Submissive and "need to be forced to" are contradictions

Happy new year all. May the Mayans be wrong...lol. ;)

I love profiles in which is said they have no limits...

..and then you read 100 words about what they don't like and won't do.

but hé..perhaps I just misunderstood...no limits.

Wouldn't it be nice if people actually wrote something about themself..instead of just what they like in the lifestyle.

Of course what you like is very very important, but in a relation, of any kind, there are more things important to make it work. Well..for me at least..and I guess I am not the only one.

Yes I am beware there is a list with interests...but that doesn't really tell us anything.

Personally I try once in a while to give a glimps of my self in the journal about non bdsm things...just because that is also who I am.

~That is just the way it is~

2 christmass days of joy..and the next day a funeral...mmm...

kinda gives a weird mixed feeling I can't explain.. surrealistic..perhaps.

wow ..people that mix up training and abuse...wake up from your fantasy.

So what did you get on Christmas?

A new slave...new cloths...food?

I got a new kettlebell...and an old friend back in my life.  Can't complain.

Christmas seems to be the period in which we look back.....to learn to do it even worse next year.

a bit late....but a well meant " merry Christmas "

I prefer people with experience in maintaining a relation above those with bdsm experience.

Sadly..finding those takes a while..and mostly it is trail and error....and lots of promises about loyalty and trust...which I don't even take serious anymore.

Who wants to masturbate for me?

mmm  j.k.

Just wanted to tell I added some pictures I made in China..as requested ;)

Nothing special..as I didn't have much time.

It is kinda weird to see that people always blame their partner for the last "bad" relation, in their profile.

Never any word about their own part in this. Or that they learned from their own mistakes.

Guess it would make us look less perfect.

It is fun to see that being kind can pay of.

In China I was being respectful to a waitress..and I noticed I was the only one getting a full glass.

Not sure if this happens more...but it made me smile.( and drunk)

Will retry on my next visit. Remind me please :P

a smile on a face in a profile picture is often more attractive then spread legs

What if..we can't get anything better then what we left behind..thinking we could have it better?

I only collar persons I know for a long time and feel a bond with.

Being horny was never a reason. Collaring should last a while. Being horny can be solved in 5 minutes.

What do you think of people using old pictures..knowing they look way different now? Fair or unfair, or even ..doesn't matter?

"Thank you for your wise advise, Sir"

..said someone yesterday to me.

I feel old now..lol. Was meant as a compliment...but the "Sir"...wellllllllllllllllll....

Even though it is not a new month..2 new pictures added.

Was bored in China..lol

Slavery...does it make you more open minded..or is it a good way to keep your mind closed?

Just back from China (work), will try to answer my mails asap.

Let me wake up first ;)

far from new but more and more a stranger

If you read your profile, see how you pose on your pictures..can you still take yourself serious? Is it you that you see?

Or do you try hard to look dominant or submissive?

I will either reply slow or not at all. Will be gone for a week.

Next Saturday, you will have an answer for sure.

it is fashion to be in the lifestyle...

look mom..I am a slave

Complaining about spelling doesn't make you any better then the other person. You probably suck at something too, probably more then at just one thing.

Being better is better proved by showing it, then looking down at others.

I don't think this is a good website for looking for a job..lol

A job gets you paid....here you probably have to do some more.

Can't blame people trying though...times are not easy.

But once you make this step, there is no return. Think about it. ( ..you probably already have done that ;) ?)

?

I noticed some people share the same small features. It is fun to recoqnize them.

Lately I came to the conclusion...that I am atracted to those small features, without even knowing the whole person..or seeing the whole person.

The way the mouth is formed...the shape of the eyes..or even how a female act when angry.

Perhaps I project features of someone I liked on others.....but anyway..it gives a nice feeling to see them.

It's now very common to hear people say, "I'm rather offended by that", as if that gives them certain rights. It's no more than a whine. It has no meaning, it has no purpose, it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. "I'm offended by that." Well, so fucking what?

~Fry

"anal " training" 

lol..is that really the excuse we use to fuck ass?

don't eat while watching profiles

it might make you dislike food forever.

