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My concept of a DDlg relationship.
Hm where to start, I guess need is a good place. I have a strong need to be a daddy dom, not just a good Daddy dom but the best for the right submissive. Little girls are my joy, its hard to descried, but I need joy in my life and my most favorite joy in the world is playing with a little girl. I also like to think that a part of my strong need to be a daddy, a good daddy is my father. He was the best father possible, then add in two strong grandfathers and I had excellent role models, its to honor them.
I have a strong core values that I strive each day to achieve. My core value is that of a gentleman. I know that sounds old fashion and somewhat corny, but not to me. Its my core value, see they just dont make them like me anymore.
My definition of a gentleman, hard to say in words so I will tell you my actions and let you decide. I guess as a start is respect, I give respect, I give respect to everyone I met, clerks, waitress, employees, bosses, the truck drivers on the highway, each is worthy of my respect. They get my respect each and every day until they do something to tell me otherwise. For my respect, well I expect it back, and most all the time I get it back.
So how does one be a good daddy? Well for one, pick the proper little girl is a start. This I have done poorly in the past, thats one reason I am writing this. If I give you a glimpse into what I conceive of a dominate relationship you can better judge if you want any part of my life. The sub holds all the power, the dominants authority is vested solely in the submissive consent. Its in my best interest and your safety that I explain as clearly as I can.
The core of this or any other relationship, at least I believe so is Intimacy. Sex, punishment, a degree of control, all are s of intimacy. What about, lets say the lesser things, you may not view as intimacy? Well lets call them connections to start. I am a retired military officer, one of the things I miss the most is being a mentor. I am very good at this, and view it as a daddys role to advise, in, and teach his little girl and seeing as I want to be the best daddy I can, I will savior my time with you, teaching. This can be done at several levels, todays politics, the secret why American is divided, or, to how to fix the bathroom toilet, beyond that is, here hold this flashlight. Whats going on at work? How can I help, if nothing else provide a different prospective. This to me this is all intimacy. How much intimacy is in my little girls eyes, is this filling a basic need she has?
So how do I achieve being a good daddy? For me I see the power exchange element of a dom sub relationship as the beginning. A frame work of sorts. As a good daddy I establish protocols of conduct. The expected sub behavior is different depending on the situation. Take interactions between an adult daughter and her Daddy, say seeking advice on getting a new car. That interaction is completely different than play time. Both the sub and the dom respect each other at all times. The sub is submissive at all times. Not so submissive that she cannot say, OMG Daddy sometimes you are dumber than a box of rocks! My end goal is to complete you as a person, brush off your rough edges and you brush off mine. Ok hard to explain this one.
I use control, the control I am freely granted, and in the specific areas of your live I am given leave to exercise that control. Daddys have a place and I stay in that place. The sub cannot feel smothered, cannot feel threatened. Not what I am looking for at all. Daddys stay in their place, just how large and dominate is that place is dependent on the sub, and their needs not the dom.
Well a quick overview of my very broad outlines of a BDSM relationship. Specific details are worked out, as each sub is a unique individual as each Dom. What our relationship will look like is solely depended on upon use as a couple, not rules in a rule book.
Ok honestly this sounded a lot better inside my head. Its hard to express one hearts desire when the only tool is a keyboard.
I am a gentleman and I am looking.
Be well, be safe and good luck.
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