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Hello all.
UPDATE: I've found what I've been looking for all this time.
I better put a disclaimer here. I am a straight female with bi tendencies. If you have questions about this, please ask.
I'm here, seeking friends and whatever more can come of it. I am going through some changes in my life and while I know my Dominant is out there, trying to find me, I am in need of practice, so I am seeking friends and scene partners. Good friends are hard to find and besides, who knows, one of those good friends may end up being my Dominant. It takes time, you know.
If you are married or otherwise attached, please be up front about it. I will chat with you but I will not cover your a$$ and protect your spouse from finding out. It is YOUR responsibility to be honest. My listing as a switch and bi does NOT mean I am looking for a threesome, so if that is what you are looking for, please look elsewhere.
I suppose I should explain what I am looking for. I am looking for a Dominant, not a sub at this time. I am looking for a R/T Dominant who is well balanced in himself, so that he relates to me in an emotionally healthy way. I am a switch, after all, and I can easily follow His guideance, but it must be tempered with understanding and love. I am who I am and although I may change daily, our acceptance of one another and open honest communication is mandatory. The gift I give is the most precious one I have.
(Yes, my picture looks like I am wearing a collar, but I am not collared at this time. It's an old picture.)
I am very busy, so if you send me a message and I do not reply right away, please be patient. (I know it's hard to be patient) I will reply to any appropriate message I get, sooner or later.
Other than that, please look at the rest of the info about myself and feel free to msg me.
DX
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Amazing as it sounds, I was not looking for anyone... (as a matter of fact had become very happy being alone) and KAZOW! There He is! Suddenly He is standing in front of me, neither of us expecting anything other than friendship and the next thing we knew, He had found the way behind my walls and found the submissive part of me. He cherishes me and I see it every day.
See?? Luck loves a lady tonight! |
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I am far from a perfect person. I am not looking for a perfect person. I am, however, looking for someone who wishes to improve His life and Himself and works at it, just as I work at improving mine.
I'd like to work side by side with someone, rather than working alone, but alone is what I will do until that One person shows himself in my life.
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Seeking a new experience, but I can only do so with someone I trust in control of the situation. I have not yet found one of my trusted friends who are willing to take me under their wing for the experience I desire, but am still hopeful.
I am moving 10/1/07 and may not internet for a while, so if you wish to reach me, now is the time.
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Those who know me know I do not do well with abusive people. It makes no difference if the abuse is physical, emotional, mental or sexual.... abuse is abuse.
Why are so many people abusive? Why do so many people need to hurt others to make themselves feel good? What the hell happened to this world?
Time to move on and keep trying to make things better. |
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I'll say a little more about me now. I've been active in the lifestyle for 7 years this month. I've had 2 terrible experiences with people I met online, so I'm very skeptical of online meetings. I've been active in my local kinky community for 4 years now and have come to the conclusion that it's important for the people I know there to know the man I am dating. They can see red flags where I often will act like an ostrich and bury my head in the sand, so the man I date must be ok with being in the local community to at least some degree.
I'm looking for someone who is strong enough to deal with my strong personality, yet someone who understands that relationships are work, who understands that you have to make the sub happy to have her WANT to please you and it's an ongoing process. It's a daily thing.
I do have panic attacks, which makes it hard for me to be alone, but I've been doing this alone for the past 4 years. I'm very grateful to my roommates for understanding my panic attacks and being willing to be there when they hit. I also have fibromyalgia, which makes it tough to do SM play well, but I"ve found ways around that.
I have found different people for different things. I have my fire play person, my singletail person, etc. It would be nice to have one person who could do it all, but so far I haven't found that one. Maybe it's too much to expect, but the man for me will be willing to allow me to do scenes with those I trust if he isn't capable of doing them for me.
Poly does not mean a threesome. Poly means multiple loves. Poly is something I am interested in, but it's not required.
I guess that's enough about me for now.
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Do you have any idea how often I've heard "IT isn't you, it's me"?
Well guess what, it's starting to sound like a broken record.... and I'm tired of this tune..
If you are real and can tell me upfront about your baggage, then let's chat and see if anything develops.....
Dx
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I'm so tired of people who talk the talk but can not walk the walk......... it's getting depressing.
I met someone tonight that I feel I should introduce to a good friend of mine, even though I'd like Him for myself....