Not trying to offend every one, but some people give themselfs to much honor, by having their insides visible on here. It is not nice to see.

So did you play Saints Row?

Just to hold the purple dildo, to defend yourself against the "bdsm"wave? 

Does a sub or slave have sex sooner on a first date then a vanilla...because of her submission?

Are they used more for sex by males then vanillas?

Their role must be confusing by times...

just wondering..

new pic

comming here so many years, but still feel a stranger.

But perhaps that is because I had to much wine.

nyssa :D

http://www.infernalrestraints.com/device/bondage/index.php?

Loyalty is an action, not a word that gives you status.

Just back from Germany as I needed my winter tires under my car.

Being close to a shop...I thought it would be nice to get some wine or beer.

But hell..the shops are full with christmass chocolate thingies.

Millions of them.

so...wine and chocolate tonight ;)

vertedering of vernedering

Are there still restaurants with class that call food ..food.

I need a bloody dictionary to know what I eat..lol

" Do you like to order an ~amuse~"  I thought we would get entertainment to amuse me.

But they meant a snack.

Just kidding of course.

But I just dislike the fancy crap to make things look classy.

Just keep it normal..and make the food good...people will be back..not because of the nice words.

clean her wounds with salt

winter tires, rain, endless amounts of leaves and christmass chocolate..

to and from work in darkness

the year is over soon....just snow missing...

damn..I love this season..

A little while back I ended talking to someone and we were discussing looks.

She said she finally found her place in this lifestyle as it accepted her body weight.

I asked if she really thought if people are more open minded ( on the body weight issue) then in the vanilla world.

The discussion stopped after that.

Reading profiles and the forum ..and the mix of people here, I hardly doubt we are more open then other people. Perhaps the option to have sex makes us more limit flexible.

Of course it is good to see someone who found her place. A good thing...just hope for the right reason.

Always remember in a discussion...disagreeing doesn't mean you are right.

Facts will decide who is right or wrong.

Life will move on, even when you try to stand still.

No online?  so what is this then?

If you pay a Pro-Dom(me) ...you own them for a while..don't you?

Why is it never the Master looking for a "sister"slave.

Would make me wonder...if someone contacted me, asking, to be the second girl..lol

Demand pictures!!!

December  chocolate month :D

I like to read journals on here and once in a while I respond to one. I noticed thst Dommes respond more often then subs and slaves. That is kinda strange as one would expect it the other way around. Might be that subs get lots of shitty remarks and treat everyone who writes them the same. Or perhaps it just shows why Dommes are what they are. (That was a compliment)

It is pleasant to know..in a dark way..that an ex slave still masturbates about you, while she is being owned by an other.

Feel flattered :D. Who says secrets are bad :P

Thou shallt not poison tea/coffee with milk and sugar.

Damian 1:23

Before you move on, know what you leave behind.

How dominant are you when you can't control your bills and beg for money?

click  >>profile    if you just want kinky sex

(already had that)

When you come here long enough..all the pictures become the same... except the ones of people with cloths on.

.. the flower withers..

You can easily drown in the attention a person gives you, making you forget reality.

But reality will be back as soon as you discover....it was all about them

when you hesitate, do it

ffs some one stole my old slaves nick name..

enjoy!!

What was your shortest time between being collared and uncollared?

(sorry no price to win)

addition to my hate list;

jeans with buttons, which make life very difficult when you need to pee very urgently

If all men are pigs...are all females victims?

Dominants, most, are owning a person because they allow to.

We can have fantasies that we are stronger then all....but you should have a sense of reality.

Especially when you are 5 feet something and own a huge slave. He or she probably could crush you instantly.

So ...mutual..we allow each other the role we have.

People call them self owned AND collared.

( in basics this is the same).

But if even there would be a difference...I still see no collar on the pictures.

It is easy to slap your slave in the face for a mistake.

It is harder to forgive and remember yourself that you are not fail proof either.

But if she deserves it...then do it the right way. Punishment is not pleasure.

Looking at all the "nude"pics here..I wonder if any one ever has safe sex.

Or do the  bDSm  stand for Disease Sexuel.

