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Hetero Male Dominant, 31,  Alabama
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So, I have a number of kinks, but first and foremost is hypnosis. Its something Ive been into since before I knew what sex was.

Other than that, Im a fairly introverted person. I love people but... they make me tired. What Im looking for is someone interesting to a strong connection with. The more interesting that person is the stronger the connection is likely to be, so if we connect over things outside of kink as well then so much the better.

What are those things?

Anime. Sci-fi. Books. Video games. Cooking. Classical music. Just... general nerd things. So yeah, if any of that sounds appealing to you then feel free to drop me a line.

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 DecentShephard

 Dominant Male

 Alabama

 5' 10"

 210 lbs

 31

 Hetero

 African Descent

 05/11/11

 

Actively Seeking:

Submissive female

Sub/Sub Couples

 Lives For:

 Travel (Beginner)

 Erotic Hypnosis

 Cartoons (Expert)

 Drawing (Expert)

 Writing (Expert)

 Loves:

 Amusement Parks

 Collars

 Leashes

 Mental Bondage

 Obedience Training

 Orgasm Control (Expert)

 Stockings

 Web Surfing (Expert)

 History

 Intellectual Discourse (Expert)

 Paranormal Phenomena

 Philosophy

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 Bar Hopping

 Clubbing

 Eye Contact Restrictions

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 Mathematics

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12/27/2012 7:43:30 AM

So when I do a search on here I generally use the keyword 'hypnosis'. I'm noticing that a lot of people have that word in their profile to express their DIS-interest in the kink. That gives me a sad. Are there that many hack-job hypnotists out there that people have to specifically say that they're not interested? It's not a mainstream interest (though it is growing in popularity) and bad publicity can create a stigma around something like that which is unfortunate because now I have a stigma associated with me that I didn't do any thing to deserve. *sigh* Okay, I'm done ranting.


7/26/2011 4:04:20 PM

I have a confession to make. I'm color blind.

Are you White? Black? Hispanic? Asian? Native American? Middle Eastern? AnyotherethnicgroupthatIcan'tthinkofatthemomentandapologizeforforgetting? guess what? I. Don't. Care. What I'm interested in is are you intelligent? Do our interests match up? Are you polite? I don't do race play. Ever.

I've been asked the following questions more than once or twice, so to avoid redundancy, here they are and here also are my answers:

"Do you believe in the superiority of the black race?" no, I don't consider myself superior to you because I'm black.

"Do you enjoy the idea of a reparations based society in which whites work in the fields?" No, I think that's a horrible idea because A) An agrarian society is anachronistic and obsolete in the digital age and would result in a universal decline in the quality of life for all inhabitants and B) I earn what I get. I don't need anybody's 'reparations'.

"Do you want to fuck my dirty white cunt?" Maybe. Are you hot? If you are then yes, I probably do.

Don't get me wrong, I get that some people just have a racial preference. Some people don't like black guys, for example, and I give such people a wide berth. Other people LOVE black guys, which is their right, and I'm not going to turn someone away because of it. If that's what catches your eye about me then whatever, but there's got to be more to it than just our skin tones. I have a dream and all that.


6/28/2011 2:53:40 PM

So if you've spent any time at all on this site you've seen people complain about the lack of grammar and punctuation prevalent in profiles here. Now, I've always prided myself on my command of the English language but it occurs to me that some people out there, namely the ones without such perfect grammar or flawless diction might be turned off by my profile. The following is for them.

 

Me DecentShephard. Like tell people what do. Me show them shineys, make them sleepy. Me prefer woman, but me take what me can get. Me need practice. Me smart from much learning; have much knowledge of making people sleep, but me no have enough practical experience. You want sleepy time?


6/25/2011 11:17:56 AM

There's a formula for sub profiles. It is as follows:

"Hi, I am a sub/slave, I have been in the lifestyle for x years, and I am seeking a dom/master to do x, y, z to me. I am very (smart/funny/obedient/real/submissive). I seek (24/7, a genuine Master, somebody to rape and brutalize me). I may be submissive but I'm not a doormat. Here's some generic blather about what submission means to me. It shows how unique I am."

Divide the above by journal entries complaining about the number of fakes and frauds on this site and you have a working equation. Now that's not to make generalizations, I've run across some VERY creative profiles here, but the greater portion of them boil down to the above statements. I'm sure there must be a formula for doms on here as well, and I'd be curious to know what it is (though not curious enough to actually look for it.) so if any of you subbies out there have browsed enough doms to know it then by all means lay it on me. We could come up with a working theorem.

 


6/17/2011 6:33:16 AM

I'm a guy. I don't get much attention on this site. I do okay, and about half the messages I send out get a response. Maybe a little less. I'm okay with that, especially considering the amount of sub women I see whose profiles complain about pages and pages of messages they get within hours of opening their accounts. There have been only a few women (two, I think) that took the initiative to contact me. Everybody else whose done that have been men. This I'm also okay with.