Do you know how hard it is to give up a wonderful man because you think someone else would possibly be better for him?
Again, I am alone..... waiting for that right one.
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Were you there? I had a wonderful time at the BBQ yesterday. Over 100 people running around in various states of undress... Terrific views, scenes to watch, great friends to chat with!
What a wonderful way to spend a day - and it wasn't even as hot as the 2 previous years were.
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What is it about life? I moved from the NW suburbs to the NE suburbs and got a job in the NW suburbs...
What is it that I really want? I don't even know right now... mostly to meet people who are real, who can say what they know and what they do not know honestly and who are willing and not intimidated by someone who may have more knowledge than them... at least I can steer people in the right direction.
Ok, I'll admit that I am a nympho but I am selective also. I want someone to show that I (me) am important, not just a piece, so maybe I'm not a nympho, but just horney. Who knows... all I can say is that I'm tired of masturbation, but I am willing to do so when I feel the need, rather than pick up someone I don't want. Those that I want, I want to be willing to wait until the time is right.
Is it the right time now?
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Doesn't life send us on some strange journey's? Sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing. |
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7/6/07 - I and 2 people who are dear to me tried to start a poly but due to multiple extenuating circumstances, we were not able to make things work at this time........ I love them and wish them well. I can not say what will happen in the future, but I will say that I decided to back away as it hurt me more to feel left out in the cold and that was how I was feeling... Less important or valuable than her and I know I am not, therefore, if you really want someone who is a valuable, knowledgeable sub/switch, someone who is mainly het with occasional bi tendencies, then feel free to contact me. My listing as switch and bi does not mean that I am seeking a threesome, so if that is what you want, please seek elsewhere. I am looking to be in a relationship where I will be cherished as the sub in me should be. |
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A wizard must have placed a spell on me..
I'm not sure what life would be like without him.
Please wish us luck. |
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You come pick me up on your harley, I'll bring a towel... |
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Oh a tough time... My mistakes are coming back to bite me and I wish I had some friends to get out and do things with or have over or whatever.
I'm feeling emotional tonight and the one feeling that I am feeling the most is the missing companionship of other people around.
Isn't there anyone here in the Twin Cities feeling lonely and wishing they had more friends? Or is it just me tonight?
Oh well, hope to hear from you. |
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The Lady and the Tramp -
I'm looking for something a little different at this time. A friend and I would like to find a M/F couple who are into both bdsm and would be willing to switch partners for play and sex.
If you have an interest, send me a message and we can chat to see if it could work out.
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You know... it's hard to get yourself out of trouble once you get into it. I have a long road ahead, as I am sure others do, but I've come to realize that the only way I can fail is to give up on myself.
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Wow... What a ride life has given me. You know, it's true... you learn from everything life throws at you and you become a stronger person, perhaps, as in my case, finding a deeper part of yourself along the way.
Many thanks to all of those who had a hand in my becoming who I am today. I really believe that I have never been happier with who I am than I am today. I grow with each passing day, becoming more confident, more informed and more in touch with myself.
While I am not *back* online at this moment, I should be within a month or so, so please be patient with me. If you send me a message, I"ll try to get to it as soon as possible.
Be well everyone.
dx/Ms Liberty
*Watch out everyone, I'm coming back strong* TeeHee |
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Ahhhhh, the beginning of a new year... a new start, a fresh start. The boys are hangin in fine with me and the girls??? Well lets just say that they are fun to have around also.
I wish for each of you a life filled with love, happiness and trust (and trysts).
Happy New Year!
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If it's after Sept 2006 and you are reading this, know that I will be away for a while. Expect that I will be getting back to you in December sometime.
In the mean time, wish me luck, please.
Hugs to you all.
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It's coming down to nothing more than empathy...
Yes, starting my journal with another line from a song. If they are stuck in my head, you all get to hear them.
Just as my last entry said, "Unwritten" - oh how I feel that right now. I am starting over, in all aspects of my life and I feel so good about it. I think it is time. Oh life is good.
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Unwritten...
That is so true... all of our futures are unwritten... it's up to us to be open to the possibilities that are out there and yet be aware of the negative things that can happen.
As Ani D. so gracefully said... ""i am a work in progress; dressed in the fabric of a world unfolding; offering me intricate patterns of questions; rhythms that never come clean; and strengths that You still haven't seen"
i am a work in progress... I love learning about myself and my life. I have much to offer, and I have my issues, yet it is MY life to live.. for myself first, then for others.
