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Under construction- pardon my dust >Cough! Cough!<
Let's not begin our acquaintance with anything other than candor. I am older, sturdily built... not thin...but not sloppy. I am scarred inside and out (ex-military); I am tattooed (ex-military). I have a faint Scottish accent (born outside the US, gets thicker the more relaxed, tired, drunk I get) and I have heard all of the Scottish/kilt/notoriously cheap jokes you think I haven't heard. I am well-spoken. I have a degree that says I'm an artist, and the depressingly non-artistic career that goes with that. I am loud, boisterous, occasionally sharp tongued and sometimes even a little harsh. Bu mhath leam gu faic mi thu a 'dol a bhualadh agus airson mo thlachd ...yes it's Scots Gaelic and you should ask me what it means...
I sing Irish/Scottish traditional music and occasionally compose poetry, I cook (quite well, I've been told), I fight in armor (SCA- heavy) and have been doing it since high school. I have lived in a lot of places and done a lot of things...always looking for a new challenge or experience. I like Calligraphy and Illumination because it helps me relax. I also like cats, snuggling, and football...and I hunt (for food) sometimes with a rifle, sometimes with a bow...sometimes with a spear. I run a small handcrafted leathergoods business-findable on Facebook under "Wolfhunter Leathercrafts".
I am married to my best friend and partner, we practice "Polyfilia" and we have absolutely no secrets from each other. In other words: I have a fantastic marriage to my best friend. I enjoy special friends outside of that.Be able to wrap your brain around it or be gone...I am done trying to explain why we work...we just do. I curate my frends' list pretty aggressively...I don't collect friends and I don't befriend people frivolously. MAKE NO MISTAKE: I am entirely open to play partners and long term submissive paramours...I take a while to trust . Not picky but careful.
I like women who like it rough. I am a sadist, but a sadist with a conscience. I like edgy play, discreetly public play. I like the thrill of maybe getting caught. I deeply enjoy bondage (but am not terribly turned on by rope), discipline and the occasional mindfuck. Play is not submission...but it's a step toward it. I believe that true submission is like "service": it's love/affection made visible. That takes time, trust...and patience. You should absolutely message me if :You're in the SCA, You want to workout or spar together,You can think of a reason why Henry Plantagenet( Henry fitz Empress or Curtmantle, father of Geoffrey, John Lackland and Richard I,called Lionheart) of England should have allowed any of his sons to live. You know what Pain Perdu is and you WANT it!! You are fond of homebrewed beer, You're the latest incarnation of Eleanor of Aquitane or Jane Seymour, Lucretia Borgia ... or possibly Erzebet Bathory. You want to get together. You play music, sing well or dance: middle eastern dancing, flamenco etc... You're kink positive in a submissive/service...but also kinda likes pain kind of way, or you're a full-on Masochist/painslut etc... , You're a geek/nerd. I don't care what fandom or what you geek about but if you're passionate about something, it's all good.
Btw, if you are of the genderqueer persuasion and you own, operate or co-exist with a penis; please be under thirty-five, smooth and very very passable. If you're gender female, but ideating male( which is a serious turn on for me) You must be slim to thick ( NOT FAT,or sloppy in any way) ,reasonably feisty, under thirty and passable at 10 feet. References for me are available from members of my friends list. BTW Helpful note: I am not a Nawashi...shibari does not impress or arouse me. If I have tied you up its for other reasons than I like the way you look tied up. I can think of other things to do with all that time.
1: Accept that I am who I am because of my flaws, experiences, training and be right with that. I can adapt within a limited range...but it takes work.
2:Kiss me...really kiss me.
3: Love books and knowledge as much as I do...and discuss what you are reading or learning with me.
4: Be funny for GODS sake. Geeky, slapsticky or dry and sharp...but be funny.
5: Intelligence is an aphrodisiac...the smarter you are the more turned on I will be.
6: Be creative. Have a craft or a talent or an art that you practice? Share it with me. Especially if you sing, dance or play an instrument.
7: Deal. Seriously, just deal. Don't let the ambient suckage make you nuts. No drama, no crise-des-nerfs...deal. Improvise, adapt, overcome.
8: Deal in facts and evidence. Be rational and direct. "Feels" will not alter my opinions or my course of action.\
On EVERY fetish site I have ever been on...every profile I have ever put up...I have included the following caveat : " Btw, if you are of the genderqueer persuasion and you own, operate or co-exist with a penis; please be under thirty five(closer to twenty five, smooth and very very passable." And , dear readers, can you guess how many@#$%^&*&^%$#@!! unsolicited messages I get from trans or genderqueer folks who do NOT satisfy those simple conditions? LOTS!! I sort of feel like I know how the ladies feel when completely incongruous messages from unsuitable , unlooked for or completely inappropriate suitors bombard them.
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