I know lots of people on here like to judge people on their level of grammar or spelling.

But if you near The Netherlands the next days..go and visit a nice lecture of some famous grammar experts.

They will tell you that the strict grammar rules we have now, will die, because of the dynamic language used on the web and cellphones.

They call the grammar police a wannabee elite that has nothing else to offer then picking on others...lol.

But it will the mass who decides what a language will look like.

I didn't expect to hear that from grammar experts. ( well I did actually)

good morning....coffee any one?

expression of the year "bs" 

experience can be good or bad.

So lots of experience can actually mean, people attract problems all the time..lol

leave a textmessage/sms...online..but busy with work...

"almost" has no value

I don't understand why so many dirty words sound so harsh, while they are so beautiful :D

It is not hard to get Owned..it is hard to stay together...and understanding what it means.

`The young Dommes asking for small dick slaves...tell more about themselves..then about what they look for.

ahh Hoops and Yoyo have a movie :D

love those...uhmmm..creatures...

Some people act weird when they are collared. The way they write and act changes.

Act normal, you are only special to your Master...not to the whole world.

True or false:  people suddenly leaving here, have shit happen in their lives.

Shotaro Nakamura   :D

One of the bands that were very important to me...gave confidence...when I stept into the world of BDSM..and wasn't sure if I did the right thing.

"feelings with out emotions"

La Roux - In for the kill

perhaps that is what I look for

an other profile text update

will I ever be satisfied?  lol

Are you here to find someone else or to show yourself?

There is no need to like me 100%, I probably won't like everything of you either.

I don't need to own you...or collar you...just serve me.

Is it fashion to sum up lots of dirty words as your nickname?

cuntwhorepigslutbitchshitanal4u

Listening to the new Paradise Lost live album.

Damn...it is good. Better then all the polished studio albums they released the last years.

Wondering how many profiles there are, using the same pictures.

Do you really want to serve ..or..just someone who takes care of you.

There is a difference.

cola vieux

+1

Reduced my profile to the core.

just curious...what makes you say you are attractive or intelligent..in your profile?

It is funny how you will sacrifice yourself for a friend in trouble. How you try again and again.

But once they are gone, for what ever reason, you feel relaxed because you can think about yourself again.

Even so much, that it makes you feel guilty....in a happy way .

( and yes.. of course you miss them once in a while)

When I am to long here...I often wonder what attracts me to the nuthouse.
It is really a love/hate thing.

Although we like to talk about loyalty and collars in the lifestyle, by times I think bdsm relations last less long.

always interesting when a sub says " when you can handle me.."

 I understood submissive different.

Funny how some threads on the messages boards get ruined by the same persons over and over.

Attention whoring other forums would call it..and ban them.

Sigh...but we lifestylers have to be open minded....sadly :P

So what do you do when you notice the slave you met, used the wrong photo's in her profile?

Whip her back bloody?

don't disturb..watching The Walking Dead

I know..1 day late...blame the time zones :P

lol Dom's guide?

http://www.upgradereality.com/how-to-be-a-man-in-the-21st-century

There is no need to call yourself slave, when all you want is sex.

You will get it anyway on here.

Interesting how people write journals and when you respond to it..they blame you for finding a way "to contact them"...lol

Interesting trick., but they give themself to much credit. The journal is mostly more interesting then the person ;) 

Stop feeling important. If you write in public..expect a response.

Not every one wants your body. Some people like to talk.

next..

never liked to hide and block...but damn..I will do it.

Never can protect yourself to much against a-hole-lisme

To me,  the base for submission is showing respect and decency toward others in general.

Not meaning one should accept everything from every one...but neither treat them that way.

There is an golden middle way.

I just don't believe in people that treat others like shit and worship 1 person like a god at the same time. The differences are to extreme for it to be real.

BDSM is very dangerous for Masters/Doms.

So many passed away according the profiles.

I would say..we have the same risks as miners in China.

Does being whipped in colder seasons hurt more?

Or does the cold numb you.

I don't seem to handle going out late and alcohol anymore.

