If you ask me, the site should delete profiles that haven't been active in the last four months. That should narrow things down a bit. On the bright side, I met a submissive and we were having the most engaging conversation off the site, but as usual, things seem to have dropped off. That seems to be the status quo for both Dominants and submissives. In all of the journals I read, most users are frustrated with not being able to find someone genuine, or brave enough to meet and give kinky romance a shot.

Ah well. Better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all. Whomever the person truly is that I was speaking to, it was nice speaking with them, and pleasant to have someone to chat with about anything and everything.

Besides that, the gay men are ravenous. I can only imagine that a gay man's lifestyle must be a constant thrill ride. Pun intended. For a straight man, things are a lot more hit and miss. Mostly miss.

So - I've received many messages from interested trans asking me to dress them up as girls. First of all, if you are an interested trans, that's fine. However, I would prefer you to be passable and on the younger side. I am 30, so naturally, I wouldn't be interested in anyone in the mid 40's to 50's. Just being realistic here, and honest. 26 and under is probably my preference in that department.

And regards the dressing up part - at this age, really, you should be dressing yourself. I do not advertise myself as a "Daddy" Dom, therefore I am not your father, and not interested in dressing you. But if that's your thing, go for it. Just be aware of what I'm looking for - and what I'm not.

Updated my profile to be a bit more frank and to the point. I hope that works out.

I'm starting to think I would have better luck trolling some trashy personals site like Craigslist or something. In every profile I see people complaining about not being able to find what they're looking for, but then ignore messages from interested men. I'm not saying I'm necessarily what anyone is looking for, but it's polite to at least speak back and say hello, goodbye.

And then again, I've had some great conversations, but always with people who are several states away, or even across the ocean. Still, it's nice to know that there are people out there who are interested in the same types of play that I am, but damn - we always seem to be SO far apart. 

With the way this site is set up, we can all see who's browsing who. If you keep coming back to my profile and checking out my photos, feel free to message me and say hello.

I like to play rough, and have a sadistic side - but that doesn't mean I'm rude. Actually, I make it a point to be polite. Everyone who took the time to join this site, and took the risk of uploading potentially compromising photos did so because we are all searching for something. We know what we seek, and we belong to a very specific sexual niche that other people might not understand, or accept. With that being the case, I conscientiously choose not to judge or ridicule any other person for their preferences or proclivities.

So, speak. It doesn't hurt to say hello. It doesn't hurt to engage me from behind the safety of your monitor, or phone, or tablet. We are all human beings on a journey of self-discovery and acceptance for who and what we are, and I walk the same road as anyone here. So - speak.

Watching me without introducing yourself is rude. I promise that - unless you want me to - I won't bite.

So far, joining the site has at least been an educational experience. But I have no reason to believe I am going to meet local people who are into the BDSM scene as I had hoped. As I stated before, the overwhelming majority of the profiles have been inactive for months to years, and I can only guess these people encountered the same situation I am encountering now - a simple of lack of activity. There's no one here.

I also suspect that my profile may be driving away people who are into the softer side of bondage. I am a Dom with a sadistic streak, and I enjoy rougher methods of play. I updated my photos with a few screenshots of play sessions I had with former sub, to kind of showcase the activities I enjoy. But . . . I've mainly received replies from interested men, not women. So that backfired. I appreciate the interest, but my profile does clearly state that I am a "Straight" Male Dominant. Also, the sub in the photographs is clearly a woman.

Although I have listed that I am seeking Trans Subs, truthfully, this is merely a fantasy of mine, but not something I have ever indulged. At any rate, at least I am enjoying the conversations, and can say that I have a profile here, and have Dommed. Now, if only people had the common courtesy to at least introduce themselves . . . 

I haven't been on the site long, but so far I am a little disappointed at the lack of activity here. Most of the local profiles I've browsed are discouragingly shallow. It's full of people who claim to be into the life, but there is no enthusiasm. Just a bunch of hollow souls that seem to be stuck in limbo as they wait for Mr. Perfect to happen by.

The majority of the profiles haven't been active in months, and the few that are active are silent. No journal entries, no posts to the message boards, non-deive and boringly short profile introductions. It makes me wonder what people are expecting to find here, when they don't seem to be actively interested in finding anything at all. Not to mention, half of my sent mail has either gone unread or unanswered, although I did manage to have a pleasant conversation with one person from another state.

Well, time will tell if it was worth bothering to join the site. I'm not counting out the possibilities, but I expected more . . . life?

Created my profile last night and got some much needed rest. In my private life I help operate a privately owned business during the week, and work logistics for an establishment on the beach on weekends. I generally work 6 days a week and sometimes 7 straight during the holidays, which doesn't leave me much time for relationships. I need to branch out, start meeting new people, and seeing what I can find if I actually start looking.

I received a warm welcome to the site and I hope for a positive experience. I am especially interested in getting to know and possibly meeting some of the women are into more extreme BDSM scenes, and subjects that I am not familiar with. I don't know whether or not these profiles are real, or scam artists and fakes looking to lure in unsuspecting thrill seekers such as myself, but what's the harm in taking a peek?

Anyway, there is much to do, and I can tell that I am too eager to make new friends. Part of being a Dom is learning to master oneself, before you take on the task of mastering another. Right now, I have to exercise both patience and discipline. It would be unrealistic, and unnerving, to expect replies to start flooding in, assuming I've even managed to contact anyone interested in me as much as I might be interested in them. Patience now, fun later.