together and GOT THEM GOING THE RIGHT WAY so that you finish with a MALE plug at the end to go into the extension cord. If you didn't, you're screwed!
Now plug them into the extension cord.
Plug extension cord into timer.
Plug timer into outdoor outlet
Set timer for 6 PM on.. and 10 PM OFF
No Outlet?
Run cord into Garage and Duct tape over wire.
No Garage?
Run cord thru window and Duct tape around entire bottom of window.
Now take your 1 X 1 wooden stakes and place them up the drive and the side walk that leads to the front door.
Pound those suckers in with your hammer.
Take out your staple gun and staple your lights to the top, stretching them from pole to pole.
Remember to let your staple straddle the wire.
When you finish.. it should resemble final approach at any Major Airport.
By this time you are so damn tired of Christmas Lights,
You can just throw the blanket lights on the bushes helter skelter.
Screw the windows... Just go buy plastic wreaths with big RED BOWS.
Remove the window screen, then Epoxy wreath to the center pane of each window.
Those damn things won't blow off in a gale force wind!
Don't forget that "16 song Music Box" and turn it up as loud as that sucker will go.
If you have a street mailbox: place lights like a candy cane all the way around the base and listen to the neighborhood dogs yep late at night as they relieve themselves on your pole. They ARC really nice in the dark.
Now take all left overs and place in brown bag #2.
Hide this someplace where the wife won't see.
Move your ladder to the back yard and throw it on the ground, cause I know you don't want to wrestle with that bitch tonight.
But make sure it is close to the house or fence.
Fold it up tomorrow.. unless it is going to snow.
Then leave it till first spring thaw.
As Red Green Always says:
If Women Don't Find Ya Handsome.. They Should AT Least Find Ya Handy
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My genius lies in converting impulses into Intentions! |
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In Many cases, I would venture to guess that the vast majority of people registered on this site ARE for real. They are looking for someone in their life, be it Dominant, slave or
submissive.
Some have a vast amount of experience, others little, while yet others have none.
Experience does not make or break a relationship. Nor does it define what is truly in the heart.
As a Dominant, it is Our responsibility to help guide those around Us. To teach, train, with understanding and patience. On occasion, Mentor. W/we all had to start somewhere at sometime. So do not be in such a hurry to cast someone aside because they do not "KNOW" the correct way of doing things. Do not be in such a hurry to label them as player.
In many cases, it is a lack of communication, coupled with the lack of knowledge, when approaching a Dominant. When this occurs, several things happen. The inexperienced Dominant becomes agitated, on occasion hostile. Why? Because their lack of lifestyle knowledge puts them on the defensive. If this should happen, the submissive/slave person has their feelings hurt. The ensuing result is a chain reaction of misunderstood communication.
HOWEVER, if the Dominant takes the time to fully express what they seek on their profile, it is the submissive/slaves responsibility to READ the profile in it's entirety.
Most Dominants will state WHAT THEY DON'T WANT or will not accept in Their life on an ongoing basis, PERIOD! This does not mean that it precludes one from approaching, if they desire to become a friend, with the RIGHT communication.
Below are a few Helpful Hints:
One liners or one word emails do not get a Dominants attention.
Viewing a profile is NOT a way of sending a message to S/someone. Not "winks" OK?
Spelling and grammar DO COUNT.
Being lazy and using keyboard shortcuts such as 4 U {or others} tells the person receiving the mail you didn't care enough to take the time to communicate properly.
Addressing One as Master or Mistress is not always a good thing. READ the Profile.
Communication is the key. Doing so in a correct manner, will gain you more courtesy.
Writing down your feelings, you are learning to master your communication skills. When you email a communication to a Dominant, it should be in the FORM of a Petition, be it formal or informal.
A PETITION
In a petition [formal or otherwise] one states a simple greeting to the Dominant.
[First: Declare your appreciation for this opportunity to communicate]
[Second: Explain any assets that would help the Dominant understand your goals]
[Third: Respectfully explain other points that the Dominant should be aware of]
[Forth: Show your willingness to comply]
[Fifth: Enclose a recent up to date clothed Photograph.
[Sixth:Closing is simple] With respect and devotion, [the wording is optional]
[Seventh: Sign your name in lower case letters
A sincere desire to be "Conisdered" and stating such, moves you further up the communication chain.
Try it and let Me know how it works for you. Good Luck! |
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I will be traveling from: October 28th - November 1st. ERGO: I will not be checking My mail during that time. Kindly show patience.
I will leave you with a joke sent to Me by a "Dear Friend." Those who know My humor, know I loved this! Enjoy!
-DM-
The husband had just finished reading a new book entitled "You Can Be The Man of Your House". He stormed into the kitchen and walked directly up to his wife. Pointing a finger in her face, He said sternly, "From now on, you need to know that I am the Man of this house and My word is the fucken law!
You will prepare Me a gourmet meal tonight, and when I'm finished eating My meal, you will serve Me a scrumptious dessert. After dinner you are going to go upstairs with Me, and we will have the kind of sex that I want. *insert evil laughter*
Then, you are going to draw My bath so that I can relax. You will wash My back, towel Me dry and bring Me my robe. Next you will massage My feet and hands. Perhaps a blow job....
Then, after that's done, guess who's going to dress Me and comb My hair?"
His wife replied, "The fuckin' funeral director would be my guess."
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It is not the Kiss of My Whip
That brings sweet pleasure pain
To My slave...
It is the Transcendentalism Journey
By the Hand of The One who holds it.
For he knows, he is My instrument
As I embouchure him,
Allowing him to dance to My tune.
Each writhing movement..
Each moan that escapes his beautiful lips,
his gift to bring Me pleasure.
As he allows My sadistic side to materialize.
Feeling the braided leather of the Turks Head
Buried deep into the palm of My hand...
Transferring My seductive, sadistic emotions
Into the handle, the popper, of the singletail.
Watching each "throw" glide along his lush lean body.
To witness and feel it wrap his body like a snake,
Coiled and ready to strike.
Each strike procuring from him,
A deeper love and understanding for his Lady.
Each moan or cry, a testament thereof.
When I have spent My wrath,
I shall let him down.
I will hold him close within My arms..
While My lips, kiss away each well earned tear.
A new unspoken understanding between U/us.
he now knows...
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My Sincere Thanks to Ironrod4517 *His profile on here* Last nights "House" Meeting and Dinner are always a joy for Me, when spending time with You.
I adore the long HUGS You give Me. Many times, what this Dominant needs.
I won't tell E/everyone about Your handsome looks, wicked sense of humor or Your rock hard body, though. I don't want to create a stampede to You Mailbox! Then I'd be expected to share You with other women! -chuckle-
In keeping with Last Evenings wondering conversation about those who DO NOT actually live in or experience the Lifestyle, except on a computer.. I will ADD the following for many to Understand and Enjoy!!
Your Dominant is not a mind reader.
24/7 is not a myth. 24/7 in chains, naked and kneeling is.
No one can keep up a 24/7 lifestyle for long without a break for comedy relief,
and a swift dose of kids, family, work and car problems!
Don't believe everything you read.
The Real Lifestyle deals in reality not Fantasy.
Just because the screen name says Dominant doesn't mean He/She is one.
An argument is not the end of the world.
Not resolving it, however, might be.
No man has an erection continuously.
Unless they're priaptic, in which case, a doctor's visit is in order.
There is such a thing as PMS, and no amount of placating is going to make it go away.
There *is* going to be a time when you don't feel like having sex. It *does* happen.
Prepare yourself mentally for it.
There will come a time when you see your submissive scratching himself,
belching and in need of a shower.
Prepare yourself for that as well.
No one understands your collar but you.
Showing it off at Safeway...
isn't exactly a statement.
Distance is not insurmountable.
It is inconvenient and irritating,
and it will grate on your nerves
... unless you fill your time with other things.
Eventually, you must take those cuffs off to take the kids to the doctor. Get used to it.
Speaking of doctors, tell yours what you're into,
or be prepared to deal with social services on a regular basis.
You really don't need another flogger.
What you need is a new microwave or a pair of tennis shoes for your child.
Know when to say: "when" to the toy bag.
Don't walk away from your friends.
You might well need them later,
when your dream Dominant turns into a frog.
If you want something, ask.
Ask respectfully, ask in role, ask in good faith.
But ask. If you don't, chances are you aren't going to get it.
Just because you call yourself a slave doesn't mean that others will agree with your definition.
Be prepared to defend your views, but don't bark at others for their opinions.
They have a right to them, same as you do.
There are things you won't do. Trust Me.
Maybe you just haven't been asked to do them, Yet!!
This isn't always all about sex.
Don't expect to get it every time you play.
Then you won't be disappointed when it happens to you.
Orgasms are nice, but NOT mandatory.
Sometimes, Forever is not as long as you might think.
Sometimes, it's just until They changes Their mind again.
The Dominant does not always have their flogger or crop nearby.
Sometimes, it's time for sweat pants, a cuddle and hot cocoa.
Sometimes, a fuck is just a fuck.
A beating is just a beating.
A kiss is just a kiss.
Enjoy it, remember it, and move along.
If you are not local, willing to travel here at your own expense, or able to have Me visit you, please don't waste My time or yours...
Like The Who said, "Won't get fooled again."
If you honestly expect the Dominant of your dreams to walk on water, you were born about 2007 years too late. I am a human being, have made mistakes in the past and will probably make more in the future. If you can't relate to that, I wish you luck in your search and suggest you use caution in casting the first stone.
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Many have asked, because so few understand, there is a difference between a slave and a submissive.
I have scratched the surface, so to speak, in one of My journal entries.
However, I am ready to take it one step further as it does appear that there are a few who are seriously interested and have the desire to understanding the difference. Allow Me to start with the true submissive and on-going voluntary submission.
submission: Submission is the act of surrendering some or all of ones personal power to another person. It's allowing someone else to control your body and behavior within certain preset limits.
This must be a willing act on the part of the submissive or the boundaries of abuse have been crossed.
The methods and levels of submission are infinite.
Each person must decide how much and how far this exchange of power will go, but the rules of "safe, sane and consensual" or R.A.C.K must always apply. Submission is a condition of the heart and only the individual knows what is in theirs.
For the sake of argument, I am only going to address the TRUE submissive, for in reality, those are the ones I wish to help not only understand the lifestyle of BDSM, but understanding of ones own self.
Being submissive is not to say one is not intelligent.
Most are highly intelligent people. They are able to assimilate information, comprehend it, and make decisions. They are able to communicate their needs, though many do not often do this. They tend
to put "self" and "self's needs" behind all or everyone else.
It is not to say... one is not, or does not control power or a powerful position in day to day life.
Generally submissives are in a position of power of some sort.
Where they have a position of being over others and require decision making responsibilities for others, for the company, or for themselves.
Almost all the clients I spend time with as a Pro Domme are powerful men in their own right.
Most have jobs that require sharp minds, strong concentration and authoritative decision making of large, or life sustaining levels.
However, it should be noted here, I DO NOT mix My "Pro Life" with My Private Lifestyle as a Dominant.
Just as Y/you do not take the BDSM lifestyle into your work place.
Being submissive does not mean you are a passive person.
As you keep hearing me repeatedly say, just because you are a submissive, this does not mean you have to be a doormat. It is not a sign you have hidden desires to be strung up, have the snot beat out of you, relegated to being treated like a piece of trash, to be used then discarded.
It's not about sexual promiscuity.
In point of fact, submissiveness has nothing whatsoever to do with anything sexual at all.
It is not that one lacks motivation.
Submission is the ACT of one person surrendering their being to another.
It cannot be demanded. It cannot be forced. It is a gift.
It is your gift to one you TRUST and RESPECT.
Those words are very important. TRUST and RESPECT.
Remember them when looking for your Dom/me, because your Life depends on it.
In and of it's self, BDSM is not dangerous. There are just some unscrupulous people that hide behind it to take advantage of the inexperienced submissive.
The Money Dommes: that are out here trying to hustle anything they can from whomever they can.
Most are younger women who capitalize on their looks or body. Why? Because being honest, many men still think with their dicks! They have this fantasy concept that their fantasy Dominant has the looks and body of Betty Paige. Just say "No" to one of those little girls who solicit you and see what happens.
Cyber Doms/Dommes: that have no real life experience.
Predators And seriously ill Masochistic people hide here. I can not emphasize this enough.
Why? Because their victims come to them willingly and easily.
Here is a good analogy:
It is a nice summer day, you are alone and floating on your back in a swimming pool, arms outstretch and eyes closed. Unbeknownst to you someone else got in the water and comes up and touches you.
Your reflex is one of being startled. You pull yourself to an upright position and open your eyes to see who it is, while moving away from them.
