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Hetero Male Dominant, 43,  Ridgewood, New Jersey
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 New Jersey

 140 lbs





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A dolphin is:

  • The most intelligent animal on Earth aside from humans
  • Has bigger brains than humans
  • Loves to swim
  • Is known to help humans who are drowning and support them physically and emotionally
  • Is one of the few animals aside from humans who have sex for fun and enjoyment
  • Is one of the few animals who engages in and enjoys the rougher side of sex, to varying degree.

Well, this was a fun trivia, but it does surprisingly fit me :)


I'm a smart, geeky, hard-working, sarcastic person, who happens to be Dominant by nature and loves BDSM (and swimming :)


I'm pretty versatile as far as my kink interests and turn-ons (also, see my list), ranging - depending on a sub - from spanking to heavy impact play, from assertive guidance to near total power exchange; from power relationship dynamics to raw sensuality. I'm a sadist, so if you're a masochist it's a big plus.


I love trying and learning something new.


I'm seeking a sub or slave. Ideally, someone who would enter into a D/s relationship dynamics with me for a long time, but in the meanwhile, I'm quite open to someone who is simply looking for a fun way to spend time in BDSM-related activities (if we click, preferably long term).




We WOULD be a good match if:

  • You seek a Dom with working brain cells. If you like a Dom who's a smart geek, I'm one. You don't have to be a geek yourself, just not have aversion to them :)
  • You crave structure in your life and/or in BDSM. I'm especially good at introducing structure and rules.
  • You are a professional woman with a job and career, and you're tired of "Doms" who insist that you sacrifice either to serve their whims. As a Dom with such, I understand career demands and constraints perfectly, and tend to use my Dominance to help your schooling/work (or at least, not negatively interfere).
    • Extra cookie points if you have a stressful job, and seek BDSM as a way to let go, lose control, and shed that stress.
  • You seek a Dom who is fair. My preference is to punish for tangible, known infractions (unless I'm with a slave who craves punishment in general - as I said, I am versatile).
  • You're a masochist. 
  • You seek real life BDSM and are tired of typical collarme fakes who prefer to chat and use you for masturbation materials. I promise that I am willing to meet for real with anyone who is interested in meeting, without endless chats, requests for cam stripping, and other such idiocy.



We would NOT be a good match if you are one of the following (I prefer to list this upfront, so neither of us wastes our time):


  • someone who seeks to move in and live 24x7 with a Dom.
  • someone who is seeking a vanilla romantic relationship with some BDSM in the bedroom.
  • someone who is seeking a Dom to marry her and live like 50s housewife.
  • someone for whom BDSM is ALL about "the scene", "community", and other such social aspects of D/s. I consider D/s to be a private activity (I don't mind attending a munch or a meeting at Paddles once in a while, but if your idea of D/s is orgies, parties and having you pimped out to my D/s buddies, we aren't a good match).
  • live for shibari (I'm not a professional bondage master), full body latex enclosements (not a turn on for me - I enjoy seeing flesh, not latex), or require extreme knife play (I don't have much experience with that and therefore would not consider it safe) or enema play (turn off).


Full disclosure: I'm poly, and only interested in subs/slaves who are OK with ethical non-monogamy.


  • I am married, and have a full time slave.
  • YES, my wife knows about this (and is good friends with my slave); she fully supports it; and is willing to confirm to you that she's fine with my having a relationship with a sub.
    • If you want to know "why", i'll tell you if we decide we match each other.
  • NO, my wife is not in any way interested in participating AT ALL - no watching, no participating.
  • My primary slave MAY participate, if both I and you desire it. She's fine either way. Kink wise she's a switch with other women and somewhat bi.
  • NO, it doesn't mean I'm simply looking for some cheap sex on the side - I would prefer to find a sub/slave for a long term relationship to finding a one time play partner.
  • NO, it does not mean i'm incapable of forming long term relationships. I've been married to the same woman for 10+ years, and NEVER cheated on her (nor will I start now -as per above, this is with her consent). My average D/s relationships lasted 3-5 years.
  • If you yourself are married, I am OK with that as long as your spouse is aware and consents. If you're both subs, I'm open to D/s+s relationship.


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