All right now I'm seeing some love.

Holy shit people are hostile in this site. What the fuck!

So apparently I have to be an asshole and not a decent guy to get a submissive slave. How disrespectful is that to all the Doms out there.

I am having this great conversation with a wise submissive and I wanted to share.

"Oh LOL I see well that's not the only thing I want a submissive for. It is only one of my many wicked ideas.

I agree with you that control is not always on the hands of the dominant person. Other than the old cliche of topping from the bottom (I was guilty of that when i was younger and exploring my sub side), and the use of safe words. One of the things being a sub helped me with was overcoming guilt caused by years of religious indoctrination. And as you said for me a defining moment was when i realized "I am here of my own free will" "I can walk away anytime i chose" "I can not come back to them after today". As a sub I held that power and control.  Being used, abused, tortured, humiliated actually helped me realize my self worth. It was always by my will and choice that these things were happening to me and while I submitted and bowed down to the will of my masters and mistresses it was because I chose to. It tempered the core of my soul and forged me into the sexual being I am today.  "

It is always hard to define what one is to the expectations of others.

Have you found you need to explain yourself to others on this site way more than in real life?

I think maybe that human aspect of communication that allows us to convey the "actual" meaning of our words is lost when we are unable to use body language and voice tone to enrich the message. Personally I always found control to be the defining aspect of domination and submission. One person gives up control to another, they call them Submissive. The other person takes control so we call them dominant. Semantics and the use of a signifier are funny things when you consider that people are always evolving growing up and changing what they are.

I really just want to have a good time with someone that wants the same.

What is it with submissives and slaves being so defensive all the time. During my sub period a large part of the excitement came from taking the risk and meeting someone new. Seems like there is a bunch of princesses out there with Cinderella complexes (ala Anne Rice's beauty). All this whining is a turn off. Play safe but learn to grow up and take some risks take your heads out of those shells and live life. And while I understand that some subs once they are collared like to write it in their little profiles like a digital collar get honest and admit that the reason you are still on this site is not because you can still connect with others it is just in case this dom sends you packing or because you are still playing on the side.

On the other hand fucking idiot Doms looking for, Cameron Diaz, Adriana Lima or Jessica Alba to be their sub. Are you fucking nuts? What is it with this "no fattys" bull shit i keep seeing? Have some respect for your subs. I want to dominate a person, not a body fitting some narrow minded interpretation of beauty.  Age, gender, appearance & orientation are these the things keeping you from meeting that person you can connect with. How stupid. Best Dominant woman played with was a large 50 year old Lesbian and the best sub I've had was a 40 year old straight man, the wisest woman to ever top me was bi and 20 and she pushed my boundaries with her imagination and she insisted she was plain but I thought she was lovely. Just sitting next to an older Dom and his mate after they finished a scene and hearing them discuss it enriched my life and made me a better Dominant.

  If I had gone trough life without letting them into my life I would have missed those connections and experiences. Give people around you a chance. Is this really enough for you? Sitting at home in front of the computer? Don't you know it could be so much better? Go out there, meet people, go to munches, join a club, play in public, learn.

I am really trying to get together some other creative kinky people to start making some fetish videos. Man its hard to get people to pose for free. I mean I am willing to provide location and equipment, film & edit but everyone is so jaded and apprehensive they think I'm out to take advantage of them. Id do it for free but no one wants to see me on tape. Every one wants these 18- 20 year old models with sculpted muscles. I want to create fetish and sensual video with people that are beautiful not perfect but real. There is no way I am the only person like me out there. There has to be other people who are kinky and sexy and look for that thrill and excitement of the new and risque.

OK so Ive been thinking of keeping a blog where I can say what I really Feel about some things and maybe this one is it since I Would like to keep it from my regular circle.