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Dad4SonOrSlave

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Keeping it simple in a complex world. I seek one good boy age 18 to 35ish to become mine in heart mind and soul. I am serious about wanting a boy, you do not need to be a total slave. I am not interested in a sexual only slave.

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11/19/2023 4:02:20 PM

Being a Dominant is not like the military where rank assumes obedience. The “rank” of Dominant or Master is not assumed by the Dominant but bestowed by a submissive.

This is important because it cuts to the heart of why a Dominant has the authority to give “orders” in the first place. A Dom only has power because he has been granted that power by the submissive. And a submissive grants that power to someone he respects, trusts, desires, and believes has his best interests at heart.

He grants it to someone with whom he feels completely safe and protected. So yes, I as a Dominant do in fact give orders. But my orders are not simply motivated by desire for blind obedience but are often targeted at a higher purpose. Sure, often they are for my personal pleasure. But they are also designed to instill knowledge, establish norms of behavior, set expectations for performance, and above all, challenge my sub to be the best person he can possibly be both in and outside our relationship.

They are also designed to similarly challenge me. I always strive to be a better person, a better partner, a better Dominant, and have our mutual interests always at heart.

Being a Dominant is less about assuming authority than being a leader.

A leader earns the right to lead.

My sub gives me all the power I have as a Dominant.

What I do with that power is up to me. But if I use it unwisely or selfishly, it will evaporate and my sub will opt to vote with his feet.

D/s is, after all, a consensual agreement between two free persons and thus can be terminated when one or the other is not satisfied.

D/s and even M/s are not true slavery, even when we choose to call it that.

Ultimately, the submissive decides who will be his leader or if he will take on a leader at all.

It is that decision that empowers the Dominant, and that decision is earned, not taken.


12/29/2022 6:56:59 PM

I'ts not my job to be likable, I'ts my job to be myself, and the right people will gravitate.


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shanville
 
 Age: 19
 London, United Kingdom