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I'm a Dominant man in the Bay Area of California. I cannot be or think like a switch - it just doesn't work. I am Dominant period.

I am attached and my partner is unaware that I'm here. Consequently, I've not acted on this in many years. I find that 1) I'm addicted to the profiles and journals 2) I enjoy talking and chatting and 3) I may find the right discreet sub to play with periodically.

I am Dominant, however I am also affectionate - and find that complete control, physical, mental, and sexual - this D/s dance increases intimacy.

In that quintessential moment, when I see the internal surrender, the letting go to a new level.  It is like watching the first sliver of light from a sunrise peek over the horizon.   I consider bondage, discipline, pain, humiliation are wonderful, but they serve only as tools by which to guide a sub to a deeper submission and intimacy.

My current passions besides bdsm include meditation, psychology, hypnotism, NLP, political (progressive) reading, and working out. Although many other passions  change periodically - these have remained pretty constant.

I'm often asked about hypnotism over the internet. It works! I was doing it since chat rooms existed (that was even before browsers). This has become almost a fetish for me. I practice it erotically, safely, and ethically.

I should explain ChangedState.... I don't mean that I've moved. State is a psychological term meaning, "The total ongoing mental and physical conditions from which a person is acting." As a sub goes into "subspace" you can often recognize signs of her changing state.

So as a Dom, I will bring about a changed state in a sub...hmmm maybe StateChanger would be better.

I'm very active.  Where I used to run long distances, due to knee problems, I'm now swimming.  It is very peaceful and serves as my alone meditation time.


6/29/2010 8:31:20 AM
Here is a new and interesting tool for people that like to examine profiles. 

This is a reverse image picture lookup.  Once you install this into your Firefox, Chrome, IE, or Safari browser, then you can simply right-click on a picture and see where else on the web it appears.

http://www.tineye.com/goodies

"Borrowed" pictures aren't always found (many are behind passwords), but you may be surprised at how many you find.
6/9/2010 7:48:49 PM
It will never be take seriously but it is interesting. 

From http://english/pravda/ru/main/18/90/360/15176_whipping.html

Addiction to alcohol and narcotics, depression and suicidal thoughts resolved with "whipping therapy."  And oddly, it is even more effective when received by one of the opposite sex.

