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The Truth About Kinky Women

Submissives aren’t submissive to everyone

Kinky women are not whores

Kinky women are not easy

Kinky women are not objects

Kinky women have feelings


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	So it’s been a while since I last updated my profile. I thought to share my perspective on what constitute as a Master/Slave and how it differs from a Dominant/Submissive arrangement. Bear in mind that there is no universal rule on this. As every arrangement is unique between consenting parties, I am speaking about my own interpretation and how I identify myself and shall continue to do so. Dominant/Submissive is a form of relationship that is built on mutual trust. The Dominant gets empowered first by the Submissive. There are safewords and hard limits for every single play. These are ground rules laid out by the Submissive that the Dominant must adhere to. There are fetishes to explore and kinks to experiment, both the Dominant & Submissive are mutually satisfying each other. The Submissive holds the power until that power is handed over to the Dominant for a period of time only. This is what we call Total Power Exchange and it exists before play session, it doesn’t persist outside of play. For outside of play, both Dominant & Submissive are equals. Either as couples or play partners or simply just a NSA/ONS with a bit of play. Master/Slave is like an Asset & Liability Management to me. The Master (Owner) owns the Slave (Property). The Owner invests Time (Resource) to manage (or train as what some would love to call it) the Property. The Property either becomes an Asset over a period of time or a Liability that has wasted too much of the Owner’s time. An Asset because he or she behaves the way the Owner wants them to. The mere presence of the Owner is enough for the Property to feel alive and satisfied. This is where the Owner yields Dividend from the Property. A Liability when he or she wants more than just serving the Owner. Jealously, anger, love and indifference are all taboo. When such emotions arise from the Property, then the Owner has either not convey the message enough or the Property requires more Resource from the Owner to adjust. The Slave is stripped of all basic human rights. It is a sort of lifestyle that is devoid of romance. There is a contract of sort to be negotiated and sign by both parties but it is merely ceremonial. More so than a contract, it is perhaps more accurate to call it a Code Of Conduct that the Master listed out and the Slave must adhere to at all times. Rather than negotiation prior to signing, it is more often just clarifications before committing to it. Master/Slave are never on equal terms throughout the existence of such arrangement. Thus it is of extreme importance to first understand if you truly identify as a Slave or are you only trying to roleplay as a Slave. I identify myself as a Master. There is no plan to have a vanilla relationship, get married, have kids etc. So if you do identify yourself as a Slave, or rather my idea of a Slave, then do know that this is a lifestyle choice that is unlikely to change. So it doesn’t matter if you are a broke student, a domineering chief executive, a recent divorcee, a lonely widow, a long time unemployed. Whatever roles you had are just a cover for your true identity as a Slave. And any roles you shall therefore be assign must be carried out of utmost importance. It may be to become a live in Slave 24/7 that helps with housework. Or to change job to become a part time waitress from a high flying job, or to start a business and be tasked with handling it etc… Next is finances. Findom is something that a small niche of people in the community practices to varying degree of success. While many have use the term to commit fraud. I firmly believe that money empowers people, with money, it contradicts the power balance between the Master/Slave. If the Slave is reliant on the Master, being given a monthly allowance and receiving more for pleasing the Master becomes part & parcel of life. The same as how the Master should have an endowment plan, leave behind some inheritance and insurance eventually to ensure if the Master is sick or pass away, the Slave can live with it. If the Slave is financially independent, then the Slave will be in a position to bargain. This would jeopardize the Master/Slave arrangement eventually. As the Slave is technically a property under the Master, everything that the Slave owned is considered a part of the Master. However, legally this is not protected under the common court of law. This is where basic human rights vs nefarious slavery are at odds. Thus a compromise would have to be made. Either with a tribute system where the Slave pays for the time of the Master, or simply to have an Income & Expenditure report every day/week/month to monitor earning and spending behavior. The Slave must commit to not withdraw over the agreed allowance set by Master regardless of earning power. Likewise, every expenses over the predetermined limit must first be approved by the Master. *** Congratulations on navigating through this chunk of text. You may be disgusted by the thought it, if so we are not going to make anything happen anyway. Still, thanks for reading through it and survive the atrocity. If you’re intrigued by it, I hope you don’t get too curious and want to try it out simply out of curiosity. If you don’t at least identify as a Slave, chances are my interpretation of Slave might be too ridiculous for you to just try for real. Try not to lump your fantasy into my reality. Nonetheless, if you are not intimidated, then feel free to reach out to me. For the genuine gems out there, if what I describe is what you seek, do feel free to PM me.

