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I'm relatively new to the lifestyle (approximately 2 years of exploring) and continually looking to learn, explore, and broaden my horizons. I am currently online only as I'm married. I have an understanding wife who knows she can't fulfill my needs and as such allows me to explore online for now. As for me... I'm very intelligent and educated. I'm a bit soft around the middle but am actively working to get my athletic figure back. I'm very ambituous and competitive. I enjoy working on my house, my car, my yard, competing, reading, learning, and many other things. I most closely associate with the classic Daddy Dom type personality... wanting to guide, teach, and help a little girl become the best woman, lover, and submissive she can be. I have a little sadist hidden deep inside that comes out from time to time but most of the time I am a gentle, understanding, but firmhanded Daddy. Most find me highly energetic, a bit goofey, flirty, silly, combative, witty, charming, and fun :) I seek a little girl who wants to be challenged, wants to be guided, wants to be the best girl she can be for her Daddy to see him happy. Someone who I can chat with on an intelligent level, someone wise and experienced, but someone who still contains that innocent nature and believes the world is actually a good, safe place. I know it won't be easy, especially given my self-imposed limitations, but knowing what you want is a starting point. If you're interested, you know where to find me! If you just want to chit chat, by all means, I love to BS :)

2/3/2007 1:23:04 PM Being hurt... everyone's been hurt... the subbies love to talk about the wannabe Doms, but most Doms have just as many stories about wannabe subbies, bedroom submissives, coming on, acting all that, but in reality wanting maybe some quick kinky cybersex and then you'll never hear from them again.  While some Doms are thrilled with this, the true Doms searching for something real (yes, an online relationship is still a REAL relationship) are hurt by these constant games.  So what do we all do?  It seems most people just close themselves off, lock themselves up, guard themselves from harm.  I don't get that... I've been hurt... lied to... played... everyone online has been at some time or another I'm guessing.  But unlike some, I refuse to let them win.  Think about it... every time you close yourself off, you deny yourself the pleasure of a new friend or lover because you are afraid, you're letting them win... those past men, those fakes, those liars... they hurt you once and every time you deny yourself something new and good they hurt you again!  Why on earth would you allow that?! I don't get it!  Fight against it, defeat them, do not close yourself off. So how do we do this?  It's not easy... people are often more afraid of pain then they are of not receiving pleasure.  They'd rather deny themselves pleasure then risk being hurt.  I guess I swing the other way, I will not deny myself what I want just because others choose to try to hurt me.  Yes, it's a conscious decision.  When you feel yourself pulling away, ask yourself "why am I doing this?"... and then decide if you're doing it for a reason you truely want to.  Is it because you're afraid?  Do you want to be afraid?  Is it because you feel yourself trusting someone once again?  Don't you want to trust someone?  Choose happiness, not bitterness... choose to take a calculated chance and not live your life alone and in the dark.  Come out of your shells, live once again, strive for happiness!

2/2/2007 3:54:20 PM *sighs*  Why is it that the first thing that comes to everyone's mind when thinking of an online relationship, specifically an online D/s relationship, is cybersex?  A D/s relationship is a power exchange, it is not kinky sex.  That power exchange can be achieved through any medium if the parties so desire.  Does a command mean less to a girl when typed or spoken over a phone instead of being said to their face?  If the sub truely wants to please her Daddy, it shouldn't!  There are so many misconceptions about online... I think I will make it my mission to erase them! People... subbies... you can SERVE someone in an online D/s relationship.  There are a variety of ways to serve someone.  In fact, in serving an online Master or Daddy most of the serving will be done r/t, yes, that's right, you will do acts in person to serve your online Daddy.  You can research topics and provide reports, you can keep your house cleaned, you can go places and experience things as directed, and yes you can provide sexual pleasure.  Additionally, you can turn over power to an online Master that will affect your r/t activities.  Maybe he dresses you, completely or just your lingerie, maybe he controls your diet, forces you to exercise, sets a bedtime for you, or creates a morning routine for you.  "Oh, but she can just lie and say she did it..." sure she can, but you can lie in person to.  Is it easier online?  Absolutely... but who is she cheating in doing it?  Only herself.  Submissives want to serve correct?  If she refuses to serve she hurts no one but herself.  If she's a brat, breaking the rules to be punished, that could get difficult online... but a little girl who truely wants to please her Daddy would have no problems serving and obeying any command whether typed or spoken.  Online D/s is possible! I just hope people will become more open minded in time, realize that an online Dom is not always just looking for a quick "wank" as I so often read.  I do acknowledge that many are, but there are exceptions.  If you truely believe D/s is a psychological power exchange, I think you would be pleasantly surprised at what is possible online.  If you're in it just for the kinky sex, or feel some extremely strong and overwhelming need for physical contact it's not for you.  But if you are looking for a power exchange, it's possible, I can show you.