Good that I don't need both much...but it certainly feels good right now :P

Modesty is sexy.

the shitty thing about a theory is..that when it is correct..it is not a theory anymore.

People seem to like sluts, but does that mean they also prefer a slave or sub that had lots of partners?

what is this 11.11.11 crap

it is 2011  not 11

Ofcourse you are not looking for an owner, slave. We will look for you .

;)

Oh we have suicidal girls now with profiles.

Hopefully they don't hang themselves when visiting you...talking about extreme sessions.

new profile pic...forgot we have a new month

next will be one from China again.....next 2 probably.

so Korean is related to Gorean?

Owning a slave, to me, means owning her mind.The desperate and the lost therefor can't be really owned in my opinion. Unless you are satisfied with owning just the body.To be able to give yourself away you need to be secure and selfaware. Those not, will keep trying to find a way to discover themselfs, which is a good thing ofcourse. But as their owner, you will loose them sooner or later, as they will move on in their search.

~D^2

always fun to see a "xx" profile and it's "xx is fake" counter part at the same time online.

Now we just have to guess who is telling the truth.

If you ever buy a kettlebell for work out, don't buy a rubber coated one.

I think from now on I will collar girls only when being 6 month at least in service.

I see collars being given out faster then speed tickets. They seem to loose their value.

It is not a reward for being fucked or whipped.

People all want to be special, but as soon as you treat them as minority they complain.

Why do some profiles have "being owned"at the end of all the profile text?

First you read word after word how they are looking..and then suddenly... "owned".

Wouldn't you want to put this on top?

Or are they still looking?

closing your eyes, doesn't make things go away

I don't mind a young girl being bimboficated ( ?).

But damn....it sure doesn't pretty when they get older. 

Half the body gets old..the rest looks like a blow fish.

just remembered

not into weekend only thingy session sex acting. No need to be together..but contact..email, phone or what ever will be law.

If I own you..then fully.

If some one asks you "what is your style?". I never know what to answer.

Do I need a style?

Never thought of it.

I guess in short I can put it like this...if you do something wrong..I will not wait till the weekend and do a 3 hour shibari session, I slap you on your cheek (unless in public).

Still don't think we need a style.

We do need coffee though...brb..

When you are owned...do you really open up 100% after all previous relations....or is the door just open enough to please him?

The first coffee in the morning tastes like pure gold.

(...so to speak...)

ff bakkie pakken   zo terug

Some people are better just kept in the mind then kept in Ownership.

In the mind you can safely masturbate about them and relax, owning them might give you headaches.

ah  a new one for me.."text domination"

Never heard of it...but it is available..only here..on CM. 

...and ..like to swim..as I do too.

very vanilla ..not?

If you are owned and talk like you are free....then being owned is your problem.

I can't read minds.

Your problem..not mine.

I guess even when we are 80 years old we will say....."girl is owned".

Although I think most would expect someone younger..lol

Me included. But we are as old as we feel.

Damn..the 23 year old spammers are gone.

My Who's Viewing box went automagically empty.

Almost feel lonely. ...lol

The 23 year old spammer girls seem to back

Damn..I just thought I had become popular...lol.

They have probably this in their profile

"ONLY EXCLUSIVE OR BLOCK SESSIONS ONLY"

and

"

Actively Seeking:Dominant Men

Online Romance"

Some slaves beg to be used, abused....treated as meat

But if you treat them as disposables...they get pissed.

They shouldn't have asked for a extreme sadistic Owner..lol

whores and slut can be found in the vanilla world, not interested in them in the bdsm world

..mm..or was it strawberry world...

In my previous profile I mentioned experience ( being 20 year interested in bdsm).

But when I thought about it.....I removed it.

I don't think experience is a fitting word for something that is part of me as a person. It is behavior,thoughts, emotions and in general just the way of live.

Whipping a girl, correcting her, fucking ,bending her over...do you really need to mention experience for that? They were are individuals...they were all different. I can't remember one "trick"would work on the other. Experience in bdsm didn't help me.

What did help me was life experience. But hé...that comes for free with the age.

So if we talk about experience....what are we talking about.

We don't act, do we? Or do people mean.."I know when to say; yes Sir".

