There's a little girl inside me whose looking to find a Daddy to please. A Daddy who takes care of everything, smile. Well he should handle all the money and making our current and future desires come true. He should be confident enough to keep a girlie in line while still making her happy. She should feel desired and the ability to make him want her all the time. She should be his little innocent girl who is daddy's little slut. She might need a little pain and force sometimes and she definitely needs to feel wanted, desired, that she brings out his animal and that she will be controlled when she is bad though she is so special to him. She should be given lots of positive input to make her always want to please all the more.
I hate to have to say this but if you don't have a picture I won't answer you unless you have one you can attach to your message. I can't answer everyone so I might not answer you if I'm not interested but the intention is not to be rude but really there is no way to politely say I'm not attracted to you. After all it is a personal taste thing. I really don't date anyone under a true 6'0 and prefer much much much taller. I don't have a body type I'm attracted to but brains, and personality are a must.
If your avatar is your genitalia, I will NOT ACCEPT your friend request.
No offense but for men if that is your focus I'm not your girl and quite frankly it's like having that stuck in my face without consent and I just don't want to see it every time you make a comment.
Guys try to remember that it starts with connecting to my mind
IF I CONNECT WITH YOUR BIG HEAD I MIGHT FIND AN INTEREST IN YOUR LITTLE HEAD. It's obvious from the fact that I am on here we have the bdsm in common but that is only 1 part of my life. It does not mean that I am cheap or easy or feel flattered to have you talk about my body parts before we have ever been intimate
I may seem strong here but in person I have a hard time not succumbing to others, therefore I have tried to lay it out as clearly as possible so that I do not have to find the tenacity, words or voice to stand up for myself in person.
I am very much the Southern Belle. If you have ever watched shows such as Gone With the Wind then you probably have a good clue as to exactly how I am. I believe the southern belle is charming, seductive, classy, and the quintessential top jewel to the Man of the house. She is not overtly sexual but there is that whole air about her. Her behavior makes her man the envy of all the others which is a very powerful thing in the male social and business realm. She is strong and capable so that the home is left in her charge and will still be standing when he returns home. But she is so happy to fall under his direction and swoon in his arms from the relief he brings of that weighted burden when the real rock of the home brings her to her knees with both honor and sexual passion. My strength and confidence come from his belief, faith and appreciation of me. I am a prize to be won, though to earn me as you would need to earn this prize in order to take pride in your winning trophy you will definitely need to show you are the top man with the most to offer in all things. I need and desire to be looking at you with the love and honor that can only be shown to the Man of the house be he daddy, husband, or Dom.
I am passionate, loyal, caring, funny adventurous, playful and classy. I love being a girl and everything about it. However, I love to travel, fish, hike, camp and white water rafting is the bomb. I have a chameleon personality thus I’m a very flexible mufti-faceted person …. Often different according to the person or people I am around, quit often the reflection of you…your mood or mine…Place/Environment. It’s not something I choose it just happens. Though I am a bit shy when first faced with a new person in a personal realm, I can seem to be an outgoing vibrant personality when I feel safe and accepted. I try to be warm and welcoming and as kind as possible to everyone. I have a fear of rejection and I hate confrontation to an extreme. I will turn myself inside out to avoid the fall out of defending myself. I try to always take the higher road and am frustrated with people who choose to wallow in the victim role, or the I can’t role. If we treat ourselves as artist then we chisel away what does not look like the picture we have ourselves and shape everything else with loving patience until we achieve the sculpture of perfection only we perceive; what we get to work with maybe flawed or damaged but it can be shaped, and mended. We may not get to choose what is on the outside but we can choose who we ultimately become. For me my ultimate goal is to be a kind, sweet, accepting, un-judgmental, giving, caring light of inspiration to others.
I'm insecure, inhibited yet upfront and open with a mysterious side in my ever changing little girl and curious mind. I am like a teenage wild rose so many layers to peel back each layer revealing a newer pedal, thorns to prick when I am endanger and if you cut me down I grow back. A teenager as I think I am emotionally caught in that place where I am a child in so many aspects while being a capable adult in others.
I set very high standards for myself in my need to be a good person…. I don’t expect the same of everyone but it is something that was drilled into me when I was a kid. Walk right, Talk right, Eat right, be Perfect. This is about my insecurities and I wish them on no one. In fact, I’m one of the least judgmental people I know. I can dislike someone but generally, that is based on a behavior I find is selfish, inconsiderate, conflict making, judgmental, or snobbish, and makes everyone around them feel uncomfortable. I am by no means perfect in any form or fashion but I do strive to be nice, I would rather slink away than to fight for something for myself. Give me a child and I will tear your heart out to defend them but not for myself.
I hate deception including self-deception, I can’t stand stupidity and I hate when people can’t see the obvious when led there by the nose. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone deserves forgiveness WHEN… They are sincere in their apology and attempt to make amends and to correct that which caused the problem.
The most important things to me in life are
- My children - and if you love me you love them. I have children still at home 2 "12" yr old boys whose father recently passed away.
- Intentional Family - If you love me then you love those I call family. You don’t hurt those that I call family.
