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Hetero Male Dominant, 39,  On the border..., Illinois
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This is a bit long, but I have thought long and hard about what I want and need and what I have seen over the years. I know what I want, maybe it is you. The most challenging part of life is to find your match, your partner, your other half. You have to understand yourself, know everything about yourself, and accept yourself. It is shocking to me how many people on this earth don't know themselves or hide needs they have because they aren't socially acceptable in a politically correct world. If you don't understand yourself, how do you live day to day? How can you move forward when you don't know which way you're facing? When you explore yourself, you learn things about yourself, the things that truly make you happy, the needs you have. A lot of people seem to hide from them. If you hide from things you need out of life, you will never be happy. It doesn't matter what those needs are, you have to have them. The purpose of living is to find happiness and if you limit yourself you will never be happy. You have to go out and grab it and never let go. When it comes to me, thinking about what I need from someone, love, passion, and domination. Each of those three items needs to be there. If I don't have any of those three items, the relationship will not work. I need to be fulfilled completely, as do you I assume, and I am sure you can feel the things you have to have. What are they? You know if you don't have those things, its a lost cause. You can't hide from yourself, you can't fake happiness, and you can't force someone to be something they are now. You can only scour the earth until you find that person that can do it. For me, she's my world, she's what's most important. She has to dedicate herself to me and deserves nothing less then my own total commitment to her. She should be the first thing I see every morning and the last thing I see every night. We should hurt when we are not together. We share a passion with each other, a commitment, knowing she is mine and I can do with her as I please, but trusts that I know what is best, and I always take care of her. When together, we cannot keep our hands off each other, can not stay away from each other, we are perfectly happy in our places in life with each other. She trusts that I know best and gives me that ultimate control. She obeys my commands, does as she is told, she follows the rules, and tends to my needs. Through domination, she finds freedom, proud to be mine and I proud to have her. Everything naturally fits in place. Does it sound like a dream? I am sure it does, but I know she exists. People find each other every day, and I know what I need is out there. If what I need sounds like bliss, please take a moment to write me. I am looking for that perfect match. I do not limit myself to race or age, but without doubt, female. I am done with short term relationships, I am at a point that I want the right sub in my life long term. We cannot limit ourselves to people within a certain distance. The hard reality is that your perfect match is not going to be next door, she may be on the other side of the country. If you are, be open about exploring ways to find a solution, distance should never be an issue. There are never any obstacles, only challenges. Everyone should get what they need and no matter what, I am going to find her.











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 Dominant Male

 On the border... 


 6' 2"

 235 lbs






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Journal Entries:
1/19/2016 6:29:41 PM
Feeling really disappointed today.

5/7/2013 5:04:26 PM

Sometimes, this is how I feel.

1/21/2013 2:16:32 PM

This was simply amusing.  Pass it along!

2/17/2011 11:18:38 PM

It's all bs.  No one really cares.

9/30/2010 11:51:31 PM
I am beginning to feel defeated.

9/30/2010 1:30:05 PM
I was driving today and the police had stopped traffic.  I didn't know why.  I was listening to Nine Inch Nails and "Hurt" came on.  The, a funeral passed.  It was surreal almost, listening to that song and watching the funeral go by.  Makes you think a little bit.  Very sad.

9/29/2010 8:07:23 PM
Listening to Janis Joplin and contemplating the world.  There is so much to her voice that people ignore.  Really, if you ever have the opportunity,  find a video of her and watch her.  She is simply amazing.  So much pain in her.

9/28/2010 11:53:15 PM
Watched a few pretty good documentaries, "When You're Strange" about the Doors.  It was pretty much recycled material, nothing real new, the plus side was Johnny Depp narrated it and in HD, most of the footage looked amazing.  The other was a little film called "Exit Through the Gift Shop" about graffiti artists, filmed by Thierry Guetta, but, the camera was turned onto him when he failed to make a documentary and his alter ego, Mr. Brainwash was created and you see his sudden rise to fame.  Its a very good, unique film.
Thierry Guetta

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