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Reboot: I've changed again, as chaos goddesses tend to do. Hopefully, my profile will be easier to understand. Call me Virgin. ? Non-binary QTWOC. I identify as a demigoddess (she/her) or warrior prince (she/her). I'm very into queer theory and social justice. If we can talk about consent culture and radical liberation at length, we will get along famously. If these things bore you, be careful. I take my activism more seriously than my happiness, and my happiness is much more important to me than relationships. I am poly, and will never choose one person to legally marry. I will not knowingly be an accomplice to deceit within a monogamous relationship. That is to say: I will not be kept a secret from anyone's partner. My dignity will not allow it.
I am aromantic. Google it. ? Straight, cis people probably won't interest me in the slightest. If you're straight, cis, and absolutely cannot live without a chance with the illustrious Virgin, we can talk about a rigorous training process. Do not expect to enjoy it.?
? If you would like to read this profile in its original entirely, you may do so here: http://crowdagger.tumblr.com ? How to catch my interest: i. Be interesting. Have interests, aspirations, and philosophies to tell me about. Ask me to do something exciting with you. ii.State your desires and intentions plainly, and in a respectful, articulate manner.? ? ? ?How to apply for slavery:

i. Send me a very polite message including your full name, preferred pronouns,life aspirations, and summary of my profile.
ii. Make a display of trust such as linking me to a Facebook profile or making a coffee date with me.
iii. Interview.

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5/7/2014 2:43:01 PM

Emasculation is not necessarily feminization. 


12/3/2013 1:09:27 PM

On The Subject of Male Entitlement Within The Kink Community

 Anita Eve Crowdagger

 

 

     Before delving into an analysis or critique of male entitlement within the kink community, it is necessary to define male entitlement in a way that may be consistently used and understood throughout this text. For the purpose of this entry, male entitlement can be defined as the tendency of male-identified individuals to feel and act entitled to (or deserving of) women's time, spaces, and emotional regard. It is important to understand that male entitlement is not a phenomena whereby male-identified individuals spontaneously develop unwarranted expectations concerning the actions and roles of women. Rather, the idea that men are deserving of any woman's time, space, or energy is taught on over and covert levels. Examples of male entitlement can be found in virtually every literary work concerning topics of romance. Many men ask themselves and others: Do I not deserve to be in love? Shouldn't I get the girl? Fundamentally, such sentiments reduce women to rewards and achievements. The very notion that any person can be deserving of love or attention hinges, arguably, upon entitlement to the attentions and emotions of others.

     That having been said, male entitlement often manifests is less articulated ways. Take, for instance, the classic hypothetical instance of a teenage boy pleading his partner for sexual favors. Society has equipped him with a number of pleas and tactics. Perhaps the lack of ejaculation will be painful for him. He can hardly help his arousal after all, can he? Perhaps he may insist that he cannot contain his affection or attraction. Perhaps he will simply initiate contact without consent. After all, stealing kisses is a romantic gesture which reinforces the notion that our society worships men who take rather than receive.

     For another example, consider the hypothetical scenario of a submissive-identified man petitioning a woman for domination. He has been socialized to take the first move and does so. In this instance, the Domme rejects his advances. Why is it that in many cases, the submissive man insists upon being paid attention to or even demands that the woman in question reconsider? Male entitlement is a behavioral pattern which men are brainwashed into adopting through osmosis in the patriarchal culture. Submission, however, is often a conscious choice and must be intentionally learned. Even 'natural submissives' are not born knowing all of the ways in which people hold power, nor are they taught to analyze such a complicated issue. Without learning to understand boundaries and autonomy from a feminist scope-or, rather, without unlearning casual misogyny which teaches men to assume that women are present to complete their personhood or improve their life experiences- men, submissive or otherwise, are prone to overstep these boundaries. 

       Entitled submissives, it is worth noting, are nor primarily problematic because of their role. They are problematic because any man feeling or acting entitled to a woman's space or energy without her consent poses a serious threat to the liberation of women, and other demographics subjugate by the patriarchy. Furthermore, if a man cannot truly understand his privilege, he can never truly surrender the whole of his power to another individual. Quite simply, a submissive man who cannot take 'no' for an answer is both a misogynist and an unsuitable submissive. 

     

 


11/10/2013 4:10:17 PM

Travel Plans:

 

I'm back in Gainesville.

 

I wish to be in Atlanta near the 15th of December I will be spending the end of the month and New Years in Middle Tennessee. People in/near Atlanta and Nashville should hit me up.