However, if they speak to you before touching you, and it is someone you know and trust, you are content to continue to languish, allow them to touch, and pull you along in the water of the pool.
You submitted to them because you trust that this person will take care of you. They will do nothing to harm you. You know they are not going to drown you.
It is the same with a Dom/me you have in your life. TRUST is the key.
Do not be in a rush to find someone to have control over you.
Read and learn as much as you can while looking for a place to learn and someone to learn from.
Don't set yourself up to be used, just because you have the desire to be submissive.
Many large cities have dungeons now. Most all have at least one or two national level organizations of one
form or another. Both these have monthly gatherings that are also open to people interested in the lifestyle.
Alt.com generally hosts monthly Munches. Find out where the closest to you is and make it a point to attend. While there, find out who is in charge and ask if their organization holds learning seminars or
demonstrations.
Being actively involved will help your grasp things and the concept come much faster.
It lets everything fall into perspective. Remember, real life is totally different from cyber or books.
And lastly, as you learn..and learn about yourself, you may discover, you are the type of submissive that simply wants to serve.
you may not be into pain or punishment. you may not be into being humiliated.
you simply want to give your control to someone you can trust and enjoy being around them, while helping out and doing nice things for them. your gift being appreciated and respected.
Loving touches for the things you have done. It doesn't have to be about sex, simply human kindness.
Ongoing Voluntary Submission:
A relationship in which a submissive continually consents to obey and serve a Dominant, and their continued presence in the relationship is voluntary.
{Note key words here are: continually consents, and
voluntary}
This is in contrast with relationships of Consensual Non Consent, which are entered with the consent of the submissive, but may subsequently involve the submissive being subject to acts which they do not want (e.g. punishments, or restraint.)
Consensual Non Consent (CNC) refers to an agreement between a Dominant and a submissive, in which some or all authority over the submissive is transferred to the Dominant, either permanently or temporarily, on the understanding that the submissive may not withdraw consent for the duration of the agreement.
CNC agreements may be anything from a short-lived BDSM scene (e.g. being in a cage for an hour irrespective of what the submissive then says) up to a life-long relationship (for example, a submissive consenting to the process of enslavement.)
A CNC agreement is the polar opposite of giving the submissive a safeword as a veto.
SLAVE:
A person who is owned: That is, someone in a relationship with a Dominant they consider to be their Owner, who has ultimate authority over them, and from which the slave cannot remove themselves.
One of the key differences between the usage of the word "slave" in the Ownership Subculture and the BDSM Play Scene, is the concept of slaves being literal slaves: this is just the everyday definition of "slave" and it doesn't include the roleplay slaves you sometimes meet elsewhere in BDSM.
For example, the second edition of the Oxford English Dictionary gives: "One who is the property of, and entirely subject to another person, whether by capture, purchase or birth; a servant completely divested of freedom and personal rights." Contrast this definition with ongoing voluntary submission.
Read further in My journal to find the 9 levels of submission and slavery.
Total Power Exchange
A TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship, sometimes described as an absolute lifestyle D/s relationship, is a relationship in which no impediment to the exercise of the owner's power is accepted.
Such things as safewords, contracts, negotiated limits, and anything else which recognizes / acknowledges / formalizes limits on the owner's power are inimical to TPE."
Although there is a large overlap between TPE and Internal Enslavement, the term "TPE" can be misleading in several respects and has lost much of its original meaning.
Because as I have stated often, the lifestyle is infinite.
I, for example, allow the negotiation process in the beginning of a relationship. I have no desire to force anyone to do anything. Nor do I have the desire to violate a person hard limits.
It is My perception that the T/two coming together SHOULD negotiate, so that a consensual understanding of all limits and hard limits be observed. Without it, it is simply one person using another for their own purposes. ERGO: real slavery.
I have found that as the bond of trust begins to develop between the T/two, the limits and hard limits will change. The slave trusting the Dominant fully, will understand that their Dominant will not do anything to harm or hurt them either physically or psychologically. What good would come of it, when if done, the slave would simply leave?
Make no mistake, there are those in this lifestyle who do use people as objects. Period. Just as there are those who desire to be treated as such. By far and large, the latter is a much smaller number than O/one would assume.
Just as a bottom can turn into a beautiful caring submissive, a submissive can turn into a wonderful slave for the right Dominant. It only takes the right combination of T/two. The amount of submission varies from Dominant to Dominant. What one might do with or for Me, they may not do with anyone else.
More over, their realization of this fact, opens up their mind to understand that limits and hard limits will change from Dominant to Dominant and the degree of "trust" they have in that person.
As well, I have noticed: in cyber space the thinking between male and female slave is vastly different. Many more female slaves live in the fantasy that "they" will be the only one in Masters life.
In the REAL Lifestyle, this could not be further from the truth. Master can do whatever the hell He wants, when He wants, and with WHOMEVER He wants! That's the law of the land.
Whereas male slaves tend to understand and be more open and receptive to the above statement as it relates to their Dominant. he knows She will do whatever She wants.
More often than not, a male sub or slave understands their relationship with a Femdom may or may not include sex. Her choice. For whatever reason, they accept this.
Yet the majority of female slaves on Internet Sites seem to be of the opinion she MUST have sex with her Master. I think this touches upon an insecurity in this particular type of woman. she is of the opinion that she has power of the Master VIA her vagina. Again, W/we need to look at real life and the slaves expectations.
It is ALWAYS subject to the Dominants needs, wants and or desires, period!
In conclusion, with the right Dominant, any sub can turn into a wonderful slave.
Simply know yourself, your needs, your desires, your abilities and capabilities. Then try to match them up with the right Dominant. It's not about being owned. It's about being owned by the right One.
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SOUTHERN SPEAK
Many of you have been fortunate enough to speak with a Southerner. So have experienced our soft southern drawls, slow speech and dialects. Y/you all wonder why I type so slow in chat.. Hell I am trying to figure out how to type it so you can read it! However, not ALL Southerners talk alike.
Cajuns hail from Louisiana and have a thick French accent added in their speech.
I am a Coon-ass. This is someone born in Louisiana, but does not speak Cajun French. I dearly love talking with a Cajun. It makes Me smile. I like to remind them that They Do talk backwards.
A good example would go like this: Maggeeeee, I gonna pick chu up and bring chu downto my hawse about 5 or 4 o'clock. Bien, Cher?
Whereas those who reside in Mississippi and Georgia ADD an ah to words. "Maggah darlin', would you hand me that buttah and pass the sugah, pleeeese?"
But Texans, Now Texans are a completely different story. They tend to draw out words. Especially words with A and I in them. They talk very slow as if they are thinking about every word they are about to say. Except, when you have them excited or riled up! (angry) Which is something you don't want to do. Remember: It's legal to be armed in Texas! Which brings Me to a point. If you encounter a Southerner that keeps saying, "Mmmh" to you as if in agreement, this means They didn't understand what you said to Them. You're probably a Yankee and talking way too fast for them. If on the other hand, they keep saying: "how niiiiiiice" or "That's niiiiiiiiice," They are telling you in Southern speak, they don't give a damn.
Kindly note *ALL SOUTHERNERS have both first and middle names. As a child, their Mama called them by both when they were in trouble. This is HOW you knew you were in trouble. Everyone has a name they will NOT tell you, if they were born in the South. So if you are out somewhere with a southern "friend" and they get called by a name you do not know, or possibly more than one, DON'T Laugh or smirk. Remember, it's legal to be armed in Texas!
When in Texas, you will often hear elderly people talk about the "Wahr." Don't confuse issues or assume they are talking about Iraq. There is only ONE WAR as far as the South is concerned. This is probably why the DAR is so prevalent in the south. Of which I am a card carrying member.
One needs to really brush up to understand a Texan when they talk. If you are contemplating a visit to Our State, below you will find a few helpful words, places and phrases, in order to receive proper treatment or even get service. As well as understand WHAT is being said to you.
To be a Southerner
Either by Birth, Marriage,
Adoption, or even on one's Mother's side
Is an introduction to any state in the Union,
A passport to any foreign country,
And a Benediction from the Almighty God!
-amen-
Welcome to The Grayte State uh Teksus
Payunhayundul = Panhandle
Arlenton = Arlington
Amuriller = Amarillo
Awstun = Austin
Brounds Veeyul = Brownsville
Cawerpus = Corpus
Big D = Dallas
Denen = Denton
Ayul Paso = El Paso
Fowert Wurth = Ft. Worth
Useton = Houston
Kangs Veeyul = Kingsville
Louizvulle = Lewisville
Lahraydo = Loredo
Midlum = Midland
Makineee = McKinney
O-dessa = Odessa
Snan-jello = San Angelo
Churmen = Sherman
Texer Kanna = Texarkana
Witch-a-taw Fawls = Wichita Falls
Ode Messyco = Old Mexico (To Texans, Mexico is always called Old Mexico)
New Messyco = New Mexico
Guf Uh Messyco = Gulf of Mexico
Looseyanna = Louisiana
Arkinsaw = Arkansas
Oklahomuh = Oklahoma
INTERSTATES AND HIGHWAYS
Ah Teyun = I-10
Ah Tiwindy = I-20
Ah Thurdy = I-30
Ah Thurdy Fav = 35E (Travels North and South out of both Dallas and Ft. Worth)
Ah Fardy = I-40
Ah Fardy Fav = 45
Sebumdy Fav = 75 (Centrahl Spresway goes to Useton or Churmen)
Sicks Thurdy Fav = 635
Loop Twayulv = Loop 12 (which is Beltline Rd. Older Texans still call it Loop 12 not Beltline)
Hwy Ady = Highway 80
Hwy Thray Sicksdy = Hwy 360 ( Sicks flags ober Teksus is on Thray Sicksdy & Ah Thurdy)
VERBAGE
A (pronounced "aey")
Ah: (I and Eye) 1. First person, singular 2. That portion of the anatomy with which one sees.
"Ah thank Ah got sumpn in mah ah."
Ahlbdayumd: (I'll be damned) An exclamatory comment normally used alone: "
Aint: (Aunt) A female relative related either through blood or marriage: "Aint Magggeeeee, Ah shore am happy to seeya!"
Air: (Hour) 60 minutes or rate of speed: "Ah monly drivin 50 mahls pur air."
All: (Oil) 1. A liquid hydrocarbon which is produced from deep in the earth. 2. Complete or whole.
"Hid take all thuh all in Teksus tuh keep them damn yankees warm this winner!"
Not to be confused with the Southern pronunciation, "Awl" (Oil)
Amerkin: (America) Citizen of the United States of American. "Even Teksuns is Amerkins.
Annavarsry: (anniversary) A repetitive celebration of a past occurence: "Mah waf's gonna take may out tuh ate for our anavarsry."
Arncha: (Aren't you) An inquiry concerning the addressee's plans. "Arncha gunna go over tuh thuh pitchur sho tuhnite?"
Aukerd: (awkward) clumsy, inept, embarrassing. "Ah shore felt aukerd when thuh outhouse wall fayul down."
Awf: (off) 1. A reduction or separation. 2. Away from, at a distance. "Thet 1/4 awf sayul is only 2 days awf."
B (pronounced "bay")
Bawl: (Ball) Any toy which rolls or bounces. "Thuh greatest game evur davised bah man is futbawl."
Bawlbag: (Bawl Bag) A Person who cries a lot: "He ain't nuffin' but an ode bawlbag!"
Bellywash: (Soda: Dr. Pepper, RC, Coke) An effervescent liquid for human consumption: "Ahma gonna git me uh bellywash, untone?"
Big D (Dallas) The second largest city in Texas: "The Cowboys is from Big D"
Bigun: (Big one) A large person, place or thing: "Oh, shay's a bigun alright."
Bleeve: (Believe) To feel strongly aboutor to have faith in. "Ah bleeve Tony Dorset iz thuh greatest futbawl player evur bornd."
Brayke: To separate into pieces by force. (Break) 2 .A device to stop motion.(Brake)
"Few don't stop that Ah mona brayke yarm!"
Breck: (Brick) A masonry building material. "Sumtoms hay makes may so mad Ah could thow uh breck attum."
C (pronounced "saey")
Captul: (Capitol) The seat of government. "Thuh Teksus Captul is in Awstun."
Cawdja: Past tense of cawya. (Called you) "Heard Dom Bo cawdja last night. Whudde say?"
Cawer: (Car) 4 wheel vehicle usually used to transport people: "Ah mona git may uh new diesel cawer"
Chair: (Cheer) to yell or holler with gusto: "Her greatest desire is tuh bay uh chairleader fer thuh Cowboys."
Chard: (Yard) Area usually green, around a house: "Ah gotta mow mah frunt chard somtom."
Chayer: (Chair) An article of furniture upon which to sit: "Pull up thet ode chayer and set uhwahl."
