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I am a BBW Domme. Always love chatting with curious men on their desires to see what it feels like to give themselves completely to a Domme. ?To just say "Yes Maam" and know you are pleasing. ?Knowing that inside you are shaking and squirming with anticipation of what comes next. Understanding that the Domme/sub relationship is not about sex, but the willingness to give your body and mind up to a Domme. To see that look on her face that you are pleasing and serving her in the manner she is seeking. ?I am considering a full time submissive at this time. I am not looking for a LTR romantically. ?There has to be a strong connection for me to accept you as my submissive. You must be fairly local to me and be able to host. ?I expect to see you a minimum of once a week. ?I am not looking for someone to relocate. ?Experienced or new to the lifestyle is not important as you will be molded into the submissive that I desire. ?I do not accept a submissive that has a limit on forced-bi or being with other men. On the flip side of that, I am also a Pro Domme that sessions when asked. Now do not put down a Domme because they are a Pro, for some that is the way they wish to experience their submissive side or are able to experience this lifestyle. ?Please do not have an attitude when you write me about being a Pro Domme. I have been open and honest about it and I do not approach submissives trying to get them to have a Pro Session with me. ?If you are interested you contact me.??If it is not you interest that is fine, but do not judge me as I do not judge you. I enjoy talking with submissives to learn what makes you tick. Feel free to say hello.? I wish you all find what you are seeking. ?For those who are interested the artist who did the picture is Namio Harukawa

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5/17/2017 12:13:54 PM
I am looking for a submissive who is interested in yard service and other outside chores.? There will be no other type of service required.? This will be done with discretion as I do not live alone.? It would be weekly as needed.? ONLY serious submissives who are local to me need apply.

3/26/2017 3:43:14 PM
Is it really so hard for submissives to be truthful? I hear all the time Dommes are out to use, they lie etc. Let me inform you that submissives do the same. They tell you they will serve you in such and such a manner and they change thier minds. They talk to you email after email and when you go to move forward you are blocked, the closed their account, etc. I am tired of wasting my time. PLEASE do not contact me if you are not going to do as stated, talked about or agreed upon. I do not take this lifestyle lightly. I have in my profile I enjoy talking to submissives which I do but I am not here to help you get off. Call a pay by the minute service for that.

7/1/2016 11:39:54 AM
I need a pedi and a good foot massage

11/24/2014 11:01:29 PM

Please do not contact me to be my submissive without reading my full profile. I am always looking for a submissive. I will never be the type of Dominant as of now that will have just one submissive. If you can not accept that please do not write to me asking to be mine. If you do you MUST MUST MUST be able to host. Don't have a roommate where you tell me that you can only see me when he is not there. That is unacceptable to me. You must live on LI as I will only travel so far. Submissives should know that I do not jump into anything quickly. I talk to you on here. I ask questions, we communicate. If I feel you are a good match I will agree to a meet and greet in a public place for us to talk. It is a simple meet and greet. Does not mean I am accepting you. I take my time and if you are not willing to be patient while I do so, simply move on to find what you are seeking with no hard feelings.

Submissives ask me all the time what do I have to do. It is simple after the connection is there and limits agreed upon, give yourself up freely to me. Do not expect me to tell you everything I am going to do to you or with you. Let it come as it comes. I do not expect you to spend thousands of dollars on me. Do I like to spoiled, of course who doesn't. I am still a woman and like to be treated as such in those aspects. If you want my attention you need to get it in a way that keeps me interested in you and talking with you. You need to show me that I will come first when it comes to serving me. That your interests are always second to mine and you will expect yours not to be met. But to be joyous when they are. I am a very passionate Domme. My subs are well nurtured and know I care about them and want the best for them and strive to make sure they get it. I am tough but fair. I am loving but hard. I am honest but will bend the truth when it is needed to push you further if I know you can handle it. I accept you for you and expect the same in return.

I know what I want and I will not accept anything but. If it sounds harsh I am sorry but I am confident enough to know not to waste my time or yours.

I get asked questions all the time and am usually happy to answer them. I try to always be honest and give you my opinion. If you do not like what I have to say that is fine you are entitled to your opinion.

