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The profile box. How does one sum up oneself in a tiny beige rectangle, without omitting or overlooking vital information? This could get long and involved.
I'm a confident, successful, laugh-out-loud hilarious, fond of commas, educated beyond usefulness, single (years and years divorced), tall-ish, clean cut, polite, sarcastic, self-aware, kind to old people and animals, and too modest to use a sentence like this often. I live alone. I have dogs, all rescue pups, who defend their yard like dogs who know what it's like to not have a yard. I drink Scotch, when I drink, single malt, please. I've been around the block a few dozen times, but I always find my way back home. I have no money problems, or excessive baggage to hold me back. I like the beach more than the mountains, summer more than winter, and late evening more than early morning.
I abhor drama and self-inflicted crisis. I'm generally low-key and emotionally stable, although traffic and blatant stupidity test that. Friends occasionally tell me I'm cynical, although I prefer the more accurate term, "realist."
I've been dominant since before I knew there was a word for it, or an internet to tell me. Almost every relationship I've been in, certainly every successful relationship, has been based in one way or another on D/s principles. Some were wild, some were mature and restrained, and each was different, although the common thread was that I led. In some cases this was negotiated, in some cases the dynamic evolved organically and naturally. I understand the dynamics of D/s, the realities, and the pitfalls. I have the time, attention, and means necessary to enter into a D/s relationship.
I've been a Daddy, I've been a pet owner, I've been a Sir, He-Who-Holds-The-Whip, and a trainer. In some relationships, I was all of the above, in others there was no need for titles or labels, we just were what we were. I have sensually sadistic tendencies. I am very touchy-feely, hands-on, and affectionate, when appropriate, and I can be a demanding son-of-a-bitch. I don't find that to be a contradiction.
I'm annoyed that I'm using the word "I" so frequently.
So, if you're still here, you're probably wondering, well, what does this guy want?
Glad you asked. I seek one who understands, who gets it, who knows what she is and what she needs to thrive and survive. That's not to say I expect experience in this form of relationship, only awareness. I value intelligence above education level. I believe any D/s relationship is determined by the people in the relationship, not anyone else. There is no BDSM rulebook, only the needs of the people who live inside the relationship. I am looking for a bond deeper and more colorful than plain vanilla can possibly provide.
My ideal woman/girl isn't ideal, most likely. She's needy. She functions best with rules and discipline. Her libido, like mine, is set permanently on Overdrive. She's not a gold digger, although she's wise enough to understand it's better to live well than poorly. Not to disparage gold diggers, I hasten to add, although that's a harsh term - I understand that for women, trading youth, beauty, and sexuality for security and position is something probably older than the Sphinx.
I'm not utterly unattractive and without charm, so, I have the opportunity to date without resorting to the internet. I don't, often, because I need something deeper, more meaningful, more ... more.
I have pictures, of course, which I choose not to post for several reasons. First, in the small place I live, I'm "somebody," and recognizable. Secondly, I'm not pretty, and I didn't get the photogenic gene in my DNA. Again, I'm not hideous, I don't think - I don't scare babies or break mirrors - but I'm aware that CM is sort of a meat market and I'm just not going to put myself through the "rate me" wringer. If you think we're a match, I'll be happy to provide numerous pics of myself in all my glory, and you can judge for yourself and assume the risk of that.
I'm not really available to relocate, unless you own a beachfront villa. Or a castle, I'd dig living in a castle. I do have animals, and obligations to elderly parents in this area, so for the most part I expect to live in central Virginia for the foreseeable future.
Questions? Just ask. I'm a nice guy, or so I always tell people.
-A
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