Cheer: (Here) This place: Bring muy thuh gayas can.Put it rit cheer."
Chur: (Your) Second person, possessive: "Wazzat chur ode dawg tahd up ovare?"
Churt: (Shirt) Wearing apparel for the upper torso: "Whardja git that funny lookin churt?"
Code: (Cold) Opposite of Hot: "Ah gotta code in mah nose."
Cuz: (Because) Normally comes before the reason: "Ah didunt go ovur tuh town cuz ah hanumt got no money" All southern children grow up hearing from their Mother say: Cuz I sayud so!
D (pronounced "daey")
Defnutly:(Definitely) To be sure without question: "Thets defnutly thuh smartest dawg in town."
Diduhnit: (Didn't it) A negative inquiry: "Diduhnit rain last night?"
Difahkult: (Difficult) Hard to do: "Blonde's hab ah difahkult time tuh walk and chew gum."
Difernt: (Different) To distinguish between: "Thet rayud bawl slot difernt that thet bulloo bawl."
Dja: (Did you) an affirnative inquiry: "Dja see thet game yesturday?" Note* some folks use "jew" or "didja"
Dower: (Door) An opening in the wall through which one may walk: "Whut's behind dower numba one?"
Draimun: (dreaming) The act of having visions during sleep: "Ah must bay draimun!"
Drank: (Drink) To consume liquid: "Ah thank Ahl go down and havuh a liddel drank."
Dubya-Dubya: ( WW ) Reference to the 42nd President of The United States of America: "Dubya-Dubya iz ah good ode boy from Teksus."
Duduhnit: (Doesn't it?) A positive inquiry: "Duduhnit feel good tuh win?"
Dudunt (Doesn't) A contraction indicating the negative of the third person, singular verb form, do: "Ode Joe dudunt know witchin's up"
E (pronounced "aee")
Eevnun: (Evening) The latter part of the day: "Thuh moon thuther eevnun waz gist butiful.
Entahr: (Entire) Complete or universal; all of it: "Hay's thuh best goat roper hin thuh entahr warld!"
Eventchly: (Eventually) Before long or ultimately: "Good, will win out, eventchly"
Evun: (Even) Equal. "Them tew ode boys come out dead evun in thet race."
Evurwonsinawhahl: (Ever once in a while) Periodically, but infrequently: "Ah git tuh drahv mah Daddy's pickup truk evurwonsinawhahl."
F (pronounced "ayuf")
Fahwar: (For) The object or purpose of, or reason of action: "Wadja wonna go do that fahwar?" NOTE* also pronounced "fur" and "fuh" by well meaning, but unenlightened Southerners.
Faller: (Follow) The opposite of lead: "Ahd faller her anywhare."
Far: (Fire) The ignition of fuel from which to derive heat: "Thow sum lawgs on thet far."
Few: (If you) A qualified conjunction of the second person, singular: Few kaynt spake thuh language, better not drank thuh warder!"
Fergit: (Forget) To lose recall of something: "Tuh err iz human; tuh fergit iz also human."
Figger: (Figure) 1. The shape of human form 2. To calculate: "Thet Maggie shore has got uh fahn lookin figger."
Fixin: (Fixing to) Preparing, Getting read: "ode Joe's fixin tuh find himself in uh heap uh trouble."
Flare: (Flower & Flour) "Thet yeller flare shore smayuls good."
Frayed: (Afraid) An affirmitive or negative response: "Ahm frayed so." OR "Ahm frayed not."
Fraze: (Freeze) To render a material solid from temperature reduction: "Fah don't git mah coat Ah mona fraze!"
Frunt: (Front) Opposite of back: "thuh cawer's out frunt."
G (pronounced "jey")
Gayas: (Gas) 1. Gasoline:the accelerant in an automobile. 2.The release of gases built up in the human bodyz; "Whoo-wee, hab yew seen thuh price of gayas lately?"
Gittaholdayew: (Get a hold of you) A Texas way to say: "call you" or "contact you"
"Shay's sposed tuh gittaholdayew bout thet thus safternoon."
Gist: (Just) A word used by Texans and most Southerners to modify and strengthen others; or to buy time in the middle of a sentence to think of the right word: "Ah waz gist so excited Ah could gist hardly stand it."
Gitahwer: (Guitar) A stringed musical instrument used for pickin and grinnin: "Thus hare's thuh best gitahwer Ahv evur strummed."
Guesss: (Guest) Visitors: "Ahl bet way adda hunnert guesss at thuh wedden."
Guf: (Gulf) A large body of water for which a previously large and independent oil company was named. "Thuh closest thang way got tuh un oshun iz thuh Guf uh Messyco."
Gunna or Gonna: (Going to) A modifier which comes between the subject and the verb used to add emphasis, or to fill in and make the sentence sound right; used with third person: "Hay's gunna git wet fee don't git outta thet rain."
H (pronounced "aetch")
Ha: (High) 1. Upper elevation 2. A state of inebriation: "Thuh Mahl-Ha Club shewur can be fun!"
Habumt: (Haven't) A contraction to indicate the condition of not having: "Ah habumt got uh dime tuh mah name."
Hayul: (Hell) 1. Any place or state of misery, cruelty. 2. [slang] To be severely scolded: "Yew go to hayul!"
Hawh: (huh or ?) Signals message understood, but not worthy of additional comment; normally used alone. NOTE* If the syllable trails up it's a question. If not, a comment. "Hawh!" or "Hawh?"
Hidee: (How do you do) A unique form of greeting used almost exclusively by Texas Aggies; normally used alone, but echoed by other Aggies within earshot. "Hidee" "Hidee"
Hiduhnit (Isn't it) A negative inquiry: "Hiduhnit bout tom way headed home?"
Hinyun: (Indian; NOTE* Nevah Injun) The original American: "Ah thank thuh cowboys sargunna git whopped by them Hinyuns thus tom."
Hookem: (Hook them) To attach to something, catch something, or hurt something: "Hookem Horns!" (which of course is the catch phrase for The University of Texas, Longhorns. When saying this you must display Pointer and pinkie finger extended straight and thumb holds the index and ring fingers down) Like so: I__I <--Longhorns!
Hyeru: (How are you) A greeting, normally used alone and frequently answered: "Fahn, hyeru?"
I (pronounced "ah")
I-O-no: (I don't know) Used as an answer to virtually any question to a sub-teenager: "Who broke thishere thang?" "I-O-no"
Ignernt:(Ignorance) Without knowledge: "Ignernts of thuh law iz no excuse."
Innersekshun: (Intersection) The meeting of roads: "Billy Bob's iz zakley thray mahls past thet innersekshun rot thare."
Instudda: (Instead of) Rather then: "ahd ruthur hav thet great big bowl uh chili instudda thet liddel biddy un."
Izit: (Is it) The second part of many important questions: "Whut izit?" "Who izit?
Izzatta: (Is at a) Describing a feeling or location: "Ah izzatta loss cheer."
J (pronounced "jay")
Janes: (Jeans) Wearing apparel for the legs: Dja see them tot bulloo janes on thet whoamun?"
Jayul: (Jail) A place of incarceration: "Few keep runnin round wif thet bunch yore gonna git thowed in jayul."
Jeetyet: (Did you eat yet) Inquiry into if one has consumed any meal: "Dja jeetyet?"
Jeyut: (Jet) A fast Airplane: "ah mona ketch may ah jeyut plane to Caleyfornyuh"
Joggerfee: (Geography) The study of the Earth's surface: "Ah made uh Bay-plus in Joggerfee."
Julry: (Jewelry) rings, bracelets, necklaces: "Thet whoamun gist luv's julry."
K (pronounced "kayee")
Kang: (King) The ruler or supreme authority: "Thet guy thanks hay's Kang uv thuh warld."
Kaynt: (Can't) A Contraction of can not: "Ah gist kaynt wait til Christmas!"
Kinduh: (Kind of) An approcimation, or nearly: "Ah now kinduh understaynd whut chur tawkin bout."
Klane: (Clean) Not soiled or dirty: "Yew bettah clane up yore act."
Kliment: (Climate) Meteorological environment: "Few don't lahk Teksus kliment gist wait fav minents."
Kweyut: (Quit) Stop: Yew bettah kweyut thet or Ahl slap yup sodda thuh hayud."
L (pronounced "ayul")
Lah: (Lie) 1. A fib or untruth 2. To recline. "hit wuz gist uh liddel, wot lah." "Doncha dare lah on mah cowch wif yewr muddy boots awn."
Lahf: (Life) 1. The name of a Magazine 2. Before death: "Ahv lived in Teksus most uv mah a-dult lahf."
Lahk: (Like) 1. To enjoy 2. To show affection: "Ah rilly do lahk yew, Boo... Ad do, Ah do!"
Liberry: (Library) Where books are housed: "Thay got lotsa books on how tuh tawk rot over at thuh liberry."
Lot: (Light) An instrument or element which emits brightness: "Ah's lahk thuh hayuv wunna them sicksdy what lot bubs, playze."
M (pronounced "eyum")
Mahsef: (Myself) one's own self: "...and Ah sayud tuh mahsef, 'Sef, yew kaynt git by wif thet.' "
Mahtearyul: (Material) What a thing is made of: "Sumtoms Craig Ferguson dudunt have very good mahteryul, but hay still tawks funny."
Mawce: (Moss) A parasitic growth on trees: "Thet mawce on them trays shore makes hit scary."
Mahl: (Mile) A unit of linear measure, equal to 5,280 feet: "Ah betcha shay cant walk a mahl in dem heels."
Mawl: (Mall) A center, normally covered, used for shopping: "Keep them wimmen away from thuh mawl."
Minent: (Minute) Sixty seconds: "ahl bay thare in uh New York minent."
Mona: (Going to) Used with the first person, singular to state what one intends to do: "Ah mona git mahsef uh brand new flawger."
N (pronounced "eyum")
Nekkid: (Naked) Completely unclothed; nude. "June waz nekkid in da craik."
N-sod: (Inside) Within a building or room, or other enclosure: "Izzat ode BillyBobJoeDon n-sod thet bildun?"
Naw: (No) Note* Sometimes pronounced "naugh" Used as a negative respose: "Dja git paid tuhday?" "Naw!"
Nuthun: (Nothing) The opposite of something: "Wheyun yew duhvide nuthun by sumpm yew git nuthun."
O (pronounced "oh")
O-cheut: An exclamatory expletive, generally considered to be equal to 10 "ATTABOYS". Normally used alone. (Aw come on now, say it slowly)
Ode: (Old) Ancient: "thuh ode gray mare shay ain't whut shay ustuh bay."
Oncha: (Don't you) Conjuctive word singular meaning you better not.
Opsit: (Opposite) Completely different: "Thay say opsits attrack."
Oshun: (Ocean) The body of salt water that covers about 71% of the Earth's surface:
Ovhare: (Over Here) Indicating a place or location closer to the person speaking: "Brang thet griwl ovhare neah me."
Ovare: (Over There) Indicating a place or location: "Put thet liddel chayer rot ovare!"
P (pronounced "pay")
Pahn: (Pine) An evergreen indigenous to Texas and Mississippi. " Ahma lergic to those damn pahn trays!" Ahhhchoo!
Paypul: (People) Human beings: "Teksuns iz thuh greatest paypul in thuh whole warld."
Pears (Appears) A statement of apparent observation: "Pears tuh may your puttin on uh liddel weight."
Pickchur or Pitchur: (Picture) *This is one I ALWAYS got called on by My Parents! A Photograph or work of Art produced by an Artist. Not something that holds liquid!
Pillar: (Pillow) A soft object placed under One's head: "Way istuh have pillar fites when way waz liddel kids."
Playze: (please) A polite request: Brang may uh cup uh coffee, playze."
Q (pronounced "kew")
Southerners nor Texans pronounce words beginning with the letter Q. It is always pronounced KW. Exaample: Kwane: Is a Female Leader. "Shay iz Kwane of England."
R (pronounced "aruh")
Rang: (Ring) 1. The present tense sound made by a bell. 2. Jewelry for fingers: 1. "Gist gimme uh rang when yore reddy tuh go." 2. "Ah wantz may uh big ode yeller dimon rang when ah getz marrid."
Reeyul: (Real) An odjective expressing conviction or magnitude: "Thet warder is reeyul hard."
Rilly: (Really) Another form of "reeyul" "Thet chikun rilly duz smayul good.
Rot: (Right) 1. The opposite of Left 2. Correct: "Yew gist go down thet road till yew git tuh thuh fowerk then take uh rot turn."
S (pronounced "ayus")
Sahn: (sign) an indicator or director or information conveyor: Them Meskins don pay any tension to da sahns when drivin'. "
Santone: (San Antonio) A major city in central Texas where the Alamo is located.