For myself..I will just mention that I am interested in bdsm for 20 years....I experienced a few persons....but no mentioning of bdsm experience anymore.

..at least not today...

I don't mind any one contacting me...or about any topic.

I will always answer.

But if you are a slave, stop telling me what I should do to you.

I don't care. I only care what I want or can do with you. Your view..keep it.

I always wonder about the reason behind "If you want to talk to me, you have to ask my Master".Well I actually don't wonder. It is more like..wtf...what a pile of insecurity...or is it a trust issue?I had even friends that asked me, after getting owned, to ask their Master if I could still mail them. The answer was "no". I don't role play.Besides the master not trusting his slave or sub, it is ofcourse completely stupid to accept such crap as a slave/sub.Once owned you have to follow your Owner of course, but it is hard to imagine that such things are not discussed upfront.So lets...just blame ..both. The one who tries and the one who allows.

It is always shitty to discover a person's real face.

Always to late and always when you done a lot for them.

You say to yourself it won't happen again, but you can't act shitty towards others because of past experience.

Cautious...yes...but it would be wrong to change yourself...because of others peoples flaws. Caring is not the problem, but the abuse of it.

It is a relieve when they are gone...even when you might have lost lots of energy.

It is also good to remember who let it happen.....that would be our self ;)

Oh Gor movie on t.v. tonight

Hardly based on the books. Don't expect to much.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0095241/

nothing changes as much as people

One day you fight with your boss...the next day they offer you to lead a department..lol

Victories are sweet.

o.k......perhaps the Dutch weather comes close, when we talk about change

How come..that people who are owned... suddenly visit CM more afterwards?

sorry  lots of coffee makes me think ;)

People wonder who Mona Lisa is, but we have our own mysteries on here.

How can it be that on both sides of the ocean people say

"why are the good ones so far away"

Every one likes to tell the truth, we just don't want to hear it.

I love the forest in the Autumn

The colours make it look calming. Even my 45minute drive to work looks to last just 1 minute.

( sadly work days seem to last forever)

Lets make it ourselves easy.

I consider you all

And we see how it works, later.

Is your BDSM partner liking you..or what he can do to you?

Was discussing this with a friend. How to know.

We can't really find an answer..besides just asking them ..and giving it time.

Till that time...enjoy  :P

Can people still enjoy what they have..or are they all ways looking for something else?

Progress is not bad of course, but you only can do it..when you know what you have. Else you actually might take steps back.

It is almost like economics....we wanted more and we got the crisis..lol

Please update your age.....can't be 18 for years.

You can feel young..but you will age.

And you know...people will not dislike you for it.

They will, for not telling the truth :P

Never knew there were so many Caucasians in Africa, Asia and South America.

Interesting....lol

Any way...more people addicted to The Walking Dead?

The first ever thing that attracted me to CM was the word "community".

I thought it would be great to have help in my discovery of bdsm.

This was years ago, but I did learn a lot.

The idea of a community is to participate and have contact.

The last few years it seems people more and more lock their profiles for others with huge lists of demands before you even can say "hello".

It is pushed so far that "hello" is crowned to be "unwanted".

Makes you wonder how people in real life then, where a "hello"is still  a sign of kindness.

I Wish a little of the community spirit would come back..and people would focus more on reporting fakes instead of building walls around them.

But this is probably wishful thinking. 

On the other side...to a certain degree...in this huge online world...there are nutcases..we have to keep outside or walls.

Can some one explain me why people have

"barely here" 

in their profile?

Is this to make us think they are the rare gem we all waited for?

great marketing btw..lol

~the ultimate loyalty test for no-limit slaves is to ask them to suicide~

*sarcasm of course...don't try this at home*

Winter time arrived....one hour more sleep :D..for free

good morning btw.

In 2012 there will be a new rule on CM.

Bra's need to fit to the undies. It should be a fitting pair, else the photo's get removed.

Being honest, doesn't equal...being right

Bi sexual?  mm don't think I would mind 2 slaves

as a Dutch proverb goes; the bean comes for his pay check

boontje komt voor zijn loontje

the beauty about people is that one day they can't wipe their ass without you and the next day they can't even say hello.

