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I have finally accepted my role. For many years I have been in conflict with myself about who I am. I am submissive. I know and understand what it means. I am ready to meet the right person and form a bond with them. Learn to serve them and become the best man I can for them. In my vanilla life I am an alpha male. I lead all day and direct people. I need to give this up to my lover. I need to be hers in away that only she can understand and respect. With that said in some things I still tend to be more traditional in my relationships with women. I still believe a man should hold a door for a woman, pay for dinner, open the car door, etc.. Even though I am a slave/sub I still feel that it is my place to take care of certain things for my lover/owner. I guess in a way you could consider me like a Knight that serves his queen. I obey her and follow her. I accept her rule over me, but I also must be full of respect and treat her for the special person that she is. When it comes to men my ideas are very sexual and have a need for a man to take the lead. I am looking for the right Dom who will work with me as I am first timer. I am more than willing to obey and learn to serve and please. I found this in someone profile. I hope she will not be offended that I borrowed it. It looks like she did the same. It summed up to me how I feel about my submission/slavery. words are taken from a poem that she found by David Stein. slavery is not about suffering . . . . . . slavery is about service. slavery is not about humiliation . . . . . . slavery is about humility. slavery is not about pain . . . . . . slavery is about being present. slavery is not about being used . . . . . . slavery is about being of use. slavery is not about control . . . . . . slavery is about letting go. slavery is not about your desires . . . . . . slavery is about giving to others. slavery is not about abuse . . . . . . slavery is about acceptance. slavery is not about proving anything . . . . . . slavery is about being real. slavery is not about contempt . . . . . . slavery is about respect. slavery is not about how you look . . . . . . slavery is about the size of your heart. slavery is not about denying yourself . . . . . . slavery is about being open. slavery is not about bondage . . . . . . slavery is about freeing your spirit. slavery is not about punishment . . . . . . slavery is about discipline. slavery is not about being unable to escape . . . . . . slavery is about being committed. slavery is not about submission . . . . . . slavery is about obedience. slavery is not about fear . . . . . . slavery is about trust. Something’s you should know about me. I am educated. I work as a project manager for a local company. I like to laugh and believe life is what you choose to me make it. I love to cook. I think I am good at. I find joy in preparing things for people. I like to feel like I am taking care of the person I am with. I am very caring and very loving for the right person. I tend to be protective of the one’s I am with. As for other vanilla activities I enjoy great movies and have a very unique taste in music. I like to mountain bike and enjoy being social with the right group. For television I tend to gravitate to things like the Walking Dead or Homeland. I new to Chicago and thus far I think the city is really cool. When it comes to BDSM I need to feel controlled this is most important to me. I need to know that my owner wants me and desires me in a sexual manor. That she loves to be in charge of me. I love to perform non-sexual and sexual services. I enjoy feeling of use to the person I am with and that I am there for their needs. I love to give masages and have very strong hands. Bring you pleasure is a pleasure for me. I am open to most actives and have yet found something I do not like. I do not want to imply that I enjoy everything, as that would be very foolish of me, but just have yet to find something that I dislike. I am very open to meeting new people and looking very forward to being active in the BDSM community. I am open to friends, players, lovers, and owners. Maybe I will be lucky enough to find them all. A few last things I would like to add. I am not into anything cyber at all. I will not skype with you, but would be happy to meet you for a cup of coffee. Also, if you seek a tributte I am not the one for you. That is not my thing. I am looking for a real time relationship and a computer will just not do it for me. I wish all that read this well and please feel free to contact me