I'd be interested to see if receiving subs can can verify this.
4/17/2009 2:38:41 PM
It is not my intent to offer a journal of only quotes.  So far, I've offered some that have provoked me to thought.   I offer the following because it just cracked me up. .......................................... ............................... ......................... "They called me mad,  and I called them mad, and damn them, they outvoted me." Nathaniel Lee (on being consigned to a mental institution, circa 17th c.)
4/16/2009 8:49:25 AM
"Every act of conscious learning requires the willingness to suffer an injury to one's self-esteem.  That is why young children, before they are aware of their own self-importance, learn so easily; and why older persons, especially if vain or important, cannot learn at all."  Thomas Szasz, professor of psychiatry ................. .............. The ability to humble oneself, to willingly suffer an injury to one's self esteem for the sake of a Dom/Master is a thing of phenomenal beauty.  
4/15/2009 12:01:41 PM
"Man's mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions."  - Oliver Wendell Holmes ............... This truth is reflected over and over in the profiles with those that discovered bdsm and the profound impact it has had on their life.  
3/30/2009 11:24:22 AM
As you read the following, imagine the sensory imagery as vividly as possible.  In the story, I refer to the Dom/Master as me or I.  Please imagine the Dom/Master as whoever is appropriate for you.   
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If it feels natural and right for you to surrender, this little guided imagery may help describe your submission.
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Take  a deep breath and let yourself relax completely. I love knowing everything about a sub, finding out what makes her tick, how she thinks. So lets, explore a very simple imagination right now, as you allow yourself to focus on my words. Let all of the distractions around you fade into the background and allow your submissive, obedient mind to zero in on my words like a laser beam, knowing that if your attention is required elsewhere you will can redirect your attention at any time.
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Imagine as vividly and clearly as possible, that as you sit naked in a leather chair, my collar going around your neck. Picture a beautiful black patent leather collar with a D ring on the front. Notice how the light shines on it. How it smells. As I put the collar around your neck, and you feel the coolness on your skin - notice the feelings. I wonder what feelings they are and where they are in your body?
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You feel it wrap around your neck and comfortably close. Then you hear the lock clicking shut, locking it on. Do the feelings in your body change? What does a locked collar mean to you? Enjoy the good feelings and thoughts.
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A chain leash is attached to your collar. You recognize, that I am in complete control now. I know you want to please me, and now I'm showing you how. Feel the desire to please grow in you.   Can you describe what it feels like?
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For this session, double this feeling and sensation. Do you see a picture when you feel it? Make the picture bigger and brighter. As you imagine my collar around your neck, double the feeling - and experience how good and right it feels.
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Pulling on your leash, I guide you out of your chair and instruct you to kneel. Knees apart, hands behind your head, back arched, looking away. your lips must be parted. Notice how this posture makes you feel. You may feel that it is good to get instructions - so you know you are pleasing me.
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you can hear the smile I have as I give you the instructions. Imagine what you look like, from my eyes, as I walk around you. I grab a handful of hair and whisper in your ear, "I want everything from you slut! Every thought, every action, every obedience, every feeling right now." Notice your reaction. Is there any resistance? If there is any resistance, deal with it now and let go completely. Can you surrender and will yourself to give to me now?
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I let go of your hair and continue walking around, inspecting you, as you offer yourself up to me. If you forget and close your lips, a riding crop whacks your thighs. is that something you forget? only once?
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I next tell you to change your position - lower your hands to your thighs, palms up, lower your head and eyes. Feel the change in position as your head and eyes go down.
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See yourself from my eyes. How do you look? Does this position make you feel different? your eyes are lowered, but you can see me standing in front of you, and with a furtive glance, you can see my pants needing to be adjusted as I begin to get hard. Are you beginning to get excited now?
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I reach down and with both hands I grasp each of your nipples. I squeeze them firmly, but not too hard and tell you, "while you wear my collar, these are mine". Imagine my fingers squeezing them as vividly and as real as possible.
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Feel it as I take a handful of your hair again and whisper into your ear, "I want you to crave my cock now...want it's taste, want it's feel in your mouth. you will desire it so as to please me more and more." Feel that desire in you grow, as I grow with it ;).
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I instruct you to move to a new position as you lower your head and put your hands behind your back now. Feel yourself moving slowly and carefully so as to keep your balance, as you go slowly down deeper.
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Does this position make you feel different? Do you feel more reverence now? With the crop, I encourage you to open your legs further in this position. When you go down deeper do you feel more submissive, more open?
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I command you now to, "go down deeper" as you change your position again lowering your forehead to the ground. your ass is in the air and your hands are in front of you. Feel yourself change positions as you quickly go down deeper for me.
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I put my sock foot near your face and tell you to kiss it. Imagine you nuzzling it and kissing my foot. How does this feel to you? you are pleasing me now. I reach down pet your head. After a minute, when you have shown me your surrender, I walk behind you.
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I feel your pussy now. Feel my hand stroking your pussy - a finger pushing in and noticing your wetness. you hear me chuckle with pleasure as I feel your wetness.
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As you continue to kneel for me - I reach up and put my newly wet finger to your mouth and tell you to suck your juices off of it. First, notice how good it is to suck on my finger. To feel it in your mouth as I move it slowly in and out. Then notice your taste. How do you taste? How does this make you feel? Can you surrender more deeply to me now. you want my cock in your mouth now...but that will have to wait.
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I next order you to lay prostrate with hands out away from the body to your sides, with one cheek turned. You know already your legs must be wide open, and you continue to keep your lips parted as I have instructed.
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Notice now how it feels as your picture yourself and feel yourself changing position again. As you go down even lower and deeper for me. How does this new position make you feel inside? Is it different?
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I walk around and again play with your pussy. Imagine my hands stroking your pussy now. Feel my hands as if they are really there. Now feel me as I massage your clit.
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First slowly, then quickly. Feel your arousal climbing as I continue to massage your clit. feel your surrender deepening with pleasure and arousal. I tell you, "you cannot cum until I command you to - as long as you are wearing my collar". how does it feel to know I control your sexual pleasure? even more exciting? scary?
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As you are now so aroused, I stop, and walk to your head. I pull up a chair, sit in front of you. I rest my sock foot on your cheek. feel it now as you lie deep down in submission and pleasure. how does this make you feel? Where in your body do you feel it? Picture how you look from my eyes. your surrender is beautiful and wonderful.
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Sometimes we just don't feel enough pleasure in life...we can always use more. Notice all the wonderful good feelings you have right now. Feel them intensely. Now double them - how wonderful they feel.  See yourself experiencing it. what do you see? what do you feel? what do you hear, taste, smell?
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Feel me now removing the collar, but if you want to continue to feel wonderful, you these feelings will remain. If not, then simply shake them off -  either way, I hope you feel fantastic.
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Have a wonderful day.
                                                                          
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I'd love to know of your experience reading this.
12/9/2008 1:51:29 PM
Not what I think of when the term spanking a pussy comes up....but ok, she likes it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SF7G9UjVi0&eurl=http://www.biggestidiotontheinternet.com/search/label/idiot%20videos
5/14/2008 7:56:06 AM
Take a moment and
... take a deep breath and let yourself relax
... relax your body and allow yourself a mini-vacation
...feel inside and notice muscles and feelings as you relax
...and the more you relax the better you feel

... as take the next few breaths, imagine vividly and powerfully a deepening calm and peace within you
... with each breath it grows more and more
... and as it grows it feels more and more wonderful
... now imagine this wonderful peace and calm doubling as it completely envelopes you
...double it again - feeling immersed in the peace and calm

If you are submissive...take a moment and notice your submission. 
 - notice how it feels, where do you feel it, what does it feel like to you?
 - notice what you see in your minds eye
 - notice the sounds in your imagination
 - and notice smells and tastes

Take a moment and let yourself be grateful for your submission - it is a wonderful, beautiful attribute!

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Cheers

lysistrata
 
 Age: 26
 Orlando, Florida