Another amusement. I set up the task as described on my profile just to see who was actually serious about chatting rather than just getting their cocks off. Within the first week of me putting it up there i did have a fair few write me and ask for the task (though only 2 did actually complete it). Since i added the line at the top of the profile that completing the task means I'll chat with you, not play, not a single taker. Surprising huh? Even though it does state further down in my profile that online play is HIGHLY unlikely and always has. The other thing that amuses me about it though is that of the two who did complete the task, one was looking to be given humiliating tasks to be carried out, which i said i wouldn't do, but the other seemed to have at least a modicum of intelligence and truth about him. That being the case i set him another writing task, this time a little more difficult. Not a word since he looked at it. It really does make me laugh how they claim to be submissive (in his case he went out of his way to stress how submissive he was) yet they don't seem to accept what submission actually is. It's been a long held belief of mine that submissive males on here (and elsewhere) are just looking to get their jollies but are too lazy to actually be a part of the fun. They submit because essentially someone else is doing all the work. Especially online. Which also brings me to another point. When you are contacted it's not like they actually have anything to say. It's "Hi", profile compliment then silence, expecting you to start some meaningful (though more often than not, sexual) conversation. That isn't how it works boys. If you contact someone at least have something interesting to say, don't expect them to do all the work. The alternative is being seen as a wanker and nothing more. Like any of them will take any notice of this!!!

CDH

Something that does amuse me is the abundance of female 'dominants' (especially the younger) who have no idea of the difference between dominance, arrogance and ego. I can't comment on the same for male dominants since i don't view their profiles, but i would assume that they're not really all that different. Their attempts at appearing dominant do make me chuckle to myself. Don't get me wrong, if that's their thing then all the best to them, i wish them every success. I'm sure, in the same spirit, that they wouldn't mind my amusement......

Hi. I've just amended my profile to try and counter the endless hordes of wankaholics on here. Basically it's an idea i got from another profile on the site. It's a task that must be completed before i will converse with the afflicted. It involves writing and will require patience and concentration to accomplish, nothing more. Unless i get an email confirming that the task has been completed then there'll be no talk. Nice and simple...........we'll see!

CDH

Hi everyone

Been a while since i last posted, busy year. Hope everyone had a nice Xmas. I've been looking through the profiles on here again the past couple of days and noticed something i'd like to share. Before i start, don't take this as any sort of validation for the males on the site who can't/won't read profiles and are looking purely to get themselves off. It's merely an observation. Discrepancies between profile pictures and profile descriptions. Let me give you a couple of examples. One was a female (dominant) who, in her description made it unequivocably known that she was ONLY looking for females. While her primary profile picture was a generic picture of a female, 50% of the other profile pictures were of females dominating males. Bearing in mind that these weren't pictures of the profile owner (including the primary), it does make one wonder why she specifically chose those pictures when examples of what she's actually looking for are just as freely available.  Of course there is the other reason which is more probable, that it wasn't actually female. The other example was another female (dominant) who had a long list of likes and dislikes on her profile. One of her hard limits was no foot play. Her primary picture on her profile? Of course, you guessed it, a picture of her dangling foot. Both of the above mentioned profiles were very well written, even interesting, definately among the better profiles on the site. And as i said, i'm not defending the wankers of the site, it's just that sending out mixed signals doesn't really help the situation. You know what the males are like, why encourage them? Just my thoughts.

CDH

Hi all

Just a quick thought. A lot of people are starting to "name and shame" the annoying persons on the site. While i applaud thier efforts to rid the site of them, the problem is that they have no shame, otherwise they wouldn't do what they do. Maybe a better term (or in fact course of action) would be "warn and scorn". Much more fun!!

CDH

Hey everyone

I don't know why but just recently i've been taking an inordinate amount of interest in chastity. How it affects those submitting to it, or rather, their reaction to it. I have experienced it myself for a time before (i'd rather experience before trying on someone else to at least give me some idea of reactions) but it didn't exactly go as planned. I'm not really driven by sexual desires, i'm far more excited by mental stimulation rather than physical. The friend who was holding the keys didn't really have the experience or in fact the desire to make it a more complete experience (and that's not a slight to her, it's more an indicator of my expectations rather than her inexperience, i really do appreciate her making the effort and love her for it) and so was only able to glimpse at how the experience may progress.

