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Hetero Male Dominant, 58,  DCArea, Virginia
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Greetings all... I am a single white Dominant professional male livingnear Washington, D.C.with an upstanding vanilla life and a dark side that needs expression in my relationsihps.I am well educated and well read. And I am basically a kind man (until I get you on a leash). I amopen to having short term fun,but my eventual goal is a long-term relationship that encompasses Ds are part of its dynamic. The extent of this dimension is negotiable because I believe that every relationship is unique. I respect all prenegotiated limits and safe words (one must play nice after all). But after that, your ass would be mine. I am seeking submissive or switch women (they can switch with other partners). My limits are no scat no blood no underage folks in a scene no animals no scars no other men and no actswhich result in people losing jobs or which require a response by the local police or fire departments. My interests include Domination discipline bondage (!) role play and fetish clothing... My taste in women is quite eclectic...tall blondes, short brunettes, medium red heads... it all depends upon how the package is put together. But intelligence and a good sense of humor are all but mandatory. So if you are a good girl...or a trainable bad one, please contact me.--DomLysandru











 Dominant Male



 6' 0"






Actively Seeking:

Dominant Female

Submissive Female

Switch Female

Online Romance

 Lives For:

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 Breast Play

 Canes and Crops (Beginner)


 Being Massaged (Beginner)


 Obedience Training (Beginner)

 Spanking you

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 Blindfolding you

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 You wearing my collar

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 Eye Contact Restrictions (Beginner)

 Foot Worship (Beginner)

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 Selecting the clothes you wear

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Journal Entries:
12/9/2016 12:23:01 PM
 So, I just got an e-mail from a lady friend from my high school days who asked me if I want anything special for Christmas.

I SOOOOOO badly wanted to tell her the truth:  I want her under my Christmas tree in a tight red latex cat suit bound in tight white ropes and gagged with a white ball gag.

But she would die of shock or fright if I said that.

6/12/2014 5:47:36 PM

So as I watch some commercials with “spokesgirls,” I find myself wanting to have them help me recreate the rejected album cover for Spinal Tap’s Smell the Glove

.  The top three on my current list are:

(1)    Flo the Progressive Girl (Stephanie Courtney)

(2)    “Big Red” from Wendys (Morgan Smith Goodwin)

(3)    The Red Robin spokeswench (Melanie Paxson)


Honorable mention goes to the former Orbitz Gum girl (Vanessa Branch)

9/7/2013 2:24:58 PM

The busy week has prevented me from making a all-too-rare positive post.  On Labor Day, I had a very pleasant "meet-and-greet" with a lady from this site.   

We are not going to pursue things further, but I was pleased to see that there are still quality women on this site who actually will show up for a rendezvous instead of flaking or blowing me off.

4/13/2013 4:30:44 PM

So I am watching the old 1960's Batman show.  Catwoman is foe tonight, portrayed by Julie Newmar.   Even as a kid, I always wanted Batman to give her a spanking after putitng the batcuffs on her.  And then he could have his way with her.  But alas...

3/23/2013 1:41:02 PM

So as I go about my chores of cleaning my house, doing laundry, and washing dishes, I can't help but wonder how much more fun today would be if I had a slave girl to assist in these tasks.

6/1/2012 12:12:29 PM

Dominate vs. Dominant

     So I was at a technical seminar today.  And the speaker's Power Point slides talked about the "dominate constraint" in this particular engineering problem.   It was a face palm moment. 


12/8/2011 6:40:11 PM

Wow-- I am still a public menace.   Tonight I went to a happy hour gathering of alumni from a former workplace.  One of my former colleagues that I always found attractive showed up in a black leather skirt and knee-high boots.  I definitely wished that I had had a set of handcuffs out in my car...  But I behaved myself.

11/12/2011 10:51:54 AM

Today is one of those days where I am a menace to the public.  I have the strong urge to find some pretty thing to grab, bind, and then use for my pleasure.  It's probably best that I stay in and work on various projects.

9/25/2011 9:58:19 AM

There is only one silver lining in the cloud that has been my experience here lately-- I am about to become too busy to train a sub for several weeks. 

With a relative living with me right now, I can only pretty much play on weekends.  And I think that my weekends are now going to be booked from now until almost Thanksgiving between weddings, volunteer work, and planned vanilla hobby activities.  I really do have a life outside of kink.  

