Whats the most degrading name you have ever been called, or the most degrading thing you have ever had to do, or had written on you?  I am looking for the most degrading of degrading, to expose my slut to.  All suggestions/comments welcome, and those that are used, will be rewarded accordingly.

Thank you all in advance!

  -D-

There seems to be a large influx of fakes making their way into CM lately - I know that most of the site are fakes, but all of these "newbies" that have been popping up lately seems to be in a larger quantity than normal...

Crossroads...

  Until recently, I would have described myself as a "helpful Dominant" - meaning, I was kind, sweet, caring, would tie the rope off when a sub said "ow"...sensual...

  But I have come into my true self lately - being a true sadist.  Not that I don't enjoy the sensual from time to time, but like sensual play and vanilla play have started to become one with me - a meager part of my life.  What I want... someone that craves pain...humiliation...objectification...servitude.  Someone who can lead a very "normal" life, as it appears to others, but also takes a good breast, ass, and thigh slapping without notice.  Someone who can be pushed to her limit, and the next second, return to "normalcy".  Someone who isn't afraid of hitachi wands, mousetraps, and pliers...

  So we're going to try something new here - it seems that many people have at least one burning question that they would love to ask a Dominant.  I am looking to collect these questions, and in return for you submitting your question, and allowing me to post the question in a future journal entry, along with others that I receive, I'll reply back to your question, with 100% honesty.  Nothing is too taboo or personal, and it doesn't matter about demographics, sex, sexual preference, or experience. 

Don't hold back - I want to hear the burning questions that you all have!!

-D-

Question #1:

Provided by blackrose-

My question (which is not directed at you of course, but dominants in general): Why do dominant feel that they can be verbally and mentally abusive in the place of offering protection and guidance to the one that serves them.

That's a great question- and it's honestly a very simple one. A Dominant will only be verbally and mentally abusive if they are insecure about themselves, and also do not understand how to gain respect and trust from a submissive. Instead of taking the time to get to know the submissive, they would rather make the submissive feel small and inferior, and sometimes frightful, so that they will do as they say, instead of the proper way of getting to know the submissive and forming an actual dialogue to see if there are common interests.

Shorter answer: Because they are insecure, wannabe, fake Dominants. But don't worry - not everyone on here is fake. Keep looking, don't despair, and listen to your intuition.

Question #2:

Provided by ofcorsets-

What advice can you give a new submissive as to the timeliness and method of doing a first real life meet. Would you advise her to allow physical intimacy on that meet? 

This question is one that really varies from individual to individual. For some, very quick first meetings work well; for others, it may take months or years. The timing for you should be discussed between you and your potential Dominant. If your Dominant is pushy about meeting, then that may be a sign of things to come.

As far as physical intimacy, this again varies from individual to individual. Personally, I am never physically intimate with a new submissive, as I believe there are critical steps of trust that must be established first. However, I believe that some serious flirting never hurts. Again, if your potential Dominant is pushy about physical intimacy, it may be a sign of things to come.

Above everything else, be sure to establish a strong line of HONEST, and OPEN communication before meeting anyone. Also, remember, ALWAYS HAVE A SAFETY if you are going to meet someone in person. A background check is always a good way to ensure safety as well, and should be considered.

Remember, listen to your heart and your head - if something doesn't seem right, take a step back and make sure above all that you are safe. A true Dominant will never risk your safety.

 Ofcorsets, after speaking with you further, I also want to thank you for your suggestion of taking a picture of the dominants license plate and sending it to your safety - although I believe this would be a very tough picture to get if the Dominant is being pushy and sneaky, it's another sign to watch out for, and another great way to keep safe!

Let me make this clear:  There is a very big difference between A) BEING a slut, and B) ACTING like a slut.  I love one of those, and hate the other.

So, I was asked what my top five questions are, that I ask any submissive that I am interested in.  They are as follows:

1) How do you see yourself, when it comes to the balance between vanilla and D/s, including existing family, and future family?

  2) In what combinations do you perceive your roles and activities in the lifestyle - mental, physical, pain, and role (puppy, baby, etc)?

  3) What type of living conditions are you looking for?  To be more precise, are you looking to relocate, have someone relocate to you, send several months long-distance, etc.

  4) What have you experienced, and what would you like to experience?  Don't take this question lightly, and simply answer "I will try anything".

  5) Can you give me 3 references of people that you have spoken with, that can verify that  you are truthful, honest, respectful, loyal, and truly interested in submission?  I don't want or need the reference right now, but before anything becomes serious, I would like to contact those who can verify your true intentions and personality, outside of how we have spoken.

  You have all been warned :)

Oh netflix, I love your sense of humor.  Everytime I hit SEND on collarme, you decide to freeze up and restart.  Little bratty netflix :)