You are never bored with them..lol

upgraded my profile with a new alinea

I still wonder, after years, why people call their lust for pain...punishment.

Punishment is not pleasure. You are doing it wrong..lol.

sta je al moeilijk op.....nog half slaap dronken

ga je onder de douche...doet de godverdommese geiser het niet

sta je daar onder de kloten koude douche

Moet je half naakt en half nat de trap af..in de kou...de kut geiser resetten.

kut ochtend

zo..dat lucht op.

Some of the newer kinky streams seem to originate more in low self esteem then in bdsm.

Not to offend other people...to each his/her own ofcourse..but

..I need a little more then just slapping you around and fucking you..

( I watch porn star punishment for that ;)  ) 

I can time travel. I see people getting younger in their profile :P

After this, everything is history.

If you peek regular.. say hello.

Do not become a stalker.

Just say what is on your mind. I can handle it.

 D.

Weekend  ahead! Wooooot

No I am not looking for a "salve" and I am not a "Dominate" 

I prefer a slave  ;)

( not just meaning....sexy cloths and horny...but the state of mind that makes you serve)

small update of profile.....because I have a little time right now :P

Why can't we keep it simple?

...kneel  or  move on

Ok Ok...That would be boring..and I probably would not meet a lot of nice people...but damn...it sounds fine :D

new picture...so you don't miss me to much :P  ( just kidding ofcourse)

Sometimes you give up hope....and then suddenly out of nowhere....3 new friends pop up

Guess giving up should be planned more often.

Replies might take a little longer for some......BF3 is released :p

bloody cold today

and the shop I visited had the heating broken....sigh..talking about luck..lol

Guess a coffee with a dash alcohol will fix it.

Feeling lonely or being lonely.

There are so many reasons to feel alone, but some times people just don't recognize the reaching/helping hand of friends.

Or they leave all friends as soon as they get a lover...and then expect them to be available later.

Loneliness sucks..indeed....but it is often a 2 way road.

The only one that can solve it..is yourself. And that will be hard.

that was my message to a friend....before she cut the phone call.

Didn't hear a while from her..and she didn't reply to others.

Lecturing friends can be shitty by times..but needed.

I wonder why people choose being owned above being loved. 

Or is love much more difficult?

By times I think for some being owned is like hiding or fleeing for something. Love is a nice extra then, but not needed first.

It seems for some the journals are a real good way to relieve anger and such.

Well if it work..it works.

Can be damn nice to curse against the world of anonymous readers.

And you won't get a beating....which can be a plus...for some ;)

IF a journal of mine makes you angry for some reason...let me know.

No intention to make people angry.

cold weather means

coffee with a dash of vieux and a dash of chocolate milk 

Although not as scary as some profiles...I do like horror movies.

Right now I have an 80's moment..watching Nightmare on Elmstreet.

Just don't like many of the new horror movies.

"Teach me"   you read in profiles.

But no one mentions what they want to learn .

Just planned 2 work travels to China..end of the year..beginning next year.

I hope they have snow there then..else I will go from -10C to +20C..that will kill me..lol.

Dislike heat...love cold...

Perhaps I am old fashioned. When I entered this lifestyle it was a lot about respect and decency.

Not meaning you liked every one or that you had to accept everything that was said to you.

But people at least communicated about what they disliked...or said; no thank you

Now with way more people online...it seems to have changed. It is easy to say everything to everyone. It is easy to be someone else then you really are....and it is easy to ignore people.

But still when you ask people..they still want decency and respect. You can read it in the profiles.

So..why do we act differently ...then we actually would like?

Do the others suck..or do we have to look at ourselves?

Perhaps we lack self control to be decent in a world where the standard is to have none.

oh well..I just keep answering..even the not so nice mails :P

But I am just  me.

 The collar shouldn't be the goal, perfection in submission should be. The collar is just a reward.

The occupy movement seems just to occupy space...or am I wrong.

To me it looks like an offline version of anonymous. 

On the other hand..it is good for people to say what they think and show when they are happy or unhappy.