Sayud: (Said) Past tense of say: "Dija hear what Ah sayud? "
Saul: (Saw) Past tense of see: "Ah saul a big ode yeller dawg gist naow."
Sayul: (Sail & Sale) 1. Cloth which captures the wind to produce forward movement. 2. Referring to a reduction in price of an item: "Ah bought a purdy Rayud checkard dress on sayul at the feed store."
Sissy: (Sissy) 1.The act of being afraid of something. 2. Effeminate male: "Driven under 65 anywhere's in Teksus is downright sissy!"
Skrane: (Screen) 1. A cover on items to allow ventilation which passes through small openings. 2. A Visual area for viewing: "Ah put ah condum ober muy komputer skrane to keep out viruses."
Smahl: (Smile) A pleasant expression on one's lips turning upward at the corners: "Shay sure hasa purdy smahl."
Smatter: (What is the matter) The object of inquiries about one's health or condition: "Whuts smatter wichew ?"
Smayul: (Smell) An emission of fragrance: "Whutzat smayuls so bayud?"
Speshuly: (Especially) Particulary: "Git them dawgs off the porch, speshuly thet bigun."
Sprankul: (Sprinkle) A light rain: "Looks lahk hit's gonna sprankul anee tyme now."
Sumoze: (Some of those) An indication of how many: "ahl have sumoze beans ovare."
Sumpn: (Something) An article, item or object: "Thar's sumpn bout un Aqua Velva man."
T (pronounced "tay")
Tahl: (Tall) Bigger or heigher than average: "Teksuns tell tahl tayuls."
Tarbul: (Terrible) Awful or dreadful. "Hit's been a tarbul summer cheer."
Tayul: (Tale & Tail) 1. A story not lacking embellishment 2. The hind, bottom, last, or inferior part of anything: "Dja see the tayul on dat whoamun?"
Tawk: (Talk) Verbal communication: "Ah izzatta loss cheer why sum paypul think Teksuns tawk funny?"
Thang: (Thing) 1. A person. 2. An tangible or an inanimate object. 3. Any matter, affair or concern: "Mizz Thangs in a blaak mood today!"
Thuh: (The) Principle modifier of nouns, and artical: Thuh rain in Teksus, sucks!"
Thur: (Their) Third person, possessive: "Thet's thur cawer ovare, thuh pank one."
Tode: (Told) Past tense of tell: "Ah tode ya so!"
Tom: (Time) A system of measuring duration: " Izza bout tom yew got cheer!"
Tuh: (To & Too) 1.A direction or a place, or an adverb, but never a number. 2. Also: "Yew gonna go all thuh way tuh Useton by yewrsef?"
U (pronounced "yew")
U-betcha: (You bet) An affirmative comment, normally used alone as in a declaration: "Dja have fun?" " U-betcha!"
Uh-hawh or Uh-huh: (Yes) An affirmative answer generally used alone as in the above sentence: "Dija?" "ah-huh, Ah did."
Unna: (Do you want to) "Unna kiss Muy aaaaass?"
Useton: (Houston) A city in Teksus: "It's often sayud in Big D, Only steers and queers live in Useton, which are yew?" *you have to understand the Love/Hate relationship between the two cities*
Ustuh: (Use to) Expressing the past tense of an act: "Way shore ustah hav ah lottuh fun tuh night afore tuh Teksus-OU game."
V (pronounced "vay")
Vahlayshun: (Violation) An act against the law: "Ah gott a vahlayshun for speedin' in a Skool zone."
Viktray: (Victory) A triumph: "Who sayud: Gimme viktray or gimme dayuth?"
Vurchully: (Virtually) Essentially or almost all: "Vurchully all Teksuns iz Cowboy fayuns."
W (pronounced "dubya")
Waf: (wife) A female spouse: "Oh.. thet's an ode waf's tayul tol by men."
War: (Wire) 1. A strand of metal 2. A colloquial term for telegram: "Ah gist sent a war to Fowert Wurth"
Warder: (Water) A colorless liquid: "Ah hate warder. Nevah drink it. Fish fu*K in it!"
Wayul: (Well) 1. A shaft or hole 2. To a certain degree: The beginning of almost all Texan's sentences! "Wayul, iffin tuh creak don't rize, Ahul do-er."
Whadde: (what did he) Inquiring the action of a person: "Whadde do?"
Whoamun: (Woman) Female in gender: What a whoamun!"
Whut: (What) Something which is not normally known: "Whut yew tawkin bout?"
Whutzat: (What is that) To inquire about a person, place or thing: "Whutzat ore ere?"
Wonna: (want to) A verb expressing one's desire: "Ah don't wonna do it!"
X (Teksuns do not use words starting with X)
Y (pronounced "why")
Yawl: (you all) Conjunctive word second person, singular: "Yawl need ta visit more often!"
Yew: (You) Second person singular: "Yew got thaat right!"
Y-oncha: (Why don't you) a personal suggestion or order: "Y-oncha lick Muy Boots!"
Yayus or Yayuh or Yayup (Yes) An affirmative response often used alone. Sometimes proceeded by the word: Hayul: "Hayul Yayus!"
Z (pronounced "zaey")
Zekatuv: (Executive) Empowered to administer: "Awl I know iz he's ah zekatuv."
Zatrot: (Is that right) An inquiring comment indicating message understtod, but not totally believed; normally used alone and followed by an affirmative response like: "uh-huh..."
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So now, You will be able to "tawk", as well as understand Teksuns. *grin*
Hope you enjoyed the post, because My spell check went crazy!
*Authors NOTE* Thanks to Ken Rigsbee who wrote the original dictionary in 1968, which I have expanded on and added words to.
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The Semantics of Words.
I simply feel it is time that I address the issue of terminology used in the BDSM lifestyle.
Because I do live in this realm, am active within many lifestyle groups, and understand the terminology, does not mean that everyone communicating with Me does. Nor does it mean that everyone in the lifestyle "agrees" with the terminology.
This lifestyle is infinite. That said, If you do not agree with the following post, it's your choice. The option is open to move on to something else. I don't want to hear your whining. Though I am not very eloquent in many of My posts, I will endeavor to get My point across.
Let's look at the first word: Domme
Some think it is pronounced Dom-me, Some say it Dom-may. I do not see an A anywhere in this word, do you? I thought not. People will argue the semantics on the pronunciation of the word, but it is pronounced the same as the male: Dom. The e is silent.
First of all, the word Domme is the feminine of the male word Dom. Both are Latin based words.
It stems from the Latin word Domna.
Ergo: domina domna: lady, mistress.
dominus domno: master, lord.
domito: To tame, subdue, break in.
dominatus: rule, mastery, tyranny, domination.
People who have been properly trained do pronounce it correctly, as well as those that have been in the lifestyle for a while. Many people inwardly "cringe" when they hear others pronounce it incorrectly. I am one of them.
The next problem I see is the different meanings of Dom/me / Top sub/bottom and switch.
I am going to explain to you the way I was trained over 30 years ago and see if it helps you to get inside My thinking. You may not agree, but that is your choice.
I have already defined Domme or Dom.
A Dominant: Male or Female who assumes the role of Power or Authority in the power exchange. The Dominant takes physical and/or psychological control of another during a pre determined amount of time.
The defining factor of power exchange is the conscious, deliberate construction of a power dynamic in which at least one person assumes psychological control to some agreed-upon extent over at least one other person. In the case of TPE (Total Power Exchange) it is usually for an unspecified amount of time by mutual consent.
Tops are generally found in the Leather side (SM) of the BDSM House. They are the one that controls the scene. Administering the "play" if you will. However, does not have psychological control over the person they are playing with.
The Top/bottom: are more into the Physical side of the lifestyle and play, than into the mental.
A Dom/me /submissive/slave: Are into the mental aspects, control and the play. They find all aspects of the lifestyle fulfilling and well rounded. As well, you will find Dom/me's subs/slaves on BOTH sides of the BDSM House, both sensual side and leather side.
As most of you can surmise, many of us in the lifestyle do not like nor recognize the word "switch."
The fact of the matter is, switches are detested. Why? Because, a switch is someone with control issues and problems. They are neither a Top or a Bottom. They are a sexual bottom.
It is all about them. They have the me, me, me attitude. They will DO whatever it takes to get their needs met to get their own personal satisfaction. So they will play either role to achieve this.
I have found that many untrained people will confuse the word "switch" when talking about their ability to "Yield" to a stronger Dominant in play or in training, in order to learn or experience.
A switch, much like the definition of slut, will do anyone, anytime, any place. In other words, they will continually switch and take whatever role is needed to achieve their pleasure, no matter WHO the other person is.
Whereas a Dominant, never relinquishes their demeanor, but will on occasion, "yield" to another on a selective basis. Whether it be for play in order to "experience" or to "learn."
How can a Dominant guide a sub or slave, if they do not personally know what the one they are guiding is feeling? They can only guess.
I will give you an example here.
I have and will continue to YIELD to both Master and Mistress who are experienced in certain elements of "PLAY" in order to Learn from them. I do not think so highly of Myself that this is beyond My capabilities.
When I wanted to learn to do Fire Play correctly, I yielded to Mistress of Fire, allowing Her to use My body to teach Me the correct way to do Fire Play. Then I acted as "helper" to learn at Her side. Finally when it was time, I learned with Her beside Me, watching as I played with a submissive. Hands On.
In yielding, there is an understood mutual respect between both Dominants. The Teacher understands the demeanor of the other at all times. They DO NOT try to turn them into or treat them as a submissive.
The pupil, shows respect for the Teachers knowledge and addresses them as one would any Dominant, because they are the pupil. Yes, Ma'am or Sir. No Ma'am or Sir and always Thank You's.
For they have given you the gift of their time and knowledge in order to make you a better Dominant.
There is something I would like to inject here about Fire Play. Many do not know what it is. They see the words and ASSUME they are going to be burned. Not So, IF you play or experience this sensual play from ONE who is skilled and knowledgeable. There are a few experienced Dominants that I would gladly strip off naked for and offer up My body for demonstration purposes, it feels that damn good.
That does not make Me a switch. But I digress.
As I stated earlier, most switches have "control" issues. i.e., they do not want to give up control, so they top from the bottom. As well, for them, it is a matter of Trust.
Because submission deals with the mental aspects of control, while trusting the person Dominating them.
A switch does not like feeling vulnerable.
I once asked a very well known and active Dallas Top, why She wasn't a Dominant? Her reply to Me was, "I don't want to take responsibility for anyone, I just like to beat Ass. When I am finished, I want to just be able to walk away."
That is not meant to imply all Tops elude any responsibility. It is how She personally feels.
There is a lot of responsibility in being a Dominant. It's not ALL about beating ass, play or being in control.
Just as a Dominant is responsible for getting one into sub-space (We hope) They are responsible for getting them back down safely. For getting someone back in the reality of THIS world, This time by administering AFTERCARE. Some Tops just don't want to bother with all it involves. Then there are those that do.
The majority of "pissing and moaning" I hear about "switch" from others is this: "They are either one or the other, they need to decide or get out."
Some people who call themselves a switch, are people who state: I don't like labels. (cough)
Most I have encountered, tend to be more submissive in nature. They like being on the receiving end.
They simply are not into the mental aspect or the control. So they give nothing back.
OR They are Dominants that don't understand about yielding, and because they have to assume a bottom position in order to learn, think that makes them a switch!
Because I love the mental aspect of Domination/submission, I can not and refuse to play with a switch or bottom. They do not relinquish control. As well, they give nothing back to Me. The mental aspect is missing from O/our play. I give all I can give and get nothing in return. Ergo: I experience what is called: Top drop. That being a HIGH from play, only to have the bottom (switch) walk away after. So I am left Hanging in mid air with a feeling of depression and unhappiness. Left with an feeling of un fulfillment.
I once watched KatDallas work over a bottom for two hours straight in the Dungeon. She went after him with all She had. (negotiated SM play) It was hot, She was perspiring like She was out in some tropical Jungle. She had to remove some of Her clothing to keep going at the pace She was playing. At the end of Two Exhausting Hours, She called a halt to play. She was that tired.
The bottom: Why are you stopping? To which Kat replied: I am tired, it's hot and I need a rest. I have been playing you for 2 hours. bottom: Is that it? Is that all? Is that all You've got? (instead of saying: Thank You Ma'am)
he never offered to help clean up Her toys or the play space. he never offered to get Her a wet cloth to wipe down with. Nor did he even offer to purchase Her something cold (water or other) to drink. Do you see the difference in THINKING of a bottom from a sub???
So while I understand some switches positions to claim and be such, it does not mean I have to like NOR play with them. As I stated, they give nothing back to Me.