10/25/2013 10:19:50 AM

I am definitely a 24/7 activist. I am always on the clock as a driving force of change and social awareness. Everything is political-- especially kink.


10/22/2013 9:12:04 AM

Why I Won't Help You Cheat On Your Wife

 

     People change. Situations change. Desires, needs, and abilities change. This is the nature of the universe. Change is the constant. Thus is follows naturally that two or more people who are compatible may become incompatible over the course of a lifetime. This doesn't mean that we stop loving our partners. We simply become ill suited for one another--sometimes, not always. Sometimes time is all it takes to erode a marriage. Sometimes, there's nothing one can do to stop oneself from becoming incompatible with one's partner.

     However, there is a lot one can do to be respectful,appropriate, and wise. I often hear from married men that their wives dissatisfy them; that said wives to not fulfil their wants and needs; that their wives simply do not understand what they are going through. This tells me many things. First, it tells me that these men expect their needs and wants to be met by an outside source-- a foolish and ubiquitous expectation. Those who search for fulfilment outside themselves will only spread their emptiness. Secondly, this sentiment tells me that these men feel entitled, as though it is the obligation of their wives to fulfil their desires and needs. The logic follows that if she isn't upholding her marital duties, he's hardly obligated to uphold his: honesty, faithfulness, communication. Thirdly, the sentiment tells me that these husbands either fail to communicate properly, or they believe their wives are stupid and incapable of understanding complex emotions.

        I will not sleep with a man who is not capable of negotiating the terms of a relationship and sticking to them. I will not dominate or own such a man. This is because I respect myself and am wise enough to know that if a man cannot do so with his wife he cannot do so with me. I will not sleep with a man who would rather betray the trust of his wife than terminate his marriage. This is because I know he is obviously prone to lie rather than to lose what he has--even when he knows he cannot truly honour his marriage contract. I know this because he is demonstrating exactly this by cheating on his wife. I will not sleep with a man who will blame me for his lack of fulfilment. I know he will treat me this way because he has treated his wife this way. I will not sleep with a man who disrespects those he dislikes, because I am wise enough to know that a man with no sense of decorum toward his enemies will ultimately falter in his sense of decorum toward his loved ones. And I know that a man who betrays his loved ones of times past will betray me in the present.

     That having been said, I will sleep with men who have told their wives they wish to explore polyamory and that it's either polyamory or divorce--but only if they're willing to be divorced if that's a problem.

     Most importantly: I'm too good to be anyone's back-door concubine. You simply can't convince me that a man worships the ground I walk on, values me above all else,and truly belongs to me while keeping his wife oblivious is the most important rule of our relationship. His wife deserves better. I deserve better. And,honestly, if a man doesn't have the courage to face loneliness, he isn't worth my time.

     So, if you're a married man whose wife knows about me, that's wonderful. If you're a married man who is separated from his wife, fine. If you're a married man attempting to cheat on your wife with me: I think you're spineless, and I hope she leaves you.

Love,

Eve

 


10/21/2013 1:14:32 PM

Mercury is retrograde. Nothing is right.


10/10/2013 4:03:54 PM

I am back in Gainesville, and feeling rejuvenated. 


9/14/2013 9:41:03 AM

I will be attending Work Hard Stay Hard at IDA, and Fall Gathering at Short Mountain. Therefore, I doubt I shall have access to the internet until the second week of October. If anyone plans on attending and recognizes me, please don't hesitate to say so.


9/2/2013 1:01:54 PM

   Let us make every community an intentional community. Let us make every relationship a custom-made, properly negotiated relationship. 

   I believe strongly in the importance of explicit communication and  consensus- especially where skewed power dynamics are present. This expands beyond the importance of reaching agreements concerning decorum and power levels within BDSM relationships. This expands to platonic (friend), queerplatonic (friendship which differs from social norms), romantic, and sexual relationships. I know people I would beat, but never sleep with. I know people I would sleep with, but never kiss. There are times I would be willing to take on a slave for a month only. We, as creatures of awareness, can do better than procuring and enacting vague roles with one another. We can and should custom-build every interaction.

    TBC.


7/20/2013 7:54:28 AM

To own another person is to accept that person's autonomy and, with it, responsibility for them. It is a statement that the sum of their personhood is valuable enough to warrant a desire for possession. To own a human being is to provide them the ultimate sense of belonging. Within my possession, I should hope, my slaves know the feeling of being at home and secure in the knowledge that they are wanted. Even the ones who are treated harshly and are humiliated constantly; especially those slaves. I only own splendid things.


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 Age: 36
 Atlanta, Georgia