I'd also like to point out that I'm not one of those guys who keeps messaging a person when I never got a response in the first place. But what about this situation: A sub viewed my profile. Looking at her profile she has very little information about herself, so I send her a message asking her about herself. No response. Okay, I move on. She views my profile again. Okay, but she still hasn't responded to my message so I don't worry about it and go about my business. She viewed my profile again. So I sent her another message. Was that a mistake? *sigh* I'm over thinking this aren't I?


6/14/2011 9:56:57 PM

I'm feeling contemplative, so two journals in one night. Not that anybody reads this shit.

I'm not looking for a slave. As my profile says I'm not very experienced in the dynamics of BDSM; So while it makes for a very nice fantasy, I've never experienced having a slave so I can't really say whether or not I'd want that kind of relationship. And really, how am I supposed to afford owning a whole person in this economy?

All joking aside, though, it is something I think about and would like to try some day. But not now.

I've been asked (exclusively by men) if I'd like a slave, what I'm looking for in a slave, if I like to beat my slaves, and it occurs to me that nothing in my profile addresses this directly. There's a good bit that addresses it indirectly, but not everybody can be bothered with subtlety, or indeed reading my profile at all before they message me, so let me go ahead and say here what I would be looking for if I were looking at all.

First, if I had a slave, she'd be a woman. I know that my 'looking for' section is a bit misleading, but as I say above I'm an equal opportunity hypnotist and I'll take subjects for practice regardless of gender or orientation. That said, I am straight so if I were to start a Master/slave relationship with anybody she'd have been born with two 'x' chromosomes.

Second, she'd be into hypnosis. It's my main kink, and I've always wanted to share it with somebody who enjoys it as much as I do.

Third, She'd be close to my age, perhaps a bit older, maybe a bit younger. I have nothing against older women, but I'm pretty young still, and my old soul notwithstanding I feel like I'd be too immature and inexperienced to handle an older woman. I'd like to be able to act my age without feeling self conscious and judged around her, though I suppose it'd be fine with a really immature older woman.

Finally, she'd be at least as attractive as I am. And no, that's not me being arrogant. Don't assume I'm talking about looks, for all you know I'm a metronome. What I mean is that she'd be witty, smart, and confident. She'd have a kind heart and a soft spot for the less fortunate. She'd like to make others laugh and would be able to find the humor in the most grim of situations because, like me, she'd understand that life is what you make of it and when you bitch about the shit piles the universe dumps on your head, they don't seem quite so bad if you've got a terse grin on your face.

In other words she'd be a catch, the kind of gal you think is pretty even if she's butt-ass ugly because her smile lights up the room and her disposition freshens the atmosphere. I'd love to find a girl like that, just not right now. Maybe some day, when I grow up.


6/14/2011 9:20:50 PM

I've come across a lot of profiles that complain of guys messaging sub women and doing the following: Calling them slut/slave/bitch/whore and in general acting as if the sub already belonged to them. Messaging them over and over again even when it's clear the sub is uninterested.

 

I wonder though: What would I do if the reverse happened to me? What would you do? What would you do if a sub messaged you out of the blue, assuming you already owned them and kept bothering you about it even if you were disinterested? Food for thought.


6/13/2011 10:22:48 PM

So I came across a profile that said no one liners, as a lot of profiles do. I sent what I thought was a clever Haiku on the subject thinking "this is three lines, surely she'll respond AND be impressed." It was deleted unread. Such is life.


6/13/2011 9:14:48 PM

I try not to judge, but some of the subbies on here scare me. Beatings, rape (the real kind, not role play), blood, knives? Don't get me wrong, I believe in personal freedom and I think you should be at liberty to do whatever you want as long as its consensual and doesn't (seriously) hurt somebody, but seeing that sort of thing just triggers my-- I dunno, protective instincts I guess? I can (kinda) understand how giving up that level of control might turn somebody on but I've gotta ask: How are you not dead? Seriously meeting somebody who's into stuff like that on the internet seems more likely to lead to an early grave than a relationship.

 

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6/8/2011 6:57:16 PM

I've come across some profiles that say you can't type on this site. Is that true?

 

**edit**

Oh. It is true. You really can't mention FL. Why I wonder? Are the owners of this site afraid of competition?


6/7/2011 6:21:25 AM

Don't call me Sir. I mean it, don't. I mean, if your parents were really old fashioned and taught you to call everyone sir or ma'am then fine, but if you're doing it to show what a good subbie you are, don't bother. At least not with me, I don't give a shit about your protocol.

"But Mr. Shephard, why not?"

Because 'Sir' doesn't mean anything. I get called 'sir' when I ask for stuff in restaurants and clothing stores. Cops call me 'sir' when I get pulled over for speeding. It's just an empty formality.

"So how do I show you I'm a respectful, enthusiastic sub?"

I should hope by getting to know me. Titles only have meaning because of the dynamic of the relationship behind them. If we don't know each other it's pointless. You can call me 'His Infallible Highness Lord Kingship of Kickass' and it will mean precisely dick until we've gotten to know each other. Other dom(mes) might insist on titles and if you wanna go along with that it's whatever, but I personally hate empty formalities.

 

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6/4/2011 7:44:48 AM

I bought a book on relyfe programming and the techniques involved sound really interesting. Unfortunately I haven't gotten the chance to try anything out on anybody. That makes me a sad panda.


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