To be a submissive is different for everyone, for some it could be role play fantasy, for some sexual fantasy, for others in the BDSM Lifestyle it goes much much deeper then any of that. Let me try to explain a little the way I see the differences.

Role Play submissive's

These are men or women who want to play at being a submissive either real time or online. For a few hours or minutes they will "play" the part of a submissive calling someone Master or Mistress in order to fulfil a fantasy they have. They will, depending on how skilled they are, kneel at the feet of the "Dominant" doing as they're told without negotiating what limits they will go to. When their fantasy is done they leave and never visit it again unless it felt good and they want to have that thrill of being ordered around.

It may be that they have something they want to do but that rational part of their mind is sitting there telling them they're nuts for wanting to do it, by "submitting" to someone it takes responsibility of that act away. In other words they're not in the wrong for doing something bad because they were told to do it.

In the case of some of the men in this category they may have the fantasy of being dressed in girl's clothes, makeup and wigs and being made to do what to them is degrading things. Or they may be dressed as a baby complete with diaper and bottle and eating baby food.

Sexual submissive

In a nut shell... these kinds of submissive's want the kink or fetish. They want to be restrained, blindfolded, spanked, flogged, beaten or whatever their fetish is. Once the sex act is over they go away happy until the next time.

There's not a thing wrong with that as far as it goes and as long as they go into a real time situation with their eyes wide open aware of the dangers that could be waiting for them. As long as they sit down and discuss their limits and the "Dominant" partner agree's to those limits and abides by them they should be safe enough.
All too frequently though that doesn't happen and they can be seriously hurt or maimed by the "Dominant" who decides "well that may be as far as you want to go but it's not what I want and now you're tied up and helpless guess what"

Online submissive

My apologies in advance there are several types of online submissive, I know many who live the Lifestyle both online and off line dedicated to the One they serve, there are even more though that fall into this first group.

I'm a submissive.. really I am
These are people who are submissive while in the chat room, they'll very prettily write out elaborate serves for the One they serve, they vow eternal love and submission to the One who holds their heart.. then when they go to another room or another name they're saying the same things to Another. More role play, more drama, not an ounce of submission in them anywhere. They enter a room and the first thing they type is that they're submissive looking for a Master/Mistress and they'll do any thing.. oh and they have a camera to prove how submissive they are

I belong to my Master/Mistress
You see them in chat with their Owner's names on theirs, they serve that Owner with all the love in their heart holding back nothing, giving every part of themselves to that special One as if they were together face to face. Real life things may be against them being together physically but that doesn't make any difference to them, they serve their Owner well.

A True Submissive

A true submissive serves from the heart, they don't need an Owner driving them to do something, they do it willingly, gladly, eagerly.
They see their Owner's glass half empty and they fill it, they take care of their Owner's needs sometimes before the Owner realizes what it is They want.
They don't need words of praise, the fact that their Owner is content and comfortable is praise enough.
They don't need other's to see that they're submitting, the fact that they are is more then enough.
When their One tells them to come, they put down what they're doing and go gladly hoping that they can provide some small thing to ease the comfort of the One.
The light in the eyes of their Owner or the touch of their One's hand on their head is high praise and will please a submissive more then any award given.
The first thing to enter a submissive's mind when they wake is "what can i do to help Him/Her today" and the last thing through their minds when they go to sleep is the joy that they have served well.

You may by now be asking yourself what the heck I'm rambling on about, and this is where it gets hard to explain just what makes a person submissive.

In my every day life I run my own business and have done for a few years now. I'm very aggressive when it comes to getting a contract I want and giving my clients the best service I can, yet when my Sir comes home that gets put on the back burner while I take care of His needs.
He asks me first if I have a deadline to meet on something and if the answer is yes then I'm told to do it while He takes a nap or something else, when I'm done I'm to come to His side. He plans our days and nights while He's home, and together we get them done. He decides what gets done in what order when and how, His word is final. I can ask to explain why I don't think I can do something the way He wants and ask if I can do it this way to make it easier on me, usually the answer is yes as I'm not as physically strong as He is.
While He's gone I do the assignments that He's given me, eat properly and rest when I need to, learn as much as I can about the Lifestyle.

