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| I am a Dom, and I believe a Dom has a responsibility to a submissive to help her grow to realize her potential (sorry, I'm straight, so if you want the qualifiers, you'll have to find them somewhere else.) emotionally, physically, mentally. Being a Dom isn't about My needs, it's about her needs. Exploring the old limits while gently pushing past them. Listening to what she wants to try while also gently adding new twists to create excitement for both of U/s. Being deliberate when its called for; being bold when it's needed.
I'm not a typical, cartoon image, Dom. And I'm not interested in play partners for a night of spank-the-bottom, or random drive-by tortures. I have to have a basic emotional reason to be invested in that person before it all begins. Sure, spanking, bondage, control - can't beat 'em (heh). But I derive just as much pleasure when first greeted by a kneeling sub willing to give of herself than anything that might take place afterwards. I enjoy aftercare as much as the activities that led us there. I love the intellectual connection, the erotic connection. I like to "feel" things - not just "do" things - in play.
As for likes and dislikes - meh. I hate long laundry lists. It's hard to explain on a Wednesday in March why, on a Friday in November a year earlier, you decided you were into 'forcing her to squeal like a pig'. I can be sadistic (bruises are fun, after all), but I prefer the more erotic side. I'm tactile. I love to flirt. I like to set up tasks. I love the look, feel and sound of a woman in orgasm. I lust quietly, not for all to see and hear. I whisper commands; makes the occasional loud command that much more effective. I love brattiness, playfulness, intelligence, and would never want to completely break any of those qualities. I prefer saying "good girl" and seeing the pleasure in her eyes over worrying how many times she calls Me "Sir".
Individual aspects of play are flexible - flogging, clamps, etc. and dependent on what level the submissive's needs are - discussed beforehand.
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