I'm highly intelligent, very well-educated (definitely over-educated), very knowledgeable about the world, open-minded about just about anything, read voraciously, and love to explore and try new things in all realms of life. I'm also a masochist and submissive, but this is not what defines me. I'm a masochist in that I crave pain and the loss of control and submissive in that I WANT to submit to a man I love in an effort to make him happy. I don't feel a NEED to submit, however, and have never felt a desire to submit to anyone I don't love and respect. My masochism comes first; it's a craving that can be satisfied more easily, in a much more superficial relationship. My submissiveness only emerges after some time, in a relationship where there is a true connection.

What I am seeking is first and foremost a relationship. For me, BDSM needs to be an integral part of an intimate relationship, but it's far from the only, and actually not even the most important, part. Above all, I'm looking for a good person - someone who is kind and compassionate, caring, honest and trustworthy. Someone with integrity and high ethical standards. I'm also hoping to find someone highly intelligent, because in my experience, a long-term intellectual connection is only possible between equals. And of course, being on this site, what I'm looking for is someone kinky, more specifically someone who is Dominant and somewhat sadistic.

The relationship I'm hoping for is one that is loving, caring, intimate - not just physically - and characterized by mutual respect. One in which both people try their best to make the other person happy.

Now a few time-savers. I have NO interest whatsoever in anyone who is not single, whatever your specific relationship situation might be. I'm also not interested in anyone who is much older than me (say over 55) or obese. If you think of yourself as an alpha-male, it's highly unlikely that we're a good match. I'm looking for a Dom who is sensitive and considerate, and although this may seem like a contradiction to some, it's not.