If you are Dominant and going to approach me, pleaserespectme and speak to me with that respect as I would you. Do not write to me to be your bitch or anything else. That simply shows me you have no clue what it is to be a Dominant and I will simply block you for your ignorance. If you are Dominant and approach me to serve me, you must explain why you wish to. Chances are you have been secretly submissive the whole time and are now just accepting that about yourself and good for you to finally do so. If you are truly Dominant you could never see yourself in the submissive role. Many do not agree with me on this but trust me it is the truth. I do nothing to a submissive that I have not tried myself just to see how it feels so I can understand how to push the submissive in that area. Knowing I am giving up control for that slightest bit of time makes me want to scream. You can protest to the fact you are a switch I will never agree. I do not believe in them.

I know this post is rather lengthy but I hope is sums up some of the continuous questions I get weekly. As always you can say hello and chat. The chat on here freezes my computer so I do not use it but email is always nice.

As always I wish everyone luck on the journey in this lifestyle. It can be amazing with the right person. Do not stop looking for what you want just be patient enough to find it.

 


6/27/2014 9:34:00 AM
Please note:  If you have forced-bi as a limit please do not contact me other than for chat.  I will not accept a submissive if that is a limit for them.  Thank you!!

3/3/2014 8:28:19 PM

**Sigh**  Just wish the ones you take time to get to know would sometimes be true to what they tell you ***end sigh***


1/26/2014 10:24:46 AM

I am actively seeking a new submissive.  They MUST be able to host, no exceptions, must be on Long Island or perhaps as far as queens if I feel we are a good match. I prefer someone 30 - 50 ish. They must be comfortable serving a SSBBW.  I will not have a submissive that is married unless in an open marriage and I can verify with your spouse that they are aware of your lifestyle.  Experienced or new to the lifestyle is not important as you will be molded into the submissive that I desire.  I do not accept a submissive that has a limit on forced-bi or being with other men. I am also not into cross dressing.  I would expect to see you a minimum of once a week.  I have been in this lifestyle 26 years now and I know what I like, what I am seeking and what I will accept in a submissive.  Please do not write with comments if you do not agree with what I seek.  There is a Dominant or submissive out there for everyone I believe and I wish you all luck in your search to find what you are looking for. 

For those I have been talking with that have wished to serve me, if I have not met you yet at this time I just do not feel we would be a good match.  However, I do enjoy chatting with all and I do try to always reply.


8/15/2013 5:57:00 PM

Today had a wonderful pedicure.............. however not by a sub who knows how to do them.  Where is the one that knows what to do or is going to meet me at the salon and wait to pay for me to get some foot pampering????  Pic on profile of the pedi results


7/30/2013 8:11:53 PM

Ok have to put a question out there to all the submissives who continually tell me that they are not into forced bi or being with a male to please their Domme but yet have been with a transvestite............  What do you all not get that you have been with a man?  And why do you feel that being with a man dressed as a woman makes it ok in your mind? 

Do you not realize that it is about serving your Dom/me and not about what you want. 

I do understand if you make that a hard limit......... fine it should not be a line that is crossed......... but to say that you are ok with it being a tranny and not another male............ I just don't get it.  Still a man just with a prettier face............

 

Not judging anyone...... just honestly trying to understand your mindset on this. 


7/4/2013 7:48:08 PM

I make it quite clear in my profile that I am a large BBW.  If that is not your thing that is fine but please do not start a conversation about wanting to possible serve me then be surprised when you finally figure that out.  It is a waste of my time and yours.


10/5/2012 7:48:48 PM

I have decided I so need to find a sub that does pedicures and foot massages........... one that is local........... would be so nice.


8/5/2012 2:44:32 PM

I am to the point in my Domination that I know what I want and am not going to settle for less.  I want the submissive who wants to serve and follow instruction.  The sub who is willing to push themself to please me.......... to show me that he will be a bitch when I tell him he will be and will also be happy just rubbing my feet and a nice massage.  I will not tolerate being topped from the bottom....... if you choose to top then list yourself as Dominant and find a submissive that you can top.   Might sound harsh but I have been in this lifestyle to long not to get what I want and deserve.