I wish that I had a special sub to share some of this with--but that will have to wait it seems.

3/19/2011 8:04:43 AM

Wow, i't's been a while.  I just have to share one of the most twisted things I have ever seen.  I know that the guys at Shadowforge miniatures are sickos, but "Blow Up Doll Zombies?"

1/3/2011 5:55:37 PM

So I come home tonight and turn on IFC--and they are playing Monty Python and the Holy Grail--right at the "Castle Anthrax" scene.  Oh, I wish that I could find a castle like that...

12/17/2010 8:05:57 PM

Dear Santa,

    I have been very good this year.  So what I want for Christmas is a suitable bad girl.  After all, you know who they all are.  I promise to take good care of her and make her become a good girl.


12/4/2010 5:26:11 PM

Yesterday, I got an email from a very prim and proper lady friend asking me if I had a Christmas wish list.  If only she weren't so far away and so hopelessly vanilla...  It's too bad that Santa can't grab her and leave her under my tree-- bound and gagged in a red latex catsuit.

11/18/2010 6:15:40 PM

Good grief, are the servers for this site located in the Twilight Zone?

In the past day or so, I have had some really bizarre "encounters" here (in a virtual sense). 

It's days like this that make me want to go back to and try to corrupt someone.

10/23/2010 5:44:47 AM

Gosh, now I know who to blame for making me a perv:  William Hanna and Joseph Barbera. 

I am sitting here watching Boomerang and The Perils of Penelope Pitstop is on.  Every week a sweet blonde with a southern accent dresses in gloves and boots and gets snatched and tied up-- usually more than once. 

I was originally watching this show when I was 5 or 6 years old.

9/27/2010 5:00:40 PM
Perverse Observation #2:
    I found myself musing about all of the profiles of "Non-pro" Dommes demanding tribute and pledging to "rape" the wallets of their subbies...
    So I wondered what sort of response that I would get if I pledged to empty the bank accounts of submissive women.  It's sort of laughable.  We have a word or three for men who leech off of women financially-- bum, deadbeat, etc. 
     (In fact, one submissive I met from this site had been a victim of identity theft at the hands of a "Dom.")
      If indeed the essence of Dominant Men is that we are strong and self-sufficient, the very idea of a "Financial Male Dom" seems ridiculous.  
      I guess that some "traditional" gender roles die harder than others.

7/31/2010 1:15:35 PM

Thought for the Day:

 I was watching a Star Trek:  The Next Generation re-run this week.  I decided that Mirina Sirtis would look great with a white ball gag secured in her mouth.

I don't know why I had not thought of this before.

7/25/2010 5:34:52 PM

DomLysandru’s Thoughts for The Day.

Advice for Subs:   Be polite.  I am continually astonished at how so many subs are just plain rude (even in a vanilla sense).  Specifically, when you decide that a fellow you are in contact with does not or no longer interests you, send him a brief note to this effect.  The nice men like me will appreciate this.  And if the jerks send you nasty responses, just block them.  Otherwise, you will leave a guy hanging—and you must bear some of the blame for continuing to get unwanted messages in your inbox or annoying chat requests.

Advice to Doms:  Be polite and don’t be presumptuous.  Don’t start off by ordering some stranger around or calling them nasty names (unless their profile says that they want that up front).  I am tired of hearing subs kvetch about how rude guys can be.  Also, if a gal sends you a message saying that she is not or no longer interested in you, be an adult and graciously move along (even if she is bitchy about it).  In other words, “Man up.”  Sending nasty-grams in response only affirms her decision to ditch you.

6/19/2010 8:09:13 PM

I find myself compelled to finally make a journal entry.  Let me start with Peverse Observation #1 about Internet kink dating sites.

Consider the following statistical fact as of 19 June, 2010:
  I have never actually gotten to meet any woman who has taken the initiative to make the first contact with me on a kink dating site.  (No, I am not counting the denizens of Ghana or fictitious slave training schools in Maryland.)

I am always very flattered when a lady chooses to contact me first.  But on a purely statistical level, I don't seem to be getting real world results on this front.

Should I even bother answering any unsolicited e-mails no matter how nice and seemingly genuine?  Or would failing to answer them be just plain rude?

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