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Hetero Male Dominant, 42,  NYC, New York
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Oh Im so tired of getting 100s of messages every day from women who send 1 liners, cut pasted emails, links to their webcam sites, and tit pics! Glad I found the Mail Control feature on here in the Read Mail folder. Now I only get mybe a dozen messages a day totally doable and not wasting my time deleting all the other trash myself. That can be read in two ways, either I sound sarcastically funny or bitterly angry. If you hear anger you can probably ignore me now and just keep looking.

I personally am done with submissives who just arent. If you want to have authority and make decisions in the relationship, thats fine but you are not for Me. I believe a girl who wants to be a slave and desires every aspect of her life controlled will suit me better. her opinions still matter and she will have My listening ear. Except that she relies on Me for all decisions and desires My word to be law. It is a special kind of girl who wants to live as someones slave and have the primary goal of keeping her Man pleased. she has to want to live by this goal or a relationship with My stubborn self is not going to work. I am sure there are some submissives who would define themselves this way or would like to find themselves eventually becoming slaves. That type of woman I am open to, just being upfront about what I expect as the guide, trainer, and caretaker.

A bit about Me. Im an opinionated demanding Man who can tolerate a lot provided My girl is meaning well and trying her best. I have all the kinky qualities and assertive traits that make Me a good Master. It is hard to not sound like some arrogant prick as I describe away, but this is the medium we all have to showcase ourselves. Just as I dont mistake submissiveness for weakness, please dont mistake confidence for arrogance. What I want in a slave. The same typical traits most Masters want eagerness, open minded, loyalty, sweetness, a bit nieve, and a driving force to please. I expect or enforce a girl to be tidy meaning she doesnt leave a big mess all day and cleans it up once a day. I expect a slave to clean as she goes. If its a problem, Im sure I can break her of it. I cant see myself training someone older than me. Ideally she would be mid 20s to early 30s. Not that I wouldnt pick a younger woman, but feel if shes fresh out of school she may think she wants one thing only to decide perhaps not as she grows and matures in experience.

Looks dont have to be perfect, but they are important. Others tell Me I am handsome and apparently look younger than My age. Perhaps this is because I dont smoke or heavily drink, try to not eat slop, keep well groomed, and stay regularly active with fitness. Oh thanks Mom for the good genes. And I look good in jeans too.

As for you, I almost prefer a girl who isnt perfect already as I would enjoy molding her to my ideal. I can fix her body to my taste. My slave wont have any body hair. Waxing is preferred, but I understand most girls arent so well off that they can do that as frequently as required. Eventually laser hair removal will take care of things so as waxing or shaving wont matter. Right now Im into blondes but My tastes change with the tides thats what dye wigs are for. I love large breasts. Would love to get My girl between F and GG cup, depending on height. Even if she is gifted already I will probably have her go bigger as I like the perkiness and firmness that comes with implants. she can expect a few piercings, so good if you already have some or dont yet.Most attire will always draw attention to her curves, so if she is shy by nature even better. I like to see a slave blush tremble at looks she gets from others. Heels are a must, especially if short.

Unrelated to sex, she will be trained as a bimboslave and expect others to see her in a 1950s type relationship.

Thats most of it. Hopefully the right woman for Me will grow to have a strong trusting relationship where she has no worries, only to be free to do anything asked of her without a hesitant thought.

Every profile pic I have up I took myself... from the internet.

Even as backwards as society seems to be trending today, it is encouraging to see so many people on here who dont follow the trend.

Master James












 Dominant Male


 New York

 5' 11"

 193 lbs






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Journal Entries:
2/13/2018 4:29:29 AM
Love the honesty of some of the girls here: "Seeking a sugar daddynto take care of me." "Wanting a man who will spank me only. No sex." 
If only all the profiles were honest on here how quickly we could sort through them:
"Searching for a guy who I could equally get attracted to at the super market but has a kinky side and not wierded out by my fetishes; and won't send me a dick pic."
"Seeking someone to absorb my debt, support my shopping habit and won't want to have sex that often."
"Looking for someone I can scam out of their personal identity or finances."
"I'm just here because someone pays me to try and get perverted Americans to visit some other pay site. And I want to make my $2.50 today so I can eat tonight."
"I'm really a normal person with a normal job and fairly good looking, only I'm the opposite sex of what is listed on my profile and have zero interest in even talking to you let alone meet."
"I'm married but my spouse doesn't want to do the same things I want to and lack of enjoyable sex alone isn't enough of a reason for me to get devorced, so here I am."
"I'm just a software program that posts fake profiles to sell _____."
"I'm just here for the free tits/dick pics!"
As Valentines Day approaches and dating season begins anew, best of luck to the honestly seeking. 

2/12/2017 6:50:19 AM
For Valentine's Day seeking dimwitted airhead in early 20s who is a Stepford wife in public and blindly obedient bimbo slave in private. A girl who hopes her breasts are enlargened to a more appropriately attractive size, doesn't mind piercings on her, and would enjoy a trip to the salon to make pretty everything else. Won't such a girl be My Valentine?

10/10/2016 8:12:59 AM
Seeking single, attractive, moderately fit, obedient, light-witted, slave girl who wishes to give all that she is and has to her prospective new Owner. Prefer a slave who inherited a bunch of money but doesn't know what to do with it and wishes someone else to control that as well (OK to clarify that last bit on the $$$ is sarcasm. I am doing quite well for Myself and don't need a slave as any kind of bread winner). Must be willing to try all that is asked of her to include body mods, dress, behavior, sexual deviantcies, and anything else ordered of her. Inquiries message Me for more information. 
Should I expect many serious takers, probably not. But I am only seeking 1 at this time.