I do believe that each and every person should derive some type of pleasure, not only out of their specific role, but also the type of play they are doing. Otherwise, Why do it?
As well, I will address the issue of TITLES.
I am so tired of getting email from people that start out Dear Mistress Domme Maggie....
HELLO!
The following are Titles: Domme, Mistress, Lady, Goddess, Dom, Master, Lord.
The following is a Demeanor: Dominant, Domina, Domna, Dominatrix, Top, bottom, switch.
The titles Master or Mistress implies the acceptance of responsibility.
Since I have not agreed to accept you, to be responsible for you, Kindly do not address Me as such. It diminishes the "feeling" (for Me) derived when someone I care about, or have give permission to USE My earned title, uses it. I want that title to be special. To mean exactly what it is supposed to mean. If one were to continually tell you.. I love you, love you, love you.. after a while, that phrase would not resonate the same feelings within you. That phrase is reserved (To Me) for special feelings O/one has in their heart for another. Something so special. The same holds true for My title of Mistress. So don't call Me Mistress.
If you are not sure what you should call someone.
If you have a problem accepting a specific title.
If you are one that feels that your don't have to show respect, it should be earned, then I tell you to use common courtesy. You can never go wrong using Sir or Ma'am.
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Driving in Dallas,Texas
First you must learn to pronounce the city name. It is DAL-LUS, or DAA-LIS depending on if you live inside or outside LBJ Freeway.
Next, if your Mapsco is more than a few weeks old, throw it out and buy a new one.
If in Denton County and your Mapsco is one-day-old, then it is already obsolete.
Forget the traffic rules you learned elsewhere. (Frisco has screwed everything up.)
Dallas has its own version of traffic rules..."Hold on and pray."
There is no such thing as a dangerous high-speed chase in Dallas. We all drive like that.
All directions start with: "Get on Beltline," which has no beginning and no end. (It REALLY DOESN'T!!!)
The morning rush hour is from 6 to 10. The evening rush hour is from 3 to 7. Friday's rush hour starts Thursday morning.
If you actually stop at a yellow light, you will be rear-ended, cussed out and possibly shot. When you are the first one on the starting line, count to five when the light turns green before going to avoid crashing into all the drivers running the red light in cross-traffic.
Construction on Central Expressway is a way of life and a permanent form of entertainment. We had sooo much fun with that, we have added George Bush Freeway and the High Five to the mix. Personally I feel everyone should experience driving 12 stories in the Air especially when there is snow and sleet on the ground and sooner or later you'll be headed downhill.
All unexplained sights are explained by the phrase, "Oh, we're in Fort Worth!"
If someone actually has his or her turn signal on, it is probably a factory defect.
Car horns are actually "Road Rage" indicators - and remember, it's legal to be armed in Texas ..
If you and several Co-workers are flying into the DFW area, never let the car rental talk you into renting a Pick-up truck. You will be subject to being pulled over and search after dark. Night time is when all IA's (illegal aliens) travel the freeways in pickup trucks.
When exiting a Freeway be cautious. The YIELD sign to thru traffic seems to mean: Yes, Indeed Enter Lateral Defense.
All old ladies with blue hair in a Mercedes have the right of way. Period. And remember, it's legal to be armed in Texas.
Inwood Road, Plano Road, NW Highway, East Grand, Garland Road, Marsh Lane, Josey Lane, 15th Street, Preston Road all mysteriously change names as you cross intersections (these are only a FEW examples). The perfect example is what is MOSTLY known as Plano Road . On the south end, it is known as Lake Highlands Drive, cross Northwest Highway and it becomes Plano Road, go about 8 miles and it is briefly Greenville Ave, Ave K, and Highway 5. It ends in Sherman ...
The North Dallas Tollway is our daily version of NASCAR. The minimum acceptable speed on the Dallas North Toll Road is 85 mph. Anything less is considered downright sissy. It also ends in Sherman. Added fun is the use of Toll-Tags to see how fast one can get safely though the toll tag booth without slowing down.
If asking directions in Irving or SE Dallas , you must have knowledge of Spanish. If in central Richardson or on Harry Hines, Mandarin Chinese will be your best bet. Garland, Pakistani or Arabic. If you stop to ask directions on Gaston or Live Oak, you better be armed... and remember, it's legal to be armed in Texas.
The wrought iron on windows near Oak Cliff and Fair Park is not ornamental!!
A trip across town east to west will take a minimum of four hours, although many north/south freeways have unposted minimum speeds of 75 MPH. If you are doing the posted speed limit you better be in the far right lane and are still subject to getting run over.
Since right on Red is legal in Dallas, DO NOT, I repeat, DO not ever get in a right hand lane unless you are turning. You will be subject to repeated horn honking and fist waving..as well as a few asperities.
It is possible to be driving West in the North bound lane on East Northwest Highway. Just as it is possible to be traveling North or South on I-35 East. Don't let this confuse you.
LBJ is called "The Death Trap" for two reasons: "death" and "trap."
Central Expressway (75) Is commonly referred to as the Boulevard of Broken Tail lights.
If you are driving in Dallas and it starts to rain, franticly look at the drivers passing you. Hispanics speed up when it rains.
If you are driving in Dallas and it starts to snow, pray there is a Yankee driving the car in front of you, as well as behind you. Hispanics do not slow down for snow.
If after a snow or sleet storm in Dallas, you are approaching an overpass, do so cautiously. The car you see whizzing by and suddenly in a flat spin like a F-14 that has flamed out, will be bouncing off the guard rails till it comes to a complete stop. You guessed it.. Hispanics don't know what Black Ice is... Again, pray for a Yankee to be near you.
If it's 100 degrees, Thanksgiving must be next weekend.
If it's 10 degrees and sleeting/snowing, the Fort Worth Stock Show is going on.
If it has rained 6 inches in the last hour, the Byron Nelson Golf Classic is in the second round (if it's Spring) - and it is the Texas State Fair if it's Fall.
If you go to the Fair, pay the $8.00 to park INSIDE Fair Park. Parking elsewhere could cost up to $2500 for damages, towing fees, parking tickets, and possibly a gunshot wound. If some guy with a flag tries to get you to park in his yard, run over him.
All amusement parks, stadiums, arenas, racetracks, airports, etc., are conveniently located as far away from EVERYTHING as possible, so as to allow for ample parking on grassy areas.
If you're here.. Watch out for My vehicle which bears the warning signs: I have both PMS and a hand Gun. Keep honking cause I'm reloading!
Don't bother to honk at Me.. cause I can't hear you.
1. The windows are up;
2. The AC is on High;
3. I have those craig speakers cranked up to 24 listening to Enigma's "Push The Limits," which enfuses Me with great Power!
4. I'm fully Insured
Just how Lucky do you feel?
Don't Mess With Texas Drivers ... remember, it's legal to be armed in Texas.
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Silently he approaches You, naked, as You have commanded, shaved genitals, indicating that he is now no longer a "free" male but one who will be controlled and marked as such.
So long ago, he first came under Your spell, writing things to You in unsigned emails that made no sense to others, but which betrayed a longing in his soul and his emotions, to get closer to You. Doing so, gradually, almost gingerly, knowing that the old rules of desire, courtship and conquest would no longer apply. Fighting it by staying away, denying what was in his soul because he knew that inexhorably he would be drawn to this moment which now stands at hand.
he places his device of imprisonment into Your hands, You take it, kiss it and pass it to his lips as he does the same.
Your kiss acknowledges his surrender, his kiss acknowledges that he accepts Your right to demand his surrender if he desires his relationship with You to proceed.
The ground rules for continuance are laid, they are accepted as he places his wrists behind his back for cuffing by you, turns to You and You place them on him, then, as You command, he turns around facing You, head up, eyes lowered, as You proceed to place the cock and balls that You now own and control, as You own and control his heart and mind, into their imprisonment.
he has not worn such a device before, his agitation, held inward as he stands there stoically, races through his mind as he contemplates life now, with it on 24/7.
Will the desire to masturbate, to touch what he so easily and frequently touched before, became overwhelming to the point of madness? Will he be able to focus on his daily life away from You, so imprisoned? Will others notice the bulge in his trousers when he is dressed normally? Will You really take it off periodically, or will it be left on for interminable periods?
he is crossing a line from which there is no return. he will either become so enslaved that what use to exist will be changed, or he will face the awful truth that this has all been a fantasy, and that reality, once it has intruded thusly, will end this dream life which has sustained him for so long.
he wants You, lusts for You, wants Your heart given to him and Your body to follow.
he wants to court You, to give voice through more than words, of his deep feelings for You.
he wants You to know that it is love, not lust, which has brought him to this point.
he knows, that You know, for a relationship to work, both must be present.
he wants You to know and will try in all ways that he can, to show You that what is done for You, endured by him, shared with You, comes from his heart and not solely his loins.
So many thoughts racing as he is now imprisoned and You lead him away, wrists cuffed behind his back to give him kisses.
Not solely from Your lips, but kisses from Your whips as You delight in his gift and claim it, through the application of the lash, harshly and liberally that he might know Heaven and Hell come wrapped and embodied in the mind, heart, soul and body of the same Dominant Female, whom he shall worship, out of love, out of lust and out of respect, for the rest of his days.
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To Me.. This lifestyle encompasses negotiation between any and all parties involved. Sometimes it means changing your perspective or perhaps seeing things from a different perspective. Simply because I am Dominant, does not mean I am perfect!
BIG HINT: I don't walk on water!!
If you find you DO and can, then you are the second coming.
ALL of the Real Life Dominants, both Male and Female, I have the pleasure of calling "friend" are of the same attitude. We are mature enough, secure enough, while having many years of experience between Us to understand that "Though it is about What We wish," sometimes negotiation is necessary to get what you want.
Recently I was approached with a scenario even I had not considered. I found that Not only did I appreciate the manner it which it was presented for consideration, but I liked the idea. Sometimes one person will not encompass all that We desire. However, if a person meets 80% the other 20% will come in due course through molding, teaching and bonding.
I am a firm believer in negotiation whether it is with a sub or slave. There should never be the attitude: you are a slave therefore you will always Do as I say without question. As well, there should never be the reverse. Limits, limitations and hard limits should always be negotiated. Those who state: "I don't have any" have simply not been ask to do something they would refuse to do. They are placing considerable TRUST in someone that they have not bonded with yet. Bonding and trust are like respect, They should be earned.
I would like each sub or slave to seriously "THINK" about that statement before they make it to a Dominant. Especially one they have not spent ANY TIME with.
Though W/we all are aware that contracts are not legally binding, one night at My Dungeon a submissive I had trained presented himself requesting My time. his request was simple. Would I read over a contact he was considering from someone. I took the 98 page contract in My hands and started to read. By the time I had reached the 5th page, I believe all the blood had drained from My face. BY the 3rd Chapter, I was violently ill. Slowly I turned to a well respected Dominant member of NLA and handed him the contract. He started to read and though He didn't get as far as I did, Our answer was the same. RUN!
Never go to someone that has so little regard for you as a person, or of your feelings or life. you have self worth and value.
Something I have always known is that those NEW to the lifestyle have a deep need and burning desire to be owned and collared. In My 30 plus years, these people are easy to spot. Instead of using them or abusing them, as a Dominant, it is somewhat My responsibility to educate them. Play Devil's Advocate, if you will.
As of late, many who declare themselves slaves, I find, have never been a submissive. Have never experienced the lifestyle.
My question is simple: How can you be a slave, when you have not even experienced being submissive to someone?
My view of slavery is a natural extension of a true submissive. he is ready to leave behind the time constraints, to turn over a TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE (TPE) with someone he can build a bond of trust with.
For review and for the NEWBIES, I will tell you that there are 3 Types of submissive.
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The sexual submissive. Also known as a bottom or sensual sub. This type of submissive is into it mainly for the sexual gratification derived from some of the activities practiced in BDSM. Once their needs are met they no longer feel a need to submit or surrender any other personal power or control.
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The psychological submissive. This group contains many of the masochistic submissives. They are into it for the pain, punishment and humiliation often inflicted on them by more sadistic dominants. Many abused individuals often end up in this category and are not actually submissives but may have emotional problems that keep them in the "victim" mode because of their previous experiences.
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The natural submissive. Also called true submissive. This type of individual seems to have been born submissive. It goes beyond the sexual aspects of the BDSM and is a normal part of their makeup. It is their nature to please others and readily relinquish their personal power with little or no urging from their dominant.
Which is right? Who's to say. Only you know which one you are. Look deep within yourself to discover. For submission comes from the heart. No one has the right to tell you if you are real or not. They do not know what you feel insider. Only you have that right.
There are 9 Levels of submission w ithin the BDSM and S/M subculture, different people use the words: "submissive & slave" to mean many different things.