- Commitment - My commitments to you and yours to me. “DON’T PROMISE SOMETHING YOU WILL NOT MOVE HEAVEN AND EARTH TO TRY AND FULLFILL
- The ability to love and give to others - THE GOLDEN RULE STILL APPLIES TODAY
- To Delight and cause happiness for others as I am happiest when those around me are pleased and happy - I CANNOT LIE - I WANT TO BE APPRECIATED & NEED YOUR APPROVAL
- I need to please it is not a desire it is a MUST in order for me to fill complete.
- Motives are more important to me than actions themselves - YOUR INTENT IS THAT WHICH CAN BE JUDGED NOT ALWAYS THE OUTCOME
- Though I am very precise in my understanding of things they are quite often “treasure” definitions not the rest of the worlds, smile. So you should understand me before attempting to judge me. Hell you should do that for everyone.
- Faith is the only things that is truly made up of blind belief
- Trust is not a given it is earned – Bad guys and Liars use the phrase “trust me” just like the good guys.
Pet Peeves
- Stupidity
- Stupid Know it Alls
- Know It alls who belive their way is the only way and their way works best for everyone.
No Matter how smart you are no matter the amount of knowledge you have managed to acquire if you have not sat in the other persons chair, walked the other persons path in their shoes than you can only offer the information you have as a resource.
Physically
I cannot tell you that I am ugly nor can I tell you that I am pretty as I do not see anything someone might be attracted to in the mirror. But I can tell you that people are attracted to me if for nothing else than I am warm and vibrant. I'm short, and petite and like the feeling of being small and helpless so I tend to go for Giant men.
Master of Me, The Home and Family
I want a giant of a man to possess me and protect me. A Master centers, grounds me; dealing with worry, and decisions is probably my biggest weakness since I tend to get emotional; having a Master to tell me to calm down, wait this is what we are going to do. I am spontaneous, playful and impatient so a nice strong mind and hand to reign me in occasionally is also needed. Because though being a delighted child thrilled by almost every squirrel that crosses your path can be fun and entertaining it isn’t always good. The Master is the sound of reason and logic who though he enjoys his distractions knows when to calm them and put them to bed. I’m looking for that strong person that can and will make decisions and be responsible for them, a person who makes these decisions with everyone’s needs in mind. Although I am strong and capable of being in charge; being in charge and/or cleaning up after those that were supposed to do the job isn't my cup of tea. I'm not looking to be someone's mindless, lack of value slave nor their maid. However, for the right person this strong woman would love to give up making decisions and being in control and make your happiness mine.
A man should be in charge of the household and his women. He should love and adore them and see to their happiness. She should serve him and see that he is followed so that all may be happy. It is a circular thing. A Master handles it or tells me the way to handle it and makes me feel at peace. I have no problem letting someone else make decisions, love it when they do. I just want them to do that and stand behind the decision that they do make and deal with the outcome. Don’t leave me figuring out how to make up for the loses all by myself. True hero’s are hard to find. You don’t need a life threatening challenge to show your true heroism. I need someone who likes that flowers are delicate and need to be protected as well as enjoyed. Women bring beauty, comfort, joy, love, kindness, emotional support, faith in their men, a shelter an escape from the hardships. In return we need protection, love, admiration, appreciation, guidance, and the faith in the strength of a man who will fight for us, champion us, take care of us, be our center. We are emotion/weakness they are the rock/foundation. Together we make a good balance and refortify and strengthen the other. Alone we are that which is half-unfinished, A home without a roof, A roof without a home. Life should never be complacent or dull when your with the one you love.
Dreams and Desires for the Future
I love traveling and love the tropics. I hope to escape to an island and live on a beach, own a tourist bar/hotel (kinky of course) someday. So anyone who wishes to start a relationship with me should have that as a passion as well and the means in which to get us there someday soon. I want to live where the weather other than being beautiful is only occasionally discussed. I would love to spend my retirement toodling around the world and exploring other places and cultures at a leisurely pace.
If your still reading then I'll assume you have decided that I will be worth taking the time to get to know and that I could respect and like you. Now lets see if beyond the basics who I am and what I desire in the lifestyle is also of interest to you.