9/13/2016 8:35:10 AM
I don't know enough about the Gorean lifestyle to know if has some good principles or if complete fantasy, but this person's point of view on just what really being a slave and an Owner means I agree with:
"Slavery, while not an integral part of the Gorean lifestyle, and not at all part of the philosophy, is likely the most well known element of Gorean culture. 

It is what initially attracts many, if not most, to the Gorean lifestyle, and so I feel it should be included on this site, if for no other reason than to warn some away. 

Why would I want to warn someone away from what I live and love? 

Because I believe that FAR too many go into this with their eyes glazed over and romantic dreams of the fairy tale "slavery" in their heads. 

Would-be slaves often dream of days spent primping, preening, and being shown off and nights of being "forced" to one "slave orgasm" after another. 

They aren't thinking of cleaning toilets, catboxes and yards, washing dishes, taking out the garbage, or the often seemingly ceaseless waiting and lonliness. 

They may fantasize about being "forced" to go without panties, wear a corset, chastity device or gag, or have an owner choose their clothes for them, but the fact that they may be forbidden to speak for days, weeks of months on end, denied any sexual release and forced to throw away their favorite pair of jeans, or the shirt their grandmother gave them before she died has never crossed their minds. 

That vision of endless days with just their master may be lovely, but what about when they want to go visit family and the answer is no? 
It doesn't occur to them that their master could decide that his pleasure would be better served if his slave gave up custody of her children. 
Or perhaps had a hysterectomy or abortion because he doesn't want children. 

The fact is that slavery within the Gorean construct is absolute

It is not a game, it is not a fantasy and it is FAR from easy!! 

Unlike many other forms of consensual slavery, in a Gorean M/s relationship, there are no contracts, no negotiating, no lists of limits, and no convenient "outs" for the slave. 

A Gorean slave is at the complete mercy of her (or his) owner in all things, from what, if any food, sleep, clothing or shelter the slave will be allowed, when and if s/he will be allowed to work or go to school, have children, have contact with friends or family, to what religion, if any, they may practice and whether they will have toilet privileges. 

This isn't to say that most Gorean slaves are never allowed these things, but it DOES mean that once the collar goes on, that is it. It's a done deal. 
And even if agreements are made before the collar is placed, the owner has no obligation to stick to them. 
It is a Gorean slave's place to please the free and a master's place to be pleased, NOT the other way around! 
If the slave's owner proves to be a poor fit, or even unfit, the slave can beg release, but if it is not granted, s/he has no recourse but to obey or fail as a slave (in that instance). 

Another *major* differnece between Gorean slaves and most other types of slaves is that Gorean slaves are customarily expected to be obedient, deferential and pleasing to ALL free persons, not just the one who owns them. 
Gorean slaves don't get to decide who they will obey and who they won't. They don't have the luxury of smarting off to someone else because "you aren't my dom". They are to address all free men as Master and all free women as Mistress unless the free person in question prefers some other form of address and they are to do their utmost to be pleasing to them regardless of personal opinion. 

If the master (free man) addressing the slave stinks to high hades and looks like the ugly end of an ugly dog, tough. If he wouldn't know honor if it bit him on the arse, too bad. If he isn't deserving of the respect due a thieving, baby murdering rapist, oh well. A kajira's place is to be respectful and pleasing regardless of our personal feelings. Only our owners may decide who we will or will not obey and defer to. 

A Gorean slave may well be called upon to serve, and sometimes intimately, someone they are repulsed by. In such a case, we have the same options as always.. Beg for a reprieve, obey or fail. 

I could continue to detail the ways in which kajirae are truly at the mercy of the free, but I think I have made my point. 
The bottom line is that, as said in the beginning, this is no easy path. 
It is well worth the journey for those who are truly cut out to be Gorean slaves, but unless you absolutely cannot do other than surrender all and serve, the path of kajira/kajirus is one best avoided! 

          A word about *Owning* slaves...

Before I close, let me not neglect the path of slave ownership! 

Neither is this an easy path! 
Granted, yours is, in some ways, less frought with risk, especially with regard to the risk of failure, but there are pitfalls for the free as well. 

Just like it is a common thing for would-be slaves to fantasize about being a slave, the free often have a very unrealistic view of what it is like to own a slave. 

They think that it is all about arm trophies, power and blowjobs on command and never stop to think or realize that owning another human being is HARD WORK! 

It is true that a Gorean slave owner has no obligation to a slave whatsoever, but on the other hand, it is foolish to think that all one has to do is lock a collar upon a slave's neck in order to recieve perfect service. 
Of course, as a free person, you have the *right* to expect whatever you like of your property, and if the slave doesn't comply, then the slave has failed as a slave, but honestly, how realistic is it to expect a slave to serve pleasingly if left to flounder? 
The answer is that, rights of the free or not, it is just not very likely to work out. 
Slaves need guidance, training, nurturing and at least some degree of attention, appreciation and/or affection in order to thrive, and a thriving slave is a more pleasing slave. 

Once you have taken ownership of a slave, you are responsible for them. 
That person is your property to mold, teach, use or leave to atrophy as you will, but, like any property, if you fail to maintain it, it will undoubtedly cease to serve you well."

9/12/2016 12:05:09 AM

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2/1/2016 4:19:37 AM
Sound advice for the ladies:

12/21/2014 7:24:22 AM
All I want for Christmas: 

12/13/2014 9:11:26 AM
I find this humorous: seems girls 18-45 all want a Man ~40 yrs old. What is it with Men our age? The girls 18-30 I understand, but once you hit 31 shouldn't your age gap desires stay the same? Or is it a more obvious financial stability reason you want that age?

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