When a submissive says: "i want to be your slave" sometimes they only mean they want to be tied up and whipped.
At the other extreme, there are people who want to be full-time personal servants and who truly want to exist solely for their Domme's use, pleasure and convenience. And there are many shades in between these two extremes.
1. The Outright Non-submissive Masochist Or Kinky Sensualist:
Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms and for the masochist's own pleasure. Turned on solely/mainly by one's own bodily sensations rather than by being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism.
2. Pseudo-submissive Non-slave:
Not even into playing slave but into other submissive role-playing, e.g., school teacher scenes: infantilism, "forced" transvestitism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree. (Can we say Tops from the bottom boys and girls?)
3. Pseudo-submissive Play slave:
Likes to play at being a slave. Likes to feel subservient, may in some cases like to feel one is being "used" to gratify partner's sadism. May even really serve the Dominant in some ways, but only on the slave's terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree, often fetishistic (e. g foot worshipers)
4. True submissive Non slave:
Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the Dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility.
Doesn't dictate except in very general terms, but still seek mainly his/her own direct/pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the Dominant).
5. True submissive Play slave:
Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving, being used by the Dominant, but only for fun purposes, usually erotic. May/may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e., enjoys being the object of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.
6. Uncommitted Short-Term But More Than Play Semi-slave:
Really gives up control (usually within limits) wants to serve and be used by the Dominant, wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services. But only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or end the agreed upon several days). May or may not have long term relationship with one's Master/Mistress, but either way, the "slave" has the final say over when he/she will serve.
7. Part-Time Consensual But Real slave:
Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as Dominant's property at all times. Wants to obey and please Domme in all aspects of life-practical
/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g.job) but Domme has the first pick of slave's free time.
8. Full-Time Live in Consensual slave:
Within no more than a few broad limits/
requirements, the slave regards herself/himself as existing solely for the Dominants pleasure/well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that slave is male.
Within the S/M world, a full-time "slave"
arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being giving up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of possibly dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
9. Consensual Total slave with No Limits
A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn't exist in real life (except in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the "consent" is induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual). A few S/M pursuits will insist that you aren't really a slave unless you're willing to do absolutely anything for your Dominant with no limits at all. (BULLSH**)
The above list isn't intended as a rigid classification. Most submissives don't fall neatly into one of these categories: there are still further shades in between. (for example, a live-in slave with an outside paying job would be category 7. Also the same submissive may attain different degrees of submission with different Dommes. The list is intended simply to show the wide range of different possible meanings of the words "submissive" or "slave."
In the BDSM subculture, the majority of "submissives" seek scenes in categories 1-3, whereas most of the Dommes I know seek slaves in category 6-7 & 8.
If you're a submissive in categories 1-3, you are probably best off seeking a relationship not with a Domme but with a fellow "sub," or with a switchable person in both roles. The two can take turns acting on each other's "submissive" or masochistic fantasies.
When a submissive tells a Dominant: "I want to be your slave," it is often hard to tell exactly what is meant. Lots of people fantasize a much greater degree of submission than they are able or willing to attain in real life, and lots of "slaves," especially inexperienced ones, over estimate their own desire for real life servitude, A Dominant must carefully find out how far the "slave" really wants to go.
Each Dominant knows what they seek, need or require. Hopefully they have been explicit on their profile. Most Femdoms will, as well, list what they DON'T WANT! So it is your responsibility to READ that profile to see if you fall within the constraints of what the Dominant is seeking.
Any email I open that starts off: Hello Mistress, I DELETE. Now he may have been the perfect person I was looking for. his loss for not reading My profile.
My profile as well say's: STRAIGHT MALE! Hello!
Don't present yourself to Me, trying to convince Me you have Bisexual on your profile because some twit of a Dominant told you it gets you more looks. Not true, OK?
If a Dominant wants you to perform bisexual acts, that is part of the negotiation process.
JUST DON'T ADD ME to your favorites or email Me. I know what I like and what I desire to have around Me. Ergo: Anyone I am seriously considering will have an HIV test run on them before they present their self to Me.
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Much of our ability to experience inner peace and happiness rests on our willingness to accept change.
Change is the very essence of life.
There is no way to live and not experience it.
To resist change, is to work against life; like trying to swim against the current.
When we accept change and encourage it, we are in the flow of life.
Life is not static. It is dynamic. Life is all about change.
In fact, everything that you or I feel so good about today, is occurring because of changes that have taken place in the past.
Some of those changes I initiated, some I resisted with all My being.
It is difficult to leave behind the familiar past and venture into untraveled territory.
So we cling to ideas, habits and people we should let go of.
God knows our needs, even before we recognize them.
When we are honest with ourselves and take time to listen inwardly, we know them too.
A great change occurring in our lives can mean giving birth to a richer, better self, or to anxiety and depression.
The degree of faith or resistance we bring to the experience, determines which will be true for us.
Trust God, Trust Life, Trust Yourself.
Every experience in life is to help you discover your divine potential.
Our lives have cycles, and in order to move from one to the other, change must occur.
What is unchanging is God. God loves us with an everlasting love.
A love that is not conditional or arbitrary, that is fixed. Even if you are a Non Believer.
This is the truth we must hold on to through all of our life's changes.
Our most painful changes are our richest opportunities to grow.
To help us on our way to a stronger, more courageous self, to encourage our spiritual wholeness.
Your life cycles and changes will continue till your death.
Live life. Discover who you truly are. Then embrace it.
Learn from it and move ever forward in whatever direction it takes you.
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DFW 4th Friday
Interested in Meeting Like minded individuals in the BDSM Lifestyle? HERE is the information you just might want to read.
August 24, 2007
7:00-9:30 p.m.
Pappas Barbecue
2231 West Northwest Highway in Dallas
Fourth Friday: The monthly Happy Hour for folks with an interest in BDSM.
This is a vanilla dressed gathering of those interested in the lifestyle.
Once there, you may pick up an invitation for a reduced rate to enter the Sanctuary.
A map to Sanctuary is on the back of your invitation. (Just a few miles away)
You must have the invitation to be admitted into the Sanctuary.
As it is My Birthday Week, I will be attending 4th Friday.
Since I will only meet NEW PEOPLE at Public Venues, now is your chance to meet face to face. you may email Me here advising Me you are going to attend and you wish a private conversation. So get off your lazy bottom and get out here. If you miss this chance, you must wait for another gathering to meet Me or many other REAL LIFESTYLE DOMINIA from this site who live in the DFW area. Come show US that you're real and not just like so many others on here, living in a world of FANTASY! |
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VOULENTEER WANTED
I desire a local (or one willing to travel) submissive for a Lifestyle Event Demonstration
Please be sure you understand THIS lifestyle. I don't want to have to beat you in public! -laughing- (This is My humor folks. Get it or get over it!)
I have been asked to do a demonstration on handling a submissive.
you will be taught all basic positions and hand signals. Trained to eye and verbal restrictions as well as collar and leash. This will be your interaction at the event.
Hopefully you possess either a black thong or some type of fetish wear. If not, a giant diaper will do! -chuckle-
Because it is a Public Venue, you must be covered! (sorry) I would love nothing better than to lead you around wearing only a parachute w/ weights. Remote controlled tens cups on your balls, just in case I want a laugh from spectator shock value.
However, I don't believe the Vanilla world is quite ready for My Sadistic side.
If you plead nicely, I might use My Japanese Nipple clamps on you!
IF you wish to volunteer, kindly contact Me. The event will be in the evening of August 30th here in Dallas. Thanks! |
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Today I spent a glorious day in Fort Worth. A joyful relaxed lunch in the TCU area, then on to the Museum of Modern Art of Fort Worth to view the RON MUECK Exhibition.
The special exhibition encompassed thirteen pieces of his work. I was enthralled, loving art the way I do. Ron Mueck is a contemporary artist of hyperrealistic sculpture. His work is not only breathtakingly believable, but it makes you want to reach out to touch it. Each human form so perfect in detail..down to the tiny wrinkles on their feet and fingers. The veins that lay just under the surface, the pores and body hairs.
Should you find yourself in either Dallas or Fort Worth, this is an exhibit well worth experiencing. Much like "The Lord of the Rings" Exhibit I toured in London. This exhibit will be here till October 21, 2007.
As well, We are all gearing up for The State Fair Of Texas! Big Tex has been put into place for another year. The count down has begun as those of Us who love Fletcher's corny-dogs, Belgian Waffles and Funnel Cakes anticipate the texture and taste of each bite.
Viewing the 2008 Model Cars and Trucks. The Main Stage Entertainment and the nightly lighted Parade and Fireworks display. Naturally the State Fair would not be complete without the Midway Rides and Games. It's a feeling of being young again for the day... With the exception of being mature enough to do whatever you want, when you want to do it!
-Laughs-
It is one of the Largest State Fairs in the USA and definitely worth the experience.
September 28 - October 21, 2007 Just look up bigtex in google. |
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I look back over My time on this site..
I am always marveled and astounded in what it has become.
Evolution. Sometimes for the better. Sometimes not.
With evolution and change come growth. Growth brings about new viruses and plagues. I ponder of course about the plague spreading through My lifestyle. The misconceptions. The players, hedonists, swingers, the wanna-be's and money Domes.
Strange as it sounds, Larry Flynn predicted five years ago that the Internet would not only bring about change within it's self.. But would change lifestyles.
Well.. that's not a very broad prediction, you say. Ah! But it is...
For you see, My Lifestyle has been invaded by many. Infusion of new blood is always a desired change. Infection is not.
My Domme friends and I always laugh about "they." They say this.. They say that! Who in the hell is they, I'd like to know. Because I have a word or two for them. They misguidedly told men," ALL Women love anal sex." That couldn't be farther from the truth.
They told people that anyone can be a Dominant, sub, slave, Top, bottom or switch in this lifestyle. Just decide what you are and what you want, and go for it.
They whispered that "This lifestyle" is about sex. Being a sex slave, or serving One orally, Be it Master or Mistress.
These whisperings brought many out seeking. They didn't care about the rules. They didn't care about long standing practices or traditions. They only knew they wanted to be liberated. They wanted to "hook-up" to have sex, while not bearing any responsibility for their decisions or actions. Just running around amuck like a bunch of heathens.
My Mistress told me.. My Mistress had me...
your Mistress was wrong. Where and how did this woman get her title? Would that be one of those who self proclaimed herself as such?
What training did she have or under-go?
Did she spend any time in the local community learning and interacting with others?
Oh I see, she just read a little bit on the Internet and decided she was a dominant and had the right to screw up someone else's life. Hmm.. Interesting. And you let her.
Wow, that say's a lot about you.
I am going to address each and everyone of these topics. Y/you can read.. you can hit the back arrow.. or you can use that little X up at the top should this topic not be to your liking as it hits too close to home.
Let U/us look at the PLAYER: There are players on both sides of this coin.
Actually it looks like the Joker in a deck of cards. The player is evil. The reality of it is, this is a person with "issues."
Perhaps they really do want to be in this lifestyle but for whatever reason.. they have no intention of showing up, meeting, serving or anything else.
Y/you will think you have met your dream Dominant, sub, slave.
They say all the right things as if they reached in and read your very thoughts. WOW!
The fact of the matter is.. It is all about control.
There is such a thing as GOOD control and BAD control.
In BDSM, hopefully you will only play with responsible people that practice good control.
BAD control is manipulation.
Anyway, they want control.. period!
If good control fails, they use bad control. If the usual method fails they will use devious, covert, or overt method, because they are compelled to win at being in control.
The player manipulates you to just where they want you.
Then they end it!
OOOooooooh, what happened? Why do i feel like i have just been hit in the chest with a ton of bricks? What is wrong with me that I am not wanted? <logical thought process>
Guess what? It's not you. Y/you have just been manipulated and invalidated by someone who is so good at what they do, just to make themselves feel better about who they are.
Wanting to give your submission to someone, is totally different than letting someone invalidate you. Submission is a feeling, a demeanor and a gift that involves trust.
Invalidation can scar and last a lifetime. Learn to recognize the difference.
The Hedonist: O/one who follows the doctrine that pleasure is the principal good.
They use the alternative lifestyle and some of it's kink to derive sexual pleasure.
So the reality is, they are not "IN" the lifestyle.. They just borrow the parts of it they like and use it for their own advantage.
How can you tell this person whether they claim to be Dominant or sub?
It will all revolve around sexual pleasure. Recognize this. If that's not what you want, leave.
The God/Goddess Syndrome:
This is what I call the person who is of the attitude: All Bow Down Before Me. They burst on the scene and proclaim: I am here, come to Me and do my bidding! They reply with an immediate demand. you will do this now!
Pardon Me.. But to Me, this is a player. A wanna be. Someone that would hurt a submissive.
