Finally getting around to updating this profile.  Keep an eye out for more pics soon.

Strapons, strapons everywhere... But not a hole in sight!!!

There's been an ongoing discussion between several of my friends that's been going on for quite some time now. The long and short of this discussion is strapons.

They've been debating and sharing insights, arguing and trading stories of conquests, but they all seem to have a different opinion.

So I'm curious as to if there is a general consensus among internet Kinsters. What type of strapon do you prefer?

*Do you prefer the female-insertable kind? (http://www.funfactoryusa.com/product_codes/24406)

I imagine this one which may provide somewhat more stimulation than the strictly outer-harness variety may also be a little more challenging to use.

*Do you like the outer-harness variety? (http://www.extremerestraints.com/strap-ons_36/strap…


It may be easier on the wearer than having to worry about keeping something inserted while vigorously reaming out a partner, but does it provide the same physical pleasure?

*Do you fancy the ejaculatable type? (http://www.docjohnsonstoys.com/prod_info.php?a=doc-…

Do you get off on the added psychological pleasure of not only forcing entry to your lucky little favorite's orifices, but also being able to emulate phallic ejaculation amd reward their efforts with a shot of whatever liquid you care to gift them?

I'm interested in any thoughts, opinions, or stories you'd be kind enough to share.

Don't be shy!

kneels in gratitude

Oh dear, it looks like everyone is getting hacked.

A BUYER'S MARKET

In talking with others on this site, it has become blatantly clear that much like the current state of the housing market, alternative personals sites like this one, and perhaps even the lifestyle in general is really a Dominant's market.  It seems that the main cause of this, at least from my oh-so lowly vantage point, is that the submissive population far surpasses the population of Dominants in size. 

The lifestyle SHOULD be a Dominant's market.  Consider, what if there were far fewer submissives than Dominants?  How would that shift the dynamic of the current population paradigm breakdown?  Would Dominants wander the landscape, desperate and forlorn, searching for an increasingly rare soul to put in its place?  Would they try to offer incentives and promise anything to attract those willing to submit?  To me I think that would be the death of Dominants as we know it.  The titles might remain the same, but the roles would gradually reverse.

This absolutely should not happen.  I feel it is an important part of the submissive's life and mindset to humbly go forth in search of the Dominant who truly sees the worth in them and is generous enough to give their energy and attention towards improving them and giving meaning to their submission.  

(Although it would be nice if the population wasn't QUITE so unbalanced)

I'm curious, what do other people think about the population breakdown?  Is it fine as is?  No?  How would you change it?

Warm Appreciation

Today i received a lengthy, well-written, and well thought-out letter.  It was several paragraphs in length, much longer than 6 word average that i usually see.  It came from a profile that wasn't completely blank, and actually contained some extra content about the writer that was relevant.  Although i am submissive, it was written in a respectful and considerate manner.  

This person actually took the time to write a complete and courteous letter, and i would just like to let the few people who read this know that it was a very welcome and encouraging sign, even if i was not interested in their offer.

i would like to express my appreciation for the effort of the writer.

Thank you, very much.

It's Empty!!!

 *kneels in supplication*

Good morning everyone, while exploring this site over the past week, i came across another issue that raised questions for me.  That issue is: the existence of BLANK profiles. 

i just don't get it.  i'm sure there are some legitimate reasons, like they are currently re-writing it, or they're new and don't know what to say, or they were just a little busy at the moment and meant to fill it out.

i can understand not having pictures.  Not everybody has a camera.  Some people value or require privacy.  Etc.

But a blank profile?  i feel like that says that you don't take the lifestyle, this site, or its purpose seriously at all. 

You want to meet people and learn, but you can't be bothered to write more than a sentence if even that much?  i just don't understand i guess.

Do people with blank profiles get contacted much?  Do they really interact at all with other users?  i'm honestly curious.

i would also like to respectfully ask what other people on here think when they see blank profiles. 

Please.

Feedback and opinions are very much appreciated. 

ADDENDUM

One of the emails i received in response to the previous entry quite correctly pointed out to me that the viewpoint from which it was written was very one-sided, and mainly focused on the plight of submissives on this site.

The email i received was written by a gay Dominant, who was most irritated by all the fake subs and time-wasters he has come across.  As a submissive, i haven't yet viewed this site through the eyes of a Dominant, and I was wondering, what is it that Dominants cannot stand most about the people and profiles, or layout/use of this site?

i would greatly appreciate any and all thoughts you care to share.

My humble thanks for your time and attention.

OK, so i have a question for all the other users on this site.

.

Which bothers you more? 

The many fake profiles or the people who call themselves "pros" trying to use the site to find clients desperate for some play instead of using it for a more noble purpose like trying to meet people, form relationships, or learn.  And yes, i grant that many of the "pro" profiles are also fake.

Fake profiles are usually painfully obviously fake.  But still, some people fall for them, and it gives websites like this a negative image and scares away many of the honest or decent people who might otherwise join.

It seems to me that there are 3 main types of fake profiles.

1. Fake profiles created with the goal of suckering people out of their money.

2. Fake profiles created in order to trick users into meeting someone else.  For example, the one that says the person (usually a desperate male submissive/slave must meet this supposed other person who is in fact the real person using the fake profile, as an interview/test.

3. Fake profiles created solely for the purpose of screwing with people and wasting their time with no obvious goal.

i think that the issue of "professional" profiles on the other hand is a little more complicated.  Again, it seems like there are several types of those.

1. "Professional" profiles that may or may not be fake that advertise joining another site that you have to pay for in order to contact or find out more information about them.

2. "Professional" profiles that use the site to sell products, like panties soiled by an attractive woman, or their own personally made porn videos/images, etc.

3. "Professional" profiles that advertise sessions with a dominant (99.9% female) in a quid pro quo situation.

These types of profiles are a little more complicated.  In my humble opinion, i think the first two types should be deleted on sight.  It's the 3rd that gets tricky. 

On the case of the "pros", while i don't really like the idea of the lifestyle being turned into a for-profit business, if the person really is someone who loves the lifestyle and has found a way to make a career out of something they love, i can't really fault them.  That of course doesn't count for the vanilla "pros" who aren't really into the lifestyle but just figure it's good money, but that verges on a whole other issue.  On the client side, i guess people have the right to spend their time and money however they like.  It just comes across as a bit desperate and pathetic to me.

What do you think?  i know i've voiced some pretty strong opinions for a submissive, but most of these profiles, both fake and "pro" target male submissives/slaves, and i'd like to know where others stand.

I would really like to hear some feedback and opinions on this topic.

Well, so far this site has been about on par for the average internet experience.  i've had some positive and supportive letters, as well as some spam and some very lewd messages.  

i'd just like to say thank you to those who took the effort to make this undeserving one feel welcome.

Thank you for your graciousness.