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Single, Dominant, down-to-earth female; a person, with "preferences"...
READ THE PROFILE, STUPID!
If you're only interested in the pics then you're wasting your time. I just don't look like this anymore. New pics to follow, but I'm leaving these up because I LIKE THEM >:-P
READ THIS BIT: -
NOT HERE FOR CAM-FUN - IT AIN'T FUN ITS BULLSH*T - REALITY ONLY TA.
Vanilla, public meet first - SSC check >:-P Don't expect me to Domme you for this and if I can't see anything worth working with, it just means I won't bother with you in the future.
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Here for single sub males, preferably those with little to no experience of the "scene" side of things. Not interested in breaking previous training.
I'll hear your preferences, but don't expect me to listen. Don't expect me to pander to what you want - topping from the bottom? Don't be silly >;-P
My own experiences in D/s have been natural rather than "scene-based" or formally labelled - all within the protective shell of long-term relationships. Those experiences have included:
Bondage/restraint;
Mild verbal/situational humiliation; Encouraging subs' exploration of cross-dressing/gender experimentation;
Use of all-out punishment using a variety of implements;
And more....
I do prefer tall (5'7" absolute minimum) and slim (I like to be able to see hips!!!). Shorter men do nothing for me. A sense of humour is also absolutely essential. A brain is also nice too - sometimes >:-P
Not into switches, "limp lettuces", or bisexual men.
I'm in this for real but my focus has changed. Whereas before I was looking for the relationship side, I feel I've moved away from that; I don't want those limits. I want the enjoyment and the experiences, on my terms.
Intelligence, honesty and politeness go a long way with me, however I do have a sadistic streak and, in my world, I'm the boss. Simple as that.
Oh and where I've stated something as "hard limit", definitely means not interested in trying it. Hard limits also include the obvious - kids, vulnerable adults, animals or scat. I'd say corpses too, but tbh, if you're into that kinda thing then chances are I've already verbally abused you for your particular brand of "weirdness".
I decide which subs I want, its not down to you to tell me how good you would be for me - just trying that basically already means you're not gonna be any use.
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Room to let - becoming available end of August/mid September.
Looking to let to either:
Someone who wants to experiment with cross-dressing and have their privacy and/or safety respected and guaranteed at the same time - this could be arranged on a part-time basis, to suit, if required.
Or
A housework/DIY-obsessed sub looking to relocate and indulge their obsession. They would still need to be in a position to pay their way. Strictly no punishment involved - this is not that kind of arrangement. I won't be flouncing round in pinheels with a whip watching your every move. If you want to wander around the house in a maid's outfit, that of course is your choice.
Rates aren't stupid as I'm a realist, and I'm not looking for lodgers to dominate, this is strictly a landlady/tennant arrangement with a view to providing a safe/private place for you to indulge your own flavour of lifestyle.
Message me if interested initially - and be aware I can spot a timewaster/dreamer a mile off, so these types need not bother.
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I don't do chat - messages, yes, chat, no.
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Haha, go and see if you're worthy, post the results on your profile if you've got nowt else written there >:-P:
http://www.helloquizzy.com/quizzy/take
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There are times when I think a message I receive here warrants further discussion with the sender. Why are some subs constantly surprised that I speak to them like they're human?
Subbies:
IF I've responded to your message, it doesn't make you automatically my sub, it makes you just another person. Don't be surprised by it. You only get the "Domme" in me if you are my sub. Simple as that. Shouting at you to go away just bores me - don't bother pushing for a Domme reaction because all you'll get is ignored.
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"You must learn to live with:
Your own conscience;
Your own morality;
Your own decision;
Your own self.
You alone can do it.
There is no authority but yourself."
Crass - From the album, "Yes sir - I Will", 1983.
And you thought punks were thick?
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OK, DarkCrow's adventures continue....
When I first joined this site, I was messaged by a sub who tickled my curiosity by showing me some truly fascinating pics of the ways he'd proven his submission in the past. His profile is m5ub.
We got chatting, and pretty much have been ever since. I think I'm lucky to have made a decent friend here >:-)
He'd already trekked up from the badlands of Bedford (which seems to be quite busy in terms of the "sub" population) to Brum to come n say ello, way back when the sun was still out. We had a chuckle then and he proved to be as sweet and genuine in reality as he is online.
As we are genuinely friends, I journied down to Bedford to give him a hand with some paperwork stuff, and to enjoy a rest in different surroundings, although I must say, there's far too much green stuff there for a city burd like me >;-)
Spent 3 days without having to worry about a thing, in the presence of a true gentleman - a rarity these days - who was fun and sweet (and he can sing!!). We spent last Thursday evening on his roof, with the radio up full, the neon snake light glowing merrily and glasses of something dodgy; I can't remember the last time I chuckled so much!