They don't have a clue.
They do not have good communication skills or knowledge.
They do not understand that Respect from submissives or other Domina/Doms is something they "EARN" through their actions, deeds and words. It is not a Right bestowed on them simply by claiming they are Dominant.
I have always felt that being a Mistress/Master is the total act of submission One can give to another. You are charged with not only one's welfare, but their total being is entrusted to you. You are making life decisions that involve both people.
A Good Mistress/Master Respects others property and possessions.
A Good Mistress/Master is Kind and Gentle.
A Good Mistress/Master is Respectful of their submissive or slave.
A Good Mistress/Master is Understanding of their submissive or slaves needs and desires.
A Good Mistress/Master respects the Boundaries and Limitations of that submissive or slave.
A Good Mistress/Master rules with a firm hand, not an iron fist.
A Good Mistress/Master promotes and encourages Loyalty from their submissive/slave.
A Good Mistress/Master engages in a Fair Punishment/Reward System.
A Good Mistress/Master has and encourages good communication between you both.
A Good Mistress/Master is Protective of their submissive/slave.
A Good Mistress/Master is Respectful of other Domina/Doms in the lifestyle.
A Good Mistress/Master is Respectful of all submissives/slaves even those not their own.
A Good Mistress/Master will foster goodwill among and in the BDSM communities.
A Good Mistress/Master will keep their "Monster" in check and knows when to halt.
And yes, there are those in the REAL Lifestyle, that none of the above even matters to them. They are caught up in their own self importance.
Make no mistake, if you are out here playing games, you will be found out...whether Dominant, submissive, slave, top, bottom or switch.
The truly sad part is this... I have known players who started out, only to find O/one they actually did fit perfectly with and wanted to be with them.
But they were so bogged down in all the lies, deciet, they couldn't have what they really wanted. It was their loss.
And THESE, are just My thoughts! |
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I would like to make something bluntly clear.
I am not sure which BDSM world many of you reside in at this time, HOWEVER.. In MINE, Being friendly to A/all is a big part of it.
I am not on here to be your Bitch in Boots and boss you around.
I am NOT your Mistress. I don't own you, nor have I taken responsibility for you.
Therefore, the dynamics of our (emails) conversation will be that of mutual respect till you show Me otherwise.
you simply have to understand that corresponding on a site like this, is a crap shoot at best.
I do not take rejection personally. Neither should you.
Just because I am a Dominant and you are a sub/slave, does not mean W/we will fit together.
There is much more to any relationship that just finding the other end of the spectrum.
READ My profile. Then go back and read it again. It reads: slave.
you damn sure better know what a slave is when you email Me.
In My world, a slave ONLY HAS the rights I agree to let him have. (i.e. negotiated for)
In My world, a slave ONLY OWNS that which I allow him to own.
ALL of the financial's are covered in #D, if anyone ever gets that far. Then it will be discussed. Not before. Don't come to Me wanting to discuss them beforehand.
I realize that some have trust issues. Kindly take time to work on those before you approach ANY Dominant. your broken. It is not My responsibility to repair you. Nor do I want to.
Lastly, know this. In the real realm of this lifestyle, We do not collar immediately.
There is always a time of service. In Mine, following the Celtic tradition, My slave will serve for One Year and One Day. he will be under consideration during this time span.
Once the time has elapsed, service will be reviewed and a decision will be made at that time.
ONLY THEN, upon acceptance of a lifetime collar, if one is offered, will part D be negotiated and put in place.
Some have been what I will call "pissy" because I am not "frothing at the bit" to take them immediately. Again, what world do you live in? I do not seek just to own.
The dynamics of any relationship is hard enough before you throw in this lifestyle.
Kindly consider if you will, I am seeking one who will be right for Me, right for My household for a lifetime. Not just next week, or next month, even next year. My Lifetime.
Lovers and Husbands may come and go. However, My slave will be by My side till I die.
Therefore the consideration in finding "one who will fit" is My responsibility to both Myself and to slave. This is not High School and W/we are not going steady, OK?
My profile states a MEETING IS REQUIRED AT slaves Expense.
That means, you will bring Me to you!
I want to meet and experience slave in his own environment, where he will be at ease in his own surroundings, at his own comfort level. Only then will I see him at his best.
I don't expect 5 star accommodations, but I do expect "personal" quality treatment by him.
I am One that can function in ANY environment. I have lived in 3rd world countries for Gods sake. I am not out here to be judgmental and neither should you be.
IF you feel you have what it takes. IF you can meet all I require from My profile and this wee blog.. Then you have the right to petition Me for consideration.
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What a fast, furious, turnaround weekend.
SINFEST 07 was a lot of fun.
I met many new people and I hope made a few new friends.
Special Thanks to TheMadWelder *see profile here* and His sub.
Sharing a room with you was a hoot! Even though you do like to make Me blush!
Next time, I am packing WINTER clothing and bringing My own blanket and pillow for the road trip! -chuckle-
*HUGS* J & S At LEATHER FOREVER
It was great to meet you both. Loved your shop.
Houstonians, you need to visit this shop. It's Fabulous!
The eros group was simply great!
A word to HellsMichelle: You and your group did a First Rate job on this Venue.
Everyone who attended (Big crowd) had a wonderful time!
And Lastly to Houston-eros: Wow.. what a wonderful group of people.
I thoroughly enjoyed sitting in on your meeting. Greatly appreciate that your group strives and accomplishes furthering the lifestyle through your mentoring and sharing of education.
I was impressed on the teaching techniques and practice session on teaching many new folks how to use floggers and double flogging including strike zone.
It please Me greatly to find that your entire group is one that "EGO'S" are checked at the door. Keep up the wonderful work.
To those of you who reside in the Houston area... you have some GREAT RESOURCES and GROUPS to learn from and help you along the path of this Lifestyle.
Get out there and use them. What a safe, sane environment. |
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HEADS UP!
For those of you I have chatted with..Or those who have been reading My profile but have been afraid to contact Me...
Now is your chance to meet Me in Person!
I will be attending Summer Sinfest 07
in Houston, Texas
JULY 21ST at THE MERIDIAN
There will be wonderful Demos on cbt
you know I'll be at that one!
I will be easy to locate, just come by
The Mad Welders Booth
Please stop by and introduce yourself
Let Me demo some restraints on you!
Who knows.. I may play with you later.
~wicked laugh~
To purchase your ticket last minute! [houston-eros.com]
I do look forward to meeting and making a lot of NEW Friends in Houston. |
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Oh dear...
I have been reading slave profiles for what feels like an eternity.
As well as reading and answering emails.
Some make Me laugh..
Some I simply grimace at..
Others really make Me physically ill.
Now I have stated obvious things in My profile that should give an intelligent person
*at least half the pistons firing* some insight to what I seek.
STRAIGHT CAUCASIAN MALE: White Male, not interested in sexual contact with ANY male, in any shape or form. Not being used for amusement or hedonistic activities.
SLAVE MIND-SET: This individual is happiest being owned and used in whatever way his Mistress desires to use him. he understands he does not sexually service in any capacity, his Mistress. he is not worthy of such an honor.
My perineal area may be the High Alter.. But he will not be worshiping it.
he knows this, understands this and accepts it.
Core words like: honor, integrity, respect, discipline, obedience, duty, structure, communication..
E/everyone's definition of slave is different. There isn't a manual that defines slave.
The reality of it is: wants, needs, desires of T/two individuals coming together and agreeing while respecting the needs of the other. It is the Dominants place to make the rules and lead.
It is the slaves role to follow and support.
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In order to be a slave, there will be many things you have to learn to accept within yourself and adapt to. Your primary purpose in life will be to see to your Mistress' pleasure (both mentally and physically) in any manner She should desire.
In order to do this, you will have to learn your Mistress well.
Find out what pleases and displeases Her.
By this, I do not mean sexually.
Learn to anticipate Her every need and desire without being pushy.
Her needs and desires will encompass intellectual stimulation, physical pleasure, emotional support, and many other things unique to Her.
Remember - physical does not equal sexual.
Physical pleasure may include, but is not limited to, touch, favorite foods, textures, clothing, and colors as examples. It will be your job to make sure Her physical pleasures are met in every way. Think of the five senses, and make Her environment pleasing to all of them. Never forget - the most pleasing thing in Her environment should be you.
As Her slave, it will be up to you to figure out what pleases your Mistress. She should not have to ask constantly for the basic things - you should have learned them. If Her glass is empty, quietly and unobtrusively refill it. Remember, you are doing this for Her pleasure not your own. Just because She does not notice and praise you, doesn't mean you are doing it wrong. Look at Her smile. Is She comfortable?
If She looks happy and content, then you have done well, and should bask in Her content.
Always remember that you do this for Her and not for your own satisfaction. Your happiness should come from serving Her and Her being happy.
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Life's UPS and Downs! (A Little Levity)
I had an accident very late Saturday night, which entailed 12 hours in ER and an hour with a Plastic Surgeon. What happened? *rolls eyes heavenward*
One of the BITCHES that has lived with Me for the last 10 years, Bite Me. -LOL-
OK She is a 110 lb. Doberman/Rottie Mix.
*Suffice to say We have always had Dominant control issues our entire relationship.
I have always won...Hmmm.. guess that's what I get for NOT having My Dragon tail at hand*
Not to worry.. She loves men! I have never seen a bigger pussy as when a M/male walks in My house. All of a sudden..the "ALIEN" is Miss sugar & spice!
Anyway, Bleeding like a stuck pig at Midnight, I didn't want to drive to ER alone and sit all night, Because I was not shot, stabbed or in a car wreck..so I put butterflies in Myself. However, I knew it needed an expert.
*Suturing has never been one of My fine points, though I would have done a bang up job had I just done cross-stitch.*
By the time they got to Me (don't ya just love triage?) My finger looked like it belonged on the hand of the Poppin' Fresh Dough Boy.
My blood pressure was up and though I tried to be gracious (as all southern Ladies are)
The *almost-a-Dr.* put Me on the EKG.
I had to laugh because He was most apologetic and embarrassed to lift My shirt to put the contacts on. All the while I'm thinking, I am glad this guy doesn't want to be a GYNOCOLOGIST! Or that he knew how often I administered contacts to the male genitalia!
*I envisioned him passed out on the floor at the thought*
I trundled home late last night, too tired to fix anything to eat. Needing a pain pill, but was much too tired to stop to have the prescription filled. *where's that slave?*
An appointment set with the Plastic Surgeon on Wednesday Morning at 7 AM
*Dear God.. Is there such an hour?*
It seems I must return to the Hospital as per "Their" request, VIA a PM phone call tonight from them. It appears from the x-ray that I may have also chipped the bone in My left wrist.
*Must have been that lightening wrist action to get My pointer finger out of her mouth!*
Films must be re-shot and I then have to see an orthopedic specialist!
Now aren't you glad Domme is right handed? -LOL-
-Is counting on the 3 good fingers left of Her left hand-
They say these things come in threes! I am only at 2! God, please send Me a good slave quickly! -chuckle-
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Life Is All About Choice
When You Take Away All The Junk,
Every Situation Is A Choice
Bottom Line:
It's Your Choice How You Live Your Life.
I have always felt this saying was very apropos.
W/we are all called upon hourly to make choices.
One's we each feel is right for us, at that very moment.
I have contemplated this long and hard over the last few days.
Especially yesterday..When a 28 year old family member, suffering from a terminal illness.. Put a gun to his head and ended his life.
My heart breaks. But, like life, it was his choice.. IN that moment.
I must respect that, if I were to say, I respected him as a person, during his time with us.
Sometimes choices are hard.
Sometimes...W/we see the trees very vividly, yet W/we can't see the forest.
I am often asked about My Limits and My Hard Limits.. Those are My choices.
When filling out the questionnaire, I interpreted it as: Is this something I would do with just anyone, at anytime.. Is it something I like?
So the choice was easy for Me.
That is not to say however, they will never be done.
Sometimes.. someone special will come into your life, to cause you to re-evaluate your limits and your Hard Limits.
With them, the experience seems exciting. Boundless. Very erotic and normal.
Something so special and intimate between just the two transpires.
The connection is made.
Who are we, to judge other's choices?
Each and every one of us, must do what we feel is best for us..at that moment.
In that brief space in time.
No recrimination or chastisement after.
Strange how the loss of those we know.. or those we love.. Even those who come in and out of our life, makes us look at our own mortality and our life choices....
-Just My thoughts from My heart-
Namaste` |
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-Mission 5 Secret-
Watch the sunrise
Say your goodbyes
Off we go
Some conversation
No contemplation
Hit the road
Car overheats
Jump out of my seat
On the side of the highway baby
Our road is long
Your hold is strong
Please don't ever let go oh no
I know I don't know you
But I want you so bad
Everyone has a secret
Oh can they keep it
Oh no they cant
I'm Driving fast now
Don't think I know how to go slow
Oh Where you at now
I feel around..There you are
Cool these engines, Calm these jets
I ask you how hot can it get?
