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Mature Dom and Domme in Springfield, MO. searching for BBW/SSBBW and select married female subs for playtime. If you are interested in receiving real-time training from a "Gentle" Dom/Master, this will be your opportunity!
Special attention will be given to novices, and those who are searching for their comfort zone.
We travel extensively throughout the Midwest and Southeast USA.
A comment to begin: Your brief emails should be well written; I consider that a strong sign of someone who is educated as well as the ability to communicate well.
At this time, I am not asking any 'personal' questions of you. The logic behind this may seem evident after you complete the reading of this profile.
You should be wondering "what is expected of me and what should I expect in return".
We reply with a couple of queries for you to consider:
A. Do you feel a tingle of pleasure/satisfaction when someone compliments you on a job well done, whatever the job? It might be at your employment; it could be a family member who comments on a project they recognize you have completed; it could be an intimate partner (husband/boy-girl friend) after you have provided a sexual service for their pleasure...Does that tingle provide you a "payoff" emotionally, perhaps even spiritually?
B. Are you intrigued (yet with some reservations) at the idea of offering your commitment to pleasing others, whether as a friend or as a lover? As part of this question, would (or could) YOU receive internal pleasure/satisfaction from the 'act' of submitting FOR the pleasure of others whether or not it meant you would be pleasured by their activity? (This question may require considerable introspection by those who are novices with Dom/sub relationships.)
C. From your well-written emails, we hope to see that you have the capacity for learning "new" subjects and tasks. With that said, are you prepared to receive discipline if and when your learning curve falls below a pre-agreed upon level? Are you also prepared to be disciplined when you knowingly rebel (and there are times when you know you have, right?).
You ask what is in it for you: Your answer to the above three questions will provide part of the payoff for you.
Realization: Dominant/submissive relationships are NOT about sex. These relationships ARE about the wise use of power. With that said, it is obligatory to point out that in our society, D/s relationships use physical bodies to measure the willingness and commitment of our submissive initiates. We measure how sincere our submissive is through the activities to which our submissive willingly surrenders. The submissive will only go as far as the level of trust the Dom has achieved from the submissive. If a submissive can not trust her Dom/Domme, the submissive will only "play" at being submissive up to the point the trust has been established. The real/pure Dom/Domme who has gained the unconditional trust of a submissive will intuitively know just how far to go with the submissive. Recall above when I used the term "wise use of power." I have witnessed a Dom attempting to push his sub way beyond the level of trust that had been established. This Dom was shocked (and humilated) when the submissive rebelled by pulling off her harness, getting dressed, leaving the "party" and later divorcing the Dom.
If you are simply searching for someone to spank you, or to tie you up and use your body, that is a common fantasy and you will find many people claiming to be Dom with whom to engage. I frequently see ads from Doms who are searching for a willing submissive. I hear stories about how these Doms then expect a fully submissive person at their first meeting, and they are surprised when the submissive shows signs of independence. If you are a true submissive, I do not believe you (or any other intelligent person) will submit to a Dom without first being convinced the Dom has authority. I believe I need to prove to you that I am a Dom, and I believe I need to gain your trust before I can accept your submission to my dominance. After I have earned and accepted your submission, you will be entitled to hold ME (us) accountable for your safety and your security. It will be MY (our) responsibilty for training you, for disciplining you, and for rewarding you. Anything less will be just two (or three, or more) people 'pretending' to role-play a game.
From the re-reading of this posting, it appears I have written the opening paragraphs of an encyclopedia on the D/s lifestyle. In writing this, I feel it is important to convey to you the level of experience I/we have in the lifestyle, and to open your eyes to the opportunity of associating with a "pure" Dominant personality.
I realize I will not have answered all of your many questions with this posting; however, I hope I have given you enough information with which to make a decision about whether or not you wish to proceed.
Whenever you ask questions, I will endeavor to answer them as thoroughly as I can. When I do not have the answer at hand, I will research your question until I can offer a satisfying answer. Does that seem fair?
What is it that interests YOU in being submissive to another person; what is YOUR anticipated payoff?
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