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Since I have somehow gained your attention, allow me to share with you some of my feelings and insights on BDSM and D/s and my years within the Life. Somewhere along the line, the concept of D/s has overshadowed the actual ideal of BDSM. While love must be part of it, submission is not about sitting in someones lap looking adoringly up at them, nor is it serving them coffee, nor acting a fool to gain attention.
Submission, in a Ds relationship, is not measured by the amount of pain you can endure. Instead it is measured by the amount of control you relinquish. Gratification will come by the relinquishment of power and living a life of pure service. Discipline is the training of your perspective that makes punishment unnecessary. It is a style, a demeanor, and the very nature of living in a powerless way, which creates beauty in the presentation of your being. Having said this, let me address first the concept of CONSENT. Consent is not something that is debated at every turn. It is given once and only after trust and thought have gone into it. Period. After that, all is left to the Dominant. No challenging his decisions. You have given control and that is that. Withdraw your consent and the relationship is at a end. I Believe you should conceptualize this as a Roller Coaster Ride. Once started, you cannot stop in the middle of the ride and say " This is too steep! Let me off!" You either ride the ride to the end or don't get on.
For those of you who approach a Dominant with a long list of limits, perhaps you should rethink your orientation. Most submissive limits lists are nothing more than a sad attempt to top from the bottom. If you are going to submit, trust your Master/your Owner. Submission is not about what you like........Its about enduring what a Dominant likes doing with you, and being pleasured and pleased by the fact that your Master/Owner desires you. If you can't see the excitement of pure control and compliance then .....again.... ....rethink your orientation. A Dominant's Intelligence, love, Sanity and Safety should be the only concerns a submissive has. She should possess the knowledge that the Dominant will not injure, hurt, kill, maim or cripple you.
Being online is not a substitute for experience nor is it a viable way to screen someone. Find a REAL person to guide you.....Learn from doing, not imagining. I am prepared to accept supplications from an INTELLIGENT submissive/slave that desire to expand their real time personal experiences.
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