Topping From The Bottom:

I'm going to talk about something that strikes hate and loathing in my very core when it's brought up, mainly by those who have no clue or even understanding of themselves let alone their submissive to even USE this term to begin with.

If you've ever used this expression on A partner or submissive; Then Congratulations, you are an inferior Dom/Domme/Master and have no right to call yourself Alpha let alone Dominant.

The entire myth of "topping from the bottom" was brought about by those thin-veiled individuals who were easier to see through than tracing paper. This expression had gotten such A horrible reputation in the "scene" because of true and albeit understanding and intelligent people knew that this phrase was false to begin with. As A Dominant you can't do ANYTHING without first going over the rules, express consent and limits of your sub/bottom. And if you're worth your weight in ANY form of D/s activity or let alone call yourself Dom/Sir/Master you better know fucking well what it means to KNOW your sub/bottom. That entire connection, that listening to each other is what this entire lifestyle is about. SO when you say things like that all you're saying is "I don't listen to you, don't care about your needs and fuck you, I'm too selfish and rude to ever care about your limits". THAT'S what you're doing. THAT'S who you are people.

As I've stated, this term just shows that you don't listen or even WANT to know your sub/bottom. I'm sorry, but ANY Dom/Domme/Master WANTS to know what they did right. How they can improve. What their sub/slave/bottom felt and thought of the experience. Communication. That one true, forever growing fact is the staple in BDSM and if you continue to let phrases like this continue all you're REALLY saying is that the central core of BDSM needs to die and never come back. Because apparently you are farrr too busy and important and ever grow as A person and allow the main rule in this lifestyle to thrive. And that is communication. And I pity you for never having your sub/bottom to speak or allow you to ever feel what it is to be A Dominant, because honestly... There is no other feeling than having your equal/partner/sub tell you what she loved, wanted, needs more of and how you satisfied her/him. It's the best feeling in the world.

Here is the link to my e-book, you have to sign up to download it, but it's free to do so.

Enjoy.

http://www.4shared.com/office/PuRGaeAo/Welcome_To_Zombie_High.html

Getting close to just deleting this profile and being done with all the inhabitants of this play-world and the mental facades of Ego Kingdom and Disingenuous Island. The amount of absolute bullshit I've had to see, be witnessed too and had flung at me has been enough to make me rethink if I do hair as my career or if I should go into cattle herding as my new career goal. The submissive/slaves in the chat rooms have this lost, Lord Of The Flies endearment about them, but more often than not are caricatures of child-like scavengers lusting for candy and A warm cage. I imagine if Children of The Corn were combined with Willy Wonka's factory THIS would be the ending result. The Dom/Masters are nearly as bad, letting the inmates run the asylum and having An even more fantastical look at themselves than even the sub/slaves dream of. More than half of them seem like honest people and the other half are so concerned with protocol and being right that I wonder how they even had An open mind to begin with. Thank Lovecraft I have A woman who knows who she is, what we are and what being A sub and not A robot truly means.