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Hetero Male Dominant, 38,  Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Friendly greetings to everyone. I'm James. I have been into this lifestyle now since my late teens. I have been on Fetlife and Collarme/Collarspace for close to 10 years now. Though I haven't been to as many public venues (like the TNG munches in Toronto) and other BDSM associative gathers in quite a few years, I am still very much into this lifestyle. Just prior to my mini-bio, I will say that internet dating is risky but there are ways to do it safely. If anybody needs advice how to go about, contact me for some tips to deeply lower the volatility risk. Most people on this site are fairly sincere decent people, but there are bad apples, and of course no good trolls/scammers. This is probably not the best place to look for love in your life, but if you're fully dedicated to this lifestyle, finding the right person is fairly important to keep happy in life. Quite often you can learn more about somebody over the internet than you can in real life. It's all about chemical compatibility. All the best to everybody. My dedication is very genuine. Having a vanilla relationship just isn't for me. I am willing to talk to anybody really, even if it's just exclusive online flirting and I also do believe in monogamy. I am heterosexual with a strong dominant mind; never been arrested/jailed. I enjoy the idea of dominating/controlling a female primarily through bondage. All activities must be mutual/consensual with a partner (obviously); it's like sharing the enjoyment. I am not particularly into the S/M aspect of this lifestyle, but willing to participate in it based on circumstances. I am a strong believer in trying to enhance the best out of everything, so I am keen on giving oral sex, but you absolutely must be STD free, like myself. This lifestyle is pretty fantasy directed for most people. I do run a fairly normal/decent life as well working two jobs and getting by quite well. I am fairly laid back, choosing to avoid frustration in life even at the worst moments. Drop me a line if I sound like somebody you'd interested in chatting with, regardless of location. :)













 Dominant Male

 Toronto, Ontario 


 Willing to Relocate

 5' 9"

 180 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive female

Switch Women


Online Romance

 Lives For:

 Travel (Expert)

 Hiking (Expert)

 Walking (Expert)




 Mental Bondage

 Orgasm Control

 Role Playing

 Speech Restrictions


 Classical Music

 Eighties Music






 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Local BDSM Community

 Erotic Hypnosis



 Sensory Deprivation

 Theatrical Scenes

 Comedy Shows (Expert)

 Cybering (Expert)

 Web Surfing (Expert)

 Alternative Music



 Beachcombing (Beginner)

 Bird Watching (Beginner)

 Fine Dining



 Running (Beginner)

 Ultimate Frisbee (Beginner)

 Yachting (Beginner)




 Masks on Partner

 Massage (Giving)

 Obedience Training

 Clothing Selection

 Maid / Butler Service

 Outdoor Bondage

 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Public Play

 Rubber Fetish


 Suspension Bondage


 Vacuum Stimulation

 Arcade Games (Beginner)

 Board Games

 Card Games

 Historical Shows (Beginner)

 Horror Movies

 Online Chatrooms

 Puzzle Games

 Science Fiction


 TV News

 Astrology (Beginner)







 Lifestyle BDSM

 Electronica / EDM



 Rock Music

 Seventies Music

 Agnosticism (Beginner)

 Atheism (Beginner)

 Badminton (Beginner)

 Bowling (Beginner)

 Paintball (Beginner)

 Tennis (Beginner)

 Volleyball (Beginner)


 Amusement Parks

 Art Galleries

 Bar Hopping


 Coffee Shops (Beginner)

 Flea Markets (Beginner)


 Garage Sales (Beginner)

 Museums (Beginner)

 Musical Theater (Beginner)

 Renaissance Faires (Beginner)

 Camping (Beginner)


 Dancing (Beginner)

 Gymnastics (Beginner)

 Horseback Riding


 Weightlifting (Beginner)

 Yoga (Beginner)

 Breast Play

 Being Massaged

 Hair Pulling


 Masks (Wearing)


 Sensation Play




 Wax Play

 Chess (Beginner)

 Newspapers (Beginner)

 Simulation Games

 True Crime

 TV Sports (Beginner)


 Meditation (Beginner)

 Painting (Beginner)

 Singing (Beginner)


 Chemistry (Beginner)

 Goth Lifestyle

 Victorian Lifestyle


 Country Music

 Hip Hop Music

 Nineties Music

 Pop Music

 Catholicism (Beginner)

 Christianity (Beginner)

 Auto Racing

 Baseball (Beginner)

 Body Building (Beginner)

 Darts (Beginner)


 Horse Racing

 Ice Hockey (Beginner)

 Snowboarding (Beginner)

 Street Hockey (Beginner)

 Swimming (Beginner)

 Curious About:

 Martial Arts




 Paranormal Phenomena

 Old Guard


 Antique Shows (Beginner)




 Foot Worship

 Knife Play

 Needle Play

 Pantyhose Fetish


 Romance Novels

 Drawing (Beginner)

 Conservative Politics


 History (Beginner)

 Liberal Politics  (Beginner)

 Libertarian Politics


 Political Activism

 Psychology (Beginner)


 Gorean Lifestyle


 Heavy Metal Music

 Industrial Music

 New Age Music






 Genital Punishment

 Fire Play

 Oral Service

 Biology (Beginner)

 Physics (Beginner)

 Female Supremacy

 Sky Diving

 Hard Limits:


 Cuck Options

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