Lifestyle & Kink
I love to be social and enjoy being involved in the community even though my shyness/bashfulness or sheer embarrassment can make me hide behind my hair or nearest friend. I have limited experience in the lifestyle as I have only answered to one Master in the 4 years I have known about the lifestyle and been active. However, I have read and explored and was brought here out of being recognized for my natural tendencies to please and serve. I'm learning that there are many things that I like. But Animalistic desire is top on the list. I need to feel desired, wanted, have to have from my Master/Mate/Play partner. I have a low level of pain tolerance so extreme physical sadist really need not consider me. Though that is growing all the time and now I am probably only a Candy ass level 3+ now. However, I am looking forward to having my limits pushed and my pain re associated with pleasure. I do love to sacrifice myself for others’ desires. I like sexual tension, energy and power exchange. I love to be forced as my personality (kink) works with it’s naughty. I love sensation play. I have to be someone's toy their canvas. I am a sensual-sexual-human being, I exist for sex. I desire sex, I will overcome fear for that drive. I guess I view myself as the terminal 18yr old innocent virgin always having to be corrupted and forced to accept her sexual side. Good little girls don’t talk dirty, naughty or curde; they are forced to succumb to the bodies naughty needs which a good Daddy/Dom/Top causes to take over their very good minds and it being naughty well that taboo makes it all the more hotter. I wish I could say I find myself worth being desired but unfortunately I do not. That being said the twist is I like to pretend that people desire me but also have an inability to deal with the attention I garner. I just don't know how to deal with the attention. It makes me shy and embarrassed. I love to sacrifice to give others pleasure so in a way though I hate the embarrassment and coping with the attention the giving of pleasure to someone else does excite me. I think of a Master as a Hero, a rock that takes the world away. I need to please him, be pleasing and a source of amusement to him. I like the zealous (Mine) attitude from the one who owns me. In moments (very small ones) I can become flirtatious then suddenly become uncomfortable with the attention and need to run and hide and feel protected from the attention I have suddenly found focused on me and from myself. I have a vivid imagination and inside it I can pretend that I am hot. But even if I'm not I can serve in such a way as to make others envious of how you get a girl to give so much so freely and desire to please you so deeply. They will want to know your secrets. I also twist that into believing that makes girls jealous and envious of me that I have a Master so great as to create that desperate desire to please him in me.
A man with me would need to think about sex constantly has to have several times a day and can wake at night with need. A man who finds the working of a woman's body and the training of her desires and body to be his deepest pleasure is the best kind of Man. If it is give me head give me head give me head and obey obey obey then you are way off course and will find that gets you nothing. If cumming is your only pleasure then find an easy whore. If you don't enjoy the sensation of just being in a woman and watching your control of her body then just move along. I want endless hours of torture that I can fight against and succumb to and yes even whine about.
I am extremely empathetic so your mood and attitude determine mine. I make connections with others that go beyond the norm. I attach to smell, feel, and even thought. It's been said that I anticipate people's needs sometimes before someone knows they have a need. I need to hear and feel your approval and pride in me. I am mental as well and if I cannot have an intelligent conversation with you ( I LOVE DEBATING) ***HATE ARGUING***I will lose passion and feel you lack interest in me. I want an active person as I tend to become to tucked away in my shell so like it when I have someone who can bring me out of my inner world and let me shine in the delights the world has to offer. I love people and have a passion for new things and challenges. I have many fears and yet I try so hard to overcome them. I need love and passion; I need to be desired and taken. I need a champion. Someone who believes being a Dom is a one-way street should look another direction. That is just selfish, arrogance and the ability to use another's gift of love and service against them. I'm still a lady and love being pursued as one. I have to know that I am adored and desired, that I am pleasing and bring a smile to other people's faces. Someone I trust with my money, my heart, my body – everything implicitly. A Daddy/Dom who enjoys seeing what he has created through his giving of pleasure that the pussy now craves him and can’t imagine anyone but him. I want a man who thinks about sex constantly has to have several times a day and can wake at night with need for me..
I used to have this whole false belief that I knew what I was looking for, wiser now I can admit that I now believe; one really doesn’t have a clue to what they may be looking for until they find it, me included. Being extremely empathetic makes it fairly easy to say, I either connect with you or I don't. It’s not about beauty but let’s face it we explore with our eyes. Unless we are blind it is the first sensation most of us depend on to begin exploring. However, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and has no one description. Love and empathetic connection (electrical impulses that resonate in a melodious way) can so blind us, thankfully. I am not the looney who will tell you I can read everyone. I don’t have some kind of sixth sense which tells me your future or even my own, damn it, giggle. What I do have is an overly sensitive system and one of the perks is to be able to feel the differing vibrations that the body puts out. People are water/chemicals/electrical impulses simplistically speaking. When you feel and think your body sends out chemicals and electrical impulses for which most of you fortunately are totally unaware. I unfortunately am not. So yes I smell things and feel things that might seem illusionary to many people but are part of everyday life to me. If I seem a little shy or nervous in groups especially small to medium groups it is the overwhelming sensations, I’m having to cope with; much like a claustrophobic person in an elevator full of people. I don’t need you to believe me or even be interested in it. It’s not like I go around trying to convince people, I’m just merely trying to explain my intuitiveness. I can also tell you that part of my ability to read people comes from an abusive past and is derived from a survival skill. So though I am a strong survivor and have over come much I am made up of what we all are, our own past experiences and our reactions to those experiences from our own perspective.
If your not totally asleep by now and your eyes are not cross or haven't said Geesh, or OH God one of those women; or perhaps and what part of her is a sub? Then at least we have a start. I’m a single mom so obviously busy. A lack of response is not necessarily a lack of interest. I do not like to give off handed responses and will often wait until I have the time to put together a decent reply; even if it is I just didn’t feel. I also am not going to answer silly questions that had you given enough effort to read you would have found in this very detailed, thought out, long, effort-giving profile. I believe that what a person puts into getting to know someone and the effort of pursuit gives a great deal of insight into how much effort he will put into someone once they are is his. I want the same amount of effort from someone that I am willing to give. So be forewarned, I’m a lady and want to be pursued as one.