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Merry Christmass everyone. |
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I keep asking santa for his "naughty: girls" list but he keeps telling me he doesn't have enough paper for a complete printout. |
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What kind of a perk would subs like to see to sweeten the deal? |
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Another birthday has come and gone. No one needs Captain Obvious to tell them life is short. I see so many subs who have the idealized "Mr. Right" stuck in their head that they chase a single candidate find them wanting of that ideal and come back here grumbling and hurt.
What befuddles me is why after one or two failed attempt but good dabbling in the lifestyle more female subs aren't willing to retry the lifestyle with a guy who might be slightly off that ideal but otherwise very good for her in many other ways. |
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Have finished my move. I seem to be encountering a lot of folks who have fantasies and are either not really serious or otherwise noncommital in fulfilling them, or live WAY too far away to be practical. I guess I'll weather this drought as I have many others. |
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Moving within the local area to Wellington, Ohio |
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Gonna simplify my life and change my tack now. |
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Back after a long hiatus and considering a move to nearby Amherst. I'm minded to test my bondage skills against the fiestiest, brattiest of you girls locally, no actual sex involved just a challenge. As always, renumeration is negotiable because I live so far away from the city. I know gas isn't cheap. |
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Merry Christmas to ALL! Time flies when one is having fun, eh? |
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Wow its December already? Where does the time go? Just cruising along minding my own business and enjoying life to its fullest on as close to my own terms as possible. the power of the subconscious is an amazing thing. When one sleeps they process the events of the day before. The mind reveals some amazing things via dreams once that process is complete. |
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Wow there must be half a gazillion youtube vids of beatboxers. I must say I am impressed. The whole art has become VERY interesting and entertaining. And yes like at most things even though I'm loathe to admit it, there are some girls who just blow the guys away. I could watch these all night but when would I sleep? |
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I didn't even watch the debate. I already know who is gonna win and why. Since BOTH candidates are beholden to Wall Street anyway Wall St. will win regardless of who gets the popular vote, and once again the common hard working American will lose. Since Americans seem to be perfectly satisfied with the illusory choice of this corrupt two criminal party/cartel system and refuse to write in a sensible candidate we will once again get the government we deserve. RIP America, finish dying in your sleep what's left of your carcass is slowly getting torn to shreds by the Wall St. vultures, and their pet media stooges. |
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Wow its been awhile since I hosted at home. Usually I just take a few minor things to local area play parties. I hope my guest tonight appreciates I've dusted off some of my more obscure gear. Its gonna be a great night I think and not just for me either. (Grins) Oops gotta run get some batteries. Later all.
Update: Awesome! hosted today and had a blast! LOVE freckles! Thanks V. |
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Changing names, home cities, pictures, and whims. Many treat this whole scene like a game. Patience and perseverance win the prize. I have met the occassional worthwhile girl. I will do so again. |
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Some advice to all my "frustrated" fellow Doms: "Don't chase the butterflies, let them come to you." And once you've caught one. "Set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was." It might be a little too Lao Tsu in our Sun Tsu perspective but it is one way of looking at things. |
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Oh I wanted to do this last week but as my second job is an auto parts counterman the conscientious part of me would urge everyone with anything to do with a car to "winterize" it early.
By that I mean have the electrical and cooling system checked over thouroughly. Those are the two most common systems to fail inconvieniently during the dead of winter. Check them now to insure they're strong and not weak.
Electrical system: Have it checked entirely. MOST of the major parts stores chains offer FREE system checks that test the battery starter and alternator. NEVER go into the teeth of a winter with any of those 3 key components weak.
Cooling system: Have a pressure check done on your radiator/cooling system. Some mechanics still offer it free but that's becoming rare. The little bulb test with the floating balls is still done at some oil change places during standard oil changes to test effectiveness of the antifreeze. Make sure you have potent antifreeze and no leaks in your system before it gets too frosty.
Visually inspect your wires hoses and belts for cracks wear or damage. Do it now while its still somewhat warm so you don't freeze your butt off later! Remember; an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. I know I know too much preachiness, but I'd rather see my friends drive through the winter happy rather than hear that they had a problem during a particularly vicious cold snap. |
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I generally try to give anyone I ask to meet a couple of chances. I understand meeting for the first time is a nervous thing and sometimes people get cold feet. I totally support the entire safemeets concept and will gladly explain it to anyone who doesn't know what it is. (Or safecalls safewords and any other safety concern of that nature.) These protections are in place so girls don't have to deal with creeps or undesireables.
The whole first meeting is very important because its a good indicator of how far a given relationship could/should go. Generally if I encounter resistance in the form of excuses I let it go once or twice. But repeated general reluctance to commit to even a vanilla meeting to talk sends another signal. After its painfully obvious someone is non-commital and/or NOT serious about wanting to have fun together there's fairly little I can do. But I try to maintain open lines of communication regardless. |
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I was talking with a sub I know on here about a few of the common things associated with the lifestyle. She said that in a lot of the local area BDSM play parties there is a large bias towards impact play and asked me why. Apparently she privately is not the biggest fan of it. I doubt she'd openly admit it as such.
I suggest that its because that is the easiest way to get the endorphins really going. But that is NOT the only way. I for one prefer the sensual route. Yes it takes longer its harder to do and someone HAS TO know what they're doing to be sucessful.
But in the end analysis the concept some call "subspace" is definitely reachable either way. That being said some folks have their preferences. We collectively, should never condemn or judge. Instead we should simply respect each others assertions. There are far too many outside this lifestyle who are naysayers and revel in dischord. We should NOT give them ammunition by infighting. 'Nuff said.
