About me

I am pretty, sexy, slim, clever, English, professionally successful and, I think, rather nice too. I am 51 and divorced. I have children. I have always been submissive, but I lead a full normal life. My personality type is apparently ENFJ (see http://www.humanmetrics.com).

I haven't put up a picture simply because of confidentiality given the nature of my work but I think I look good. I have brown/auburn hair, shoulder length, blue eyes, freckles, English size 10, about 5 foot 4 - 5, weigh about 9 stone 7, quite active. I like to wear pretty dresses and high heels and I'm told I have a nice voice.

I am looking for a compatible dominant man who might, if things work out, want a long term relationship. I am not ready to move anyone in however. Living in London helps. Being single is essential. Divorced is fine. Children are fine - I love children. I have to admire and respect a man before I can submit to him and need someone to have fun with, go out with, live with, enjoy in the most intimate of senses. I have to think I will be able to talk to you for the next few decades and never run out of things to say. I am very submissive and need someone who understands that fully, is a caring dominant man and is dominant in the inherent and controlling sense, not just in bed.

I am looking for a clever quick man - someone who is hard wired dominant.

I am a lifetime submissive, although very competent in life terms. Whilst externally to family and friends and at work I may appear non-assertive they would be unlikely to guess my sexuality which I regard as private. I am quite choosy and have good judgment. I need to respect and be attracted to my dominant man, be sure he is interested in me as a career professional, divorced mother, with sophisticated cultural tastes as well as being his obedient submissive.

My interests are wide - from psychology (my family are psychiatrists and psychologists) to religion, from anthropology to history. I ski. I think. I enjoy my home and garden. I enjoy my work too and my family. I aim to work until I die. I am different from many women.

I am cautious and careful and restrain myself from posting here any identifying details.

About me and submission

For me this is almost entirely in the mind. This makes the personality of the person who dominates me so very important. You have to understand me. You have to want to please me. You have to be aroused by the fact you’ve aroused me. We are both consenting to something and both in a sense giving to the other. I have to trust you enough, respect you enough to do whatever you require and what that is probably isn’t that important. You have to be inside my mind to such an extent that you don’t need a rope or a belt to restrain me. I would lie or kneel where you said instead simply because you’d directed me to.

The details of what I might physically want to do or not to do are neither here nor there and can be worked on. It is often how things are said or done rather than what is done which matters.

I have experience as I have never had a relationship in which I have not been submissive. It is the only way I can be. I feel like people feel who were born gay. It's not a choice or something you learn to be. It is how you are. I know what I like, but in essence that is to please who I submit to, rather than a checklist of physical actions. I like someone who can put some effort into things, preparations, plans and who is always considerate, trustworthy, polite, English even (no slur on Americans intended....)...except of course when we might be getting down to business, as it were. He needs to be interested in how I dress too. I have to feel cherished and protected. However, he must also be confident, dominant of course, a “real man”, not a wimp, firm when necessary and of course taking me further than I might think I want to go. I am never awkward, difficult or brattish but I like to communicate how I feel and what I want even though I don't expect in most cases to be taking decisions.

Control is the one principal thing I seek and need. If you have no desire to control, in and out of bed, you are probably not for me. It is the getting inside of my mind which is the key to this and I am as interested in relationships such as those known as "takeninhand" as anything else. I am submissive, not a slave and I expect I would always want to continue my career, but it is some kind of power exchange relationship I seek and indeed inevitably end up in because I am programmed to be like that. It's etched in my DNA, wired into my being.

Being submissive is how I am, how I've been since as early as I can remember. No question. The most erotic thing there is.

"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will. His pleasure. His Desires. His life. His work. His sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh God, as woman I want to be Dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own two feet, not to cling to all that I am capable of doing, but I am pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at His time, His Bidding...." - Anais Nin