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Hmmm, I've always been a man of few words; feeling that the quality being better then the quantity. I will try to do a good job of giving a view of who I am. I follow some simple rules when dealing with people. All of these are fluid as relationships change but in general I try to follow these. 1) I am NOT your Dom, you are NOT my sub. This shouldn't have to be said but I've had dealings where people assume that I will dom them or that they can act as if we have a relationship we do not have. 2) Respect is earned, not given Again something many will tell me is a given but we've all met people who assume that they have the experience, age, seniority, piss, shit, and/or vinegar etc that means they are the end all be all and all should bow down to their awesome presence. 3) Courtesy will go a long way I treat everyone with basic politeness unless I'm given reason to do otherwise. Treat others as you expect to be treated in other words. That said I'm a big fan of Bondage and D/S activities. If the nickname wasn't obvious I'm a fan of rope, I prefer utilitarian knot-work over decorative; just a quirk of where and how I learned to tie knots. That doesn't mean I can't do pretty work just that it's not first to mind. I'm also a fan of Exhibitionism, public sex, and dogging. There's a thrill to the taboo. I'll add more as I think of it, if you want to know more just send me a message and I'll answer your question.

12/29/2015 6:21:30 PM Respect vs Courtesy I've had a few people ask about this, and a few people not really understand what I mean when I distinguish the two. I'm normally not a blogger our journal writer but after the last few days I thought that I would put this in writing. Let's start with the dry parts: Respect is defined as a noun and a verb noun a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements. a particular aspect, point, or detail. verb admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements. Courtesy is defined as a noun the showing of politeness in one's attitude and behavior toward others. As you can see there is a big difference according to the people at Funk & Wagnalls and I agree with them. Respect has very little to do with Courtesy and Courtesy I feel is the exact minimum one should always have when dealing with others unless there is an extenuating circumstance such as the dynamic of a relationship that's been figured out. I don't care if you are my mortal enemy I will show you courtesy unless there is a reason given not to. Respect is something I feel must be earned. It can not be given or taken simply earned or lost. Most people start earning my respect quickly. it doesn't take much to get a little respect but it takes even less to lose it. Now we come to why I'm writing this, it's mainly to get some annoyance and frustration on paper so I can let go. My number one peeve is when people don't have either the respect or courtesy to simply contact me when they have a change of heart or mind. Twice in the last few days I've had people flake. One started out well and after a week and some of back and forth good conversation we set a meet time. I prepared everything, bought the stuff for dinner and.... nothing. no message, no response to text messages. I see them on collarspace and they don't respond to messages. Now if the issue was that they changed their mind, or weren't feeling it I would understand, be a bit disappointed in the lost opportunity but I would have understood and moved on or tried to reschedule if that was an option. Instead I get what amounts to a slap in the face.  There was no indication that they weren't interested in continuing; in fact the last few texts between us were downright flirty. so I have a hard time not wondering 'WTF? just happened?' Number one pet peeve and I'm sure many agree with me on that. Anyway Rant over you can all return to what you were previously doing. CalgaryRopeMan