Looking for friendship, no matter which side of the kneel you may be.

I am a married man, seeking a woman or couple to be a friend/lover/play partner for an ongoing, discreet, part-time relationship. I am not looking for a one night stand and I am not available for a full-time or "regular" relationship, but I'm open to almost anything in between that's safe, sane, consensual, and enjoyable.

I would love to meet a woman who is experienced with kinky play, or who is curious to explore that side of her personality. I have a lot of time and attention to share with the right woman -- as well as a lot of sensuality and sexual energy. I enjoy pleasing a woman without her needing to reciprocate. I'm straight, kinky and both sexually and romantically submissive-inclined than dominant. I'm not interested in starting off with a D/s "relationship" outside of playtime, but might be open to something broader than playtime (within the limits of safety and discretion) if it was something we evolved into.

I've been in a sexless relationship with an exclusively vanilla partner for a long time, and I am more looking to generally explore than to find any specific set of kinks.

A little about me
I'm 5'9", with dark brown hair clipped very short, no facial hair, full head of hair, and a sturdy, strong, fat but compact build. I'm a non-smoker, rarely drink, and am STD-free and a non-drug user. I have a "long leash," and could be interested in spending time outside of the bedroom to if our schedules and your situation allow it. Outside of the intimate realm, I'm a big nerd, work in tech, etc.

Whom am I looking for?
I seek a local intelligent, and confident woman with both a sweet and a wicked side. She is attractive in her own way and she knows how to enjoy herself. Experience with kink or dominance in particular would be lovely, but someone with no experience save a curiosity to equal mine would be very welcome as well.

I appreciate women of most body types, but as a heavier guy myself, I'm most comfortable becoming intimate with women on the thick/BBW side of things, but what's between your ears is more important, to me, than what is anywhere else.

Ideally, you're around my age or a little older or younger. For now, let's say late-30s to early 50s -- but that's flexible, and on the younger side it's really more about maturity than calendar age.

Please be local, which means in the south bay, disease and hard drug free. I don't care if you use tobacco or 420 when I'm not around, as long as you won't smoke either around me.

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