My thanks go out to those who have helped me learn about this lifestyle. Especially the positive lessons I've had. May each one of them have blessings in life that they can not even imagine. |
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I've got pieces of April...
*for the youngsters, that was done by 3 Dog Night*
Detachment:
1. The act or process of disconnecting or detaching; separation.
2. The state of being separate or detached.
3. Indifference to or remoteness from the concerns of others; aloofness: preserved a chilly detachment in his relations with the family.
4. Absence of prejudice or bias; disinterest: strove to maintain her professional detachment in the case.
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a. The dispatch of a military unit, such as troops or ships, from a larger body for a special duty or mission.
b. The unit so dispatched.
c. A permanent unit, usually smaller than a platoon, organized for special duties
So many meanings to a single word. Does it not appear that meanings 3 & 4 are opposite from one another? 3 seems to be a judgemental statement whereas 4 specifically states absence of bias or prejudice.
Interesting that when they are discussing close relationships, the person in question is *chilly* and when they are discussing professional relationships it is simply disinterest, isn't it?
Let's all detach from the things in our past and move into the future with eyes wide open!
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and the beat goes on!!!
Why is it that I am into starting these kinds of things with pieces of a song??? (watch for a post starting with pieces of April)
It's been a long week and I am glad it is the weekend. I hope yours went well.
I'm enjoying my conversations with people. Thanks to all for writing.
DX
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Well, things have been going well since I went out on my own. I feel better about myself as I am no longer spending my time with people who continuously put me down. I have re-realized that I am a good person. Yes, I mean re-realized. I knew that before, it just went by the wayside for a short time. It's strange, but I always fight it when people try to make me feel bad about myself. I guess that is my self-preservation coming to the surface.
I wish to spend my time with positive people. Are you one?
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My horoscope for 8-3-06
It's time to move on when it comes to a past relationship. Yes, you two had a genuine connection, but your lives have taken you in diametrically opposite directions. It's time to accept that and live in the now.
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Well, it's been interesting.
I finally found work.
The guy who stood me up has more explaining to do, but I've decided that explaination or not, I just am not willing to subject myself to the way he is being, so while I plan to be polite and civil, that is all I plan to be.
The others who have bothered me so much in the past few months are no longer an issue.
It matters not what they say, what matters is what they do and they say one thing and live another and I just have no interest in staying around that kind of behavior.
Be careful when you care about a beast. Most of the time, it comes back to bite you.
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Well, what to say now? The One who stood me up apologized and gave me good reason, so we are going to give it another shot.
I had a wonderful day at the BBQ yesterday! Heat was about 100 and people were still willing to get involved. We had over 200 guests at the BBQ, one of the largest BDSM events in the area. I helped host the kinky Olympics, which was tremendous fun, then got to have a singletail scene with a very kind and generous young man.
It feels wonderful to be alive today!
DX
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I got stood up again tonight. No call, no sorry, nothing. What amazes me is that this man is going to have the courage to be at the same event that I will be at tomorrow.
I hope he realizes that he should not just walk up to me and start chatting like nothing happened.
I hate liars. There are too many people out there who are not what they seem to be. Is there anyone out there who is not a liar or a user? |
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I've been actively seeking employment with a number of options coming my way. I've done the interviews, so now it's just a matter of putting it in the hands of someone else and knowing what I can not change.
Life's been good to me. I've recognized my problem areas and am working on them.
I am not a perfect person, nor do I expect anyone I meet to be perfect, but honestly and honor go a long way.
Be well everyone!
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Well now. I always seems to amaze me that the very people who preach tolerance and admitting self wrongs are the same ones who can not seem to live what they preach.
Anyone else see that in life?
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It's been a long hard road, but I am here now. So many things have been going on. I've been learning more about life and people around me recently. Life is about love and caring. Life is also about being loved and cared for. It is not a one way street, nor is any coin one sided.
Life can throw you many curve balls, be sure you don't strike out swinging at them all. Look closely and only swing at those you think are going to cross the plate.
In my mind, the most important ingredient to a good relationship is taking time in the beginning to see if it is what you really want. Get to know the other person and learn about them and their ways before you jump into anything.
TAKE YOUR TIME! Trust is a fragile thing and when it is broken, it is almost impossible to mend.
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