Saturday was shopping in Milton Keynes - call me sad but I'd never been there and was curious to know what this young town was like. I have to say, I love the place - H & V roadnames - excellent logical layout.
I've been lucky with my meetings...of the "vanilla" meets I've had, only one has proved to be a complete nightmare - his profile has since disappeared from CM...m5ub just proved to me again that there are genuine, nice people to be met here and I thank him for his company and sweetness. >:-)
I look forward to continuing this friendship for some time to come.
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Goodbye my friend
I was originally told about collarme by a wonderful friend who was also a member who went by the name of "MistressClaire".
I'd known Claire for 20 years; she was originally called Clive, and was my friend, guide, IT manager, mentor and most scathing critic. Until 2004 Clive (as she was then) had lived in Brum, living a secret life with an "alternate" identity - male in public, but dealing with the TG female side of her personality, alone, the rest of the time.
At the time, Clive didn't realise that some of his friends would support him through the TG side, he'd been too used to covering it up. He finally told me all (by introducing me to "Claire") in late 2003, as he'd made plans to move his life to Scotland and start from scratch.
So Clive moved to Dundee in 2004, started his new life as Claire, and was finally happy. He went though the full treatment, medical procedures, counselling and surgery and came out of that finally in 2006 as the beautiful woman he should have been born as originally.
We stayed in touch throughout and it was fabulous to see the change in her - truly living the life she wanted to lead; naughty, fluffy pink gurlie gurl, set up as a Domme, and having an awful lot of fun.
Claire had always been a heavy smoker, but gave up as a result of the hormone treatments right back at the beginning of her gender reassignment. She started again back in February this year - due to a bout of severe depression. She was fully aware of the increased risks to her health, but being 44 and still feeling immortal, she didn't put too much store in the warnings.
I lost Claire last Thursday; a sudden heart attack caused by a bloodclot, thought to have been caused by the smoking mixed with hormone treatment.
She was only 44...and as she said, given the hormones she was on, mentally she was really a teenage gurl. To know Claire isn't around to laugh at me for being more "blokey" than she could ever be hurts deeply.
Given that its her fault I'm here, I wanted to mark her passing here too.
Goodbye my friend. xxxx
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Do me a favour? READ the profile BEFORE you message me? It'll save you - tears of rejection and me - time saying "forget it".
If you can't be bothered to read it all, don't message me whilst you live in hope.
If you can't submit to that basic requirement, you're no use to me.
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I've seen that a lot of people use this section to "name and shame" the fakes, weirdos and general creeps that abound this site.
So, of course, I'm gonna do the opposite for this post >:-)
Last Sunday I had the pleasure of spending some time in the company of an absolute darling - bhamfootboy - an intelligent, sweet, totally adorable young sub from my neck of the woods.
As this was the first meet, it was totally vanilla (which he coped with very well, despite being a little nervous), we chatted about many things, and came to the conclusion that we could see elements of mutual benefit >;-)
I look forward to initially taking him as my sole (hehe) foot slave, with a view to more exploration over time.
So lovely to meet a genuine doll from here >:-)
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Subs' Profiles
I see a pic n think, oh he looks interesting, so I go to the profile, very little detail even though he's been a member since last year. Fair enough.
Zero journal entries as well. Shame.
Subs seem to constantly wonder how they can get more attention; simple answer, let some of your mind wander at random, stick some of your thoughts on your journal. Let the scary Dom/mes see a little of your mind >;-)
Was just a thought.
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Just an observation - not a condemnation.
Just looking through the profiles, as you do.
I can guess a US Domme from a UK Domme with about 80% accuracy now,just by looking at the initial pic - without reading the profile fully.
How?
US Dommes seem to take the time to look stunning and present themselves in their best aspect. Their pic backgrounds are always tasteful, simple and stylish. The pic is usually beautifully lit and posed.
UK Dommes mostly go for the "honest" look; everyday "expected" fetish wear, standard room as a background, homely clutter in evidence.
Still not sure which approach I prefer...may bribe a photographer friend to do me a couple of "US Domme" style pics just for the craic tho' >:-P
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Doms and "Doms"
I get to speak to all kinds here - as previously mentioned - and that includes some fabulous Doms.
I also have had the misfortune to be msg'd by those feeble-minded creatures who term themselves as "Dom" but are nothing more than weak, female-hating, abusers who masquerade under the label that they think suits them best.
I find true Doms to be so secure with themselves as to be prfectly comfortable with their role and the trust/power exchange. They understand how to speak to women in general and they're careful with their subs and appreciate the submission given to them. A deep and admirable relationship.
Then there are the fake "doms" here - I think these are the ones who can barely read or write. They string two mispelt words together and call it a message. They see me as a challenge (so their mistake) and think that being rude, abusive and downright unpleasant is the way to win my heart?
I'd name the one I've just blocked but (god knows how) he has friends on his profile - they've done nothing to me but they've saved his ass in this journal.
