| About Me
Labels are so wrong, I'm a person not a collection of kinks. If you must understand what I am then collaspace probably considers that I'm a sadist, which means I thrive on pushing someone out of their comfort zone. That said I am also quite dominant, caring, protective, tactile and sensual. This is my chosen lifestyle.|
I'm into what others consider consider edgeplay but it's is quite normal to me. Having said that I'm also tactile, loving and easy going. I have a natural dominance as well as subtle and effective ways of keeping a submissive in line (even those that claim to be a brat). I've rarely had to resort to punishment where someone has overstepped the line. When I hurt someone it's usually only in play.
I'm a 24/7 lifestyler and don't really do play with just anyone, I require a connection with a person before I consider that. I like all sorts of play from gentle senseplay to knives and needles at the other end of the scale, with a full spectrum in between. What I mainly like though is the actual dynamic between Dominant and submissive, that chemistry which is so much more than the sum of it's parts.There is so much I can say about myself, my lovely slave and our lifestyle / experiences but then if I put it all here we would have nothing to talk about. Feel free to message.
I'm intelligent, articulate and enjoy a good conversation. I'm active on the midlands BDSM scene.
I'm married and also have a long term submissive.
Photo is me giving a sensual knifeplay demo and workshop at KinkFest 2014. Am giving the same workshop at Kinkfest 2017.
I'm fascinated by the many and diverse people that are in the lifestyle, as well as what makes us how we are. I love how certain combinations of traits make people act in different ways and how they get on with others that have another set of traits. I'm still surprised how few people are able to identify what traits they have and therefore what traits they should look for in a partner.
People on this site are generally in an all fired rush, which is a shame. If only more people took the time to find out about themselves and their wants and needs before diving in.
Getting into the Scene
The safest and best way to get into this lifestyle is to get out to events and actually see what it's about. The best place to start is at a munch, which is an informal gathering, usually in a local pub, where a group of lifestylers meet up to chat and share experiences.
You can also check out your local fetish clubs. They offer a safe place to observe those into the lifestyle and see how they do things. You can also meet people, ask questions and maybe even ask to try a few things. Most events have Dungeon Monitors who are there to ensure that play is safe and consensual. Most fetish clubs will give new people a tour and introduce them to a few trusted people.
Only when you're ready should you even consider meeting people off of this site.
I enjoy all sorts of play and the main thing I'm into is the reaction I get from the person I am playing with. Many people identify with play types they like, and although I like some more than others turning someone into a wibbly space cadet or a crying snivelling mess is what does it for me. In other words, how I play and what I do is flexible and fluid, a tool to get the reactions I desire. With some people a stern voice will do, for others a scalpel is what it takes.Whatever play type I engage in I like to take it to the max. A flogging is hard, sense play is sensation overload orgasms are relentless.
Little / ABDL Events
I've helped out running, DMing and holding workshops / demos for years. I've recently been sought out to help out at Littles / ABDL events and have been enjoying the change. The dynamic has always been fascinating and it's fun to see people taking taking their first steps into exploring this side of themselves.
Local BDSM Community (Expert)