And as you wipe off beads of sweat..
Slowly you say, I'm not there yet!
And I know I don't know you
But I want you so bad
Everyone has a secret
Oh can they keep it
Oh no they cant... |
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To ALL applicants: If you have allergies, please list them. Dallas is prone to mold, mildew, grass and Mt Cedar.
If you are allergic to cigarette smoke, you need not apply. Both Dominants smoke as do many of the Dominants who visit My home. |
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~* Spring has arrived *~
It is time to receive and evaluate applications for Yard subs/slaves.
No wimps!!!
Straight white male only over 30!
It is appreciated that you have a working knowledge of this lifestyle. Adhere to protocol and etiquette. you MUST be able to take directions and work hard.
your total function will be to work in the yard.
Details include planting, mowing, erecting fencing as well as retaining walls.
Some building and maintenance work required.
A useful knowledge and skill level in the above, would be appreciated.
you are expected to supply your own transportation.
you will be fed. If overnight or weekend is negotiated, you will be allowed to sleep at the foot of my bed. There will never been any intimacy between Mistress and sub/slave.
A job well done will possibly earn you some limited "play time"
Send a sincere application to Me listing your skills and dates available.
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I am not sure if all subs and slaves on here are completely oblivious to protocol and etiquette or they simply do not "grasp" My lifestyle! Nor can they follow direction!
YO! sending Me a note asking "to get to know Me because you want to be My yard slave..."
Doesn't cut it! If you do not get a reply.. you know you screwed up! -Laughs- |
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Do you understand and KNOW why Females are inherently Supreme over males as proven by science?
The female possess 2 "X" chromosomes.
The male 1 X and 1 y
The "y" is much smaller and weaker making him susceptible to illness, colorblindness, male pattern baldness and hemophilia. |
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For the men with "selective reading"
I do not seek bi-sexual males!
I Am not interested in meeting, playing with, or having dinner with a bottom.. No matter your age or sexual orientation. I don't care HOW GOOD Looking you say your are.
Besides, your Mother & sister's opinions, don't count.
For the fools, miscreants and hedonist:
BDSM is NOT about sex or sexual activity!
If this is your view, so be it.. Just don't email Me.
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~*Gonna find out who's Naughty and Nice*~
Well.. Domme just added what Santa "might" consider a few Naughty Photos for ALL the Good little boys!
Actually, they are only naughty if you use your imagination.
What was it you asked Santa to leave under your Tree this year? Did it come with a BOW?
And for those who love Me and want to look at Me, Calendars for the months of December and 2 for January *take your pick*
Let Me know if you like them and possibly I'll do one every month for those who want to use them.
May you each have a "Blessed Holiday Season" |
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It has been a long time since I posted anything to My journal.
I am sure many have moved on, changed email addresses, found owners/partners or left the lifestyle altogether.
Life is a journey and brings with it daily changes.
As for Myself, My journey has been an exciting one this year.
I have met many new friends, become closer to old ones and appreciated then with a deeper respect.
This year has simply "flown" by for Me.
I have spent much of My time learning and practicing My singletail under the guidance and directions of Master Stern One and Master Joel.
Both graciously giving Me the knowledge and skill to make Me a better Domme while more proficient with the whip.
I have trained, Mentored and counseled others new, as well as ongoing in the alternative lifestyle.
I have worked on My home and in My yard since spring. Creating a loving "Nest" for Myself, family and friends to enjoy.
As My 56th Birthday approaches this month, I find Myself excited for several reasons. I will Hostess My annual Birthday celebration with My friend, Master Joel (We share Birthdays) in the Dungeon among a select group of 50 friends. Some traveling from all over the USA and UK to attend.
That night, I will be inducted into "The House of The Noble Heart."
A great Honor and privilege to be selected and voted in as a member.
One cannot petition membership into the House. It is by Invitation only and One must be deemed worthy, knowledgeable and with honor to be accepted. It is one of the Largest Training and Mentoring Houses in the United States, with Chapters in several states.
Only those "IN" the lifestyle understand the magnitude of recognition, this induction means. It is humbling and thrilling.
What better night to be inducted than the celebration of My birth.
It is My hope, as well as desire, that each of you obtain or find that which you strive for or seek. In Honesty, with honor and integrity. for using those qualities as your benchmark, how can you possibly fail to achieve your dreams.
Namaste |
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~* Thank you to those who have taken the time to read My profile and respond.. ~* |
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I desire a weekend or PT (2 days a week) outside yard/garden slave.
your task will be to work along side of Me.
This is not a full-time live in position.
you must be willing and strong.
A working knowledge of building, landscaping, home repairs is appreciated.
you will be cared for, sleep beside My bed, taught, trained, and possibly receive minimal playtime in return for your devotion and hard work. However, there will never be any sexual contact. Understood?
As well, you will be expected to provide your own transportation to and from Me.
If interested, kindly send your qualifications for review. |
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The Power Of Submission Lies Not In The Ability To Kneel Before Another,
To Give Over One's Body Or In The Wearing Of A Collar ...
The Power Of Submission Can Be Found Only In The Heart Of One Who Gives Love To Another Freely... Knowing That The Pain Will Come From It.
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I have been away for a while taking a break and evaluating many "issues" I have learned from those who "PLAY" on the Internet.
As I ready Myself to return to Europe for the summer, I am in hopes of meeting many wonderful new friends and renewal of old friendships, as well as coming face to face with those I have come to know through various BDSM chat sites.
Something I look forward to whole heartedly.
For those interested, I will be living in London.. With visits to Glasgow, Italy, France and where ever else My little heart desires.
I do hope we get a chance to meet. |
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I have never been One that had or appreciate Bumper Stickers on My personal vehicle. However, I like the 2 following and would happily place them on Mine.
1. I Have Both! PMS and a handgun!
2. Keep Honking.. I'm reloading! |
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As W/we all approach the New Year...
It's always like this -
When you're expecting something, counting the days, wearing yourself out trying to predict when it will come,
you never get what you're waiting for;
but the moment you stop waiting and get involved with something else, and stop expecting it, thats the very minute it will come to you.
Fate doesn't like the grey routine of everyday life.
It likes to surprise, to play, to teach us not to be tenacious in our decisions and long-drawn-out plans.
It calls on us to live for the moment.
Fate teaches us not to lose faith because of delays and changes, but to have more faith.
Everything comes at the right time, not when we decide we need it,
but when it is really needed.
So hold on.....
"Go confidently into the direction of your dreams!
Live the life you always imagined."
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MERRY CHRISTMAS
AND
A JOYOUS NEW YEAR
REMEMBER THIS AT CHRISTAMS TIME
According to the Alaska Dept. of Fish & Game:
While both Male and Female reindeer grow antlers in the summer each year, the male reindeer drop their antlers at the beginning of winter. Usually late November to mid December.
Female reindeer retain their antlers till after they give birth in the Spring.
Therefore, Every historical rendition depicting Santa's reindeer, EVERY SINGLE ONE of them..From Rudolph to Blitzen, had to be FEMALE!
We should have known!!!
ONLY women would be able to drag a fat-ass man in a Red Velvet suit all around the world in ONE NIGHT.. And Not Get Lost!
Wishing You The Seasons Best,
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Oh My Goooosssh.. It's Christmas already!
And like Santa.. I have a list.
If you've been a naughty boy..you found yourself blocked from all communication from Me..
OK Here goes My December Complaint!
Dominant women are different all together
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Keeping that in mind, here are a few Guidelines to help the SERIOUS submissive or slave gain points when contacting or corresponding with a Female Dominant.
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Don't send her photos of your privates. That is not the most important thing that She is looking for.
Especially ME!
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As a professional I look at male penis ALL the time, much like a Doctor does.
I am NOT impressed by the fact that you were so in love with yours.. you needed to take a photo of it and share it with the world. ~chuckle~
I have seen submissives built and endowed like a greek Adonis, but unfortunately not one firing brain cell in their head. Two sandwiches short of a picnic.
When that elevator goes UP.. I want someone home.
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Take time to get to know Her.
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Write to Her about what attracted you in Her ad, what you expect in a relationship (not too graphic, okay)?
And what you are looking for long term.
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Be interesting.
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One liners, "I want to be your slave" doesn't tell Her anything She wants to know about you.
If you didn't want to submit to Her, you wouldn't have answered Her ad. So give Her information, don't waste Her time.
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And send along a nice vanilla g-rated photo.
Good Luck,
Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas!
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Another day.. Another journal entry with laughter.
I am discovering that many on this site are not real submissives.
They do not have the slightest "grasp" of what the alternative lifestyle is really like.
NOTE: I did not say they didn't have the desire to learn....
They simply do not have a clue that "mutual respect" for O/one is all important.
That becoming friends is the basis and foundation or any relationship no matter the dynamics or lifestyle.
A real lifestyle Dom/me will NOT attempt to assert control from the first email or first meeting. W/we want to get to know individuals as people.
The more I meet..those that CALL themselves submissive.. The more I am considering a mature trained slave!
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Time to journal a few things that bother Me....
I understand that many that send Me email messages are NEW to the lifestyle.
I am more than willing to Help, HOWEVER, I am not here as your ongoing teacher.
I will answer your question and point you in the right direction for you to read and learn.
you have to do your own homework.
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I have to wonder about some people on chat sites.
For the most part, It has been my experience that those I have come into contact with on collarme, are very real. More so than other sites located on the Internet.
On occasion, I have exchanged emails with some so wrapped up in anger, hostility and insecurity.
It would appear from a psychological standpoint, though claiming to be submissive or slave, That they themselves resent their inner need to place themselves in that position.
How sad that any person have this much turmoil and hostility in their life.
I would like to make this comment for those interested.
Remember that an email is only a quick way of correspondence.
In a perfect world, W/we would be able to understand the influx on the words a person is using. If it were a joke, serious, or just a comment.
But since W/we do not live in a perfect world, emails are just words on a computer subject to interpretation. How you perceive what the author of the email intended, depends totally on your mood. If you have been upset by a previous email, you feel inferior to the person answering or writing, you are more than likely going to misinterpret their whole meaning.
Generally speaking, IF you pay close attention, you can get a "glimpse" of one's personality and demeanor in one, if not a few emails.
I have to admit to laughing at those who send snide or condescending emails then quickly "Block" you after their deed is done.
Or rude condescending remarks meant to hurt or invalidate you when "they" don't get what they want.
1. It gives them a great feeling of power.
Possibly the only power they will ever truly experience.
Do not get upset, just recognize it for what it is. Allow them their moment of power.
Y/you are now much better off not corresponding with this type of personality.
Chances are more then likely, they were merely pretending to be something they are not.
2. Never assume
When reading your email, never assume. If you do not understand something, Or anything they said bothers you, ask for clarification.
When you assume, you really do make an ass out of yourself.
Never assume because someone is listed on a chat site, they are here because they are lonely or alone.
As I said, emails are merely a way of getting to know a little about a person.
From there, if all parties are interested, you can move on to more viable ways of communication. Messaging, voice chat, private phone calls.
I do make an attempt to answer all those that have sent Me a serious email.
If, they are not what I am looking for, at the very least, I have made a new friend.
Considering that 1% of the world's population practices BDSM, this means our community is relatively small.
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I would like to take this time to clarify something important to Me....
Either people are NOT reading My profile correctly..Or they are doing "selective" reading.
I am on CollarMe as a Lifestyle Domina, NOT a Professional.
So kindly remember, that NOT all professionals are out here to hustle you for whatever they can lure out of you.
I realize that many of you have been taken or duped by some who call themselves Pros.
And for this I am truly sorry.
Unfortunately, being the Internet, we will always have those that misrepresent their intentions. It is deceit, Period!
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I am sure most other Dominants have already figured out..that to many that call themselves submissive or slave, this is only a game they wish to play on the computer.
Those of you that suffer from this affliction, kindly do Me a favor and leave Me alone. I am not interested in you or anything you have to say.
My interest is reserved for those individuals that are sincere in their word and deed. Their desire to "match" what someone is seriously looking for in a RT relationship or service.
Were you aware that many Doms and Domina that live within the same area compare notes?
WOW.. imagine that! ~chuckle~
Perhaps that is why you NEVER got an answer to that email you sent.
Could it have been that you lack the ability to communicate, so you sent them ALL the same email message? Bummer......
My advice is this: Try sending a short personal note to One you are interested in possibly communicating with.
Don't send a blanket email.
you are then considered a "player."
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| Age: 26 |
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