But strength in numbers only works when you have the same goal.

Oh and people shouldn't forget that not just the governments and banks are to blame for the crisis. You shouldn't have bought the big house, the huge car and the gigantic flat screen with the banks money ;)

Aren't we all happy fr those who find a Master in a day or two?

real romance.

Does lots of experience mean everything is boring with your new partner?

don't search...find...  :P

Did any one have sex on a ley line?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ley_line

People like to mention communication, but don't like to talk. 

Interesting..lol

As a Master I would not need to monitor your mails...as most would be mine anyway...lol

So..what factor does make the "fucking/sucking" pictures on here..bdsm..and not vanilla?

you can have movies and tv on demand..why are there no mouths on demand  lol

could use one.

I guess the doors must be very bad outside Europe..as so many slaves and subs are used to hold the doors by leaning against it.

( looks nice though)

I have found what I was looking for...

thank you all..

I have my keys back

this solo ( starts around 3 min.) is so great when speeding home from work  :P

Of course you can blame people not being able to read, but perhaps your message was just not clear enough. ;)  

deflect blame is popular it seems....others are always fake and wrong..lol

You walk into a pet shop..and as soon you reach the collar section....you feel like in a candy store...suppressing your emotions of joy..lol

ending with a smile is always good

I am curious how many "under consideration" were actually just being fucked.

consider that ;)

I wish it was as easy as saying "Shut up and serve"

Today I discovered what I miss most about not having a slave.....

..the chitchat...and exchanging thoughts...

The special way it just happens between Master and slave.

When you own a whore..you are a pimp not? not a Master?

perhaps dominant... that is well possible.

YAY we are world champions baseball.

And hardly any one is playing here...lol. ( it is far from popular here)

First time ever an European country won it.

congrats!!!

added "what I like" to my profile.

Then you know at an earlier stage you should avoid me..lol

After so many years in the lifestyle...I still find 'Dominant" a weird word to use.

Guider..trainer...also sounding weird..but more fitting.

Dominant sounds so bossy. And it is way more then being bossy. Perhaps it is everything..without being bossy.

Confusing....mmm...lets take an other coffee.

"Clean your room"  would be the first order for some subs  :P

Perhaps it is cute to say you are shy, but when you show your tits on the www you are really not shy.

lol

good morning world!

coffee and sunshine...there is no better way to wake up.

I am off to bed. Falling asleep on your keyboard pretty much sucks.

Leave a message or your phone number...I will contact you when I wake up out of my coma. :P

Please don't put yourself in my admirers list.

It is nice you like my journals..but admiration..is creepy...lol

Just back from a lan party near Oberhausen(Germany). We played a BFBC2 farewell game (as BF3 will be released soon).

Anyway....games do make people violent..lol....especially when they cant win.

Do you ever have the feeling that some one far away is thinking about you?

I come here for many years..but damn..I am still daily surprised with what I see here...

I don't have a preference how a lady looks....but damn...my knees get weak when I smell a lovely perfume in the air.

Not looking for cheap sex....but expensive sex sucks also.

yum yum

Blocking some one is not a sign of Mastery or power...it is just an option on the website.

some people are easy to recognize when you know them.

their choice of words..a different name..but still you know them

..cretin..

If you are several times used by fakes on CM,  you have a good reason to complain.

But ask yourself also..why it happened so often ...to you.

math and porn

http://blackboardsinporn.blogspot.com/

coffee anyone?

The more they promise, the bigger the disappointment

it is better to see one good deed, then a million unfilled promises.

But I guess promises are easier made. And they are cheaper..lol

Wondering why people spend so much time worrying about others calling  them "fakes"

Believe in yourself and ignore those that accuse you or steal your profile.

Attention will just satisfy them.

Don't feed the trolls

or shoot them in the head

I just shaved my face..and god...what do I hate shaving.

Remember me to get a slave that can shave....without beheading me.

Never had that luxery. I did shave a slave ( not the face)..so I guess...I did something wrong..lol. Just didn't like the idea of knifes around my throat.

Time..for change.