7/24/2011 4:03:36 AM

This was written in response to a post. The poster was wondering why no one was responding to his profile or his entreaties to be invited to parties.

You want to meet a girl that you can explore your kinky side with. That’s wonderful.

Let me ask you something:

Do you have a match.com or OK Cupid a profile that says “I’m a guy. I’m looking for a girl. If you’re a girl or know a girl, would you send her to me please?”
Suppose you’re into stamp collecting. Do you go into stamp-collecting forums and say “I’m a guy who thinks he may like stamp collecting, and I’m looking for a girl to fuck and teach me about stamp collecting.”?
Do you see a girl at Starbucks drinking coffee and say “Hey, I like coffee, too. Wanna fuck?”

Every time you post on here asking for people to “help you out,” that’s exactly what you’re doing.

You seem to think that just because a woman is into getting tied up, beaten, and fucked in the ass, she’s somehow different from a “normal” woman. You seem to think that just because a woman likes to have sex, talk about sex, and sometimes be naked in front of people, she should want to do that with you, without knowing anything at all about you except that you like women to get naked in front of you.

You’ll hear submissives say “I’m submissive, but I’m not yoursubmissive.” No matter how many times you’ve read The Story of O, there is no chateau full of submissive women who are available on demand to anyone who wants to use them.

Some kinky women may like it when their partner calls them “whore,” but they’re not sex workers. They’re not in the business of making sex of any sort available to all comers. (And contrary to popular belief, there is not a rule that actual sex workers have to accept whoever is willing to pay them.)

Some kinky women have multiple partners. Some women will do some sort of limited play with people they just met. As a rule most women will not get intimate with a guy they know nothing about. Kinky women are no different.

Sure, some women like being objectified, to be used as furniture, ashtrays, fuck toys, even toilets. But you know what? The women who like that trust the people who do that to them, Do you knowwhy they trust them? Because they know them as people. They have connected as human beings before they connected as kinksters.

Charleston

Do some kinky women want to be humiliated, degraded, hurt, and used? Absolutely. This may be hard to understand, but while they may want all those things, they want them in a supportive, trusting, and caring environment. You call my girlfriend a bitch, she’ll kick your balls. I call her a bitch, and she melts in my arms. See the difference?

This is a repost from http://mrzeitgeist.net/post/3899863983/the-truth-about-kinky-women?c67d6780

7/23/2011 10:49:47 AM

Seems like there are more and more fake users trying to scam with the webcam trick.

Take away the fakes, you're left with a handful of inactives.

Take away the fakes and inactives, you're left with plenty of unresponsives.

Take away the fakes, the inactives and the unresponsive, you're left with many suitable dom/slave/pet/playpal overseas.

If you don't include those overseas, seriously, you're left with not many. Among the not many local real people who's responsive, you gotta find someone who share your kinks and fetishes. I think I may have strike 4D 4 times before I find a match here.

Seriously, I wouldn't be surprise if in search of an alternate lifestyle online, we lose ourselves to desperation. The hard-to-get is really getting harder by the day. A supposedly small community in a tiny closed-minded country, yet we're not close-knitted or at least open-minded enough to chat.

Haven't attend any munches yet, so I shall reserve my comments. I still want to remain anonymous.