In the end analysis it is what works best between two people that is the ultimate test. Local munches/play parties are a wonderful place to exchange ideas and learn. But every person is unique and many ideas/concepts within the lifestyle mean different things to some people.
The one single place where there ABSOLUTELY should be uniformity of definition is concerns regarding safety. Anybody else got anything to add to this conversation, let me know. My little lessons learned segments generally evoke good updates and conversation. |
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It's easy to get upset/discouraged at the frequency of finding those who are insincere or unrealistic on here or at other similar sites. But I have found sucess here before and with patient perseverance will do so again. Remember genuine positive thinking trumps a lot of evils and eventually the law of averages swings your way. Good luck to all who are genuine and genuinely seeking. |
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Have a "new" secondary job yes still security. Have to stay closer to home in case there's any call offs. Low man on the totem pole making himself as indispensible as possible, true. Raking in the overtime pay? ... PRICELESS! Gee, I wonder whom i should share my windfall with. |
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Air show was awesome. Anyone have any ideas for samhain/halloween themes for get togethers? |
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Cruising along contentedly as summer peaks. Its county fair time all over Ohio. Anybody got a fav? |
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Wow I'm getting messages from people who claim Texas Georgia Florida and California are ALL LESS than 100 miles from Ohio. Who knew? Most of them are touting email addresses for contact. So I'm guessing these are phisher/hackers poised to strike? Be careful everyone. |
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The rescue cat I helped back in 2009 is celebrating his 7th birthday on the 24th. The poor thing only has 3 legs half a tail and athsma. But he never quits and is bold and fearless. Happy belated b-day midnight. |
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The heat is on! But what happened a couple of days ago indoors was hotter still! Thanks K! |
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Looking forward to something coming up very soon. perhaps some good news. |
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Changed out my picture for a more recent one.
Update: Some important food for thought. I get it, I really do. I have been trying to figure out how to communicate what needs to be said, tactfully without letting frustration creep in, finally. There are a couple of considerations people need to make to become "realistic" about the lifestyle. Please do read and heed all of this. the lifestyle is about true passion and part of that is wisdom.
1. Some seek "THE ONE". They are mostly looking for perfection they can never have. People are flawed on both sides of the equation. The true challenge is finding someone you can truly gel with. Just trying to keep it real. This is true of both parties. True bliss together is out there I know it exists. But it MUST be worked at continuously as anything worthwhile does.
2. Meeting for fun to some means disqualification because they want an all or nothing emotional connection. (I don't know how many I've talked to that have this "ALL OR NOTHING" mentality.) Emotion doesn't work that way anyway. What fun is life if you can't explore and feel? So you spend WAY TOO MUCH time waiting and NOT enjoying the gift of life? Be honest at least with yourself if not openly, do you dive into cold water headfirst or do you take the slow approach and immerse yourself a little at a time and take the time to get used to it. If the later is the preferential approach then you HAVE TO take risks and allow for slow deliberate testing of the waters. So the whole all or nothing mentality is sheer fallacy.
If you NEVER explore you'll experience regret because it took so long to have fun? Will you make mistakes and have bad experiences with bad choices? Of course, but experience will help you refine your searches and learn more about yourself. Don't be afraid of either sucess OR failure. they're both parts of life. Live, don't live for waiting take some chances. Even if you find a near miss there will still be good times you will fondly remember as long as your partner is doing their best to be a true part of the relationship.
3. Safety safety safety! Grill any perspective partner about their attitude towards and knowledge of this lifestyle safety matters. An advanced system of protocalls was developed long ago for BOTH partners' safety. If you need to know more about it I can tell you about it, or the local lifestyles groups often preach and teach it, or there are place online that put it out there for all to see. SAFETY should be primary in the lifestyle.
OK enough for now I'm starting to sound like a preacher. This is all food for thought that people need to see, in my opinion. Thanks for being patient and reading all the way through. If you didn't then you won't see the full benefits of the kharma such wisdom will entitle you too if you take my words to heart. |
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July 2nd, my bad. 2016 Dusk. Port of Huron, Ohio FIREWORKS! If anyone local needs a ride y'all know my number and my car either call me up or message me I can give ya a ride if you like or meet ya there. See y'all there. |
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Someone brought up a very good point today about control mechanisms. It ties into a heady discussion I was having with someone about conditioning and psychology. The paradigm nowadays is that females are taught to hate themselves and never be satisfied with their looks. There is actually a HUGE difference between doing your best and trying to meet unrealistic standards set by popular media. There's WAY too much discontent and divisiveness and the sad thing is that these are seen as the status quo and used as control mechanisms. This is actually wrong and unnatural. A sub/bottom should give herself to her Master/TOP because she genuinely wants to with all of her heart, otherwise its all an act, or worse. |
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Someone asked me to flesh out my profile a little more with interests so I did. |
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If the cavs can break a 52 year drought in Cleveland. Maybe I can break a 5 month drought here? Shock of all shocks I may have found a genuine candidate to place under consideration. Stay tuned true believers. |
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Broke out the erostech the other day THAT was fun. Enjoying the summer. |
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Ran across an old friend. She is in trouble and living down south. I am always happy to help. Offered to put her up here until she finds her way again. She still hasn't made up her mind but was VERY thankful for the offer. I'm just glad we touched base after so much time. |
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I'm getting a decent amount of credible responces. I must say things seemed to have improved since the old days. I am quite approachable. I guess I should add I have attended Cleveland/Akron area local group meetings in the past. I've seen the SMART PRS and EDGE playspaces. Apparently there is an event due to occur at the Red door called Kinko de Mayo very soon. I will try to attend and meet as many of you there as I can. Namaste! |
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Greetings everyone glad to see this program is back up and running. looking forward to talking to anyone who wants to have some fun. |
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