So, all respect to the true Doms here.
And as for you, you little twerp - you know who you are (if you can read) I've told you what you're not fit to do, so I suggest you buy an enema kit and start practising - you need to.
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Apparently its incredibly bad manners to not read/reply to a message that a sub has spent ages typing out...
What some subs don't seem to realise is that bulk mail controls exist...for a reason and purpose.
Mine are set to exclude people from other countries and people I think are too young or old for me. Its about MY pleasure here. Read that again, whining subs, MY PLEASURE.
Spending hours and hours writing me a long message is pointless, drop me a note and I'll either answer it, or I won't. Most of those are just copy/paste jobs anyway..I must get 5 day.
Sending me a thesis on why you think you would make a good sub is also pointless. I know what I'm looking for and I'd prefer to find out about a person rather than be given their life story in the first message. It's called conversation apparently. I always thought that was the basis of good manners.
Don't give me what you've read as definitions of a good sub because, to be honest, I don't care.
Don't give me sob-stories about how hard it is for you to find someone to feed your fetish because, guess what? Yep, you got it, I don't care.
Bulk mail controls and my choices
I'll never expect a sub to fly over to me. I don't intend to fly to find a sub. I know it works for some people, but international BDSM isn't going to happen for me. Hence not taking mail from other countries, BUT like any rule, that's there to be broken and I do speak to some really nice people from overseas, but not about BDSM.
I like the age controls I have set currently. BDSM and pleasure for me are jsut as much about aesthetics as anything else. I don't find elderly or overly young people attractive, simple as that.
Just because you send a msg, doesn't mean its automatically coming to me...
That's my right and my choice. Live with it.
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Decided to put some new pics up - the ones with the red boots are me now.
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I'd love to see the membership stats for Friday/Saturday nights. I'm sure that, here in the UK, the member numbers swell rapidly when the pubs tip out....and I bet there's an awful lot of "one-time use only" profiles created....
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I question my own nature of dominance in my lack of respect for requests of sissification.
I'm a straight female who adores the male body.
I don't hate males, (I can't use the term men in the generic sense because, by my own definition of masculinity, I know very few who fit the criteria), I want to see them as males.
I have the deepest respect for those people with true TV tendencies and also for those who are TG.
Because I have this respect, I don't see how cross-dressing in any form could be humiliating.
Surely, having the opinion that gender experimentation = humiliation reinforces the stigma already attached to cross-dressing and promotes the negative reaction that already makes life a misery for true TV and TG people?
I appreciate that in society (shudders) there exists deep conditioning to force people to assume their expected gender roles, consequently shouldn't experimentation be seen more as an escape and a two-finger salute to society? A release and a relief?
So how is it that so many young sub males are so ground into society's expectations that they feel humiliation for experimenting with cross-dressing? Even if that humiliation is for their own pleasure. Do they condem true TV / TG lifestyles as weird or humiliating? Hypocritical if they do.
Again this isn't condemnation - I speak with a couple of young men who are heavily into the sissification aspect - and have to say they have excellent taste >;-) - my problem here is probably that exactly..my problem. I don't understand why purely being dressed as a slutty female is humiliating. Treating them like one, yep, that I can do with ease, but they focus on the clothing aspect more.
I think my tendencies are towards a different kind of sub to that expected by those into sissification.
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What's submissive about a person who wants to be "dominated" stressing a preference for something...if a sub wants to be humiliated/sissified, then isnt the true domination there to treat the sub with great respect/dress him in a male suit? Just who's the boss in these D/s relationships if all we're doing is pandering to the preferred fetishes of subs?
I for one won't be topped from the bottom.
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From now, if there's nothing on your profile apart from a few basics, then I won't be responding to your message. Too many fakes/time-wasters. Simple as that.
Take the time...make the effort....it'll get you so much further in the long run.
I've updated the profile to remove the age limits I'd originally imposed; not only do I think I was limiting myself, I also think I was encouraging the attentions of the fakes and undesirables that seem to be abound on this site (goes with the subject matter I suppose).
By putting the age limit at between 21 - 35, and going by some of the messages I received, it strikes me that there's an awful lot of young men who seem to surf sites like this either when their partner is asleep, or when the girlfriend has gone home to the parent's for the evening >;-)
All they want is one night of phone fun to get them off whilst they "please themselves"...buy a porn mag lads.
It also seems that MSN abounds with young males who want a quick meet just to ease their own desires...go buy a prostitute boys.
What I'm looking for here is an adult male who has read my profile and thought "yep, that sounds like my kinda female"; I know these males do exist because I've met them before, but not online.
Its just a shame that there are so many desperate vanilla guys who haven't got the confidence/energy to go out and pull, rather than pretend to be something they're most definitely not. And they get SO boring!!
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| Age: 25 |
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