As stated though, it is something that i've been looking into quite seriously recently and as such may consider suitable submissives (both female and male) as candidates for a keyholding service. Now, before i get a bundle of messages from the "usual" crowd, there are a few things to consider. This will not be a decision made overnight, there will be a lot of getting to know each other first, trust will be essential from both sides. If you are selected then you won't be sending me a key, i'll be sending you a lock. And once you are safely locked away, you will be expected to report periodically about your experiences while locked, how it makes you feel in certain situations, when it's most frustrating, things like that. Most importantly though, my holding the key will not make me your Master or Mistress, i'll have no hand in teasing you or making it more uncomfortable for you (unless i'm feeling particularly cruel *grins*). I'm there purely to hold the key and read your reports. Call it an experiment in human behaviour. If this isn't acceptable then you know where the door is. The period of chastity and release schedule is something that will be agreed on beforehand.

Okay, if this is something that may interest you then please do get in touch, the worst i can say is no (well, that may not be the worst i can say but that will be the sentiment). Or if you just want to talk about the subject feel free to message me, i'm always ready for some intelligent conversation. Hope to speak to you soon. Have fun

CDH

Hey

Was just looking through profiles and started to wonder about something. Many of the "Dommes" on here advertise (and yes, that is precisely the correct word to use i think) cuckolding as something they're interested in. Now bear with me, but my understanding of cuckolding is that it's performed by a wife or girlfriend, having sex not with their partner. The partner's attendance is inconsequential.

This to me would imply that there would have to be some sort of relationship between the "Domme" and sub beforehand. Lacking that then the sub is just watching two people having sex. That's voyeurism, not cuckolding. If some sort of relationship is to be formed then fair enough. Look through most of the profiles on here that want to indulge though and you'll notice that they don't want to get to know the sub, they're just there to be used (financially more often than not). If anyone would like to correct me then please feel free, i do welcome debate and i'm certainly not arrogant enough to assume that i'm right all the time (unless i'm scening, THEN i'm never wrong *grins*).

Just an observation

CDH

Hi

Was just wondering if anyone knew just when exactly this site stopped being a "community" (of sorts) and rebranded itself as a business advertisement site? I can only assume that the mods approve of this since nothing seems to be done about it. Makes you wonder how many of these "financial" or "tribute" Dom/mes are reporting their income, doesn't it?

CDH

Hi everyone

Thought it was about time to update the profile to better describe what i'm looking for on here. I'm not entirely sure i accomplished that but i did try at least. I suppose i'll just have to wait and see.

It's been quite a busy few months so i haven't really been able to spend that much time on here to chat. Hopefully that will change now though, beginning to wind down for the end of the year. I have been popping back now and again to read a few journals that i enjoy, which always makes me smile.

One thing that doesn't though is seeing the amount of people complaining about time-wasters and liars. Unfortunately on a site like this there really is no universal way of policing such a thing that's within everyone's comfort zone. The many spoil it for the few. No point bitching about it though i suppose, it's gonna happen regardless.

One more thing to potential chatters or play partners. If you're a submissive male and your main profile pic contains your cock, please pass me by. I really couldn't have less interest in it. I'm a straight male. I may play with submissive males but, purely for amusement, not sexual gratification. If i want to see that piece of flesh i'll tell you what to do to it first so i can laugh at it.

When looking for potential chat/play partners, some of the things important are intelligence, wit and patience (my work can keep me away for longer periods than most 'submissives' are willing to wait). I'd be lying if i said looks are completely unimportant, they do play a part, but thay're a small part of the whole. Let me put it this way, they're not a 'deal breaker'. I'm realistic enough to know that i'm not exactly everyone's cup of tea (and i don't mean the clothing in the pictures), but we are what we are. More than anything, someone who interests me and can keep me interested will get my attention.

Sorry, not meaning to sound arrogant there, just being honest. I know what i want and won't settle for anything else.

A second entry on the same day. What can i say, i'm being exceptionally lazy today. Sue me!!

Anyway, this one isn't to comment on others' (or my) failings, rather to applaud the efforts of someone on here for a change. Through talking to a submissive i know, i found out about  a Domme on here actually using her proclivities to try and do some good. On her journal she's advertising for "charity subs", though i don't know the exact details, i gather she'll dominate in some way in exchange for a donation to a worthy charity (with proof provided of course, she's not stupid). I would suggest that any submissives with a heart take a look at her profile (HypnoBabe) and contact her if interested, do some good while enjoying yourself.

