My mom's husband, Sunnie, and I have been going through mom's household in an attempt to make sure family members have mementos, to assure that I, as the oldest child/only daughter got everything mom wanted me to have, and lastly to minimize Sunnies' belongings so that s/he could move into a smaller place.
Sunnie is a transgendered M to F (we affectionately caller her mom's "shusband"), so the grieving process has been so difficult for her. My mom was one of the only people in Sunnie's life who ever took time to look deeper into Sunnie and see something worth loving. Since she passed away, Sunnie has been inconsolable. Of course I am trying to be there for her during this awful time.
This has been both a heavy burden and a great honor for me, because I feel that to be there for Sunnie is to respect my mother as well as to care for someone who helped take care of my mom the last few years without reservation.
Today, finally, everything fell into place, and we started moving Sunnie into a new apartment about 15 minutes away from my home. She was originally almost an hour away. The next few days will be very hard physically for me, since I am disabled, but I am filled with pride for her courage in the face of all of these changes.
Just wanted to let everyone know why I'm not keeping in touch when they send a message. I will answer all my mail as soon as I can. |