Since I have been on this site I have read my share of profiles and have seen numerous references to fake and phony men.  In vanilla relationships you have the same, you have the players, the smooth talkers, the ones who are afraid to commit, the list goes on.  Having said that what do people really expect to find on a site with a lifesyle that most would agree is based around sexual need in most peoples mind.  This lifestyle is not about building a life, a family, long term security, it's about for the most part inner sexual need and fantasy.  Yes for some it is their life, they have built a solid and lasting relationship, but I am sure they didn't get there without first sifting through the unwanted experiences.

 People shop for houses, they love the look on the outside but when they look around on the inside they find its not a fit for them no matter how much curb appeal it had, so they move on to the next.  Eventually they find one, and althought it may not be exactly what they pictured in their mind what they wanted, they do find it is a good balance between want and need.  This life for most, especially men is fantasy.  Where else are you going to find so many women who are willing to give of themselves as they do in the D/s lifestyle.  After all is said and done, after you have finished your scene, had your sex, put away your toys and leather, there is still real everyday issues  and real emotions that have to be dealt with on a daily basis.  Not only do we need to find a compatible lifestyle partner, but also we need to be sure that person also shares our same goals for future life and survival.

The high and intensity from the scene only last so long, then real life kicks in again.  Look for your partner with that in mind.

People say life is hard, that's because we aren't learning the lessons it's trying to teach us.  Life pushes us, challenges us.  Life teaches us how to recognize the things we should go after and the things we need to leave alone.  Life pushes us to our limits and beyond to teach us that as individuals, we can do whatever we decide to do if we stick to it and don't give up, no matter what you had to go through to achieve it.  Life teaches us not to be stagnant, but to always find ways to grow.  Life gets hard because we refuse to learn it's lessons, refuse to take it's advice, refuse to see it's red flags.  We refuse to see that life is our guide on that path called our purpose.  Some of us will never reach our purpose because we don't respect life and it's lessons and direction.  The only way to succeed with life is to go back and learn the lessons it was teaching us from our failures.

About me and what I am searching for.

I am a strong believer in taking my time to ensure that I not only get what I want, but also what I need.  I am in no rush to meet anyone or place the symbolic collar around one's neck.  I will take my time to get to know you, the good and the bad, that is the wise thing to do is it not?  When people first meet they have on that mask, that perfect persona, always showing what is good, but over time the mask begins to peel away and you begin to see the whole picture, the real person behind it all.

I am not going to sit here and say what type of Dom I am, if I am this or that, spend some time talking with me and in time you will know for yourself and also know if I am the right one for you and also if you are right for me.  Time has a sure way of making all things clear.  Time will show you who is in it with you for the duration and who is just there long enough to suck what they can from you and move on.  In my life time has been a perfect friend to me, has never let me down.  So if your interested in getting to know me, meet my friend time.

I am looking for a woman who is a girl at heart, who is looking for someone to love, care for, and nurture her like a father would.  I am not looking for someone who role-plays, who speaks in baby talk or little girl talk, and pretends to be someone they know they aren't inside.  I want someone who is searching for her Daddy, who needs him to help her understand that need she has for him inside of her and to grow with him.  I am looking for a long term relationship, I am not looking for one night stands etc.  

I am not looking for a so called brat. I am not looking for someone who is ready to relocate after acouple of conversations.   I am not looking for someone who likes to push buttons to see what kind of rise she can get out of you.  I am not looking for someone who acts like she cannot function in reality on her own and needs her every thought and move controlled and monitored,  I have have other aspects of my life that need attention, like making a living.  I am no looking for someone that needs contact every 30 minutes, again, I have my life to maintain and believe me when I do spend time with you it will be with you and only you.  When you are my focus nothing else will matter.  I am not looking for someone who is insanely jealous and or possessive.  I don't need someone who reads into things that aren't there and ready to go off at the drop of a hat for no valid reason.  If you have a temper or anger problems because of past hurts and relationships, I am not for you and I will not try to establish a relationship if I will constantly be compared with the faults of a lesser person.  It's about trust and letting me build on my own merits.  If you have insurmountable trust issues, stop here and move on,  I don't want to waste your time or mine.  

I am not a so called bad boy or thug and I speak, as the saying goes, the Kings english.  I am a professional man and seek one who understands and appreciates that.  I am only looking for one person.  I am not here to stack up women and play emotional games.  I find the right women, and all my time, attention, and focus is on you, and I will expect the same.  I hope this entry gives more insight into who I am and what I am seeking.  If you want to know more, message me.

Thank you for reading this,

D4D