CDH

Hi everyone

I'm just spending a lazy Sunday morning laying here drinking coffee and reading through profiles/journals. A couple of things have amused me really. Firstly, the profiles of some Financial Dommes (no, not what you think, what they do is their choice, if it works for them, that's all that matters). Have you noticed the god-awful grammar and spelling? Now, as some will know, this is a pet peeve of mine, but really, do they just write it without reading it back to make sure it says what they want. And do they not know that there is a spell check incorporated into the text entry on here? Or do they just not care? I think if i were a submissive looking for that sort of thing i'd certainly be put off by it, it would be hard to submit to someone who a) gives the impression of being as dumb as a brush or b) is too lazy to make the effort to appear intelligent. I'm not saying they are that stupid, but it's hard to assume anything else given the evidence. The other thing that amused me was the judgemental attitudes of people on here. People have thier preferences and they're free to go about their business. If what they're into doesn't tally with your preferences, fine, make note of it and let it go. Just harping on about it makes you look small and petty. (And yes, i know that you could say that about me and the spelling/grammar thing, fair enough, but i see that as a respect thing, if someone can't be bothered to construct a coherent sentence with proper grammar and spelling (i'm not looking for perfection, just at least an effort) then i see that as them thinking i'm not worth the time to waste doing it, i do usually only insist on correct spelling/grammar in personal communications, i did say it amused me on the profiles, not annoyed me)

Well, i suppose i'd better get something done today. Have a good one and enjoy the sunshine in the UK

CDH

It would appear that there are submissives on here who can follow orders after all (i'm not including ALL submissives on the site with that comment, just the ones who claim to want to serve and then disappear when your orders don't quite match up with what they wanted to happen). A submissive approached me last week wanting to serve. After my standard interview and questions (which 99% of submissives fail due to inattention or attitude) i agreed to set a task for him. His task was a fairly simple one, but adventurous enough to see if he actually wanted to serve or if he just wanted to fantasise. Happily he accomplished the task the very next day and i look forward to setting further tasks for him in future. Well done boy. You can see a couple of pictures of him on my profile (that is in a public lavatory in a department store).

CDH

Like a lot of people on here, my journal entries seem to be a whole lot of whining and convoluted descriptions of negative encounters with the oft mentioned "fakes". Though they are terribly annoying they are also part and parcel of being on the site. It's not like anything written in a journal is going to have the slightest effect on them. Looking at it from another angle though, wading through the multitude of penises (metaphorically speaking of course) certainly does make it that much more pleasing when you do eventually meet someone who is genuine. I have met some really nice people on this site, some i've played with, but most just for chat. I think quite a high percentage on here are so obsessed with self-gratification that they fail to see how fulfilling just a down-to-earth, honest-to-god, plain-as-you-like conversation can be. So to all those i've talked with or even just exchanged a couple of pleasant messages with, thank you, it is appreciated. And to the people i haven't talked to but have a similar viewpoint on this matter, thanks to you too, as the tagline of the site says, this is a community, it's good to know that some do know the meaning of that word.

Some people on here really do amuse me. Got a message today from someone simply saying "Wow, your my man". Fair enough, so i replied with "And why is that?" A couple of minutes later, a reply "A sexy man who isn't afraid to express himself". Okay. Now admittedly i didn't reply to this instantly, but not ten minutes later i get another message, "And you're a rude twat too." "And why do you say that" was my reply. Within a minute they replied again with "Now i bet your pissed". I did attempt to reply only to find i'd been blocked. A couple of things about this amuses me. Firstly that they go to the trouble of insulting you but don't want to hear your reply and secondly that they actually think that anything they say could upset me. Why would i be pissed because they called me rude? Do they actually believe that their opinion of me matters even in the slightest? I think they have an overly inflated sense of their own importance if that's the case. All they achieved were two things. Showing how childish they are and making me laugh.

Hi everyone

Just an observation. If you look at the journal of MissSuzie, her last entry is a complaint about people not responding to messages. On the very same day she posted that i sent her a message just saying that i agreed with her. As yet it's still sitting unopened in her inbox. 2 weeks later. Could she really be THAT busy with messages? It's not like she hasn't been on here. Or maybe the words kettle and pot could be appropriate.......

Well, birthday today. Just another day really, i don't see the attraction of celebrating being another year closer to death.