BDSM 101
Are you a slave , submissive, or just a 'kinky' girlfriend.?.
 
 
(Without prompting)
Do you occassionally address your 'significant other' as "Master".?.
Do you ask your 'Master' where he is going and what he is doing.?.
Do you decide (instigate) when you have sex, where, and how.?.
Do you decide (direct) when you 'play', where you 'play', and how you 'play'.?.
Do you argue with your Master.?.
Do you definately show your Master when you are angry with him, sad about something he does (or does not) do.?.
Do you (most times) expect your Master to entertain you.?.
Do you 'accuse' you Master of small day-to-day things (not doing small things as you might do them, i.e cooking, straightening the house, laundry, making a small mess).?.
Do you 'complain' of small day-to-day things your Master does (i.e. driving to slow, too fast, leaving on lights, turning off lights).?.
Do you 'accuse' (complain to) your Master of not 'playing' enough (or 'playing' too much).?.
Do you 'accuse' (complain to ) your Master of not enough sex (or too much sex).?.
Do you (always) cheerfully 'obey' your Master in ALL things.?.
Do you tell (small) lies (fibs)(colorized truths) to your Master (i.e. "Nothing is wrong", "I'm alright", etc).?.
 
(Now a BIGGIE)..
 
Do you say "No.!." to your Master.?.
 
Think this through.. Could your answers indicate that you may not be a slave.?. (Maybe only a submissive.?. Or just a 'kinky' girlfriend.?.)

This is about you not your 'significant other'..
He might be a Master, but you don't see it in him..
He might be a Dominant, but you see him otherwise..
He might be a 'top' to your 'botom'..
Or, he might only be a kinky boyfriend..
 
These questions are not about him, but how you see (in reality) yourself.. You reactions to him, what you show him you are.. What you show other that you are..
Maybe the answers you have to these questions and others cause you to doubt your own statis of yourself..

What do you SAY you are.?.
Are you a slave.?.
Are you a submissive.?.
Are you a kinky girlfriend.?.
What do you want to be.?.

You try to be what you preceive that you are..
Maybe now, after thinking of these questions and YOUR real answers, you think you are different than you first thought..
Why.?.
Why not really talk with your 'significant other'.?. Discuss what you may see as some faults YOU may have.. See what he sees about who and what you are.. (Often times others can see you much more clearly than you can yourself..)

If any of these questions have bothered you (or the real answers you see), why not try to better them.?. (It's not too hard to do..)
 
...Do you occassionally address your 'significant other' as "Master".?.
Address Him as he should be more often.. Make a conscious choice to do so...
 
...Do you ask your 'Master' where he is going and what he is doing.?.
You ask this outloud, why not answer it outloud to yourself and him with something like "Your my Master (Dominant), you do not have to say where you are going or what are you doing."
 
...Do you decide (instigate) when you have sex, where, and how.?.
When you realise this, why not appologize and then ASK if he will.. And accept his decision, even if it is not as you would choose..
Or if in the middle of sex, relax, enjoy his enjoyment, and accept what he does, how he does it, and everything he decides..
 
...Do you decide (direct) when you 'play', where you 'play', and how you 'play'.?.
The same as with sex..
 
...Do you argue with your Master.?.
When you are in disagreement, why not STOP.?. You stop.. Let him be right.. If you agree with him, you do not necessarily say that you are wrong.. Nor that he is wrong.. (The old saying of "Master is always right" applies, -maybe he is right but you simply can not see it because you are angry.. Or maybe you are right, but he can not see it because he is angry.. By stopping and agreeing, you can defuse a situation)..
 
...Do you definately show your Master when you are angry with him, sad about something he does (or does not) do.?.
If he says "Stop.!." and you do, you defuse a situation..
 
...Do you (most times) expect your Master to entertain you.?.
If you see yourself as a slave, isn't a slave supose to do the entertaining.?. So entertain him.. If as a submissive, many times the same applies.. If a kinky girlfriend, maybe he is too tired or distracted, as you could be at times..
 
...Do you 'accuse' you Master of small day-to-day things (not doing small things as you might do them, i.e cooking, straightening the house, laundry, making a small mess).?.
...Do you 'complain' of small day-to-day things your Master does (i.e. driving to slow, too fast, leaving on lights, turning off lights).?.
Do you 'accuse' (complain to) your Master of not 'playing' enough (or 'playing' too much).?.
Is he better than other Master's, Dominants, or boyfriends you have had.?. Does he treat you well.?. Is your joy with him better than without him.?.
If not, why are you with him.?.
If so, do you also praise him as equally.?. Why not try doing so occassionally.?.
 
...Do you 'accuse' (complain to ) your Master of not enough sex (or too much sex).?.
Maybe the 'timing' is a bit off, between the two of you.?. Try talking and discussing..
 
...Do you (always) cheerfully 'obey' your Master in ALL things.?.
Why not.?. Maybe by doing so you defuse things.. Maybe speak outloud to yourself and your Master, "You are my Master and I will obey, even if I don't want to right now"..
 
...Do you tell (small) lies (fibs)(colorized truths) to your Master (i.e. "Nothing is wrong", "I'm alright", etc).?.
Be honest and truthful.. Discuss.. Communicate.. Maybe he needs to know, otherwise he might not have asked.. But isn't it a good thing that he asks occassionally rather than not.?. Doesn't that show that he cares.?.
 
 
...Do you say "No.!." to your Master.?.
If you are a slave, appologize immediately and respond with a cheerful "Yes, Master.!."
If you are a submissive or kinky girlfriend, is your Dominant's (or boyfriend's) command so outragous.?. If not, why not say "Yes, Sir.!." (You may find yourself in an enjoyable situation..

What is wrong with some people on collar me.. Can they not read.?. W/we have to meantion in each response and introduction mail "READ O/our profile"..

W/we are a COUPLE..

W/we are seeking a slave (sub)..

W/we are seeking females..

How much simpler can it get.?.