"Submission" is not a thing in itself. It is a relationship.

"Submission" is not simply to be taken or assumed by a man who thinks he is dominant. It is to be won by a man who proves himself worthy to lead, guide, care for, and then "use" a woman, serving her needs and desires as well as his own.

Trustworthiness and care are at the heart of "dominance".

Not all women are submissive, and submission can mean many different things, and may relate to all of a woman's being or simply to one limited aspect of her life. Everyone is different, unique.

True dominance means true service to the submissive.

I have experience as a Dom but am gentle and considerate in nature, as well as playful and exploratory. Not so much into pain for its own sake, not into extremes, more into exploring sensuality within the context of Dominance/submission. Submission is a gift bestowed, and should be won, not assumed. I am straight. Anyone interested in discussing and demystifying submission and bdsm as forms of sexual expression that can serve both parties? I have a professional occupation, live in the countryside, read a lot, and enjoy good classical and contemporary music.