I know these things don't seem like much but it's something that I do gladly and report to Him what I've learned so that we can talk about it when He has time.

You may say well this sounds like any normal marriage, and yes in a way it is like any other marriage other then one point ... He's in charge and makes the decisions. He will take into account my likes and dislikes before choosing food, clothing, furniture, house or vehicle but the final word is His and I don't argue about it.

Ok I can hear it now, sounds like He has everything His way and I get nothing out of it. That could not be further from the truth.

As an INFJ, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you take things in primarily via intuition. Your secondary mode is external, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit with your personal value system.

INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types.

INFJs place great importance on havings things orderly and systematic in their outer world. They put a lot of energy into identifying the best system for getting things done, and constantly define and re-define the priorities in their lives. On the other hand, INFJs operate within themselves on an intuitive basis which is entirely spontaneous. They know things intuitively, without being able to pinpoint why, and without detailed knowledge of the subject at hand. They are usually right, and they usually know it. Consequently, INFJs put a tremendous amount of faith into their instincts and intuitions. This is something of a conflict between the inner and outer worlds, and may result in the INFJ not being as organized as other Judging types tend to be. Or we may see some signs of disarray in an otherwise orderly tendency, such as a consistently messy desk.

INFJs have uncanny insight into people and situations. They get "feelings" about things and intuitively understand them. As an extreme example, some INFJs report experiences of a psychic nature, such as getting strong feelings about there being a problem with a loved one, and discovering later that they were in a car accident. This is the sort of thing that other types may scorn and scoff at, and the INFJ themself does not really understand their intuition at a level which can be verbalized. Consequently, most INFJs are protective of their inner selves, sharing only what they choose to share when they choose to share it. They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive.

But the INFJ is as genuinely warm as they are complex. INFJs hold a special place in the heart of people who they are close to, who are able to see their special gifts and depth of caring. INFJs are concerned for people's feelings, and try to be gentle to avoid hurting anyone. They are very sensitive to conflict, and cannot tolerate it very well. Situations which are charged with conflict may drive the normally peaceful INFJ into a state of agitation or charged anger. They may tend to internalize conflict into their bodies, and experience health problems when under a lot of stress.

Because the INFJ has such strong intuitive capabilities, they trust their own instincts above all else. This may result in an INFJ stubborness and tendency to ignore other people's opinions. They believe that they're right. On the other hand, INFJ is a perfectionist who doubts that they are living up to their full potential. INFJs are rarely at complete peace with themselves - there's always something else they should be doing to improve themselves and the world around them. They believe in constant growth, and don't often take time to revel in their accomplishments. They have strong value systems, and need to live their lives in accordance with what they feel is right. In deference to the Feeling aspect of their personalities, INFJs are in some ways gentle and easy going. Conversely, they have very high expectations of themselves, and frequently of their families. They don't believe in compromising their ideals.

INFJ is a natural nurturer; patient, devoted and protective. They make loving parents and usually have strong bonds with their offspring. They have high expectations of their children, and push them to be the best that they can be. This can sometimes manifest itself in the INFJ being hard-nosed and stubborn. But generally, children of an INFJ get devoted and sincere parental guidance, combined with deep caring.

In the workplace, the INFJ usually shows up in areas where they can be creative and somewhat independent. They have a natural affinity for art, and many excel in the sciences, where they make use of their intuition. INFJs can also be found in service-oriented professions. They are not good at dealing with minutia or very detailed tasks. The INFJ will either avoid such things, or else go to the other extreme and become enveloped in the details to the extent that they can no longer see the big picture. An INFJ who has gone the route of becoming meticulous about details may be highly critical of other individuals who are not.

The INFJ individual is gifted in ways that other types are not. Life is not necessarily easy for the INFJ, but they are capable of great depth of feeling and personal achievement.