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I switch, but am primarily submissive. I am not looking for a foot slave, or a sissy sub. I prefer masculine submissives/switch men. I do not generally switch with the same person I submit to, this is moderately negotiable for the right person. I find that I often have trouble submitting to switch men unless they are primarily Dominant. It's a mind set, if you are less Dominant than I am, I will take over in the relationship. One of us has to be in charge. If you aren't going to be, I'll do the job. Which means I am going to be looking for a Dominant while I Top you. When I submit, I am a quiet submissive, avoiding eye contact, often reluctant to express an opinion. If you are upset with me, or expressing displeasure in something I have done, I become even quieter. It was how I was trained. I prefer a Dominant who is loving. When I Top, I am loving, not derisive. (Note that, I do not consider myself Dominant. I Top, and there is a difference.) Doms should be my age or older, not younger. I do have current photos and will send them to those Dominants I am interested in corresponding with further. (They are g-rated.) I have a job and wish to keep it. I do not wish to be kept, I prefer to take care of my own bills, please. I suppose this is negotiable because obviously in a M/s, D/s relationship where I am submissive, I follow your lead, but I must have an income. My working will mean you will not have me 24/7 as I cannot simply quit work when I have no other source of income. If you do not understand in advance that my job must come before a relationship, perhaps we will not be a good fit. I realize it was foolish of me not to plant a money tree, but what is done is done. I must work in order to pay my bills. I will devote myself to you when I am not working. It all works out in the end. If it's not worked out, it's not the end.

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5/3/2015 8:10:12 AM
Bored out of my mind today.

I am pondering the insanity that is found on here. The expectations that are wanted and it is hard to determine what is real and what is fantasy in the mind of posters.

For instance, the "TPE" people who want a slave to lock up for the next hundred years, basically taking over someone's life. Just this week one of those girls has gone to the police. It was said that she entered into the relationship consensually, but changed her mind after a year.

Fantasy always sounds great until you are in the center of it and you realize you just gave control of your life to a nut job. Make sure you research the person before you give your life to someone because that might be exactly what you are doing, giving your life to someone.

Confined to a basement or a box for the rest of your life. It sounds great in the fantasy world, but is not always so great when it becomes more than a weekend.

1/23/2015 7:08:05 PM
Nope, I am not interested in a quick hook up. It doesn't sound even remotely interesting. Impress me with your mind first, not your cock. I am not here to help supply your need for a rape fantasy. Rape or simulated rape is a hard limit. Pull that shit with me and I will make damn sure you are on the Megan's Law website for the rest of your life after you get out of jail. I have too much self respect to allow you to do what I consider to be abuse to my body. You don't have to agree, nor do I care if you do. There are other women on here, find one who likes those games.

1/5/2015 8:31:58 PM
Haven't been around much, busy with mundane life and day to day stuff. The holidays are over thankfully. No new resolutions for the new year other than survive it and hope it is less traumatic than 2014 was. Three deaths in eight months was too many. Major breakups and an entirely changed dynamic iced the cake. Somewhere along the road I picked up a vanilla (!!) boyfriend. (I am not quite sure how it happened and I am in denial that I am dating him. I haven't explained the whole other non-vanilla me to him and besides, if we haven't kissed, we aren't dating. Right? I might have to chew my arm off to get out of this trap.) Someone please send assassins. Or naked pictures to the sweet vanilla dude. No, don't. I can't break his heart. He works a lot. I can just cuckhold him, yeah? Me so busy grieving lost family members I didn't realize I had gained a boyfriend. ( no, I will not cuckhold him. I am going to try not to break his heart when I break up with him.) I feel absolutely alone. It's a feeling of being invisible and not even being sure I am actually alive. People talk to me, but I no longer think they actually give a shit. It's just small polite talk. Not even my cats would miss me if I stopped coming home as long as they were fed by someone. If I have blown you off the past year, I am sorry. It wasn't intentional, and nothing personal. I just haven't been in any mindset to play on either end of the rope the past few months. I am numb and not comfortably numb either.

5/17/2014 7:03:09 AM
Horny boys... I am tired. It is 7 am and I was awakened by bouncy cats before six. I will come up with arousing thoughts after coffee. Yawn.....

5/9/2014 3:02:18 PM
Busy this weekend... Emails will be answered after the weekend.

5/9/2014 11:06:20 AM

Royalty payments. Love seeing those come in via Paypal. It's a tiny amount each time, but it is fun stuff because it reminds me of how much fun I had during the two experiences that led to the short stories.

Twice a year I get to smile as I see another $25 or so deposited into Paypal. Petty cash, but it is a happy time. I know that my stories are out there to the masses. I write to make others smile, titillated or flat out turned on. I know that there are people out there reading my stories and getting wet or hard, it's a turn on for me. They do not know who I am, I do not know who they are, somehow that makes it more of a turn on. It's a private form of exhibitionism.


5/7/2014 8:05:34 PM

So much for a quiet evening. Idiot one and idiot two just arrived with their dogs. I am retreating to upstairs for two reasons.

   A) I am in shorts and a tshirt with nothing under. Meaning my nipples are flashing high signs. Rude to show off body parts to men I wouldn't fuck for all the money in the world. (life is too short for screwing someone who doesn't interest me)

 B) They have out of control dogs who jump on me and lick my legs and feet. If someone is on the floor licking my feet, I want them to be human.


5/7/2014 6:53:36 PM

I get that this is a site for bdsm folks and that does translate into sexual overtones at the least. However, there needs to be something else there before I am letting you stick your cock or cunt in my face.

