I'm looking for a serious masochist who's seeking not a lover but a fairly expert sadist with an appetite for terror and tears. I want someone I can beat the hell out of and then share a drink and a cuddle with, an equal and a friend who'll submit and obey and want to be owned by me. I want a vivacious, feminine, amusing woman who craves having her physical and emotional limits challenged in cruel, arduous play -- someone who gets high from pain -- someone who'll send me photos of her bruises the next day and keep coming back for more.

To the NYC woman who asked the question that prompted this answer, thank you.