7/23/2012 7:41:36 PM

Another liar on CM......... how odd................ the should be a place that people can come to enjoy the things they crave and desire.  Instead there are people here just to use people and lie and take away from how the lifestyle should really be. 


1/17/2012 1:02:31 PM

After reading many profiles of submissives and on a rare occassion of Dom/mes, I have come to the conclusion that Dom/mes need to remember that having a submissive serve you, want to serve you or to learn from you by asking questions is a gift they give you.  It is not just something you take from them.  To fine a submissive that wants to serve you in the way a Domme would like should be taken as that gift. A Dom/me should not have to punishor beat a submissive to get them to comply with what you seek.  If that is the case they are not worthy of serving.  With that being said it us unfortunate that some submissives just try to chat with you to find the temporay "happy ending" for themselves by reading the replies you send to them.  Submissives should keep in mind that Dommes just like themselves do not like to have their time wasted with talk and promises that they are interested in you. If you do start to write with a Dom/me and you say you are interested do not let days go by before they here from you again.  There are many more male submissives then there are Dommes.  They will move on and forget you quickly. I am not stating that to be snotty or a bitch, it is just the facts based on how many submissives write to Dommes.  It is not the short 1 - 10 word message that is going to grab our attention and make you stand out to us.   Many write to me with the hope of me responding back, which I do with all that make the effort to try to communicate.  The email of "I want to service you"  simply will not get a response as every submissive of course would like that. I get complaints from submissives all the time that Dommes do not write back to them as this is my advice to you:  When writing to a Dom/me write more than hello or I want to serve you. Be respectful in your words.   State your intentions, desires, wishes within reason.  Most Dom/mes are not looking for someone out of state, so if you are in that situation make it clear from the start.  Do tell them of your experience, if you are a new submissive say so.  If you are married say so.  Once communication has been established be honest and upfront, do not hide anything.  Answer all questions asked, do not avoid them.  Read the Dom/mes profile fully and make sure you know what they are seeking.  If they say they can not host know that going in that you will have to host or make other arrangements.  If they say they are not looking for a LTR understand that and accept it. 

 

A submissive must remember there are many levels to serving a Dom/me.  NOT all are in a sexual way.  If all you are seeking is sex you need to find a different place to look.  If I could tell a submissive one piece of advice it would be know your limits.  If a Domme does not accept your limits for you to be their submissive that is fine, it is their choice.  Make sure you state hard limits - limits that you will not break under any circumstances.  State softer limits, situations you would perhaps in time consider pushing yourself to do. Also if you are just seeking one type of fetish play such as only foot worship as an example make that known as well. 

 

I know this was a longer post and I hope it does not come across as harsh.  I am only trying to help the submissives out there who write to me all the time with complaints that they can not find a Dom/me to serve.  Or for those posts that I read from submissives that the Dom/mes treat them like a piece of trash, which in itself is inexcusable.  Dom/mes needs to remember that a submissive is not an object but a person such as themself just on the other end of this lifestyle.  Yes the objectifcation comes down the road should they become yours, but there is no need to treat a submissive like yesterdays trash from a simple communication on a website. I wish you all luck in your search!!!

 


10/7/2011 3:27:40 PM

I often wonder why when I read a submissives profile they list what they like as far as what they would want to do to a Domme.  Is it not for them to ask what pleases the Domme and put asides their own likes for her pleasure and needs??? I think submissives get confused and must realize that they really are only into fetish scenes and not true submission. 


1/23/2010 2:27:42 PM
There is nothing better than walking up to your sub, seeing the look in their eyes knowing they want to please you.  Telling him to assume a postion and he looks at you with the understanding that you know what he craves.  Him pushing that limit for you, knowing it will please you.  Him just saying "Yes Ma'am, anything you want for I am yours".

Had that experience recently and must say it was one of the best I have had.

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JSkitten
 
 Submissive, Age:  22
 Yorkshire, United Kingdom
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