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	I'm looking for a man of integrity and honor, someone who does exactly as he says he will do and who is honest, kind and intelligent. As for BDSM aspects, I would like to find an M/s relationship where rules and boundaries are set up and maintained through domestic discipline. I like to be obedient and service-orientated, and I'm not a brat, but in the past I have definitely enjoyed taking pain to show my submission to a Master. I don't enjoy pain in itself, but I enjoy knowing I am submitting so much that I'd endure something unpleasant in order to show my devotion. I like humiliation and name-calling, bondage, being controlled and told what to do, and mental bondage for sure. Hard limits are poop, kids, anything that would get me arrested, permanent marks without talking about it beforehand, and Celine Dion music. Real life non whips and chainsy stuff, it would be great to find someone who is fun to be with, who is funny and who doesn't get offended if I make fun of his ugly shoes every once in a while. I'd like to have a family one day, so my ideal Master would also be looking for this. I'd really like a relationship that is "normal" to the outside world and our own private "9 1/2 Weeks" behind closed doors. (To be honest, I am not a fan of that movie, but you know what I mean). As for me, I'm outgoing and happy for the most part. I am pretty easy-going. I root for the Bears and I get a little down in the dumps when they don't win. As far as work goes, I'm successful in a job that doesn't require a lot of time, so that's always a bonus. I could also do my job from anywhere, so I'm open to the idea of relocating. I'm working on losing weight right now, but I am definitely not a super model. I would say I'm cute bordering on pretty. I have a good sense of humor and I'm smart, so I'd prefer my Master to be even smarter. Don't worry, there won't be a test, and I promise I'll beat you in Trivial Pursuit. After a couple of really bummery relationships over the last year, I'm back on the horse (or the wooden pony) to try again. I understand that we will have a power exchange relationship, but honestly, guys, even the most lowly of slaves deserves to have you call when you say you'll call and be who you say you are. That's just simple human respect, and it helps build up trust. I can only submit fully to someone I trust and admire as a person. That's really what this whole thing comes down to for me. Whoa, that came out of nowhere. My baggage, let me show it to you. So that's what I want, universe. I wish this was Amazon and I could type in my specifications and have a Master delivered in two days, but life just isn't perfect yet. Get on that, Bill Gates. You'd make a fortune.

12/10/2010 2:21:25 AM

Also, (can you tell I take Ambien and get wordy right before I crash for the night?) I get a lot of emails from people who say they could be my perfect match except they don't want to have children.

I admire your honesty, something that is sadly rare on this site. If I believed in God I might guess that this site was one of the inner circles of hell.

Anyway, that's something I won't budge on. I know it would take some trickery and subtlety and work to find the kind of privacy to make this kind of relationship work with kids, but I've seen it in action and it's not impossible.

I would be a great mother and I can't throw that away to be just a devoted servant.

12/10/2010 2:14:21 AM

Oh, and the "Mr. X wants to add you to his friend circle thing"... I'm sorry, I have enough real friends and I'm not looking for them on here. I am looking for an Owner, a lover and a partner but not a sock pocket to keep my street cred numbers up on collarme.

12/10/2010 2:05:22 AM

There is still something so hilarious to me in reading the lists of interests on here.

Theater
Musicals
Renaissance Fairs
Ass Play

It's like those Sesame Street games. "One of these things is notttt like the othhherrr." :)

12/5/2010 3:03:10 AM

Trust me, I'm not a prude. I've done some very extreme stuff in the BDSM world, and some of it was in a very non-private setting. Still, there is something very bizarre about having someone who claims to be looking for a potential life partner ask (in the first message) if you like anal and bestiality before asking your name.

To me, the most important and interesting part of this "lifestyle" is the connection between a Master and a slave. That bond is just incredible to me, along with the feeling that I'd do anything to make my Master happy and proud of me. In order to have that bond, I'd like to think there are more important things to learn about me than whether or not I've ever fucked a dog or if I take it up the butt.

12/5/2010 2:07:13 AM

I don't respond to people with blank profiles. From my experience (and after ten years doing this stuff I have a lot of it) when someone doesn't spell out what they want for the world to see, it makes it really easy for them to pretend to be one thing for one person and someone entirely different for another.

I am not looking for someone to tell me what I want to hear. I'm looking for someone real who wants a control-based M/s relationship.

In that same vein, I usually don't respond to switches. No judgement, but I am so far from a switch it is ridiculous, so I feel like I couldn't give you the kind of slave that you would want.

One more demand from the bottom over here. I will talk to poly people, but my ideal relationship is one-on-one. I am not necessarily looking for monogamy but I am looking for a committed relationship with someone I could introduce to my grandmother. I've done the poly thing and I know it can work, but since I want to have children, it would a complicated situation.

12/5/2010 1:57:02 AM

I'm attracted to intelligence and humor much more than looks.

If I had to give an age range, I'd say 30-45. My reasoning behind that is that I want to have a family and I don't want to be changing both baby diapers and adult diapers at the same time :)

I know not everyone shows intelligence through writing, but unfortunately that's really the only way I can judge on here.

It's nice having something more meaty to respond to than "Hi, how are you." If I'm on here reading messages, I promise I'm doing just fine.