I am careful with whom I play, sexually or otherwise. I am careful regarding whom I choose to meet. A picture of your cock is not a turn on. It means you think with it, I am not interested. I can bring about my own orgasm, been doing do for years.

I do not NEED a man for that. Sure, it is nice to have company but there is this fine line between abuse and S/m, I prefer to stay on the S/m side where there is mutual respect. No, I do not care if you are enraged by that statement. If you have so little self control that a person you do not personally know can enrage you, perhaps you should seek counseling for your anger issues,not take them out on another person.

I am not stupid nor naive. I have seen the players on here and I have learned to avoid you. I am worth more than just a quickie from some man who has the ambition to sample every female who is on CM. You found the rest lacking, I don't need to add my name to your notched belt.

Yes, yes, I am probably a jaded bitch, but to the people I do choose to play with,I submit fully. I respect them because I trust them. I can hand them my life and know they will never harm me. They might push my limits, but they will never push me over the edge.

 

I am not trying to offend, merely making it clear that I am not a slut, I am not a whore and I am not a submissive who is willing to fuck all comers because of low self esteem. I do not wish to be a doormat. Thanks for understanding.

 

I also do not intend to send my pictures to those of who will "look me over and consider granting me play time." I don't do mercy fucks on either side of the spectrum. If I am in need enough to play, I'd rather hire a professional Domme if someone I respect isn't available.


5/1/2014 3:18:05 PM
Not much to say this week, I am baking in the sun. I should be home soon, will go back to work on the blog/story site this afternoon. Desperate to get paid tomorrow, it was tight last month due to unexpected expenses, but I made bank. It is good to have $3.50 in my checking account, it means I am not overdrawn. Happy girl because I was worried about overdraft fees. I am looking for a subbie who is willing to clean house near Long Beach. Scrub the two bathrooms top to bottom, really scrub them.. Would be done in a house with a male present. You would be naked or down to your underwear. Must not be allergic to cats.

4/27/2014 2:21:18 PM
If you are going to email me, make it interesting. Saying just hi isn't going to do it. Sending me a sexually oriented picture will shut me down. Telling me you are available makes me think "so what". If you intend to email me, put some thought into it. Life is too short to put up with shoddy emails written by those who are mass emailing everyone else the same thing.

4/27/2014 10:13:53 AM
Covert play... It can enhance a sexual experience by building anticipation or leave the person teased and aroused. Insertables make a good form of covert play. You know it is in there. The submissive knows it is in there. The submissive can feel the toy, and will most likely be in a state of continuous arousal. Depending on the type of Insertable used, and your mood, you can order her to go without panties. The might stay in by itself, but the sub will be worried in public that she will drop it out. Clenched muscles will make her feel it more. Products such as icy hot can be applied to a toy or to body parts alone. The burning and tingling felt will cause the sub to try not to writhe around, attracting attention. Nettles can be used for this as well. Cock rings are a given but be wise in their use. Causing harm should be avoided. Be sure you know how to put it on as well as the limits of time it should be left on. Nipple bands can be dangerous, please do not use these for covert play as cutting off circulation for longer than a few minutes can cause damage. Gangrene is not a good side effect and it can happen if caution is not taken. The products being sold today are designed for castration and dehorning livestock. Have fun, but use common sense. Covert play should be covert. It is designed to embarrass the submissive, titilate the Dominant, and cause arousal.

3/26/2014 6:15:36 PM
Found this charming bit of prose in my inbox... "very clever to say if one wants proof that you're a female move along, pretty much proves you're a fake or insincere or just another fuck-wit dimwit fuck-tard shit head no good useless wanker. And you can quote me if you bother to read this. ha ha ha" It is a shame that a man gets his kicks by spewing such crap to a stranger. I am sure that in person he must be a wonderful and sane individual, but today decided to kick someone he felt deserved it. I don't feel the need to instantly voice verify or show my breasts via webcam to some man who demands it after speaking to me twice. I get that there are fakes on here, it isn't my problem. Being naked doesn't bother me. Being naked over the internet for some stranger who is ordering me to take off my clothes before meeting me in person because he has a complex, or a fetish for women following his orders over webcam, I am not doing it. There are tons of profiles on here, one of them is probably happy to strip for you. Why waste time sending emails berating me? It boils down to this... Stripping on cam to prove my identity is a hard limit. If you cannot respect a hard limit without berating me for my choice, I assume you are probably one of those men who has a sexual battery arrest record a mile long. Sorry, I am submissive, not a doormat. I choose not to play with cavemen.

3/26/2014 11:48:21 AM
Sorry, I am not interested in quickies, or those of you who hit up every profile that is female. I am not going to meet you immediately for coffee, or call you/email off site/follow you to yahoo right away. If you are in a hurry or demand to verify I am female, move to the next profile. I am not hopping because you have a complex. That doesn't make me less submissive, or a game player. It makes me someone who knows her own boundaries. If you cannot respect that, it is okay, but let's agree not to waste each other's time. I have a life, and while I can sometimes check a message on my phone, writing back is tough. Please be patient. Most answers will be sent early am and before ten at night. I am not being disrespectful, I am either at work or dealing with day to day life. It is not all about you until we come to an understanding. Thank you for understanding that I am dealing with real life with the kink as a sideline at this time. I am also dealing with an injury that has hampered real life as well as kink life. I am deeply frustrated enough for both of us over this, trust me. Either of us having a tantrum over it will not change facts. I know, I have thrown a few tantrums over this and it resulted in a few slammed doors, a sore foot from kicking something and a tear stained face. The injury did not instantly heal and it made me feel even grouchier. Patience...

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MissNicoleWhite
 
 Age: 25
 Atlanta, Georgia