It looks many CM users have the following BDSM life cycle;

-searching

-under consideration

-owned/Proud Owner

-taking a break

-searching

..but..it is good to see familiar faces..

Punishment is never a form of control, it just shows you had no control.

It is kinda confusing to have 2 things in life that are called CM....CollarMe and Cyanogen Mod.

On the non kink forum it is kinda funny to see CM mentioned so often. But it gives a good opportunity to make remarks that are slightly double :P

So what do you think about "under consideration".

I have a love hate relation with it.

On one side..I know it kinda belongs  to the lifestyle on the other side.....why consider what you want...just take it.

No need to be insecure. Or when you are not sure...don't consider it...just wait. 

All those models wondering what their photos are doing on a bdsm website..lol

In 2 week time we seem to go from 25C to frost.

Those sudden changes make me tired as hell....and easily pissed off..lol

Coffee fixes it though. I hate getting pissed with people..that actually don't do anything wrong. But oh well....if I do..I apologize.

I wonder what people make think they are so special...and yet they seem to be looking for  a partner for years.

Are they picky...or just not that special?

Or perhaps there are so many special people...that in the group..you ended just as an average person. That can hurt.

..just thinking uploud....

When people say "I have Dommed"...I always read it as they played a role and they were not who they are.

I might be totally wrong course...but I always get a weird feeling reading it.

Are they playing a role or do they play with others?

ps

Now I think about it...the whole Dom/Domming/Dominant stuff sounds weird...prefer just to be me..lol

Sometimes CM reminds me of those kung fu movies from the 70's.

Those had lots of Masters too...good and bad. ( probably the same voices too..lol)

adjusted my profile text.

Can't make up what to write...without writing a book.

So..ended with a simple text with basic thoughts.

what to think about people..that you advice to change a wrong word in their fresh profile.....but keep it. ( completely using the wrong word actually).

Is this being stubborn? Lack of intelligence? 

Doesn't matter..it is their advertisement to the whole world....but the way they think..is quit interesting. They should be caged and researched. 

One thing it shows ...we are equal to the vanilla world (...like that is new..lol). We are not superior.

We have just more laughs.

I guess autumn really started.

Love it.. cold..and early darkness...and the calming sound of rain of the window.

I am such a romantic.

been shopping...with some females.

Impressive...how they can discuss 30 minutes about trousers....and then select a different one..lol

American Horror Story is a nice new series. :D

I am way to addicted to all this paranormal stuff.

To still my hunger tomorrow... Ghost adventures.

More "likers" on here?

It still sucks that people can hide their profile, but can peek at others.

it should go both ways...not visible..not able to see. That would be fair.

(lol..not that life is fair)

I like the kind of people that try not to be liked on all costs. Those that stay themselves..those that don't need to belong to a community or a lifestyle because others are.

Safe that little special part of yourself..that makes you unique.

wow..what a coincidence...every one peeking at my profile is 23.

guess the spammers like 23 ( 8 girls in 10 minutes..lol)

It is good to see that the lifestyle is so popular with the models!

So many girls that want to be pigs..I thought the S in bdsm was for sheep.

I am not looking for ceremonies or rituals..like bowing and kneeling..I want your mind to submit.

So you call your sub/slave whore...but we cant talk to her?

Isn't that bad for your business model?

Sometimes you had a friend ( or a slave) a very long time.

But when you look back, you wonder if you even knew them.

So many things you don't even know.

When you follow the herd, you probably walk through shit

traveling, heat and time zones..can really make you feel like a stranger in your own body

actually when you think about it....it could be alcoholic....lol..same effect

a little makes you feel nice

to much makes you feel terrible

'almost no-limit'

interesting view..lol

no picture for this profile of me for now, perhaps I send one when we talk.

I understand people want to see a person when they want a relation, but for reading journals or asking questions..it is an overkill ;)

( btw..it seems it are just some countries that are fully "looks" focussed)

But..you can try asking me. The 80:20 rule might be on your side.

It is a nice day to start again

I am in the Netherlands, but for my work I will be often in China the coming 6 months.

Not meaning I want a Chinese slave..although their seize and looks are interesting ;)