My interest in the D/s lifestyle is largely about deepening a connection through greater intimacy. I also have an interest in polyamory because it expands that connection. I'm particularly interested in polyfidelity, which is different than open relationships, swinging, or cuckolding. It is not about compartmentalizing yourself into separate relationships, but instead allowing your relationships to expand and encompass other people. I feel it's a more enlightened approach to romantic relationships. However, when starting a relationship with one other person, I would only consider making it a polyamorous relationship if we met the right person or couple for both of us, and only months into the relationship once a level of stability has been established.
7/14/2010 6:15:29 PM
Due to the overwhelming interest in what I've had to say here, I've decided to start a blog to offer more of my writing on the lifestyle. I'm hoping that creating a forum discussion will help me to refine what I have and inspire me to write more. So please feel free to comment and engage in the discussion. http://daemonlocke.blogspot.com/
8/28/2008 12:50:30 AM
Vanilla relationships usually have a covert power dynamic. This is often the source of a subconscious power struggle that gives rise to infinite pointless arguments. Passive-aggressive ploys and tactics are used to gain a foothold in this never-ending struggle. It is a Cold War fought on an emotional battleground. it is never acknowledged and never won. Ultimately, the casualty of this war is Trust. The solution - prevent a covert power dynamic by establishing an overt power dynamic.
8/26/2008 11:15:28 PM
If it can be said that Love is the way that humans evolved to connect with each other spiritually and metaphysically, then surely Poly is the next evolutionary step.
6/7/2008 12:28:30 AM
If in my main picture it looks like I have the geico commercial song (Remind Me by Royksopp) going through my head - its because I do.
3/16/2008 4:47:29 PM
BDSM increases intimacy by placing someone in a position of vulnerability. This is very different than the emotionally and physically guarded state that we have been conditioned to maintain. And thats why it works... What if we lived in a society that allowed people to be completely physically and emotionally open, a peaceful place where no one ever had any reason not to feel perfectly safe... would BDSM no longer have any appeal?
